Most of the time we’re overwhelmed because we’re busy trying to fulfill other commitments to family, friends, and coworkers. Show up for yourself like you show up for others in your life. We feel obligated because they’re our children, spouse, boss, parent, sibling, or friend. Not in a million years do we want others to feel like we don’t want to be bothered or we don’t have time for them. But giving your all to everyone else in life, only leaves you with crumbs to feed yourself. You deserve more than that.
To show up for yourself first, take moment to feed oneself (literally and figuratively), and not being available is perfectly ok to do. If you don’t feed you first, how are you going to feed and pour into others. What do you have to offer them? Surely, not your best. You not even giving you your best self. And, guess what, it’s not even selfish to show up for you.
Will some in your life get angry, upset, or their feelings hurt, maybe. But they’ll get over it. Think about this, is it not selfish for someone to expect you to put them first over your own self? But on the other hand, that’s where communication comes in. Just give someone a call and say “hey I’m not really my best so can I come see you tomorrow?” Or, I got done with dinner late, I’ll call you tomorrow.
Sometimes we’re not able to communicate on the fly. After you’ve had your moment, you can call and say, “you know I’ve been a little overwhelmed lately sorry I missed your call.”
Either way you’ve communicated that you had needs for yourself to take care of. Most of the time we’re stressed and drained because we are trying to making everyone else feel whole. We’re not even whole and trying to make someone else whole. SELF LOVE: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
The next time you feel like you’re stretched thin, and can’t get any help, everyone is pulling at your leg, take time for yourself. However they are expecting you to show up for them, reverse and show up for yourself. You deserve it. Your overall wellbeing is depending on you.
Practicing selfcare is all the buzz right now. However, there are some unpopular opinions about self that may help someone out there who is struggling to get a handle on this thing called selfcare. As always, do what works for you. Engage in activity and self love practices that brings you joy and peace. I thought I’d share some unpopular opinions about selfcare.
You don’t have to wake up at 5a.m. If you are a night person, then sleeping in may be what is best for you. As long as you get a good amount of sleep. As well as, be the most productive you, you can be. If you are a 7a.m. Person that is perfectly fine.
Along with waking up at 5a.m. You don’t have to exercise that early either. Me personally, I’m an evening workout person. It best suits me and I get the job done. The goal is to get in some kind of physical activity daily to ensure you’re taking care of that part of selfcare.
Donuts, chips, candy, ice cream, and cake you can have. You don’t have to deprive yourself of sweets. It’s called moderation. Enjoy life, and the sweets it has to offer. You know what you can handle and what you can’t. So the next time you’re on vacation enjoy all the food that is offered.
No one said you have to have 2-3 jobs to be successful or productive. If your one job is great and you love it, it takes care of you and your family then you are good. Juggling many jobs or side hustles isn’t for everyone. There is this thing called life you still have to enjoy.
Working a 9-5 is ok. Not everyone is an entrepreneur or wants to own their business. Don’t feel the pressures to create a business or become an entrepreneur. Make sure you love what you do and enjoy going to work everyday.
Journaling isn’t for everyone. Not everyone has the patience to sit down and write out their thoughts. Or feel the need to purge thoughts. It’s perfectly ok, if you don’t journal, have no interest, and isn’t your thing.
You don’t have to have a master plan or grand vision. Waking up and living life as the day come is amazing in itself. Actually, doing this will lead you to what really makes your heart flutter.
Having friends are a good thing. Knowing your boundaries and setting them is key. But we all need friends to get through life. The love, laughter, and sheer companionship both male and females need. Not one person on this earth can do life alone. Girlfriends…Why We Need Them
Social media can be a good thing. Not every aspect of social is media bad. Find what works for you and leave the rest. Moderation and filtering out the negative is key.
Those are just some unpopular opinions about selfcare and self love. Hopefully, this will help some not feel so pressured, confused, or overwhelmed when finding their routine. Remember to enjoy your one life. Go at your pace and enjoy the journey.
