I thought I’d share a fun post list of things I’ve never done that some may consider ordinary or normal. A list of ordinary things I’ve never done has been eye opening to write and also learn about myself. I encourage anyone to sit down and write ordinary things you’ve never done. It may just give you some insight on how your upbringing, family, life, and now adulthood has shaped you. MOTIVATIONAL HEALING: LEARN YOUR SOURCE OF ANGER
I HAVEN’T BEEN TO VEGAS (REALLY NOT A PLACE I’D LIKE TO VISIT TOO MUCH)
I’VE NEVER BEEN ON A CRUISE
NEVER EATEN COTTAGE CHEESE
I HAVE NEVER HAD A HANGOVER
NEVER USED DOOR DASH OR UBER EATS
I HAVE NEVER WATCHED THE MOVIE ”TITANIC”
Those are just a few things that ”normal” or ”ordinarily most people have done. It was fun for me to sit down and think about. It also gave me an insight about myself on a different perspective. Sometimes growth and healing doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. I’m pretty sure there are more things that I’ve never done that are ordinary.
The alarm clock goes off and you instantly get into a mood. The only thing you can think about is what you have to do at work, the coworker that gets on your last nerve, what’s for dinner, and the bills that are due today. You have no energy to get out of bed nor do you have any enthusiasm.
We’ve all had these mornings, probably once twice. The truth is we can’t stop these kind of mornings, however we can do minor things to get us through.
Immediately stop any negative talk or thoughts. Instead, remind yourself of why you took the job or position in the first place. What excitement did you have when you first started? That co worker that gets on your nerves is telling you there is something about you, that they hoped to have. You inspire them. YOU INSPIRE SOMEONE OUT THERE Dinner is hours away, you will have a meal on table.
Stretch. Just about 5 minutes of stretching from head to toe. Wake up your joints, bones, and get that blood circulating. You’ll feel loose and ready to move.
Take a shower, wash your hair, and face. Release all the negative into the drain and renew your spirit. Put some time into yourself. Make yourself feel good and look good.
Put something good in your belly. Have a good fulfilling breakfast. Breakfast is not only good for your physical body, but your brain and emotionalwellbeing as well.
Before heading out for your day, take a moment to pray. Gratitude for the vehicle to get to work, the job itself, the home and bed you just woke up in, that nutritional breakfast, and simply waking up. There is someone out there who went to sleep last night and didn’t wake up.
Lastly go have a good day. Expect goodness throughout the day. When we expect goodness and have hope, our thoughts will remain positive. By the evening you’ll forget you even woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
Monday morning blues will come and they will go. But be intentional and practice small habits that will boost your mood. Certain things will always be out of our control. What we can control is what we think about the situation, how we respond, and get through. Remember good times don’t last but tough people do. This is temporary.
In the last month or so, I’ve decided to journal write every morning. As previously stated, I would journal randomly. Because I really been trying to be intentional about being present and emotionally sound, I thought I’d journal every morning to see where it takes me.
One thing that will make me more confident is…(be completely honest about the one thing that nags at you that you want to be more confident about)
The one thing I need to stop doing and why…(we all have that one thing that hinders us from getting to where we want to be, verbalize it, express it, and leave it on the paper)
Dream day in my life…(this was my absolute favorite, get as detailed and specific as possible of what you dream a day is like in your perfect world)
If you’re not happy doing what you’re doing, what would you like to do? (be as specific as possible, about your dream career, job, or profession)
These 7 journal prompts allows you the ability to explore every area of your life and where you are. Some fun and some serious to give you balance. The most light hearted can be the most eye opening sometimes. It makes for a fun journaling session. journal your way, how you want to write, and get out what you need to be the best you.
When setting up your journaling session, clear the table or desk. Then make sure there aren’t any distractions like television, phone, kids, or spouse. Get you a cup of tea, coffee, or water. Allot yourself a set time. You can opt to start at 15 minutes or even an hour. Either way, you’ll come to learn you won’t be able to put the pen down. Have a specific place to put your journal when you’re finish. Lastly, use the same pen each day.
Looking ahead this week we don’t have much going on. It’s another one of those weeks where we can relax, catch up on cleaning, and resting.
