MENTAL HEALTH REMINDER: YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW

You can begin to love yourself right now, as you are, as God created you. There isn’t anything you’re lacking to stop you from loving, appreciating, and being the best version of you. Whatever you are feeling or going through it’s only temporary. That doesn’t define you, your life, and where you’re headed.

You can love the body in you’re in right now. Even if you aren’t as confident as you would like to be. Appreciate where you are right now and love the curves, cellulite, wrinkles, dark spots, and imperfections. So when you do reach your ideal weight, get a good nights rest, and reach the point you are confident, then you can appreciate how far you’ve come. Embrace and enjoy the journey.

Whatever amount of dollars you have right now, you can love yourself. You don’t need more to feel better, look better, or love on yourself. Love the small home you’re in now. That apartment, room, or wherever you live. The vehicle you have love it. Appreciate it. Loving on yourself and for yourself starts with gratitude. 10 DAILY SIMPLE SELF CARE ACTIVITIES THAT WORK

The way you were created is perfect. Therefore, you don’t need to lose weight, get a bigger bottom, smaller waist, million followers, luxury vacation, long hair, short hair, spouse, children, jewelry, and everything else superficial to love who you are right now. You are equipped with everything you need to fall in love with yourself as is. You are perfect just the way you are.

Make a choice and decision to put your best foot forward so you can present the current you confidently as is. When we live in the “when I get this…” we’re not enjoying the now. In actuality, where we are and what we have now, is actually what we hoped and prayed for long ago. Accept the now to appreciate the future. If we don’t accept, acknowledge, and appreciate the small gifts then we’ll never be able to appreciate the large gifts that’s waiting on us.

Starting today and this weekend love all of you as you are. Keep pouring love into you. The more you pour into you the more it pours to others. Have a great weekend.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WHY MY BLOG IS STILL A SECRET AFTER 2 YEARS

So I saw this post scrolling on Pinterest and it totally resonated with me so of course I had to read it. “Why I kept my blog a secret?” It seems like something you would want to shout to the world. Well not so much. And I’m not just talking about family. I still don’t discuss my blog with friends or coworkers.

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For me, one of the main reasons I kept it a secret was because my family thought I was wasting my time. It didn’t make me rich as soon as I clicked ”publish”. Because everyone else in my family was talking about starting their restaurants, t-shirt businesses, and makeup brand no one was interested in learning what a blog was. When I brought up my blog they completely ignored me and dismissed me.

Next, I kept my blog a secret because I just wanted to post and write what I wanted, how I wanted to express my feelings and thoughts. I literally thought, I could come on here write, and still be invisible. My goal was to be able to write, post, and publish without fear. Sometimes families can be more judgmental than friends or coworkers.

Another reason I kept my blog a secret was because I didn’t want to offend anyone. While I still want to love, respect, and protect my family, part of my journey is knowing where some of my thoughts, views, feelings, and emotions stem from. I didn’t want anyone to feel like I was pointing the fingers or blame. Sometimes people don’t understand or want to accept your experience of them.

Finally, I kept it a secret because I would get unwanted comments, suggestions, and advice on the topics I should write about. When I did bring up the idea of mental health, healing, and protecting your peace I knew by the comments and reactions they weren’t where I was emotionally. I got the hint to let it go and never push someone to look deeper internally. This was my journey, my truth, and my healing that I was sorting through. All while trying to help and motivate others.

I did end up telling like 3 people. But only one ended up being a family member. I’ve never been the type to like the spotlight, focus, and attention on me. Seems weird I know, to have a blog and be an introvert. FACTS ABOUT INTROVERTS YOU SHOULD KNOW But that’s the point, it’s my corner of the internet to motivate, encourage and inspire.

This journey for the last 2 years has taught me the importance to motivate and encourage yourself more than you can get from others.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

5 SELF CARE TIPS TO REFRESH AND RECHARGE

As we now know, self care isn’t just manis, pedis, and masks. You can practice self care everyday anytime of day. TGIF: SELF CARE IS ALL AROUND YOU Here are 5 quick self care tips to refresh and recharge when you need a pick me up.

