So often we seem to make things complicated. It’s the simple and most common questions that would help us get past the starting line. If you are having trouble figuring out your next move, what you want to do next, how you’re going to figure it out, and where you’re going, then in your next journal session answer the following.
Questions To Help You Find Yourself:
Am I happy in my current job/career? If the answer is yes, then what makes it joyous for you? How do you feel every day getting ready for work? What excites you about going to work everyday? If the answer is no, then what would you like to be doing? What is your dream job/career/profession?
What do I like to do for fun? When was the last time I had true fun?
Use the above 10 questions to get your mind going on how to find yourself and move forward in the direction you’d like. If you need more guidance on how to find yourself, use this workbook https://amzn.to/3I1ETI5 “Find Your F*cking happy: A journal to Help Pave the Way for Positive Sh*t.”
As a reminder, take your time, be detailed, and be honest. That is the path needed to get you to your happy place. It’s not a race, it’s a journey. Only you can answer the questions. Dig deep and regain your power and happiness back.
We have to be very careful at easing our foot off the gas pedal. Don’t lose focus on yourself and drift off into another lane. When we lose focus and drift off, accidents happen, we hit a bump in the road, end up going down the wrong street, and stuck between trucks that hinders our vision front and back. In result, we have lost time and now playing catchup trying to get back on track.
Don’t lose your focus yourself and keep going even when you feel like nothing is happening. Even when you don’t see physical results or change happening, every little step you take is progress. If we saw results, activity, or change every time we took a step then we’ll have nothing to look forward to. That is the idea of hope and faith. Believing in the things not seen or heard. When feeling a little discouraged pray, meditate, and center yourself. https://amzn.to/3I8TuSt Remind yourself that you are here for a purpose, a vision was placed in you to fulfill, and you have everything needed to complete the assignment.
When you get bored and lose your focus it’s time to get creative. Switch things up, try something new, and renew your focus. As we grow, what worked for us will no longer work. The more we heal the more we grow. Therefore, the need for new and exciting is broadened. Creativity allows for endless space to grow.
Are you tired of all this self care talk? Don’t want to hear about routines, habits, and caring for yourself? Guess what, we have to stay in our lane so we don’t veer off. That’s whyself care, routines, and creating habits are a constant must. Focusing on you, being the most healthyphysically, mentally, and emotionally, will allow you to withstand whatever is going on in the world. Keeping your focus on you is motivation for others to focus on themselves. It inspires everyone to be whole thus having a healthy community of support.
Staying committed to yourself is the best self care you can do for yourself. The relationship you have with you, will be the best one you have and the strongest. You owe it to yourself.
Keep your focus. Empty out the negative. Focus on the positive. Believe in your own strength.
Being vulnerable is like disease to some. However, what we all shall know is being vulnerable takes strength, courage, and confidence. Not only does it help release any negative energy, but it encourages others to do the same.
You Become Your Most Authentic Self When you show vulnerability in any sense, you are being honest with your truest Self. In that moment or moments you’ve chose you. The decision to choose Self eliminates the disease to please. It shows character, Self awareness, and comfort.
Step To The Front Being vulnerable give us the strength to be proactive instead of reactive. We step into situations and grow through them. The need or want to run from them or ignore them is no longer. Our confidence and awareness gives us inner strength and power to conquer and not let problems consume us. Vulnerability allows us freedom to exercise good mental and emotionalwellness.
exercise Muscles Vulnerability requires us to take risks. Therefore, our muscles of courage, confidence, and Self esteem are being exercised. With each wave, we get stronger, wiser, and better. We heal and grow through. Taking the risk builds stamina, get out our comfort zone, and expand our emotional horizon.
Those are 5 reasons showing vulnerability is strength. It takes a huge leap of faith to begin. But once you do, it will get easier each time. Do yourself a favor and let your guard down just a little bit. You’ll feel free, lighter, and better instantly.
