Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Self care

She Knows

She doesn’t think she’s better than anyone, nor does she think anyone is better than her
She will give you a chance, but if you muck it up you won’t get another
She doesn’t mind being different
She doesn’t mind being alone
She is strong
She knows her own strength
She knows what she wants
She minds her own business
She mourns in silence
She doesn’t have, need, or want a lot of “friends”
She is natural
She is caring
She can keep a sercret
She makes her own decisions and sticks with them
She doesn’t care what others are doing
She loves hard…and hurt hard
She is a gentle lion
She is educated
She’s always thinking, analyzing, and plotting up something new
She isn’t afraid to try something new or step outside her comfort zone
She knows how to balance her life
She doesn’t sweat the small stuff
She is confident
She is comfortable in heels
She is comfortable in sweats
She is proud
She is talented
She’s always switching up her look
She never lets you get too close or comfortable with her
She doesn’t stop once she get started
She is unique
She doesn’t seek advice, she trusts her instinct
She validates herself
She share, give, and love unconditionally
She is unapologetically her
She is woman

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Self care

Random Post…Happy Friday Y’all

We’re 15 days into the new year and it seems it’s been a long one already. There is so much going on around the world, in our homes, and on our jobs that can easily get us into the state of “How in the world did I end up here?”

Right now more than ever taking a moment to ourself is crucial to all of our wellbeing. Even if you can get five minutes in, it’s better than none. Turn the news off, do not consume that all day. Turn off your social media notifications for a day or so. If you feel you can’t turn off your notifications just don’t respond, read, or look at them for a day.

Please be mindful of what you’re consuming and how much. This includes your conversations with family, friends, and coworkers. If you have someone at work like I do, who loves to talk about politics every moment of day, find a way to recenter. For me, I either completely ignore them, turn on my radio really low, and zone out. Eventually when I don’t respond or engage they stop or switch the subject. Another way I deflect is to simply say “I’ve had my fair share of politics I’m really not interested in discussing it right now.” Finally, my last resort, is to literally refer the conversation back work or another subject.

That goes for any subject matter that you are tired of talking about or hearing about.

Another thing that has been heavy on me is to ask yourself what are you condoning, participating, accepting, and accommodating? Right now there are many things that we normalize and gloss over as if its ok, knowing deep down it’s not. Stop twisting yourself into a pretzel, to keep the peace in fear of being left out and talked about.

If it ain’t right, don’t sit well in your spirit, and you don’t want to, then exist gracefully.

I’ve had to come to grips with this subject matter this week. Unfortunately, my mother in law passed away, and me knowing my role on when, where, and how far to extend my support had to become clear to me. I had to step back and say it’s not my mother, my husband has siblings, and I don’t have a say so. I had to tell my husband I’m here, you all let me know what you want and need me to do. I was beginning to struggle on if I was being a good wife, if I didn’t do or be apart of certain situations. But I had to realize my support is to my husband and my children, who lost their grandmother.

Finally, I come to know and understand that I can’t fix people or save people. I can’t and will not break myself down trying to fix someone else. Also if it has nothing to do with you, it doesn’t concern you, it’s none of your business, it doesn’t effect you or your family, it’s out of your control, or you can’t change it, then let it GO. Don’t be mad, angry, upset, bitter, or hold a grudge. Just be done and let go. And don’t look back.

Bet on yourself first, this one time, and give yourself a chance.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Self care

Why Mindset Is Everything

What you think will become your actions
What you think you believe, negative or positive
What you think you speak
What you think you become
What you think propels you forward
What you think holds you back
What you think is who you are

“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.” -Steve Maraboli

No matter what the situation or scenario is we must train our mind to think positive thoughts. How we process and think about anything will determine the outcome of every situation. For every thought we think turns into how we respond.

That action in our response therefore sets the tone on if we proceed into something positive or propels us into a downward spiral. Which, depending on the action can either put us on a path of success or destruction. Positive mindset is essential to our mental and emotional health.

“Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude. -Roy T. Bennett

Our mindset is everything even in the choice of words or language we use. What we think, we will say. Words matter, words hurt, and once we spew words we can’t take them back. Our choice of words can repair relationships, begin relationships, make someone feel good, and yes save our jobs.

That whole saying “mind over matter” isn’t just a saying, it is a way of life. What we think comes out in every action we do and every interaction we have. We don’t realize it, but people can tell what our mindset is by our actions and the way we speak.