”Pay attention to what you’re saying about yourself. You’re going to become what you’re continually saying.”-Joel Osteen
Everything begins with the mind. The thoughts you think will eventually become your actions and reality. Be mindful of what you say aloud to yourself, in conversation, and in your head. Speak into existence all the goodness you want out of this thing called life. 5 REMINDERS ABOUT SELF LOVE Tell yourself you’re beautiful, smart, confident, a good person, parent, friend, worker. Also speak abundance into your life. Love, finances, relationship, opportunities, health, wealth, and healing. Don’t speak on the negative. Speak as if it’s already been done. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!
This week is a typical mid summerJuly week. With schedules, activities, and memos coming in for back to school making appointments and setting calendar reminders are my goal. Outside of that we don’t have much going on except staying cool in this triple digit weather.
Sunday: All I wanted to do today was relax and just be. My son had to go to work and that left the younger two with me and the hubs. I got laundry done and a little tidying done. After words I spent time bing watching ”See No Evil” on ID Discovery. Lastly, after an early dinner, I decided to go out and walk in nature. It was refreshing, cleansing, and sticky all at the same time. I obtained my goal in primarily staying off my phone this weekend. I intentionally left it on the counter and didn’t have the urge to pick it up.
Monday: Oh the work week has started. I’m feeling good this morning and ready to be productive. My hope is when I get to the office I’m able to have emails and voicemails to take care of. Well….my hope for a little business today went out the window really quickly. But I ended up having a great day at work with it just being the 2 of us (another agent). The importance of having adult woman conversations can’t be valued enough. After work I plan to wash my hair, again. Do a little housework and then relax.
Tuesday: I had a good morning and afternoon to start the day. Left the office early to get my younger 2 so my oldest can head off to work. After running some errands, I got into a mood and cleaned house, changed linen, and did some laundry. Before working out, I made some plans for back to school since we’re beginning to get notifications and emails regarding sports physicals, supply list, and fundraisers. Later in the evening I had time to manage some Poshmark listings, go over some edits, and finally went outside for a walk. Stayed up pretty late since my son didn’t get off until 11p.m.
Wednesday: Starting the morning early with breakfast and coffee with the hubs. Was able to listen, read, and watch content to help me get through some emotionalhealing with my mother. However, the information rec’d was very informative, helpful, and gave me the motivation needed to move forward. (I haven’t spoken on the relationship with my mother and I much, however when I find the right words I’m sure it will come out. It’s very difficult for some to understand because it’s mostly emotional trauma.) Later in the evening I decided to do a midweek clean, laundry, and take some notes.
Thursday: It’s hot and humid out. Spent the day working on calendar stuff and schedule as I begin to get in school schedules, activites, and calendar memos. With the 3 kids, keeping up is a task in itself. Along with my son being ”safety kid” this year. My son had to work this evening so we baked cookies and relaxed until the evening. Had a really good workout today. I’m proud of myself for the last couple weeks been sticking to no sugar, carbs, or alcohol. I’ve noticed a difference in my energy, skin, and body.
Friday: Good start to the morning. Made a couple of errands before heading off to work. It was a little eventful at office. But I was able to get the kids sports physical scheduled. I’ve been coming in all week cleaning and doing laundry. So tonight I think I’m going to find something to binge watch and relax. However, before I do, I did have a chance to publish MY NATURAL HAIR LOVE HATE RELATIONSHIP. I will probably still decided to go out for a walk and get a good release in mentally and emotionally.
Saturday: A typical sleep in morning for me. Had an amazing conversation with my brother and nephew this morning. Off to a great non eventful Saturday. Spent time daydreaming, enjoying my coffee, and then eventually binging on Netflix. Later in the evening we’re headed out to do some errands and grab a couple of items. Finally, the hubs and I had a great conversation outlining how we’re going to proceed with back to school, upcoming fall season, and goals for the second half of the year.
Have a great week everyone!!!!!!!
