5 SELF CARE TIPS TO REFRESH AND RECHARGE

As we now know, self care isn’t just manis, pedis, and masks. You can practice self care everyday anytime of day. TGIF: SELF CARE IS ALL AROUND YOU Here are 5 quick self care tips to refresh and recharge when you need a pick me up.

  1. Make Your Bed
    I know this seems simple. But making your bed everyday is a quick way to make your room feel tidy. You can leave everything as is, but with a made bed, you’ll feel a sense of productivity. It will give you a clean fresh slate at the start of the day. You’ll feel less stressed and thus, boosts your mood. The best thing to do, is make your bed as soon as you get up.
  2. Clean Your Purse
    This is somethings that always gets me in a recharged mood. Throw away old receipts. Get rid of that lose change and start that money jar. Money Jar Saving Method for easy saving Toss old candy and wrappers that’s been thrown in your purse. Bonus Tip: A great way to boost mood and increase confidence is to switch out your purses. I know some women do this daily while others like myself do so seasonally. Either way, it’s a great way to improve overall happiness.
  3. Take Your Vitamins
    We all would love to say we eat 3 healthy meals a day as well as snacks. But that’s just not the case for many. Taking a daily vitamin is a great to boost your immune support and give your body the extra nutrients needed. Set a time and get into a habit where you do it at the same time everyday.
  4. Clean Your Car Out
    As a mom of 3, I would love to say my car is spotless. But that has never been the case since I started having children. Every so often I’ll go out while it’s nice and the sun is shining, and simply throw away any trash, papers from school, water bottles, and anything else my kids left behind. I wipe and dust the inside. Of course, every so often I’ll take it to the car wash and vacuum it out.
  5. Delete, Uninstall, and Clear Phone
    If you really want to give yourself a mental recharge, go through your phone and delete any apps that you don’t use. Or if you’d like a challenge delete an app you spend too much time on. Get rid of all those random photos and videos thats taking up storage. Clear any files or downloads. Delete old contacts, conversations, and numbers that doesn’t serve you.

If you’re feeling like you’ve fell into a slump and need a recharge try these 5 self care tips. Any one of the tips can be done any time and any day of the week. Give you a chance by recharging and refreshing your mind.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY BLOG: BALANCING EVERYDAY LIFE

After tracking my first week, I felt pretty good. Setting my intentions and goals in the beginning and writing things down daily really made me hold myself accountable. We hear so many say write things down, its the best way to filter your thoughts amongst other things.

The one thing I will say is from week to week, I’ve learned to keep things realistic and attainable. What may seem like a small goal or intention is actually an accomplishment. Even sitting down thinking about what I wanted to accomplish this week was very therapeutic. It’s a great way to give yourself an outline or guide. WEEKLY BLOG: RECIPES, REST,& ROUTINE

This week my intentions were to hone in on some financial goals and set things up. We have some plans for this spring and summer so making sure we set ourselves up for success we had to begin now. Also this week marks the one year anniversary of my mother in laws passing and my husband wasn’t doing too good. I knew it was going to be a little rough leading up to the day so I was trying to prepare for that. Lastly, my daughters birthday is next week, and we had been waiting on her to tell us what she wanted to do. Finally she gave us a some hints and ideas.

Sunday: Happened to be a very chill day. We are a sports family, so of course football is always a highlight. My husband and I opted not to do date night out, instead have it inside. We have been really focused on us and our next phase as our kids are teens. There had begun to be chatter about him feeling down dealing with the one year mark. Helping a loved one through grief is very difficult, eye opening for myself, and therapeutic. We both made the commitment to feel every emotion that comes.

Monday: Was back to business as usual. But of course I had the Monday blues. You know? When you have to get yourself back into the mindset of the everyday commute, going to the office, activities, what’s for dinner, and everything else. As my husband asks everyday, ”what’s on the agenda for today.” We made progress in finding my daughter birthday gift. I was super stoked about having dinner ready at a decent time. Without question, we had to watch the National Championship game.

Tuesday: Finally was able to make head way in our financial plans and what we wanted to do. Still trying to cope with grief and give my husband his space. The kids and I are trying to keep him talking, entertained, and help him remember the good times. At the end of the day, he was actually better than he thought. That’s the key, just let the day come to you. Don’t try to anticipate or control how you’re going to respond.

Wednesday: Was a great hump day. Accomplished getting another contract as a freelancer. Really been enjoying my late night time with my daughter. We now have this ritual after both of us shower for the night we spend time together. Of course doing my usual mid week cleaning and laundry because that’s never ending.