Make Your Bed
I know this seems simple. But making your bed everyday is a quick way to make your room feel tidy. You can leave everything as is, but with a made bed, you’ll feel a sense of productivity. It will give you a clean fresh slate at the start of the day. You’ll feel less stressed and thus, boosts your mood. The best thing to do, is make your bed as soon as you get up.
Clean Your Purse
This is somethings that always gets me in a recharged mood. Throw away old receipts. Get rid of that lose change and start that money jar. Money Jar Saving Method for easy saving Toss old candy and wrappers that’s been thrown in your purse. Bonus Tip: A great way to boost mood and increase confidence is to switch out your purses. I know some women do this daily while others like myself do so seasonally. Either way, it’s a great way to improve overall happiness.
Take Your Vitamins
We all would love to say we eat 3 healthy meals a day as well as snacks. But that’s just not the case for many. Taking a daily vitamin is a great to boost your immune support and give your body the extra nutrients needed. Set a time and get into a habit where you do it at the same time everyday.
Clean Your Car Out
As a mom of 3, I would love to say my car is spotless. But that has never been the case since I started having children. Every so often I’ll go out while it’s nice and the sun is shining, and simply throw away any trash, papers from school, water bottles, and anything else my kids left behind. I wipe and dust the inside. Of course, every so often I’ll take it to the car wash and vacuum it out.
Delete, Uninstall, and Clear Phone
If you really want to give yourself a mental recharge, go through your phone and delete any apps that you don’t use. Or if you’d like a challenge delete an app you spend too much time on. Get rid of all those random photos and videos thats taking up storage. Clear any files or downloads. Delete old contacts, conversations, and numbers that doesn’t serve you.

If you’re feeling like you’ve fell into a slump and need a recharge try these 5 self care tips. Any one of the tips can be done any time and any day of the week. Give you a chance by recharging and refreshing your mind.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY BLOG: BALANCING EVERYDAY LIFE

After tracking my first week, I felt pretty good. Setting my intentions and goals in the beginning and writing things down daily really made me hold myself accountable. We hear so many say write things down, its the best way to filter your thoughts amongst other things.

The one thing I will say is from week to week, I’ve learned to keep things realistic and attainable. What may seem like a small goal or intention is actually an accomplishment. Even sitting down thinking about what I wanted to accomplish this week was very therapeutic. It’s a great way to give yourself an outline or guide. WEEKLY BLOG: RECIPES, REST,& ROUTINE

This week my intentions were to hone in on some financial goals and set things up. We have some plans for this spring and summer so making sure we set ourselves up for success we had to begin now. Also this week marks the one year anniversary of my mother in laws passing and my husband wasn’t doing too good. I knew it was going to be a little rough leading up to the day so I was trying to prepare for that. Lastly, my daughters birthday is next week, and we had been waiting on her to tell us what she wanted to do. Finally she gave us a some hints and ideas.

Sunday: Happened to be a very chill day. We are a sports family, so of course football is always a highlight. My husband and I opted not to do date night out, instead have it inside. We have been really focused on us and our next phase as our kids are teens. There had begun to be chatter about him feeling down dealing with the one year mark. Helping a loved one through grief is very difficult, eye opening for myself, and therapeutic. We both made the commitment to feel every emotion that comes.

Monday: Was back to business as usual. But of course I had the Monday blues. You know? When you have to get yourself back into the mindset of the everyday commute, going to the office, activities, what’s for dinner, and everything else. As my husband asks everyday, ”what’s on the agenda for today.” We made progress in finding my daughter birthday gift. I was super stoked about having dinner ready at a decent time. Without question, we had to watch the National Championship game.

Tuesday: Finally was able to make head way in our financial plans and what we wanted to do. Still trying to cope with grief and give my husband his space. The kids and I are trying to keep him talking, entertained, and help him remember the good times. At the end of the day, he was actually better than he thought. That’s the key, just let the day come to you. Don’t try to anticipate or control how you’re going to respond.

Wednesday: Was a great hump day. Accomplished getting another contract as a freelancer. Really been enjoying my late night time with my daughter. We now have this ritual after both of us shower for the night we spend time together. Of course doing my usual mid week cleaning and laundry because that’s never ending.