One of the best ways to get out of a rut is to remember how blessed you are, express gratitude, and take inventory of what you already have. The best way to do this is to make a list. Start off with the small things that makes you happy. The tangible physical things, to get you going.
It’s the little things that makes you happy. We’ve all said this at some point or heard it many times in life. Why? Because it’s true. It’s not that trip to Disney that makes you happy. It’s the little memories, moments, and experiences that add up from the trip that makes it special.
Take a moment to look around and list all the small things that make you happy. Nothing can be too small. The little things that helps you get through the day, that make you laugh, feel comfortable, feel good about yourself, and you can’t stop grabbing or doing.
Those are 10 little things I use everyday that make me happy or I do that makes me happy. I wanted to do something a little different than the usual. KEY TO HAPPINESS: DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO Drinking water, waking up, seeing the sun shine, going to work, having a job, having a car, having food to eat, family and friends that love me, and so on. It’s a no brainer that all those makes us happy and helps our mentalwellness. But it’s good to recognize and appreciate what we have in other areas that makes us happy as well.
So often we always want more or look to have more. But our happiness is right in our face if we look. It’s those small things that we don’t even blink an eye at that gives us happiness. The little things that you grab without thinking or you do without thinking on a daily.
We’ve all had those moments of feeling anxious. Sometimes we don’t realize it, until after the fact that we were in a frenzy. When your heart start to pound, your hands get sweaty, your body becomes unsettled, or you just have a sense that something isn’t right you’re probably feeling a little anxious.
Often times we think it takes huge measures to calm down. In actuality, it’s your small self care practices that will help ease your anxiousness. Here are some things I do when feeling a little anxious.
The key to calming myself when anxious is to focus on myself. Do things to get my mind occupied, figure out why I’m feeling the way I’m feeling, and to move past it. Most importantly it doesn’t last forever. Relying on your self care activities and do the things that makes you feel you is key to overcoming your anxiousness. SIMPLE SELF CARE MORNING ROUTINE WHEN FEELING BLUE
Even if you have a moment of anxiousness at work, doing certain self care practices will help calm yourself down. Several practices from the list can be done at home, work, vacation, or anywhere you may begin to feel your blood pressure rising.
Whatever you do, don’t ignore those feelings. It’s important to acknowledge them. Understand the why, and grow through it. We can’t stop them from happening but we can manage it well if we keep our self awareness high.
Being blessed to have a life to live isn’t a bad thing. It’s how we play the cards in our hand at the time. God didn’t put us here to be miserable, sad, angry, or depressed. He placed us here to do His work. We all have a mission from Him to complete. 7 JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR A GOOD WEEK
Ok, so it seems like every hand that you’ve been dealt has been bad and you can’t make anything out of them. Well maybe we need to figure out the lesson in what God is trying to tell us. If what you’ve been praying for hasn’t changed, maybe God isn’t changing the situation because there is a lesson there you need to learn before he can move you forward.
Simply changing our attitude toward a situation, person, or even money can help propel us forward. Switching or adjusting your perspective can help you see a little more clear. So those cards that you can’t do anything with, change your perspective and attitude about. Switch them around in your hand, take a risk, and play them differently than last time.
How we handle the bumps in the road, will determine where we go, how far we go, and if we go. If faced with the same bump twice, don’t go over it the same as you did last time. Take a different route. Choose a different speed. Switch the avenue in which you decide to get over the bump. Also not everything that ”happens” to us, is for us to tackle. Check out this book ”Living A Loved life” https://amzn.to/3zwQ0GO that is filled with inspiration and motivation to help us tackle this thing called life.
life doesn’t happen to us, but it’s how we play the cards that are dealt. Remember no two hands will ever be same. We will have challenges and situations that occur that we don’t like, but it’s about learning, adjusting, and conquering. The challenges we face are there to teach us, motivate us, and prepare us for the next. It’s up to us to listen and learn.
