RESIST THE URGE TO CARRY OTHERS PAIN

”If God wanted you to have that pain and grief, he would have given it to you.”

As I sat and had a conversation with an elder of the church she gave me the above response after I said I wish I could take someone’s pain and grief away. When attempting to support someone in their time of grief we most often say things like, “I wish I can take it way”, or wanting to grieve for them. When, in actuality, they have to go through that process themselves. The best you can do is let them know when they’re ready, you’ll be there.

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Now resisiting the urge to take on others pain and grief doesn’t have to be related to a death. Much more often, we attempt to take on things that don’t belong to us in our everyday life. When that friend vents about their boss, don’t internalize it, own it, and take it personally. Let them vent and then support them finding a solution to not letting their environment determine their peace.

Resist the urge when you’re lending an ear to someone air out their frustrations about their partner. Again, don’t let that spill over into yours and you unconsciously begin an argument with your partner. This can be true for those who love to listen to relationship podcast or gurus. Don’t accept their experience as yours and then create a situation for it to be accurate.

Carrying the burdens of others can be detrimental to our mental and emotional state. We are eating calories that are empty, no nutritional value, and garnering the effects while said person plate is empty. If we always taking food from someone else, how are they supposed to learn how to cope and navigate their way through life. You can empathize, support, and walk next to, without carrying the load.

To avoid, have clear boundaries of your role and responsibilities in your relationships. Know when you need to lend an ear, offer advice, encouragement, or when to walk away. And if you don’t know, ask. The key to eliminating stress, unnecessary conflict , and save relationships is to allow your friends and family to deal with their own stuff. SELF CARE: NURTURING RELATIONSHIPS, COMMUNICATION, & UNDERSTANDING

I’ve heard my favorite TV therapist, Iyanla Vanzant, tell her guest many times, “leave them alone and let them cry by “themselves. They’re adults, they’ll be ok, it’s only tears.” In order for ourselves and others to grow and heal, we all have to feel the feels.

Resist the urge.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY MENTAL HEALTH REMINDERS

Hope you had a great weekend. It’s a new week and time for some simple, quick, and easy mental health reminders. Whatever happened yesterday or last week, it’s done. Stop dwelling over it and focus on the new opportunity this day or week is offering you.

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Weekly Mental Health Reminders

  1. Celebrate and focus on your progress. Something could have broke you, but you didn’t let it. Focus on your journey and don’t compare yourself to others.
  2. Go to the doctor. Make that dentist appointment. Get that lab work done. Take care of your physical health. It has a great impact on your mental wellbeing.
  3. Set small goals you can achieve. Starting big leaves room for disappointment, lack of motivation, and easy to let go. Starting small allows room for growth and improvement.
  4. If you didn’t break it, it’s not yours to fix. If you can’t do anything about it, stop worrying about it. Release what’s out of your control. GENTLE REMINDER ABOUT SELF CARE
  5. Set a time daily to unplug and disconnect from technology. Give yourself periodic social media detoxes. This will enhance your productivity.
  6. Mistakes, setbacks, and challenges are all apart of growth. They are going to happen. They need to happen. How you learn, respond, and grow is the test.
  7. You grow when you step outside of your comfort zones. Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself to do different.
  8. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. It’s better for our mental health to let the grudges go.
  9. Take time to unwind each night. Put a period on the day. Each day is a new opportunity.
  10. Therapy is a good thing. If you aren’t getting what you need with what you’re doing. Seek additional resources when needed.

Take care of yourself. You owe it to yourself. You can’t get a redo on any given day. Keep it simple and enjoy this one life you’ve been given.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

DECLUTTER YOUR SPACE & RENEW YOUR SPIRIT

What is on this weekend self care list? Declutter, spring cleaning, renewing the energy and refreshing the spirit in the house. Cleaning closets, getting rid of old clothes and shoes, shredding mail, cleaning junk drawers, cleaning the deep freezer, and refreshing the linen for spring. 3 SELF CARE REMINDERS FOR THE WEEKEND

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Have you been feeling overwhelmed, chaotic, anxious , can’t remember your to do list, and not with it? Well, take a look at your surroundings. Your home, car, office, closets, junk drawers, and any other space you occupy may have something to do with it. If those places are cluttered, messy, and everything is out of place, well it’s no wonder you are feeling stressed.