Sunday: Very full day. I was able to sleep in, have a great family breakfast, do laundry, and get many listings posted on Poshmark. Later in the after noon, we had an amazing Sunday dinner. The day went so well, I was able to go out and enjoy the cool breeze on a nice walk in the early evening. It was a great day and night to cap a great weekend. Again my husband and I were able to say, we had a full productive weekend. Isn’t that what life is all about. Living life each day, some will be good, some will be bad, but we’ll get through it all.
Monday: Cold, rainy, and dark. We getting ready for another round of storms, starting today. But we’re still headed off to a great day. The kids are starting their testing and end of year courses today. So they aren’t as eager to head off. Work is going amazing and I’ve been trying to stay a little later than normal to help out the new agent. She’s still getting comfortable and feeling her way. Later in the evening, after a workout, I found myself doing some laundry before heading to bed. WEEKLY BLOG: TYPICAL WORK WEEK
Tuesday: Nice break from the rain but it feels like a fall day out. I can tell we’re about to have some strong storms. Quiet peaceful day at work. I’ve been able to use my time wisely in getting work done and researching other ventures. However, I was able to get BEING A MOM INSPIRES ME posted. After work we were able to get my moms trash done and some cleaning up at her house. The kids have been tired due to testing and I can tell they are mentally over this year. I had a very good day of managing some listings and contracts. It could be because of the weather but I was ready to hit the sack very early this evening.
Wednesday: Great morning even though it’s still gloomy out. We don’t have too much going on this week really. Which is a nice break. Always having ”stuff” to do or a full schedule can be mentally draining. Because work at the office was slow, I was able to get plenty of ideas written down. Just putting my thoughts to paper has been helpful and allowing me to sort ideas out. In the evening, we all was somber due to the storms out. However, I was able to get in a good workout before relaxing for the rest of the evening. My husband and I have been binge watching some shows on HULU and they are great. ”The Act” and ”The Thing About Pam” were great originals.
Thursday: Another gloomy and rainy morning. All the kids have testing today. Everyone is ready to go and get this testing week over with. Heading into the office I plan to use the slow time again to do some brainstorming and research. Not much planned for the rest of the day besides relaxing. We have a few plans for the weekend so after work tomorrow I’ll do a good clean to have the house ready.
Friday: Finally it’s the weekend. We all were worn out and tired. We look ahead to great summer like temperatures to start the week off. We’re winding down to the last couple days of the year and I feel like I’m more ready than the kids. We have some plans for tomorrow so after work I’m going to do a grocery run and clean the house.
Saturday: We had to be up and out by 9a.m. to get to the stadium. It started off cool but quickly temps rose and we were warm out. The kids had an amazing time at the Olympics. Every year at the end, the school district puts on this Olympic type event with all the schools competing. It’s a great family, fun, friendly event. After hours of being out there we headed to my moms for a couple of hours. Lastly we were worn out from the sun and headed home to relax.
Have a great week!!!!!
P.S. Weekly blog is designed to show the realistic everyday life of a mom, balancing life, family, and herself.
Look around no more!!! You have to be your own cheerleader. Whatever affirmations or reassurance you’re needing right now, give it to yourself. The things you are needing to hear or want to hear, tell it to yourself.
If you’re at work, go to the bathroom, look yourself in the mirror, and cheer yourself up. Take a 15 minute break, step away from the desk, and give yourself a pep talk. If you can, go for a quick walk and come back to work. We have to be our own cheerleader.
Talk to yourself out loud. Remind you, how great you are. The hard work you’re doing is going to pay off, keep going. WELLNESS: EVEN THE STRONGEST NEEDS A BREAK You are a good mom. You are a good dad. Pray, do a 5 minute meditation, and sing yourself some praises. Pump yourself up.
If you’re at home and not feeling well, go step on your porch and breathe in some nature. Tell yourself you’re going to be healed, relationships are going to be restored, the financial setback has turned around, and you’ve done a great job. You aren’t tired. You’ve just exhausted all the energy that was allotted to you today.