Our mindset is what we believe in our core, who we are, and determines the path we take. Having a positive mindset and training it to be positive will allow us to overcome and weather any storm.

“Mind is a flexible mirror, adjust it, to see a better world.” -Amit Ray

Instead of saying “I have to go to work, say I get to go to work.” That simple thinking will put you in the right mindset in the morning and your subconscious is set for you to have a good day.

Positive thoughts lead to positive emotions that leads to positive feelings that sets positive actions into place which leads to positive vibes and positive energy that is contagious which means everyone around you has a positive attitude. That one thought has lead you to have a positive day, an enjoyable day, and you’ve controlled and determined your atmosphere just by having a positive mindset.

This last year I really put this into practice. When I decided to consciously be aware, I noticed one little thought made the difference in how my day went. For example, there were times in the morning before I got out of bed I said to myself I don’t want to go to work or I don’t want to see XYZ, and guess what happened when I got there. I had a horrible day at work. The moment I saw XYZ my facial expression and energy created an atmosphere that wasn’t pleasant. The rest of the day it was awkward and tense.

So I tried the positive route. I woke up saying I’m thankful to have a job to go to, we are different but I can learn a lot from XYZ, and you guessed it, I had an amazing day. I walked in, said good morning, and created an atmosphere that was pleasant. From that point on I knew the power in having a positive mindset, the power I had in setting out for a positive day, and creating an atmosphere that is advantageous to my mental health.

This year if you want to start fresh begin with a positive mindset. It will set you up for success every time no matter what the situation is.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Self care

DIY Cucumber Lemon Water

So we know how important it is to drink water throughout the day as well as the benefits of drinking the proper amount of water daily. However, there are many of us who don’t like the taste of water, which can discourage us from drinking it.

Cucumber Lemon Water

Yes, there are many options available for flavoring our water on the store shelves but I’ve found making a gallon of cucumber lemon water is much more refreshing. Not to mention, the natural and healthy nutritional benefits of having cucumber and lemon in your water.

Benefits Of LemonsBenefits Of Cucumbers
Good Source of Vitamin CAntioxidant Rich
Flavor Promotes HydrationExcellent Source of Hydration
Improves Health of SkinHigh in Vitamin K-Aids in Bones Health
Aids in DigestionPotassium Aids in Blood Pressure
Helps With Weight Control Aids In Skin Health
Healthy Benefits

The recipe is simple, little to no prep time, and very inexpensive.
To make a gallon of cucumber lemon water you’ll need the following:

-1 Gallon of Water
-Pitcher
-1 Cucumeber
-2 Lemons

Preparations

Thinly slice the cucumber and lemon. Place both the cucumber and lemons into the bottom of the pitcher. Pour your gallon of water into the pitcher with the cucumber and lemons. You can give it a little stir to mix everything together, but it isn’t necessary.

Next, you can refrigerate for about an hour to cool or fill pitcher with ice if you’re needing to serve right away. The longer you allow the ingredients to penetrate the water the more flavorful it will be.

Cucumber Lemon Water

If you don’t want to make a full pitcher, a glass of ice water recipe calls for:
*2 Slices of Lemon
*3 Slices of Cucumber

Please note: This is how I like my cucumber lemon water. You may increase some ingredients or decrease some depending on your taste buds.

This is a great refresher if you don’t like the taste of water, if you plan on entertaining and would like a spin on plain water, great of course in the summer, and if you need a detox at the beginning of the year to start your fitness journey.

I first tasted this flavor of water three years ago at a Hotel in July while we were on vacation. Every time we walked into the lobby we couldn’t wait to stop at the cooler and get a cup, and I’ve been hooked ever since then. When I drink cucumber lemon water I can’t stop and therefore my body thanks me. Whenever I feel like I need to cleanse or dehydrated I spend the weekend drinking this mixture and by Sunday I can literally see the difference in my body, energy, and skin.

Please give it a try and let me know how you enjoyed this all natural refresher.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Personal Growth · Self care

Lifestyle, Systems, and Daily Habits

It’s that time of year where people are talking about their new year’s resolutions. I’ve never like this idea or really been able to answer the question “what’s your New Years resolution?”