It’s no secret that a cluttered, disorganized space can leave us feeling overwhelmed and uninspired. However, by taking a time, day, or weekend to clean, declutter, and donate old items, we not only refresh our homes but also rejuvenate our spirits.

Declutter Your Space: Clutter has a way of weighing us down, both physically and mentally. When our homes are filled with excess belongings and disorganization, it can be challenging to focus and find motivation. That’s why decluttering is such a powerful tool for refreshing our living spaces and our spirits. Start by tackling one area at a time, sorting through items and deciding what to keep, donate, or discard. As you clear away the clutter, you’ll create space for clarity, creativity, and renewed motivation to flourish.

Tip: Give yourself a time limit based upon your lifestyle. Ex. If you haven’t worn it in a year or six months get rid of it or donate it. If you can’t fit it, donate it if possible. Don’t keep things for “just in case.” If that “just in case” hasn’t happened, then it won’t. Everything should have a place and there’s a place for everything. Too much STUFF can be overwhelming.

Donate Old Clothes to Charity: As you declutter your home, consider donating old clothes to charity. Not only does this act of kindness benefit those in need, but it also lightens your load and refreshes your wardrobe. When we let go of items that no longer serve us, we make room for new opportunities and experiences to enter our lives. Knowing that your old clothes will find new life with someone else can bring a sense of fulfillment and purpose, motivating you to continue decluttering and giving back to those in need. Self Care: Declutter and Make Room for Growth

In donating old clothes, this will give the push or confidence needed to step outside your comfort zone and dry different style ideas. Open your mind to new ways of living and being.

Refresh Your House: Once you’ve decluttered and donated, take the opportunity to refresh your home with a thorough cleaning and organization session. Clear away dust and grime, rearrange furniture for a fresh perspective, and add small touches like plants or artwork to breathe new life into your space. As you transform your home into a clean, inviting safe space, you’ll find yourself feeling more motivated and inspired to tackle whatever challenges lie ahead.

Cleaning, decluttering, and donating old items may seem like simple tasks, but their benefits goes far beyond a clean home. By clearing away physical clutter and refreshing your space, you create room for mental clarity, creativity, and renewed motivation to think and just be. So, the next time you’re feeling stuck or uninspired, consider taking a look at your surroundings and embark on a journey of cleaning, decluttering, and donating. You’ll be amazed at the transformation that unfolds – both in your home and in your spirit.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SELF CARE: NURTURING RELATIONSHIPS, COMMUNICATION, & UNDERSTANDING

After coming across a YouTube video where the creator was stressing frustration over the money market self care has become, I thought I’d share a few reminders.

Yes, we are saturated with images of “flawless” beauty and unrealistic standards. It’s easy to fall into the trap of equating self-care with beauty maintenance. Self-care extends beyond pampering oneself; it includes nurturing relationships, fostering communication, and understanding oneself to be better for others . It’s about nurturing the mind, body, and spirit, rather than solely focusing on external aesthetics. Let’s embark on a journey to remind ourselves what self care really is and not fall into the surface layer.

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Healing Relationships: Self-care involves treating the wounds of past relationships and fostering healing within current ones. It’s about setting boundaries, expressing emotions, and seeking reconciliation where needed. By addressing unresolved issues and prioritizing emotional well-being, we clear the path for healthier connections. Heal your inner self first. That inner child wound holds the key to your mental wellbeing. Recognizing our triggers and how to heal them is emotional healing.

Building New Relationships: Engaging in self-care lays the foundation for building new, meaningful relationships. When we prioritize our needs and values, we attract individuals who align with our authentic selves. By engaging in self-awareness and self-love, we enter relationships from a place of strength and authenticity. When we don’t heal ourselves, we may push away good people with good intentions because our insecurities won’t allow us to see clearly. Once you understand you, your emotions, and trauma, you can identify and attract the kind of relationships you desire and need.