You have to be your own cheerleader even when the circumstances are good. When you get a promotion, jump for joy, scream, and toot your own horn. You worked hard. Whatever accomplishment you’ve achieved or been recognized for, celebrate it. And don’t wait for someone else to start the celebration. If you’ve saved for a specific goal and that goal has been reached, celebrate that.
What we want from others we have to be able to give to ourselves. Then we’d be able to celebrate someone else genuinely, happily, and unselfishly. We have to be our own cheerleader.
When we seek praise or affirmations from outside first, it makes us subconsciously rely on others validation to make us feel like we’re enough. That will lead us down a path of self destruction. Someone else’s validation or reassurance doesn’t add or decrease our worth. However, does it feel good when we get noticed, absolutely. Anyone who tell you differently is a lie. Do we want others to recognize our hard work, absolutely. But that shouldn’t be what we base our worth off of.
If you’re feeling in a little slump, no matter where you are, get up and cheer yourself up. Pat yourself on the back. Guess what, it’s an accomplishment just to acknowledge you’re not feeling that well. No matter how small something may seem, praise yourself for it and keep stepping forward. Have a great rest of your day!!!!!!!!
Your awkwardness is what makes you special. Mental note for the week is, we’re all awkward. There is something about everyone on this planet that is off or ”awkward”. But that one awkward thing is what makes you, You. That is how you stand out from the rest. The unique thing about you that no one else has. Embrace whatever is awkward about you. MID WEEK MENTAL HEALTH REMINDERS
I had the pleasure of meeting one of my husbands new employees. The second sentence after saying ”Hi, nice to meet you.” He said ”I’m sorry I’m kinda awkward.” Immediately I went into protective mom mode. I said ”no you’re not. You are perfect the way you are.” Then I proceeded to tell him, we are all awkward. Don’t ever lead with that, own that in a negative sense, or put yourself in a place for others to manipulate you. Also leading with a negative affirmation as such, puts you as inferior to whomever you’re engaging with. Take that affirmation and turn it into a positive. I reminded him, whatever is special about you, Embrace it because that is what’s going to make your light shine bright.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being different. Thinking different. Going against the grain. Standing out instead of fitting in. That awkward thing that you do or about you is what makes your confidence muscle stronger. The willingness and ability to step into your uniqueness builds your character, strengthens your courage, and actually inspires others.
As you go on your journey, I encourage you to intentionally make decisions that scare you. Do something to make yourself stand out from the rest. Furthermore, Embrace your ”awkward”. You can start by choosing a different style of clothes, hair, phone, vehicle, and even where you vacation. Making the decision to choose you and be different will help you build confidence quickly.
We’re all awkward and that’s ok. Tap into your awkwardness and see how your life changes. Everything that you’ve been wanting or wanting to do, will manifest.
Being a mom inspires me to be the best me I can each day. I know there are 3 little people looking at me in every move I make. I can fail at every other job I have, but being a mom I will give every bone to this position. God trusted me with these 3 beautiful children to lead. I will do my best to lead with humility, grace, integrity, and gratitude.
Being a mom has taught me how to communicate better. Having a teen son who’s on the very low end of the spectrum encourages me to be patient, articulate, and show through action. A daughter who is in the middle with a bubbly artistic personality brings out my creativity. Meeting her and speaking her language has pushed me outside my comfort zone. My baby who is sensitive, loving, and wants the best for everyone increases my empathy and compassion towards others. SINGLE MOM SELF CARE TIPS: SIMPLE AND EASY
In an effort to pull the best out of them I had to learn how to effectively communicate my feelings, thoughts, views, and love. How my husband and I show love and affection teaches my kids how to love and show affection. It inspires me to give them an living an example.
However, how I speak to myself first they are paying attention. The choice of words, tone of voice, and interactions inspires me to be mindful. How I may think I”m showing up verses what they interpret can be two different things. That inspires me beyond the home.
Being a mom inspires me to go after every dream and goal I’ve had come in my head. I can’t tell them be all they can be, without doing so myself. I don’t believe in do as I say, and not as I do. Children learn from our actions, even the bad decisions and choices we make. Allowing my kids to see me do what I love and live my life, will show them all things are possible. It inspires me to tap into my creative side.