As you prepare for the week ahead, remember to stay calm, don’t respond or react emotionally, and allow yourself to have a moment. Rely on your meditation, journaling, routines, exercise, and community for support. #SundayFunday
Lately because work has been slow, I had begun to get these afternoon slumps. I had to switch somethings up in my routine to give myself an afternoon pick me up. Here are a couple of tips to beat that afternoon slump.
Healthy Snack. Because I work in an office setting and sit at a desk for hours it’s important for me to choose wisely when it comes to snacking. Try this very tasty but inexpensive blend mix to give you some energy. https://amzn.to/3aFamU2 This week I focused on packing fresh fruits, several different kinds of trail mix, and a good protein bar. All are packed with natural flavors, low sugar, and high in protein. Opting for a Healthy Snack provides more energy and benefits than cookies, chips, or candy.
Water. Water. Water. Staying hydrated is a must. The more Water I drink the more I’m going to have to get up and go to the bathroom, which is a good thing. The more Water you drink the less you snack. Also the more Water you drink, is a great way to reduce belly bloating. And of course your skin stays clear. Yes, I slice lemon in the morning, place it in a baggy, and in my lunch bag. This helps me keep variety and flavor with my Water. Limit the soda and sugary coffee drinks that will give you an afternoon crash.
Get Up and Move. Taking a 5-10 minute break is essential to beating the afternoon slump. Go outside, get some fresh air, and walk around. 6 TIPS FOR MONDAY MORNING BLUES Give your eyes a break from looking at a computer screen. This will give you a natural boost of energy. If you can, go to a coworker desk and have a quick chit chat. Don’t do anything work related for a few moments.
Turn on tunes. Sometimes if it’s too quiet I will turn on some soft music. If you can, create some noise or distraction for you to focus on where only you can hear at your desk. If I don’t do some soft jazz, I’ll turn an audio book, or video on YouTube. The goal here is to give your mind something else to hear and focus on.
routine Switch. This is simple and works. Among your daily tasks switch up your routine. Find a way to make your job interesting but yet still productive. Doing the same thing day after day will get boring and provides lack of enthusiasm. Bonus Tip: Get creative and switch your desk around. Spruce up your work area.
These tips to beat the afternoon slump is for anyone to use. You don’t have to work in an office setting. If you work from home these are great tips. If you’re a stay at home mom, the tips can help. Adjust and tailor them to fit your needs.
We’ve all experienced those days that are blue. We feel tired, not interested in getting out of bed, eating, or talking to anyone. Sadly if we don’t get up and just lay in the bed, it could turn into something darker than we want it to or need to. So here is a simple morning routine you can do when you’re feeling blue.
5a.m.-7a.m.-Wake up early even if you don’t have anywhere to go or nothing to do. Laying in bed too long effects not only your mental psyche but your physical body will get stiff and soar. Just getting out of bed is an accomplishment in itself. It signals the brain that you care about yourself and you want to be somebody that day.
7a.m.-7:15a.m.-Affirm yourself and the day. Once you wake up, sit up in the bed and firstAffirm ”Today is going to be a great day.” ”I am deserving of all the good that is going to come to me today.” Then take 5 more minutes to pray and thank God for giving you breath in your body and movement in your limbs to make it another day. Or you can opt to meditate for 5 minutes and focus on your breathing and being in the moment.
7:15a.m.-7:30a.m.-Instant boosts of energy. Get out of bed and stretch. Then make your bed up. That is another small self care activity that provides a sense of accomplishment. Do a good body stretch to awaken your blood flow, bones, and circulation. This will give you an instant boost of energy and motivation to want to proceed with your day. After stretching open your blinds and curtains. Even if it’s raining or gloomy out. If you can, open the window for some fresh air.
7:30-8a.m.-Spend time with yourself. Head to the bathroom and freshen up. During this time look at your beautiful face in the mirror. Take your time having a moment alone to yourself. In this moment, shower, brush teeth, wash face, do your hair, and makeup if you want to. Put on something cute but comfy. Lastly, give yourself another instant boost of confidence by putting on some perfume.