Instead of a New Years resolution I think its more important and/or effective to create a lifestyle with systems and daily habits. Have a plan for your life in year. Break that plan down into half year goals, seasonal or quarterly goals, and then monthly goals. If needed you can even break it down into weekly goals until it has become habit. Setting goals, making plans, and listing somethings you’d like to accomplish in a year is more realistic and obtainable.

So often when we set resolutions they barely last a month or even a week sometimes. That’s because it hasn’t been thoroughly thought out, made with intention, and done at the spare of the moment.

Before creating a system or change you must ask yourself what is my end goal here? How long will it take me to reach my end game? What do I need in the process? If I have to make a detour what is my course of action to get back on track? What do I need to put into place to begin? What are the steps of this goal?

To make anything sustainable we have to be patient, persistent, and consistent. Yes there will be road blocks but we will overcome them. The systems set by our daily habits will allow us to get back into to gear when something happens. Life is going to continue but its how we work through it that will allow us to continue on with our goals and not give up or lose sight on what we sought out to achieve.

When you have an outline of your goal you’re able to track progress, adjust the goal if necessary, increase or decrease your course of action, add or delete some steps in the process, and have a visual.

For example, if you have a weight loss goal, make a plan to lose 5lbs in the first month or two. Because you have a goal you know you have to eat a balanced diet and exercise to achieve that goal. Look at your work week, schedule of things to do with the kids or family in the week, and figure when it will be best to work out for at least 30 minutes 4 times a week. Anyone can say “I want to get fit” but what does that mean without a plan and goals behind it.

Along with setting goals and creating an action plan, having a system in place will assist you in achieving the goals you want. Having systems in place with daily habits that are pushing you toward your goal allows you to remain present in the moment. The systems of daily habits become the lifestyle change you are striving for.

Back to the weight loss example, you will need a system of when and how often I need to go to the grocery store to ensure I have what I need before, during, and after workout. Along with what will my daily meals and snacks look like. Waking up to making sure you don’t skip breakfast is a great daily habit to begin with. What am I going to have for lunch, what is my snack for the day, or what is the plan for dinner.

No matter what it is, you want to accomplish, create a plan for it. Vacation, remodeling the home, purchasing a new car, or whatever make an intentional plan. I know it may seem like a lot or it can be overwhelming in the beginning but once it becomes habit and who you are it won’t phase you one bit. Living the life you envisioned, deserve, and sought for is the best reward.

We have to make it a lifestyle and part of who we are. It has to be about us, for us, and by us otherwise it’s just empty words of hopes of what we’d like to do and accomplish.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Self care

Happy New Year!!!!!🎆🎊🎈

WE MADE IT EVERYBODY!!!!!! You really should give yourself a pat on the back. And you thought you weren’t going to make it this year. My friend you are a survivor and you really should be proud of yourself.

Please know you are already equipped with everything you need to begin this new year of 2021. Make yourself a priority, stay positive, and enjoy what’s waiting for you on the other side of 2020.

I want to wish everyone a Happy New Year!!!! Stay safe, stay warm, and be well my friends. See you next year.

Happy New Year

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Personal Growth · Self care

Dear 2020,

It’s been real. It’s been a drama for sure. You showed us how not to make plans and be too sure about anything. So many of us had plans for you, 2020. It was going to be the year of wealth, health, new businesses , relationships, weddings, milestones, and new beginnings. Obviously you had other plans for us.

I don’t know what your point of all this was, to turn our lives upside down and inside out but you will not WIN!!!!!! We’ve had time to think, meditate, and reflect about what we want and value in life. Can you say hindsight 2020? And we thank you for giving us this time. We thank you for the heart ache, pain, devastation, unknown, and keeping us on the edge of our seats.

You keeping us on the edge of our seats has lit a fire under us. We know family and spending quality time with them is important. We know how important self care is and what we need, to be the best version of ourselves. We’ve found our passions and are ready to put our plans into actions.

We are focused, determined, and ready for you to leave. If you look around and see how excited we were to be in the season of joy, giving, love, and laughter. We began decorating, some of us even earlier than before. We’ve began celebrating and getting in the spirit of new beginnings.

You’ve taught us how to be resilient, patient, and present in the moment. Yes, we were guilty for living in our phones twenty four seven. Yes, we were guilty in believing working until you put yourself in the hospital was a sign of success. Yes, we were guilty in not spending quality time with family and creating memories. But we’re back baby. Better, stronger, wiser, and more ready than ever.