Being a mom inspires me to think about things differently. Not only from my perspective, but from others as well. How I handle conflict resolution, discomfort, pain, bad news, financial problems, or any other life matters that arise I keep in mind they are watching. This is where children pay attention the most. How do we handle a set back, death in the family, disagreements, and how we bounce back shapes how they will approach said situations.
Being a mom absolutely inspires my self care. I must be in the best mental shape possible to show up for them fully and give them what they need. Keeping my physical self care visual shows them the importance of taking care of their temple. Having my “me time” as a mom, allows everyone to feel free to take a moment. Budgeting and planning gives them financial literacy early.
Lastly, being a mom inspires me to give back. Even when it’s my last of anything, showing grace and gratitude will always come back. Everything isn’t about me and neither in life. Most importantly, giving time, love, and an lending ear is more valuable than any dollar. #MothersDay2022
My intentions this week is to be in the moment, remain calm, and let things play out how they are supposed to.
Sunday: Very beautiful outside. Had breakfast with the kids and published WEEKLY BLOG: EASTER SUNDAY, LONG WORK DAYS, & SUMMER PLANNING. In the afternoon, I plan to post more listings on Poshmark and do a closet clear out. Later in the evening I will do my daughters hair and after that probably done for the day. Her hair takes me almost 3 hours to do. After spending 3 hours posting listings on Poshmark, I had to postpone doing my daughters hair. We capped the evening early with some double fudge brownies.
Monday: Very brisk and cool morning. I’m am motivated today to get up and start the week. Before heading off to work I left a honey-do-list since the hubs was off. I had a very good day at the office today. Stayed a little late to help out the new agent. After having a snack and getting comfortable, I did my daugters hair. That took me to late evening. All I want to do is bathe and lay down.
Tuesday: Great sunny cool morning. Drop was amazing, had a great breakfast with the hubs, and was able to finalize some sales on Poshmark. Office time was great with the new agent. She’s adjusting very well and will fit in to the culture of our office. After work, we had some errands to run and finish finalizing a quick staycay for this weekend. The kids are ready to have some fun and relax. In the evening the hubs and I decided to have an impromptu date night. We both were feeling like we needed time to recoup, talk, and take a breather. Late night hours before bed I was in a mood to finish a couple loads of laundry. Eventually I decided to shower, cleanse my face, brush my teeth and head off to bed.
Wednesday: Busy morning due to a doctors appointment early. None the less, we got off to a great start and the adjustments worked out perfect. It’s very nice and warm out today before we head into days of thunderstorms. After work I decided to do a good mid week clean. We have some plans for Friday and Saturday so I wanted to make sure the house was together before the weekend. Also I’m so proud of myself for cooking two meals at dinner to help prepare me for tomorrow.
Thursday: Typical morning. I think we’re all ready for this year to be over with. I was busy today with errands before heading into the office. Training the new agent has been going very well. She’s open and receptive. Not too much going on after school. We’re expected to have a busy weekend. So relaxing tonight was all needed. I was feeling like I wanted to do alot so I decided to get on the treadmill to calm myself.
Friday: Humid, rainy, lightning, and thunder. Need I say more. It’s dark and I just want to go back to bed. However, school and work must go on. Because of the weather it was very quiet in the office. Once again, I was able to get much needed notes, proposals, and contracts done. After work and school we had a couple of hours before my son had to work movie night at the school. He’s a student ambassador so he’ll be working concession. Moving night turned out great even though they didn’t move it inside.
Saturday: Very busy morning. The boys went and got hair cuts. I also went to get my hair trimmed. Then we had to head off to a birthday party at the lake. The weather was perfect for a party out in the park on the lake. Then we ended up having a great long family outing afterwards. At the end of the night we were all tired and ready for bed. But it was a great full day.
Have a great week everyone!!!!!
P.S. Weekly blog is designed to show the realistic life of a mom balancing life, family, work, and herself.