8a.m.-8:30a.m.-Feed your soul. Have yourself a bottle water. Take some vitamins or medications if you’re required to have them. Fix yourself a nice colorful and healthy breakfast. HEALTHY LIFESTYLE: 5 SIMPLE AND QUICK BREAKFAST IDEAS Enjoy a cup of coffee or tea. Sit down and enjoy your breakfast that you made for yourself. No phones or distractions allows you to once again be in the moment and intentional.
This is just an example morning routine you can do when not feeling your best. Each step is to motivate, provide energy, and give a small sense of accomplishment. You may adjust steps, times, or anything needed to suit your needs. The goal is to get yourself back on track.
This is going to be an interesting week. It’s the last week of school. The work week is cut by day for me due to us participating in United Way Fundraiser, and we have to plan a good 4 day weekend for the holiday. All in which will take us out of our normal routine. But it will be fun.
Sunday: Great day to sleep in and rest. After an long weekend with track meets and the temps have dropped by almost 30 degrees, I welcome the brisk fresh air. I’m all caught up on laundry and grocery shopping. So I’m going to focus on keeping the house tidy. I began asking the kids about some ideas we came up with for the long holidayweekend ahead. Needless to say I rec’d mixed reactions. So back to the drawing board. Later in the evening I had an amazing workout and a chill evening with my kids. The hubs has to go in and close the store due to a lack of help.
Monday: Great start to this short work week. I’m loving the cool temps actually. It’s going to give me a chance to mix up working out inside the home and going outside. Last week of school and I told my kids to just have fun and enjoy time with their friends. Had a really good day at the office and was able to get some admin stuff done on projects. Later in the evening I had an amazing walk outside and was able to retire in bed early.
Tuesday: Had a great breakfast and coffee date with the hubs after drop off. Office was quiet but I was able to get some research done. Later on in the day I was grooving and my daughter and I had a great conversation. I was very excited she wanted to talk and ask me questions. Once again I tried to make progress on what we were going to do this weekend and of course no input. After dinner we also discussed on ways to cut back this summer since the kids were out of school and we really weren’t using a lot of things we pay for. IE subscriptions and many other apps.
Wednesday: Very humid this morning. Almost to the end of the school year, just one more day. Had to make a quick grocery store run before heading to the office. This week is very quiet because it’s a holidayweekend. Of course, I used my time wisely and submitted proposals, worked on editing and updating some listings, and worked on some ideas. Later on in the evening I decided to do a mid week clean. Due to the weather changing, rain, and humidity, the ants and spiders I can’t take. Afterwards I was already warmed so I decided to go out for a walk and get in a good sweat since it was very humid. It was amazing as I got to see some Deer hang outside and enjoy the weather also. Late night I enjoyed the NBA game and went to bed.
Thursday: LAST DAY OF SCHOOL!!!!!!!!! We are all excited for this day. Another year has flown by and I’m so proud of my kids for staying the course in these challenging times. To celebrate them for doing amazing we planned to go out for dinner and have a night out. Oddly enough the memorial day weekendplans they want to keep it simple and remain local. So we’re going to head to the lake, have a little cookout, and play it by ear the rest of the weekend. We had an amazing night and enjoyed one another. MENTAL HEALTH AND SELF CARE IS FREE
Friday: Today begins my 4 day weekend and I’m super excited. Started early with cleaning, laundry, and making breakfast for the kids. The hubs had to go open the store. I have a couple errands I need to run and whilst I do that I’m going to test out some new skincare and makeup to see how it holds up. Later in the evening we headed downtown to enjoy the Memorial Day kickoff. They had a live band, activities for the kids, food truck Friday, and the weather was great. After having a great time we opted to keep it local the rest of the weekend and let the days come to us.