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Being blessed to have a life to live isn’t a bad thing. It’s how we play the cards in our hand at the time. God didn’t put us here to be miserable, sad, angry, or depressed. He placed us here to do His work. We all have a mission from Him to complete. 7 JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR A GOOD WEEK
Ok, so it seems like every hand that you’ve been dealt has been bad and you can’t make anything out of them. Well maybe we need to figure out the lesson in what God is trying to tell us. If what you’ve been praying for hasn’t changed, maybe God isn’t changing the situation because there is a lesson there you need to learn before he can move you forward.
Simply changing our attitude toward a situation, person, or even money can help propel us forward. Switching or adjusting your perspective can help you see a little more clear. So those cards that you can’t do anything with, change your perspective and attitude about. Switch them around in your hand, take a risk, and play them differently than last time.
How we handle the bumps in the road, will determine where we go, how far we go, and if we go. If faced with the same bump twice, don’t go over it the same as you did last time. Take a different route. Choose a different speed. Switch the avenue in which you decide to get over the bump. Also not everything that ”happens” to us, is for us to tackle. Check out this book ”Living A Loved Life” https://amzn.to/3zwQ0GO that is filled with inspiration and motivation to help us tackle this thing called life.
Life doesn’t happen to us, but it’s how we play the cards that are dealt. Remember no two hands will ever be same. We will have challenges and situations that occur that we don’t like, but it’s about learning, adjusting, and conquering. The challenges we face are there to teach us, motivate us, and prepare us for the next. It’s up to us to listen and learn.
As you prepare for the week ahead, remember to stay calm, don’t respond or react emotionally, and allow yourself to have a moment. Rely on your meditation, journaling, routines, exercise, and community for support. #SundayFunday
This is going to be an interesting week. It’s the last week of school. The work week is cut by day for me due to us participating in United Way Fundraiser, and we have to plan a good 4 day weekend for the holiday. All in which will take us out of our normal routine. But it will be fun.
Sunday: Great day to sleep in and rest. After an long weekend with track meets and the temps have dropped by almost 30 degrees, I welcome the brisk fresh air. I’m all caught up on laundry and grocery shopping. So I’m going to focus on keeping the house tidy. I began asking the kids about some ideas we came up with for the long holidayweekend ahead. Needless to say I rec’d mixed reactions. So back to the drawing board. Later in the evening I had an amazing workout and a chill evening with my kids. The hubs has to go in and close the store due to a lack of help.
Monday: Great start to this short work week. I’m loving the cool temps actually. It’s going to give me a chance to mix up working out inside the home and going outside. Last week of school and I told my kids to just have fun and enjoy time with their friends. Had a really good day at the office and was able to get some admin stuff done on projects. Later in the evening I had an amazing walk outside and was able to retire in bed early.
Tuesday: Had a great breakfast and coffee date with the hubs after drop off. Office was quiet but I was able to get some research done. Later on in the day I was grooving and my daughter and I had a great conversation. I was very excited she wanted to talk and ask me questions. Once again I tried to make progress on what we were going to do this weekend and of course no input. After dinner we also discussed on ways to cut back this summer since the kids were out of school and we really weren’t using a lot of things we pay for. IE subscriptions and many other apps.
Wednesday: Very humid this morning. Almost to the end of the school year, just one more day. Had to make a quick grocery store run before heading to the office. This week is very quiet because it’s a holidayweekend. Of course, I used my time wisely and submitted proposals, worked on editing and updating some listings, and worked on some ideas. Later on in the evening I decided to do a mid week clean. Due to the weather changing, rain, and humidity, the ants and spiders I can’t take. Afterwards I was already warmed so I decided to go out for a walk and get in a good sweat since it was very humid. It was amazing as I got to see some Deer hang outside and enjoy the weather also. Late night I enjoyed the NBA game and went to bed.