Focusing on Communication: Effective communication is at the heart of every healthy relationship. Self-care involves honing communication skills, such as listening, acknowledging , and showing empathy. By having an open mind, honest conversation , we create spaces for understanding, connection, and growth within our relationships. Because we’ve worked on ourselves we can express our feelings and emotions instead of holding them in resulting in resentment.

Prioritizing Health: Physical and mental health play integral roles in nurturing relationships. Self-care encompasses prioritizing healthy habits, such as exercise, eating with color, sleep, and stress management. By taking care of our bodies and minds, we show up as our best selves in our relationships, ready to engage, share, support, comfort, and motivate .

Understanding Others’ Points of View: This was one of my greatest eye openers. Self-care involves the ability to show empathy and understanding towards others’ perspectives. It’s about listening without judgment, seeking to understand, and acknowledging diverse experiences and viewpoints. By practicing compassion and empathy, we create safe spaces for mutual respect and connection. Listening to understand their feelings and needs. What in their life triggers them to communicate how they do. Not expecting anyone to respond, react, communicate, or think how you would.

Avoiding Inflicting Pain: More importantly , self-care entails refraining from inflicting harm on others, whether intentionally or unintentionally. We hurt others because we haven’t dealt with our own hurt. It’s about recognizing the impact of our words and actions, taking responsibility for our behavior, and striving to do better. Opting for kindness, respect, and empathy, we open the door to nurturing, healthy relationships. When we attempt to hurt others, it says more about our inner struggles and pain we need to deal with. Furthermore, once the deed is done it can’t be undone.

In essence, self-care is a multifaceted prong of components. By prioritizing communication, understanding, and empathy, we create spaces for connection, growth, and mutual support. That’s where the true beauty lies. We can be the most aesthetically appealing on the outside but if the inner isn’t cleaned up, then it washes away that beauty. SELF CARE IS A LIFESTYLE What does all the points have in common? They are FREE. Let us remember the beauty routine, maintenance, mani’s, and pedi’s are great but focus on the inner first.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

CONSISTENCY: FINISH WHAT YOU STARTED

In a world that is forever changing with new technologies, trends, and aesthetics , it is very easy to lose patience, gratitude, and interest . No matter if you’re starting a business, blog, family, new career, savings, or self development journey you’ll need consistency, patience, and focus to finish out what you started. You never know how it could have been if you don’t see it through. This, I had to remind myself, that what we need and want is often right within our grasp – if only we pause, appreciate, and persevere.

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As I began to research, plan, and build my Etsy store, I had to pause and think I have everything I’m looking for in front of me. I haven’t been consistent on the blog, I’m still selling on Poshmark, and still a freelancer. Not to mention a mom of three teenagers and an husband. With great hesitation I put my Etsy store on pause. Whenever starting something new it takes great effort, time, and resources. Instead let’s harness the power of staying in the present and being consistent. What we need and desire might be right in front of us.

If you ask any millionaire or celebrity the key to their success, it’s always staying the course when you don’t have motivation, no one believes in you, you don’t see results, and keep doing even if you’re tired. Success is often a product of small, consistent actions accumulating over time. Will there be times you slip?! Absolutely. But the beauty is you get back up.

The satisfaction of completing a project or seeing something through should remain motivation enough to be consistent. Remember your why. Being able to recognize, own, and share your growth is invaluable. Finish what you started – the rewards extend beyond the immediate task.

When faced with obstacles, it’s tempting to abandon ship and chase new adventures. This I have to remember and tell myself when I don’t get views, a contract, or bad review. I remember my why. What my purpose is. Don’t give up too easily; every obstacle is an opportunity to refine your skills, resilience, and determination. MENTAL HEALTH REMINDER: TRUST YOURSELF

Sometimes, getting that instant gratification isn’t what we need or desire. Patience is a virtue, and trust in the process is paramount. When there is an obstacle, I know there is a lesson that I need to learn. It’s important to get that lesson before moving on and understanding the work that needs to be done. Instant success isn’t sustainable.