Thursday: Really began focusing on pausing for a moment. Things can be so chaotic and you just going like a hamster on the wheel. Me settling in and stopping everything for a moment is a great way for me center myself. Today I had my moment at work. It’s been very quiet and you feel like you need to be doing something. I’m trying to plan things for my new contract, still working on my daughters birthday, and oh prepare to be shut in this weekend because of an expected snow storm. I found myself being very anxious. So I closed out of everything on my computer, put my phone down, and just looked out the window at the sun. Soaked in the quietness, prayed, and gathered myself.

Friday: It was a little busy, but accomplished. Went to the grocery store for the long weekend my kids will have. It was crazy busy like Christmas eve out there because of the anticipation of the snow storm. Had a very quiet week at the office, but grateful for the down time. I knew we wanted to have a chill day in as the kids were tired, and everyone just wanted to relax.

Saturday: Was an amazing cold snow day. We actually woke up early to watch to pretty snow fall and had coffee. It was a great way to start the weekend. I finally finalized my contract and began working on that project. We found the perfect gift for my daughter and made her dinner reservations to the restaurant she wanted. Of course, we are a sports family so we enjoyed football. We ended the night binge watching ”The Secret Life of Zoo”, it is very interesting to see how animals relate.

Well that was my week. I enjoyed it very much. At the beginning of the year I wanted to set weekly intentions. These last two weeks I have enjoyed and not once felt like I was overwhelmed or couldn’t get something done. These weekly intentions allow me to maintain some balance. Life is a roller coaster and its all about how you respond and handle those highs and lows.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

THANK YOU FOR 100 POSTS

I posted 100 blog posts. YIKES!!!!!!! ❤️ Thank you for supporting 100 posts. I can’t believe it. I’m still pinching myself. Any and everyone who has clicked on, commented, followed, and read any of my post I say “thank you”. I truly am humbled and honored that you take the time to engage with me.

I for so long contributed to others blogs and guest posted. I had this longing desire to launch my own, in an attempt to inspire, encourage, motivate, and share. If I’ve done so to one person, then I’m ok. REMEMBERING WHY I BLOG, Motivation I hope to continue to grow and learn. Courage, confidence, and patience is something that is worked on and through.

This process has taught me a lot about myself. It has helped me communicate better, understand others more in depth, and boosts my self awareness.

If there is anyone out there who has a dream and think its out of reach or no one will support, just give it a try. The dream and desire was placed in your heart and no one else’s. One thing I know for sure, when God places something on your heart , its the right thing to do. You can’t lose. Follow your heart and dreams.

Have a purpose and goal to serve. Always fill your heart with gratitude. Know there isn’t a hurdle you can’t over come. The time is now. And, it’s never too late. Living your truth and doing what makes you happy is what you’re supposed to do. Having the Courage to say this is “Me”, is the most powerful thing you can do and have.

Thank you so much for supporting me to 100!!!!!! I’m more than grateful. God Bless. 🙏Have a great week.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

AFFORDABLE BEAUTY PRODUCTS I’M LOVING RIGHT NOW

I’m back at it again. Rotating some oldie but goodie and affordable beauty products I’m loving right now is my thing. These are some products that I’ve decided to give another try. Also there are some that I picked up on a whim because they were on sale. 5 THINGS I’M LOVING RIGHT NOW

Freeman Deep Clearing Manuka Honey & Tea Tree Oil Clay Mask +Cleanser.
This is my first time trying this cleanser/mask and its AMAZING!!!!!! I picked it up for $3.99 and its worth the price of a luxury beauty mask. My preference is to use it as a mask at least 3x a week. I apply it to clean damp skin and let it set for about 15 minutes. Upon rinsing with warm water my skin is soft, pore less, blemish free, breakout free, and hydrated. If you are wanting a cleanser that is a 2-n-1, helps with breakouts, dryness, clogged pores, texture, or blemishes, give this a try.

Freeman Deep Clearing Manuka Honey & Tea Tree Oil Clay Mask +Cleanser

Neutrogena Hydro Boost Exfoliating Cleanser
This is my second time trying this exfoliating cleanser. I must say I’ve been successful this go around. Before when I purchased it, I had experienced dryness and burning of the eyes. After about two weeks of using this in morning, I love how glowy and soft my skin is in the morning. I don’t have problems with the dryness or burning of the eyes. The exfoliation is small enough to where it doesn’t irritate my skin or cause redness. However, I will say I use this about every other morning. Side Note: On the days I don’t use this I use the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Cleansing Gel. Once again for under $10, if you want soft, supple, and exfoliated skin, give this a try.