We’re constantly evolving and growing. The more you grow and learn about yourself the better life you can have. Certain aspects of life are important to you and meaningful than before. So I’d thought I update a previous post from earlier. The More You Grow…
First as your grow having a life insurance policy is IMPORTANT!!!!! This isn’t something we want to think about when we’re younger or even think is important. Well its very important for everyone, even the children in the family. Making sure your family is ok in the event of something happening will eliminate unwanted stress. You can go online and get a quote, and guess what its not even expensive. The only thing that’s guaranteed for all of us is death.
Next, maintaining your home and cars. I was very guilty of this when I was younger. Routine maintenance and checkups on your vehicles saves you money in the long run, keeps your return on your investment high, and provides a sense of security. Maintenance on your home is more essential to you mentally and emotionally. Home is where you go to rest, relax, and release. It’s the place you feel most comfortable. So to ensure it’s updated, maintained, and inviting, allows you to focus on yourself.
Keeping regular doctor and dental visits are primary health care habits. We can do everything right and if we don’t get checked out something can go wrong. However, thinking preventive will keep you inspired to stay ahead. Making sure we’re the most healthy is essential to self care.
Along with physical health having a good spiritual foundation is the one ingredient that can’t be missed. Having a sense of gratitude and knowing that there is a higher power, provides the hope and faith needed to know everything is going to be alright no matter what. Whatever you believe and how ever you believe is up to you, your business, and is for you alone.
As you become more seasoned, you know the importance of having a great understanding of your finances. Where they are, what you want, where you need to improve, and have a clear plan on how you’re going to get there. You no longer fly by the seat of your pants.
By this time you’ve lived and know the importance of having a great work life balance. So many of us in our early years work work work, and missed out on familytime and milestones that we can’t get back. Furthermore, most of us don’t even enjoy the fruits of our labor. Now you know that taking time to breath, pat yourself on the back, and enjoy family and friends is priceless.
As we grow the relationships in our life is essential to our well being. Knowing what we need from each one and how we can reciprocate the love is clear. This is for your romantic, friendships, coworkers, family, and anyone else in your life. Long gone are the days of having 20 best friends. We keep a couple and throw the rest away.
When it comes to holidays, you really don’t need a gift. As long as you are around family and friends, good food, love, and laughter you are content and happy.
Avoiding people, places, and situations is essential to your mental health and you now know that. You no longer view it as running or punking out. Not putting yourself in uncomfortable situations or circumstances is smart and wise.
These are just some things I’ve picked up along the way and thought I’d share. Someone may feel the same way and not know what exactly is happening. It means you’re growing my love and becoming more aware of who you are. Don’t be afraid or run from it, embrace it because it’s going to make your life easier and more enjoyable.
The one thing that is constant is change. And while we’re on this journey of life, we’re going to forever grow. Let’s grow in the right direction.
Whatever fight you’re having, give it up. Give up the fight and free yourself. Constantly being in a battle or ready to battle is killing your soul and spirit. Not giving up the fight is hindering you from living and being free.
Give up the fight you’re having with yourself. The fight that’s in your head. Tell yourself you throw in the white flag and you’re done fighting. You too tired to do anything else because you’re always on defense and ready to fight.
Give up the fight with your spouse, friend, family, coworker, and money. The energy you’re exhausting to stay in the battle could be used to communicate, understand, and love. Instead, create new opportunities. Fight to open that new business. Fight to save for that new house. What are you even fighting for. To be right? To be heard? Vent your frustrations? All those reasons are valid. However, understand your feelings are valid. You don’t need anyone’s permission to feel how you feel.
Do you even know what you’re fighting for? Sometimes we can be in a battle for so long that we forget what we were mad about. You can definitely get your point across, vent your feelings, and stand up for yourself without raising your blood pressure. We can eliminate stress by fighting smart. Pause and take a break. Don’t let your emotions take over.
It’s time to let go. free yourself of the bricks on your shoulders. It’s too heavy to carry. It doesn’t mean you have to forget. Adapt, adjust, and move on. Stop letting the same things continuously hurt you over and over. If you’ve been repeating the same argument they are going to believe and feel what they want.
As we approach summer and the second half of this year, make a decision to not fight anymore. It doesn’t matter what kind of fight you’re having, seek some resolutions. You absolutely can demand your respect without being in fight. Think light, think positive, and think of being free.