An open letter to anyone, you are enough, I hear you, see you, and feel you. I know you’re in pain and I’m sorry. You feel like there is a dark cloud over you, lurking. No matter what you do, it feels like you just can’t catch a break. For every two steps forward, you take one back. The feelings of being unappreciated, invisible, and dismissed is mounting. Everyone is take take take and no one ever stopped to ask you how you are doing or if you need help.
You can’t breath. You can’t think. The numbness from the neck down has become comfortable and a security blanket. You’re always on edge. However, at any moment you feel like a ticking time bomb. Your life feels like a puzzle and all the pieces are on the table scattered. The frame isn’t even together, let alone at least two pieces in the center. My dearest of friends I’m sorry.
Every feeling, thought, and emotion you are having is valid. That is why I decided to write you an open letter. What you are feeling is right. There isn’t anything wrong with you. All you want someone to do is say thank you or ask are you ok. A simple kind gesture makes all the difference in how your day will go. On the other hand, you always make sure everyone else is good.
I’m here to tell you, it will get better. For instance, the happiness and joy you yearn for you will receive, and soon. My friend that beautiful smile and laugh we will hear again. Enjoying each day and having fun will be apart of your life. Use this open letter as a reminder that you will have power and control of your life. Just like bamboo you may bend but you won’t break. You have come this far and endured. After that you will come out stronger and tougher. Therefore, let this be a lesson so in the future you won’t bend as easily and definitely won’t break.
You have the right to say NO!!!!!. You have the right to decline an invitation or offer. Here are a couple of examples for declining someone, “you know I appreciate your offer and kindness of thinking of me, but I’m not in a good space right now so I’ll catch you next time.” Or if someone is asking something of you and its not in your spirit to fulfill, “I appreciate your trust in me but that isn’t something I’m able to do at this time.”
In the meantime, make yourself a priority, create boundaries, and focus on yourself. Don’t feel bad or guilty about saying “I’m not ok right now and I need to get better.” Also taking a step back away from everyone and everything is something we all need to do from time to time.
You are worth it. You deserve it.
Be you so you can be free.