Neutrogena Hydro Boost Exfoliating Cleanser

No.7 Resurfacing Peel.
For some time now I’ve been realizing I need to incorporate some treatments to my skin care routine. I’ve been a lover of No.7 already so I got this Resurfacing Peel in a goodie bag. This is a bonus booster to my routine. This helps my everyday products work better and how they are supposed to. My skin appears more soft, dewy, and my dark spots has drastically faded. I use this once a week, coupled with my other skin care. This peel is on the pricey side of drugstore, at $32.99 at Target. However, this will last you a while especially if you only use it once or twice a week.


No.7 Resurfacing Peel

Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Shea Butter Soap
Little fact about me, is that I’ve moved back to bar soaps. They are mild, last a long time, and have an endless supply of scents. This has been my all time favorite bar soap. Your skin is clean, fresh, and doesn’t feel dry. Furthermore, for only $5 you can have this bar for a while.

Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Shea Butter Soap


Dickinsons Hydrating Toner with Rosewater
So this is another product I revisited. The first time around I didn’t see any results and felt that it dried my skin. However, after looking at it in my cabinet, I decided to give it another try. Well, I’m in love with it. I’ve noticed a difference in my pores being smaller. My skin doesn’t have texture, and I feel it helps my serums, mists, and moisturizer work better. I use it morning and night for the best results. I haven’t experienced any dryness or burning. This toner will definitely be repurchased. As you can see in the photo I’m just about done with this bottle.


Dickinsons Hydrating Toner with Rosewater

The last month or so I noticed a difference in my skin and I had to think of what I was doing differently. I always love trying new products, revisiting some old ones, and adding to my routine to give my skin a boost. Especially as seasons change. If you are needing some extra TLC or just want a boost in your routine, give these products a try. I’m a firm believer in you don’t have to spend a lot of money on beauty products to get amazing results. These are just some of my affordable beauty products I’m loving right now, if you have any more suggestions please let me know.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

EMOTIONAL HEALING: OPEN YOUR MIND FOR UNDERSTANDING

Quick mental note today, that came to me after having a great conversation this morning. Open your mind for understanding, clarity, and direction. We all heard this phrase growing up, keep an open mind, but never really understood or applied it in life. Of course, as we get older and experience life, we can appreciate the advice.

Be Open-Minded

But having an open mind for understanding benefits you in every relationship you may have. Ask and understand why a person has a certain point of view. Get to know what experiences shaped their perspective to believe a certain way. Knowing and understanding the circumstances around events will help you not be judgmental or critical because you guys aren’t seeing eye to eye.

When we’re able to get to know someone and their experiences, this allows the relationship to grow and develop deeper. There won’t be a stumbling block or hurdle constantly there you guys can’t get over. The ability to talk things through and work through differences become easier.

Open your mind for clarity allows you to know your position in the relationship. Any type of relationship. Because you are clear on where a person needs help or growth, you are able to assist in their healing. Which means, you are becoming a better person and you know where you are needed. You will be able to know how to love that person as well as know if that person is able to give you what you need in return.

Having an open mind for direction gives you the strength needed to know if you should continue or dissolve the relationship. The ability to effectively communicate, understand, and see another person side can save a relationship from completely going sour. Now having direction, will enable you to set boundaries and create plans for the relationship if needed. Girlfriends…Why We Need Them

Agree to disagree. Know your position and place. Then, do what you have to do to make sure you’re whole in the situation. You have all the tools needed then to proceed on any relationship or situation. This not only goes for relationships, but business deals, or any situation that requires you to compromise, give or take.

Remember you’re not changing your position or stance on what you believe or what you want. Basically, you just seeing where they are coming from. You are simply keeping an open for your mental sake, to know how to proceed. This avoids wasted time, money, resources, and losing relationships. Keep an open mind for understanding, clarity, and direction.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be .

YOU CONTROL YOUR OWN DESTINY

As a mom of two teenagers I’m constantly trying to figure out ways to encourage, inspire, and motivate them. So I use our morning car ride to drop “mommy gems”. Today’s mommy gem was “you control your own destiny”. Especially for teens it’s important to remind them of the ole saying, “always be a leader, never a follower.” Remember they are teenagers so I have to be quick and to the point. I thought I share todays gem as we all can use it no matter our age.

Today’s Mommy Gem:

“Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to. When I say anyone, that goes for teacher, coach, friend, family, and anyone who is in an adult leadership role over you. If it doesn’t feel right in your heart, mind, spirit, or soul then don’t do it. Never let someone else make you feel a certain way because you’re not doing what they think you should. You control your own destiny. God created you the way He wanted you and He has given you what you needed to live the life He set forth. Therefore, no one else can control you unless you allow them. In the same token, no one can take what God has placed in you and for you. An Open Letter To Anyone You are enough

Also when you make your decision to stand in who you are don’t feel bad if you find yourself out there on a limb alone sometimes. No one else can push us better than we push ourselves. That’s when we find our greatest strength. So go have a great day and be great.”

