We all are going to fall in life. But we all are going to get back up. That’s the name of the game. We won’t be able to avoid it. However, there are some reminders to keep in your file cabinet in the front of your mind. These 6 mental healthreminders is what I tell myself when I’m feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, and uneasy.
–It’s only temporary. No matter what you’re going through or what the “it” is, it isn’t going to last long or forever. Yes, because you’re going through a trial at the moment, it’s going to seem like a lifetime. But in actuality, the storm passes and we realize it too late. Tell yourself “this is only temporary”. I am stronger than anything trying to hold me back.
–Perfection doesn’t exist. We’ll save ourselves some heart ache if we stop trying to be perfect. You know what, it’s mostly unconsciously and unintentionally. There is something lacking from our childhood or past that has us thinking we need to be perfect. Your flaws is what makes you, perfectly you. Just be you no matter what. HAPPY SUNDAY FUNDAY: JUST BE YOU
–No one is ever positive 100% of the time. It’s impossible to be this jolly cheerful person 24/7. If you see someone like that, then you need to run. Because they are a ticking time bomb. Someone is going to upset you, frustrate you, get on your nerves, or make you sad. That is normal. You are human. The key is to know your triggers and how to manage them.
–You are where you’re supposed to be. Yes, you may not like where you are in life, and working towards a goal. But appreciate where you are. You once asked for this position. Own it, grow in it, and learn from it before you move on to bigger and better.
–These bad days are supposed to happen. They are here to teach us where we need to evolve, grow, learn, and continue on. It shows us what we’re lacking mentally and emotionally. On the other hand, it also shows where we thrive and what we’re good at. Listen to your emotions. The good and the bad.
–You are not alone. Don’t ever think you are the only one who have bad days. Everyone has them. We all just manage them differently. Even those who walk around and act like nothing ever bothers them or everything is always together. It’s false. Being vulnerable and honest about your feelings and emotions is the true strength. 5 REASONS VULNERABILITY IS STRENGTH
Those are six mental healthreminders I tell myself when my day isn’t going as bright as I like it. No one has it all figured out nor will they ever. Don’t compare yourself to others and they’re situation and circumstances. Live for you and learn from your bad days. We are going to have them. More than once. But keep those reminders handy to help you through them. Be well!!!!!!
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”-Eleanor Roosevelt
This is a quote I saw a while ago that has stuck with me when realizing where certain people stand in my life. As I grow and work on myself I notice, watch, and learn how other people treat others. Also how they talk or speak to themselves, about themselves, about others, and who they like to talk about. I’ve come to learn how someone treat a person they “love” or like is a great indication as to how they’ll treat you. MOTIVATIONAL HEALING: LEARN YOUR SOURCE OF ANGER I guess you can say I character watch. It show a lot about ones character and who they are. The type of people they hang around, what they talk about, what they like to watch on TV, do they stand up for themselves or others are all things that tells you more about someone before you even engage with them. Pay attention to the non verbal cues. If you are at a place in life where you need to reevaluate some relationships or afraid to put space in some relationships take a look at how they treat others. Do you want more of the same or something different? Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!
”Don’t let the storm in your heart overshadow the sunshine in your soul.”-c.r. Elliott
You are not your circumstances. Don’t own anything that isn’t you. Furthermore, don’t accept, participate, and own the labels others attempt to put on you. I have been guilty of this most of my life. The labels my family put on me I subconsciously accepted and owned. You have the right to live the life you want to live. Not the life others think you should live. Remember that you are not a victim you are a survivor. Isolated events that has taken place in your life doesn’t define your story. You are the author and finisher of your story. Don’t ever dim your light for someone else’s comfort. Shine bright and blind them. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!
”I have not failed. I’ve just found 100,000 ways that won’t work.”- Thomas A. Edison
I came across this quote at just the right time last week. You know I’ve been in training for this new position and it’s quite intense in the beginning as always. But per usual, we all can be excited and confident, but still have a little hint of “what have I gotten myself into” moment. Then this quote popped on my computer. It was a great reminder that I needed to tell myself failure is in not trying. As long as you are trying, giving your best, and following your heart, you can’t and won’t fail. You just learned what isn’t for you and what won’t work for you. All the while, pulling away a great teaching moment for yourself and wisdom to put in your file cabinet. No matter how long it takes, how many times it takes, or the road to get there you ARE NOT a failure. KEEP GOING AND PUSH YOURSELF Keep trying, keep going, keep pushing through the doubt, and keep telling yourself how good you are. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!