Thursday: Really began focusing on pausing for a moment. Things can be so chaotic and you just going like a hamster on the wheel. Me settling in and stopping everything for a moment is a great way for me center myself. Today I had my moment at work. It’s been very quiet and you feel like you need to be doing something. I’m trying to plan things for my new contract, still working on my daughters birthday, and oh prepare to be shut in this weekend because of an expected snow storm. I found myself being very anxious. So I closed out of everything on my computer, put my phone down, and just looked out the window at the sun. Soaked in the quietness, prayed, and gathered myself.

Friday: It was a little busy, but accomplished. Went to the grocery store for the long weekend my kids will have. It was crazy busy like Christmas eve out there because of the anticipation of the snow storm. Had a very quiet week at the office, but grateful for the down time. I knew we wanted to have a chill day in as the kids were tired, and everyone just wanted to relax.

Saturday: Was an amazing cold snow day. We actually woke up early to watch to pretty snow fall and had coffee. It was a great way to start the weekend. I finally finalized my contract and began working on that project. We found the perfect gift for my daughter and made her dinner reservations to the restaurant she wanted. Of course, we are a sports family so we enjoyed football. We ended the night binge watching ”The Secret Life of Zoo”, it is very interesting to see how animals relate.

Well that was my week. I enjoyed it very much. At the beginning of the year I wanted to set weekly intentions. These last two weeks I have enjoyed and not once felt like I was overwhelmed or couldn’t get something done. These weekly intentions allow me to maintain some balance. Life is a roller coaster and its all about how you respond and handle those highs and lows.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

THANK YOU FOR 100 POSTS

I posted 100 blog posts. YIKES!!!!!!! ❤️ Thank you for supporting 100 posts. I can’t believe it. I’m still pinching myself. Any and everyone who has clicked on, commented, followed, and read any of my post I say “thank you”. I truly am humbled and honored that you take the time to engage with me.

I for so long contributed to others blogs and guest posted. I had this longing desire to launch my own, in an attempt to inspire, encourage, motivate, and share. If I’ve done so to one person, then I’m ok. REMEMBERING WHY I BLOG, Motivation I hope to continue to grow and learn. Courage, confidence, and patience is something that is worked on and through.

This process has taught me a lot about myself. It has helped me communicate better, understand others more in depth, and boosts my self awareness.

If there is anyone out there who has a dream and think its out of reach or no one will support, just give it a try. The dream and desire was placed in your heart and no one else’s. One thing I know for sure, when God places something on your heart , its the right thing to do. You can’t lose. Follow your heart and dreams.

Have a purpose and goal to serve. Always fill your heart with gratitude. Know there isn’t a hurdle you can’t over come. The time is now. And, it’s never too late. Living your truth and doing what makes you happy is what you’re supposed to do. Having the courage to say this is “Me”, is the most powerful thing you can do and have.

Thank you so much for supporting me to 100!!!!!! I’m more than grateful. God Bless. 🙏Have a great week.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

AFFORDABLE BEAUTY PRODUCTS I’M LOVING RIGHT NOW

I’m back at it again. Rotating some oldie but goodie and affordable beauty products I’m loving right now is my thing. These are some products that I’ve decided to give another try. Also there are some that I picked up on a whim because they were on sale. 5 THINGS I’M LOVING RIGHT NOW

Freeman Deep Clearing Manuka Honey & Tea Tree Oil Clay Mask +Cleanser.
This is my first time trying this cleanser/mask and its AMAZING!!!!!! I picked it up for $3.99 and its worth the price of a luxury beauty mask. My preference is to use it as a mask at least 3x a week. I apply it to clean damp skin and let it set for about 15 minutes. Upon rinsing with warm water my skin is soft, pore less, blemish free, breakout free, and hydrated. If you are wanting a cleanser that is a 2-n-1, helps with breakouts, dryness, clogged pores, texture, or blemishes, give this a try.

Neutrogena Hydro Boost Exfoliating Cleanser
This is my second time trying this exfoliating cleanser. I must say I’ve been successful this go around. Before when I purchased it, I had experienced dryness and burning of the eyes. After about two weeks of using this in morning, I love how glowy and soft my skin is in the morning. I don’t have problems with the dryness or burning of the eyes. The exfoliation is small enough to where it doesn’t irritate my skin or cause redness. However, I will say I use this about every other morning. Side Note: On the days I don’t use this I use the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Cleansing Gel. Once again for under $10, if you want soft, supple, and exfoliated skin, give this a try.