Thursday: LAST DAY OF SCHOOL!!!!!!!!! We are all excited for this day. Another year has flown by and I’m so proud of my kids for staying the course in these challenging times. To celebrate them for doing amazing we planned to go out for dinner and have a night out. Oddly enough the memorial day weekendplans they want to keep it simple and remain local. So we’re going to head to the lake, have a little cookout, and play it by ear the rest of the weekend. We had an amazing night and enjoyed one another. MENTAL HEALTH AND SELF CARE IS FREE
Friday: Today begins my 4 day weekend and I’m super excited. Started early with cleaning, laundry, and making breakfast for the kids. The hubs had to go open the store. I have a couple errands I need to run and whilst I do that I’m going to test out some new skincare and makeup to see how it holds up. Later in the evening we headed downtown to enjoy the Memorial Day kickoff. They had a live band, activities for the kids, food truck Friday, and the weather was great. After having a great time we opted to keep it local the rest of the weekend and let the days come to us.
Saturday: I woke up and had breakfast with the kids. Got a lot of housework done before heading out to enjoy the evening. The kids wanted to go do laser tag, bowling, and mini golf. So we enjoyed having fun with the kids. After game night out, the kids were tired and wanted to order take out. The hubs and I opted to go have a dinner date and head back up town for some fun. I would say I wanted to have a good plan for the weekend, but this enjoying local activities and letting the day come to us has been much more enjoyable.
Have a great week everyone!!!!!!!
RosalynLynn
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Describe a time when you felt most comfortable or yourself. (when writing about this time describe where you were, who was around, what were you wearing, what the weather was like, what was said in the convesation, this would help you identify or clarify who and what makes you happy)
The first thing I think about in the morning is…(the moment you open your eyes what is the first thing that occupies your mind/thoughts, this prompt gives you an insight on what is causing your stress or anxiety)
The one thing I’m afraid for people to know is…(we all have that one thing that we don’t want people to know, it could be an insecurity, past trauma, or thought, be as specific as possible, this will tell you what you need to conquer to free yourself)
Do I feel stressed or anxious right now?Why or why not? (sometimes we may not want to say exactly what has us jumpy or we want to use an excuse, be honest and specific why or why not you’re feeling anxious or stressed, it could be nothing, something big something small)
My most difficult relationship is…(once I realized what my most difficult relationship was, I was able to get clear on why I did certain things, closed myself off to certain people, and what triggered me. It doesn’t have to be romantic, it could a parent, sibling, coworker, cousin, aunt, uncle, friend, neighbor.)
I am proud of myself for…(when was the last time you told yourself you were proud of you, this is one affirmation I’ve come to love, it could be simple as ”I’m proud of myself for trying a new recipe”, no matter how big or small be proud of yourself)
What is my favorite TV show and why? (what we watch and consume consistently tell us a lot about our personalities and who we are, I love anything on ID Discovery, I’m more interested in the ”why” people choose the extremes that they do)
Try these 7 prompts for healing this week. The goal is to get a point of view from different backgrounds of life. Either way they’ll all come together to let us know how we’re doing, where we need to work, and what we are good at. You deservehealing and happiness.
Looking ahead this week we don’t have much going on. It’s another one of those weeks where we can relax, catch up on cleaning, and resting.
Sunday: Very full day. I was able to sleep in, have a great family breakfast, do laundry, and get many listings posted on Poshmark. Later in the after noon, we had an amazing Sunday dinner. The day went so well, I was able to go out and enjoy the cool breeze on a nice walk in the early evening. It was a great day and night to cap a great weekend. Again my husband and I were able to say, we had a full productive weekend. Isn’t that what life is all about. Living life each day, some will be good, some will be bad, but we’ll get through it all.
Monday: Cold, rainy, and dark. We getting ready for another round of storms, starting today. But we’re still headed off to a great day. The kids are starting their testing and end of year courses today. So they aren’t as eager to head off. Work is going amazing and I’ve been trying to stay a little later than normal to help out the new agent. She’s still getting comfortable and feeling her way. Later in the evening, after a workout, I found myself doing some laundry before heading to bed. WEEKLY BLOG: TYPICAL WORK WEEK
Tuesday: Nice break from the rain but it feels like a fall day out. I can tell we’re about to have some strong storms. Quiet peaceful day at work. I’ve been able to use my time wisely in getting work done and researching other ventures. However, I was able to get BEING A MOM INSPIRES ME posted. After work we were able to get my moms trash done and some cleaning up at her house. The kids have been tired due to testing and I can tell they are mentally over this year. I had a very good day of managing some listings and contracts. It could be because of the weather but I was ready to hit the sack very early this evening.