In the pursuit of our dreams and goals, it’s crucial to remember that success isn’t just about starting new ventures but about completing the ones we’ve already embarked upon. Let’s celebrate consistency, embrace the art of finishing, and trust that what we need and want is already in motion – we just need to stay the course.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY

Happy International Women’s Day ❤️
”A woman is like a tea bag, you can’t tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.”-Eleanor Roosevelt

Embracing and enjoying womanhood is a celebration of self-love, an ode to my femininity within. As we gracefully navigate this journey of womanhood , let’s relish in the joy of being women. Let’s nurture our bodies, minds, and spirits with kindness and intention, appreciating the beauty of holistic well-being.

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In this dance we call life, remember to nourish your body with wholesome goodness, allowing every bite to be a gesture of self-love. Be the creator of your own wellness, crafting routines, support, community, and motivation for a healthy lifestyle and living with intention.

As we cherish our own well-being, let’s extend that goodness to others. Kindness, compassion, and support create a ripple effect that transforms the world around us. Tapping into your femininity begins with how you be as a woman and how you be to others. Every smile, every act of generosity is a testament to the strength of femininity.

So, here’s to enjoying the delicious journey of life, relishing each moment, and finding fulfillment in the beat of our existence. Let our life reflect the joy of womanhood, MARCH TO YOUR OWN RHYTHM while empowering other women, and our energy vibrates through our journey. Embrace your femininity, nourish your whole self, be good to others, and revel in the sheer beauty of being alive.”

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MARCH TO YOUR OWN RHYTHM

In the grand scheme of life, it’s easy to find ourselves pulled in various directions by the opinions and expectations of others. Yet, amidst the noise, remember the invaluable importance of staying true to yourself. March to your own rhythm of life.

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Being you and your most authentic self is your greatest asset. Like a compass pointing north, your inner values and beliefs should guide your journey and move you along your path. Resist the urge to mold yourself into someone you’re not only to fit into what society expectations are of you.

Be the unique masterpiece that you were created to be. As I’ve told my kids, God only created one you, so you are one of a kind and own it. Embrace your quirks, your passions, and your dreams. The world benefits most when everyone show up as their genuine selves. Resulting in color, expression, new ideas, new experiences, life abundance, and endless possibilities . It’s not about conforming; it’s about placing your fingerprint on a canvas of existence .

The path less traveled may be lonely, cold, rugged, and long, but it’s often where you’ll discover your true strength and potential. Your voice, your perspective, and your choices matter. Don’t be afraid to dance to your own beat of life . Daily Inspiration: YOU ARE ENOUGH

Remember, it’s okay to be inspired by others, but let that inspiration fuel your individuality and creativity rather than dictate your identity. Embrace your uniqueness with pride, and in doing so, you’ll inspire others to do the same.

Stay true to your being, in return, you’ll find a sense of fulfillment and purpose that is uniquely yours. March to your own rhythm of life.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SPRING, BLOSSOM, AND FLOURISH

Hello there…

I thought I’d pop in here and remind you to continue to plant yourself with seeds of faith, hope, inspiration, love, and joy.

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We’re four days into March and spring is quickly approaching. As the days grow longer and the world begins to awaken from its winter slumber, let this be a reminder that just like nature, we too have the power to bloom and flourish.

March signifies a fresh start, a chance to shed the old and embrace the new. The flowers are pushing through the soil, the trees are budding with new life, and so can you. Push your way out of whatever is holding you back. Take this opportunity to plant the seeds of your dreams and watch them grow.

In the gentle warmth of spring, find the inspiration to spread your seeds of potential. Let go of any doubts that may have held you back and step into this season with confidence. Release any fear or negative doubts preventing you from watering the garden of you. The world is full of possibilities, and March is the perfect time to seize them. 2022 SPRING SELF CARE CHECKLIST

Embrace the energy of this colorful, warm, windy, and fresh season. Allow the blooming flowers and the budding leaves to symbolize your own growth and resilience. March forward with determination, knowing that every step you take is a step towards your goals.

Remember, just as March marks the end of winter, it can also mark the end of any stagnation in your life. Embrace the changes, embrace the challenges, and embrace the opportunities that come your way.

This is your season to shine, to blossom, and to flourish. Happy March, and may this spring be the beginning of something beautiful in your life!