As I was driving I thought someone out there need to hear this, this morning. Go be great today. Be the person God created you to be with no regrets. You control your own destiny in life.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

An Open Letter To Anyone You are enough

An open letter to anyone, you are enough, I hear you, see you, and feel you. I know you’re in pain and I’m sorry. You feel like there is a dark cloud over you, lurking. No matter what you do, it feels like you just can’t catch a break. For every two steps forward, you take one back. The feelings of being unappreciated, invisible, and dismissed is mounting. Everyone is take take take and no one ever stopped to ask you how you are doing or if you need help.

You can’t breath. You can’t think. The numbness from the neck down has become comfortable and a security blanket. You’re always on edge. However, at any moment you feel like a ticking time bomb. Your life feels like a puzzle and all the pieces are on the table scattered. The frame isn’t even together, let alone at least two pieces in the center. My dearest of friends I’m sorry.

Every feeling, thought, and emotion you are having is valid. That is why I decided to write you an open letter. What you are feeling is right. There isn’t anything wrong with you. All you want someone to do is say thank you or ask are you ok. A simple kind gesture makes all the difference in how your day will go. On the other hand, you always make sure everyone else is good.

I’m here to tell you, it will get better. For instance, the happiness and joy you yearn for you will receive, and soon. My friend that beautiful smile and laugh we will hear again. Enjoying each day and having fun will be apart of your life. Use this open letter as a reminder that you will have power and control of your life. Just like bamboo you may bend but you won’t break. You have come this far and endured. After that you will come out stronger and tougher. Therefore, let this be a lesson so in the future you won’t bend as easily and definitely won’t break.

You have the right to say NO!!!!!. You have the right to decline an invitation or offer. Here are a couple of examples for declining someone, “you know I appreciate your offer and kindness of thinking of me, but I’m not in a good space right now so I’ll catch you next time.” Or if someone is asking something of you and its not in your spirit to fulfill, “I appreciate your trust in me but that isn’t something I’m able to do at this time.”

In the meantime, make yourself a priority, create boundaries, and focus on yourself. Don’t feel bad or guilty about saying “I’m not ok right now and I need to get better.” Also taking a step back away from everyone and everything is something we all need to do from time to time.

In conclusion take your life and happiness back. This is a temporary storm. Get well soon. Get happier soon. And trust me we all will love the happier YOU.

You are worth it. You deserve it.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Women Are Powerful

She doesn’t think she’s better than anyone, nor does she think anyone is better than her
She will give you a chance, but if you muck it up you won’t get another
She doesn’t mind being different
She doesn’t mind being alone
She is strong
She knows her own strength
She knows what she wants
She minds her own business
She mourns in silence
She doesn’t have, need, or want a lot of “friends
She is natural
She is caring
She can keep a sercret
She makes her own decisions and sticks with them
She doesn’t care what others are doing
She loves hard…and hurt hard
She is a gentle lion
She is educated
She’s always thinking, analyzing, and plotting up something new
She isn’t afraid to try something new or step outside her comfort zone
She knows how to balance her life
She doesn’t sweat the small stuff
She is confident
She is comfortable in heels
She is comfortable in sweats
She is proud
She is talented
She’s always switching up her look
She never lets you get too close or comfortable with her
She doesn’t stop once she get started
She is unique
She doesn’t seek advice, she trusts her instinct
She validates herself
She share, give, and love unconditionally
She is unapologetically her
She is woman

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Random THOUGHTS…Happy Friday Y’all

We’re 15 days into the new year and it seems it’s been a long one already. I’d thought I give a random post of all my thoughts random thoughts. There is so much going on around the world, in our homes, and on our jobs that can easily get us into the state of “How in the world did I end up here?”

Right now more than ever taking a moment to ourself is crucial to all of our wellbeing. Even if you can get five minutes in, it’s better than none. For example, turn the news off, do not consume that all day. Also turn off your social media notifications for a day or so. If you feel you can’t turn off your notifications just don’t respond, read, or look at them for a day. The goal is to give yourself a moment for clarity and to be with one in your own thoughts.

To sum up, please be mindful of what and how much you are consuming for the benefit of your mental health . This includes your conversations with family, friends, and coworkers. If you have someone at work like I do, who loves to talk about politics every moment of day, find a way to recenter. For me, I either completely ignore them, turn on my radio really low, and zone out. Eventually when I don’t respond or engage they stop or switch the subject. Another way I deflect is to simply say “I’ve had my fair share of politics I’m really not interested in discussing it right now.” Finally, my last resort, is to literally refer the conversation back work or another subject.