Saturday: I woke up and had breakfast with the kids. Got a lot of housework done before heading out to enjoy the evening. The kids wanted to go do laser tag, bowling, and mini golf. So we enjoyed having fun with the kids. After game night out, the kids were tired and wanted to order take out. The hubs and I opted to go have a dinner date and head back up town for some fun. I would say I wanted to have a good plan for the weekend, but this enjoying local activities and letting the day come to us has been much more enjoyable.
Have a great week everyone!!!!!!!
P.S. Weekly blog is designed to show the realistic life of a working mom, balancing life, career, and herself.
“I can’t afford to lose my job or take time off work to seek mental health treatment is there anything I can do”
YES!!!!! Your mental health and self care is free. Just because you have a strict schedule, job, or boss doesn’t mean you can’t practice self care. Having a lack of resources at your finger tips won’t hinder you from developing good self care habits. You’ve taken the first step in acknowledging you need and want a better care for yourself. Right now you have an abundance of resources it’s just how you use them.
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Next, you can use your phone that’s at your finger tips to get dailymotivation. Make a decision and choice to ONLY seek positive content. Once you only click or search positive content the algarithm will then flood your feed with that content. It has worked for me and I can truly say it helps to not even see a negative title or headline. YouTube, Pinterest, and Instagram has some amazing quotes, scriptures, passages, reminders, and hope to keep you fueled thoughout the day. Also begin to distance yourself or limit your interactions with those who aren’t feeding you like you want to be fed. Your motivation and encouragement doesn’t just have to come from digital. That one person that only calls, text, or have a negative story isn’t good for your mental health. Delete social media if you have too. ALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA APPS DELETED
Thirdly, focus on you. Wake up a little early. Make sure you look good and feel good about your appearance before heading out. Focus on your physical health. Do some walking, gardening, hiking, biking, or any activity to keep your body moving. Exercise and sweat out some toxins. Schedule in your activity. Create a schedule for the week, month, and day. Have an outline of what you have to do. This ensures you aren’t overwhelmed, you can make time for yourself, and still being productive at work and at home. The schedule is free because you can create it on your phone. Schedule your meals, activity, laundry, cleaning day, and this will give you something to hold yourself accountable. If you can use resources at work, email it to yourself and print it. The schedule is also a good way for you to begin to create boundaries and say NO!!!!!! Saying no and creating boundaries is free.
The fourth thing you can do to get a handle on your mental health is seek a spiritual community. Having a community of people to share, pray, and worship is the best way to filter out the bad and keep the good. If you choose to worship on Sunday in person that is great, but you can also do so using the phone you already have. The first I thing I do every morning is have time with God. In the form of music, a sermon on youtube, or me having my own prayer session. Get rooted in faith and hope.
The fifth is to use your time wisely. While you’re on break at work you can journal, listen to a podcast, read a book, or watch a quick motivational video. Opt to have lunch alone so you can get what you need without judgement, interruptions, or criticism. If you are cooking dinner, listen to a sermon on youtube. Find an inspiration channel that feeds your soul. When I clean and do laundry I put my earbuds in and let the universe speak to me. You are moving and getting Exercise, while feeding your mind with positive energy, and getting things done on your list. All of this is free and good for your mental health. You’ve developed habits.
The sixth free thing you can do for your mental health is develop routines. A good morning routine to get your day started. This will ensure you are in a good headspace to conquer the day. Even when things seem to go sour, you’ll have tools and motivation in your spiritual bank to pull from. Next a good night routine to wind yourself down. How was your day? What didn’t you like that you can work on? What was good about the day? Release it to make room for a clear slate the next day. MID WEEK MENTAL HEALTH REMINDERS
Lastly, give yourself permission to feel. You will have good days and some bad days until your habits become second nature. But continue to push through and work through it. Each bump in the road is a teaching moment. Don’t ignore them. Listen to them and ask yourself why am I reacting this way or feeling this way. The good news is because you did this on your own without seeking a paid counselor the reward in understanding and growth will be just that much greater.