The best season is here and there’s so much to do. Fall season is my favorite time of the year. The weather, outdoor activities, cool crisp air, and of course, decor are just a few things to name as to why I love this season. We are just over 10 days into the month of September and there is still time to kick off 🏈 your fall season. Below are 7 things to do before the end of September.
Pumpkin Spice it up. The best part of fall is the latte’s. Pumpkin spice, apple cider 🍺, or pumpkin pie latte is all around us. Treat yourself to a latte one morning before work, on your lunch break, a cool Saturday morning, or on that Friday night football game. Get creative and enjoy a great staple of fall season.
Sweater it up. Sweater weather is the best season. Another great reason to love fall. This is the time you get to show off your cool, cozy, sweater style. You can refresh your wardrobe and purchase a new sweater. Gift a sweater to someone. Or be frugal and thrift. No matter what, get into season with a great comfy sweater.
Soup or Chili for comfort. 🍜 What else do we love about fall, those Chili cook off contests. You want to warm up with a nice bowl of chili to watch your new favorite fall shows. Get creative and try some new recipes. There are some amazing Chili recipes out there. On the other hand, a great pot of homemade soup never fails. I grew up on my grandparents and parents making a good pot of vegetable or chicken noodle soup on Sunday. Both Chili and soup is a great way to comfort you soul, while being good for the soul. Lastly, it may provide a great amount of leftovers depending on your family size.
Bake some goodies. 🧁 Cookies, cake, pie, and cobbler all screams fall. After that bowl of chili or soup having a nice piece of pie tops it off. Any of the above mentioned desserts pairs well with your latte as well. Another great part about fall is indulging in all the food, beverages, and desserts. You can still enjoy a good slice of cake and maintain a healthy balanced diet.
Plan your Halloween 🎃 day, night, or weekend. Begin searching all the events that is taking place in your area. You’ll be surprised at the amount of festival, bashes, and parties that are being held in your area. Most importantly there are going to be many that are free. I have older teens that enjoyed some of the events I found in my area last year. It’s more about enjoying the experience, people, food, and fun.
Decorate. 🍁 Give your home a little fall makeover. I know everyone isn’t into having seasonal decor. But rearrange you home. Get some cinnamon, apple cider, or pumpkin scents in the home. If it’s one piece or a whole season of decor get into it. Create a fall visual to your liking to get you into the spirit.
Enjoy the crisp air. 🍂The one thing we need to top off everything is the cool weather out. It will take some of us to get there longer than others. But, I’m beginning to see the change of weather in the morning when I do drop off. The cool weather makes the latte that much more comforting. The chili or soup soothes the soul just right. That sweater wraps around our bodies like a blanket. And the colors in the decor becomes brighter.
Sometimes doing something so out of the box is what you need to get you out of your comfort zone. Here are some fun journal questions to have fun with especially if you’re feeling down, stressed, or need to spice it up.
What is the first thing you see when you look at someone? Why?
Are you a coffee or tea person? What’s your favorite flavor?
Those are some funny and interesting journalprompts to get your mind away from whatever stress you’re going through. JUST TAKE ONE DAY AND BE WORRY FREE Yes, some prompts may be a little embarrassing but remember you’re the only one that is going to see your journal. So let lose and have fun. You owe it to yourself to free your mind. Happy writing!!!!!!!
After a weird and busy last couple of months I feel like things are settling down at bit. It seems as if everything always happens at once. Of course preparing for back to school the last month has been insane, I had a birthday in the middle, and oh yeah, I’m transitioning to work from home full time. But I will give myself a pat on the back, for remaining calm and letting the days play out and not get overwhelmed.
Sunday: We all slept in because it’s summer and the kids like to stay up til 2 in the morning. And it doesn’t help they want us to stay up with them. But today after brunch is all about preparing for the first day of school tomorrow. Loading backpacks, signing forms and papers, and making sure they all have their schedules handy. Also I had plans to do a huge Sunday dinner by request of my son. Finally in early afternoon, we were done with back to school. I was able to get dinner done early, and be able to go out for a walk. The walk I needed to calm myself and clear my head. All while I’m thinking about what I have to do this week because this is my last week in office.
Monday: First day of school. As a tradition my husband and I always take off. It’s like our mental health day for parents. The kids are excited and we’re off to another year. After drop off and a quick appointment we went to our favorite coffee shop to have coffee and breakfast. The plans were to set up my computer and make sure my home office was ready for the following week. But, after breakfast we ended up binge watching some programs we recorded in peace. In the afternoon I did a quick grocery run, tidy up the house a bit, and enjoyed my time before they got out of school. After school was a bit busy with more forms to sign, my son had to work a couple of hours, and of course they were tired. Lastly, in the evening after a good workout we all were ready to turn in quite early.