No.7 Resurfacing Peel.
For some time now I’ve been realizing I need to incorporate some treatments to my skin care routine. I’ve been a lover of No.7 already so I got this Resurfacing Peel in a goodie bag. This is a bonus booster to my routine. This helps my everyday products work better and how they are supposed to. My skin appears more soft, dewy, and my dark spots has drastically faded. I use this once a week, coupled with my other skin care. This peel is on the pricey side of drugstore, at $32.99 at Target. However, this will last you a while especially if you only use it once or twice a week.

Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Shea Butter Soap
Little fact about me, is that I’ve moved back to bar soaps. They are mild, last a long time, and have an endless supply of scents. This has been my all time favorite bar soap. Your skin is clean, fresh, and doesn’t feel dry. Furthermore, for only $5 you can have this bar for a while.

Dickinsons Hydrating Toner with Rosewater
So this is another product I revisited. The first time around I didn’t see any results and felt that it dried my skin. However, after looking at it in my cabinet, I decided to give it another try. Well, I’m in love with it. I’ve noticed a difference in my pores being smaller. My skin doesn’t have texture, and I feel it helps my serums, mists, and moisturizer work better. I use it morning and night for the best results. I haven’t experienced any dryness or burning. This toner will definitely be repurchased. As you can see in the photo I’m just about done with this bottle.

The last month or so I noticed a difference in my skin and I had to think of what I was doing differently. I always love trying new products, revisiting some old ones, and adding to my routine to give my skin a boost. Especially as seasons change. If you are needing some extra TLC or just want a boost in your routine, give these products a try. I’m a firm believer in you don’t have to spend a lot of money on beauty products to get amazing results. These are just some of my affordable beauty products I’m loving right now, if you have any more suggestions please let me know.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

EMOTIONAL HEALING: OPEN YOUR MIND FOR UNDERSTANDING

Quick mental note today, that came to me after having a great conversation this morning. Open your mind for understanding, clarity, and direction. We all heard this phrase growing up, keep an open mind, but never really understood or applied it in life. Of course, as we get older and experience life, we can appreciate the advice.

But having an open mind for understanding benefits you in every relationship you may have. Ask and understand why a person has a certain point of view. Get to know what experiences shaped their perspective to believe a certain way. Knowing and understanding the circumstances around events will help you not be judgmental or critical because you guys aren’t seeing eye to eye.

When we’re able to get to know someone and their experiences, this allows the relationship to grow and develop deeper. There won’t be a stumbling block or hurdle constantly there you guys can’t get over. The ability to talk things through and work through differences become easier.

Open your mind for clarity allows you to know your position in the relationship. Any type of relationship. Because you are clear on where a person needs help or growth, you are able to assist in their healing. Which means, you are becoming a better person and you know where you are needed. You will be able to know how to love that person as well as know if that person is able to give you what you need in return.

Having an open mind for direction gives you the strength needed to know if you should continue or dissolve the relationship. The ability to effectively communicate, understand, and see another person side can save a relationship from completely going sour. Now having direction, will enable you to set boundaries and create plans for the relationship if needed. Girlfriends…Why We Need Them

Agree to disagree. Know your position and place. Then, do what you have to do to make sure you’re whole in the situation. You have all the tools needed then to proceed on any relationship or situation. This not only goes for relationships, but business deals, or any situation that requires you to compromise, give or take.

Remember you’re not changing your position or stance on what you believe or what you want. Basically, you just seeing where they are coming from. You are simply keeping an open for your mental sake, to know how to proceed. This avoids wasted time, money, resources, and losing relationships. Keep an open mind for understanding, clarity, and direction.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be .

YOU CONTROL YOUR OWN DESTINY

As a mom of two teenagers I’m constantly trying to figure out ways to encourage, inspire, and motivate them. So I use our morning car ride to drop “mommy gems”. Today’s mommy gem was “you control your own destiny”. Especially for teens it’s important to remind them of the ole saying, “always be a leader, never a follower.” Remember they are teenagers so I have to be quick and to the point. I thought I share todays gem as we all can use it no matter our age.