Dear 2020, you came in with a force and hasn’t stopped. As a matter of fact even at the end you are still trying to have a hold on us. But we’ve caught on and we aren’t going to let you ruin this last leg of the race.

Goodbye 👋 2020. You are no longer wanted here. We’ve had enough and ready for 2021, refresh, and new start. Thanks for stopping by and don’t come back!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Personal Relationships · Self care

Last Minute Self Care Gift Ideas

This holiday season it is important to remember the reason for the season. We all want to give and don’t want to leave anyone out. We know there are some who are having a more trying time than we are and giving them a gift that will encourage, inspire, motivate, and lift their spirits is always the best. Due to trying times this year think of giving a gift that keeps on giving.

Self Care Gift Ideas

– Framed Family photo or keep sake.
-Memory book or scrapbook.
-Digital album.
-Personalized Calendar.
-Snack basket of their favorite snacks.
-Coffee mug with their favorite tea or coffee.
-Robe or pajama set
-Favorite dish
-Plant
-Throw
-Create a Self Care Basket
-An Inspiring Book
-Gift Card to a Spa or Salon
-Subscription Service
-Journal Writing Book

This year think about inspiring someone to take a leap of faith and start their self care journey. We can give a gift of 💝 and stay within our budget. These gift ideas you can get at your local stores and mall, since we’re out of time for delivery by Christmas.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Self care

Things To Do To Lift Your Spirits This Week

Yes, Christmas 🎄 is Friday and not everyone is happy and in a joyful mood. So my goal is to get as many people inspired as possible. Here are a couple things you can do this week to lift your spirits.

First, my favorite thing to do is drive around in the evening and view the amazing lighting and decorations people have done to their homes. Nothing makes you smile more than seeing the creativity that our neighbors have to make their home bright with cheer.

Just seeing all the lights and decorations lifts the heaviness, makes you smile, and feel good. Even something as simple as people decorating their homes to make others feel good is enough to be grateful for.

Next, along with driving around to view lights and decor, watch some holiday movies that makes you laugh. One of my favorite holiday movies is Home Alone. Because of the kind of year we’re having, there has been an endless amount of movies and marathons on television.

Focus on you for a day. Take a long bath or shower. Do your hair. Do your makeup. Get all dolled up and take selfies in your favorite Christmas pajamas. So when you send out that mass text on Christmas morning, you can personalize it.

Expect to have a great week and holiday. Stop thinking about what you didn’t get to do this holiday season, the presents you couldn’t afford, and what you don’t have. “Things” aren’t important. It’s the intangibles that mean more. Be grateful to be alive to see another Christmas and to just be around loved ones.

Clean your home and make room for new energy, new vibes, and new beginnings. Donate some old stuff you haven’t used in a while. Many of us are off work and have kids on break to help. This makes for great family time while getting things done.

Prepare a meal or dish for family or friends to enjoy. That is a gift in itself.
Volunteer or help someone who is less fortunate than you.

Make ornaments and give them away to your most precious loved ones.

There are so many things you can do this week as we approach Christmas Day to boost your spirits and others in the process. Focus on the good, choose happiness, and stay positive.

Merry Christmas 🎁🎄 Everyone!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Personal Growth · Self care

Who Do You Self Care For?

My daughter who is going to be someone’s wife one day, someone’s mother one day, and a boss some day.

My sons who are going to be someone’s husband one day, a father one day, and role model to many.

My mother who didn’t have the ability to self care and live the life the she wanted.

My father who paid the ultimate sacrifice.

My grandmother who sacrificed for us all.

My Grandfather who is the head of the family.

My brothers, sister, cousins, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, friends, and coworkers who I share energy with.

Yes self care is for us. We must divulge in self care and make sure we are whole. We need to be our best self to offer to family and friends.

However, there are many who benefit from our self care. We are setting an example to our children. While we’re having the courage to take a break and do something that makes us happy, we are inspiring and encouraging others to do the same.

Even, that one person who seems to have it all together is still watching. The one person who you think is judgmental and doesn’t like you is watching and learning from you.

We represent more than ourselves. When we step out we represent our parents, grandparents, spouses, and children.

When one of us is not good it effects the rest of us. If we all are making deposits there is an abundance. However, if everyone is withdrawing we all are depleted.

Who do you self care for? Who do you hope to inspire? What expample do you want to show?

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.