That goes for any subject matter that you are tired of talking about or hearing about.

Another random thought that has been heavy on me is to ask yourself what are you condoning, participating, accepting, and accommodating? Right now there are many things that we normalize and gloss over as if its ok, knowing deep down it’s not. Stop twisting yourself into a pretzel, to keep the peace in fear of being left out and talked about.

If it ain’t right, don’t sit well in your spirit, and you don’t want to, then exist gracefully. Just another random thought I’d like to share to help those feeling pressured to do certain things.

I’ve had to come to grips with this subject matter this week. Unfortunately, my mother in law passed away, and me knowing my role on when, where, and how far to extend my support had to become clear to me. I had to step back and say it’s not my mother, my husband has siblings, and I don’t have a say so. The most important was for me to make myself available. I was beginning to struggle on if I was being a good wife. But I had to realize my support is to my husband and my children, who lost their grandmother.

Finally, I come to know and understand that I can’t fix people or save people. I can’t and will not break myself down trying to fix someone else. Also if it has nothing to do with you, it doesn’t concern you, it’s none of your business, it doesn’t effect you or your family, it’s out of your control, or you can’t change it, then let it GO. Don’t be mad, angry, upset, bitter, or hold a grudge. Just be done and let go. And don’t look back.

I’m pretty sure I’m not the only that have some random thoughts that doesn’t seem to all fit. But thats ok, as long as you can acknowledge them. Those random thoughts will fit together one day. Bet on yourself first, this one time, and give yourself a chance.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Create Plans, Systems, and Habits For The New Year

It’s that time of year where people are talking about their new year’s resolutions. Instead of resolutions create plans, systems, and habits for the new year. I’ve never like this idea or really been able to answer the question “what’s your New Years resolution?”

Instead of a New Years resolution I think its more important and/or effective to create a lifestyle with systems and daily habits. Have a plan for your life in year. Break that plan down into half year goals, seasonal or quarterly goals, and then monthly goals. If needed you can even break it down into weekly goals until it has become habit. Setting goals, making plans, and listing somethings you’d like to accomplish in a year is more realistic and obtainable.

So often when we set resolutions they barely last a month or even a week sometimes. That’s because it hasn’t been thoroughly thought out, made with intention, and done at the spare of the moment.

Before creating a system or change you must ask yourself what is my end goal here? How long will it take me to reach my end game? What do I need in the process? If I have to make a detour what is my course of action to get back on track? What do I need to put into place to begin? What are the steps of this goal?

To make anything sustainable we have to be patient, persistent, and consistent. Yes there will be road blocks but we will overcome them. The systems set by our daily habits will allow us to get back into to gear when something happens. Life is going to continue but its how we push through that makes us strong.When we push through obstacles that gives us the confidence and motivation to continue on with our goals. Now we won’t give up or lose sight on what we sought out to achieve.

When you have an outline of your goal you’re able to track progress. You can adjust the goal if necessary. Increase or decrease your course of action, add or delete some steps in the process, and have a visual.

For example, if you have a weight loss goal, make a plan to lose 5lbs in the first month or two. Because you have a goal you know you have to eat a balanced diet and exercise to achieve that goal. Look at your work week, schedule of things to do with the kids or family in the week, and figure when it will be best to work out for at least 30 minutes 4 times a week. Anyone can say “I want to get fit” but what does that mean without a plan and goals behind it.

Along with setting goals and creating an action plan, having a system in place will assist you in achieving the goals you want. Having systems in place with daily habits that are pushing you toward your goal allows you to remain present in the moment. The systems of daily habits become the lifestyle change you are striving for. You can’t have one without the other. Create plans, systems, and habits to set you up for success this year.

Back to the weight loss example, you will need a system of when and how often I need to go to the grocery store to ensure I have what I need before, during, and after workout. Along with what will my daily meals and snacks look like. Waking up to making sure you don’t skip breakfast is a great daily habit to begin with. What am I going to have for lunch, what is my snack for the day, or what is the plan for dinner.

No matter what it is, you want to accomplish, create a plan for it. Vacation, remodeling the home, purchasing a new car, or whatever make an intentional plan. I know it may seem like a lot or it can be overwhelming in the beginning but once it becomes habit and who you are it won’t phase you one bit. Living the life you envisioned, deserve, and sought for is the best reward.

We have to make it a lifestyle and part of who we are. It has to be about us, for us, and by us otherwise it’s just empty words of hopes of what we’d like to do and accomplish.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.