Today’s Mommy Gem:

“Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to. When I say anyone, that goes for teacher, coach, friend, family, and anyone who is in an adult leadership role over you. If it doesn’t feel right in your heart, mind, spirit, or soul then don’t do it. Never let someone else make you feel a certain way because you’re not doing what they think you should. You control your own destiny. God created you the way He wanted you and He has given you what you needed to live the life He set forth. Therefore, no one else can control you unless you allow them. In the same token, no one can take what God has placed in you and for you. An Open Letter To Anyone You are enough

Also when you make your decision to stand in who you are don’t feel bad if you find yourself out there on a limb alone sometimes. No one else can push us better than we push ourselves. That’s when we find our greatest strength. So go have a great day and be great.”

As I was driving I thought someone out there need to hear this, this morning. Go be great today. Be the person God created you to be with no regrets. You control your own destiny in life.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

An Open Letter To Anyone You are enough

An open letter to anyone, you are enough, I hear you, see you, and feel you. I know you’re in pain and I’m sorry. You feel like there is a dark cloud over you, lurking. No matter what you do, it feels like you just can’t catch a break. For every two steps forward, you take one back. The feelings of being unappreciated, invisible, and dismissed is mounting. Everyone is take take take and no one ever stopped to ask you how you are doing or if you need help.

You can’t breath. You can’t think. The numbness from the neck down has become comfortable and a security blanket. You’re always on edge. However, at any moment you feel like a ticking time bomb. Your life feels like a puzzle and all the pieces are on the table scattered. The frame isn’t even together, let alone at least two pieces in the center. My dearest of friends I’m sorry.

Every feeling, thought, and emotion you are having is valid. That is why I decided to write you an open letter. What you are feeling is right. There isn’t anything wrong with you. All you want someone to do is say thank you or ask are you ok. A simple kind gesture makes all the difference in how your day will go. On the other hand, you always make sure everyone else is good.

I’m here to tell you, it will get better. For instance, the happiness and joy you yearn for you will receive, and soon. My friend that beautiful smile and laugh we will hear again. Enjoying each day and having fun will be apart of your life. Use this open letter as a reminder that you will have power and control of your life. Just like bamboo you may bend but you won’t break. You have come this far and endured. After that you will come out stronger and tougher. Therefore, let this be a lesson so in the future you won’t bend as easily and definitely won’t break.

You have the right to say NO!!!!!. You have the right to decline an invitation or offer. Here are a couple of examples for declining someone, “you know I appreciate your offer and kindness of thinking of me, but I’m not in a good space right now so I’ll catch you next time.” Or if someone is asking something of you and its not in your spirit to fulfill, “I appreciate your trust in me but that isn’t something I’m able to do at this time.”

In the meantime, make yourself a priority, create boundaries, and focus on yourself. Don’t feel bad or guilty about saying “I’m not ok right now and I need to get better.” Also taking a step back away from everyone and everything is something we all need to do from time to time.

In conclusion take your life and happiness back. This is a temporary storm. Get well soon. Get happier soon. And trust me we all will love the happier YOU.

You are worth it. You deserve it.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Women Are Powerful

She doesn’t think she’s better than anyone, nor does she think anyone is better than her
She will give you a chance, but if you muck it up you won’t get another
She doesn’t mind being different
She doesn’t mind being alone
She is strong
She knows her own strength
She knows what she wants
She minds her own business
She mourns in silence
She doesn’t have, need, or want a lot of “friends”
She is natural
She is caring
She can keep a sercret
She makes her own decisions and sticks with them
She doesn’t care what others are doing
She loves hard…and hurt hard
She is a gentle lion
She is educated
She’s always thinking, analyzing, and plotting up something new
She isn’t afraid to try something new or step outside her comfort zone
She knows how to balance her life
She doesn’t sweat the small stuff
She is confident
She is comfortable in heels
She is comfortable in sweats
She is proud
She is talented
She’s always switching up her look
She never lets you get too close or comfortable with her
She doesn’t stop once she get started
She is unique
She doesn’t seek advice, she trusts her instinct
She validates herself
She share, give, and love unconditionally
She is unapologetically her
She is woman