Wednesday: Great morning even though it’s still gloomy out. We don’t have too much going on this week really. Which is a nice break. Always having ”stuff” to do or a full schedule can be mentally draining. Because work at the office was slow, I was able to get plenty of ideas written down. Just putting my thoughts to paper has been helpful and allowing me to sort ideas out. In the evening, we all was somber due to the storms out. However, I was able to get in a good workout before relaxing for the rest of the evening. My husband and I have been binge watching some shows on HULU and they are great. ”The Act” and ”The Thing About Pam” were great originals.
Thursday: Another gloomy and rainy morning. All the kids have testing today. Everyone is ready to go and get this testing week over with. Heading into the office I plan to use the slow time again to do some brainstorming and research. Not much planned for the rest of the day besides relaxing. We have a few plans for the weekend so after work tomorrow I’ll do a good clean to have the house ready.
Friday: Finally it’s the weekend. We all were worn out and tired. We look ahead to great summer like temperatures to start the week off. We’re winding down to the last couple days of the year and I feel like I’m more ready than the kids. We have some plans for tomorrow so after work I’m going to do a grocery run and clean the house.
Saturday: We had to be up and out by 9a.m. to get to the stadium. It started off cool but quickly temps rose and we were warm out. The kids had an amazing time at the Olympics. Every year at the end, the school district puts on this Olympic type event with all the schools competing. It’s a great family, fun, friendly event. After hours of being out there we headed to my moms for a couple of hours. Lastly we were worn out from the sun and headed home to relax.
Have a great week!!!!!
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Physical selfcare and emotionalselfcare I am doing well in. No one is ever a 100% all the time. However, maintaining balance in my physical and emotional health helps me manage all other areas of selfcare. In actuality, all the selfcare categories are related.
Without question my physical activity is the center prong of my selfcare. When I’m feeling sad, angry, or overwhelmed I turn to walking. Even when I’m excited or received good news, walking calms me. You know when you get those jitters and you don’t know what to do, walking brings me back down. Walking is my meditation. When I walk I can sort my thoughts, answer questions, and regain focus. The best part is doing so without judgement or input from others. It allows me to literally and figuratively cleanse the negative energy.
Another form of physical activity that helps with managing my selfcare is cleaning. When I get in a mood, I put in my ear buds and get lost in cleaning products. This is a form of therapy for me. From top to bottom and front to back I do a physical cleanse as well as a mental while cleaning. It’s almost like disinfecting the negative energy, thoughts, and emotions away. After cleaning I always take a long shower or bath. In result I feel like I’ve had a therapy session with an actual counselor.
Yes, I reap benefitsphysically keeping my body in shape. But now, I more so do physical activity to keep my mind clear and focused. Whenever you are feeling over whelmed, too many negative thoughts, or in a state of confusion, do some kind of physical activity. Physical selfcare or activities gives you a moment to turn your attention to something else. By the time you’re done you’ll have the strength and courage to move forward. HOLDING THAT GRUDGE IS ONLY HURTING YOU, LET IT GO
My second selfcare category I’m doing well at is emotional. Keeping my emotional health in check helps me communicate my needs and wants. Allows me to give myself permission to be happy and doing so guiltfree. Not being to quick to respond. Not taking things personally. Being grateful in good and bad times. Allowing myself to have a moment. Acknowledging I am having a moment. Then tackling what caused me to have a moment.
Also part of my emotional health is giving myself a break. Saying I need time off. Lastly a huge part of my emotional health is positiveself talk and journaling. Writing is very cathartic. Getting out your feelings and emotions is important to your overall health. Good and bad. All in turn has allowed me to even keep my mental health in balance. I realized leading with emotion or making emotional decisions can make situations worse.
What selfcare category or categories are you doing well in? We are so quick to point out areas we need to work on. Exercise some good emotionalhabits and point out what you are doing good in.