Tuesday: Back to the office and I am wrapping things up to transition to work from home. I’m very anxious and excited to get started. Thank goodness it’s been quiet and slow so the transition is going perfect. After work and picking up the kids I decided to finish up my home desk, do a little work around the house, and then workout. My son had to work tonight so my evening isn’t over yet. However, after everything we were still able to turn in early. For some reason I haven’t been sleeping well or getting a good nights rest. So I’ve been ramping up on my night routine to get me calmed, relaxed, and clear mind for bed. Self Care: Sleep Routine
Wednesday: It’s bittersweet. This is my second to last day in the office. Drop off has been going really good in the mornings. It’s still quite a bit long lines, as expected the first week of school. After work I have a zoom meeting. A few hours later: my meeting went extremely well. I’m getting more excited about this transition and feel ready. We had dinner early, workout done, and ready for bed. Because as a family we all are adjusting to back school schedule we’re tired. I had to do a couple of errands and found some amazing fall decor that I’m ready to put up. I feel like it’s still too early but I’m so ready to decorate for fall.
Thursday: My last day at the office. Honestly I don’t know how I feel. I’m ready for the new adventure but a couple of agents I will miss talking too. I had a great gift waiting for me on my desk, we ordered lunch, and I left feeling whole. That was important for me. I know I will see them again and continue to have relationships. Later on in the day I got an urge to clean, move furniture around, and do some laundry before heading out for a walk. That fall decor was staring at me and I couldn’t help but begin to prep the house for fall. I’m still looking for a few pieces to have and once I find them I will decorate. There’s a switch in schedule due to my son work schedule because he wants to go the football game Friday night. Finally after a late night walk and my son getting home, I was able to head for bed.
Friday: I feel good this morning. I’m going to have some time to myself. After drop off I have to drop off my parking pass to my old office. Then I enjoyed breakfast, coffee, and watching Mally Cosmetics on QVC. In the meantime I tidied up the house, did a couple loads of laundry, published MENTAL HEALTH REMINDER: YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW and had a moment. After that I headed to Walgreens and found some amazing skincare deals on clearance. Mentally and emotionally I feel great. This last month I’ve really been ramping up journaling my feelings so I don’t get overwhelmed. Praying. Drinking lots of water. Walking. Taking a quiet moment to collect thoughts, regroup, and center myself. I can’t express enough the importance of those acts of selfcare. Anyway, we’re headed out to the first football game tonight.
Saturday: Rest, daughters hair, and final desk set up is on the agenda for today. So I had a plan for today but it didn’t go as planned. I did however sleep in while my husband had an early appointment. Did one of my favorite things and cooked breakfast for my kids, a load of laundry, tidy up a bit before heading to do errands. Later in the afternoon I decided to give my hair a good deep condition before heading to the football fan appreciation night for my alma mater. A few hours later…As soon as we were walking to the stadium a huge down pour came. We ran back to the car and decided to grab a bite to eat. The rest of the evening I spent getting my desk ready for Monday, indulging in my new skincare, and a little laundry. I will cap the evening by reading a few chapters in one of my books.
You can begin to love yourself right now, as you are, as God created you. There isn’t anything you’re lacking to stop you from loving, appreciating, and being the best version of you. Whatever you are feeling or going through it’s only temporary. That doesn’t define you, your life, and where you’re headed.
You can love the body in you’re in right now. Even if you aren’t as confident as you would like to be. Appreciate where you are right now and love the curves, cellulite, wrinkles, dark spots, and imperfections. So when you do reach your ideal weight, get a good nights rest, and reach the point you are confident, then you can appreciate how far you’ve come. Embrace and enjoy the journey.
The way you were created is perfect. Therefore, you don’t need to lose weight, get a bigger bottom, smaller waist, million followers, luxury vacation, long hair, short hair, spouse, children, jewelry, and everything else superficial to love who you are right now. You are equipped with everything you need to fall in love with yourself as is. You are perfect just the way you are.
Make a choice and decision to put your best foot forward so you can present the current you confidently as is. When we live in the “when I get this…” we’re not enjoying the now. In actuality, where we are and what we have now, is actually what we hoped and prayed for long ago. Accept the now to appreciate the future. If we don’t accept, acknowledge, and appreciate the small gifts then we’ll never be able to appreciate the large gifts that’s waiting on us.
Starting today and this weekendlove all of you as you are. Keep pouring love into you. The more you pour into you the more it pours to others. Have a great weekend.
Most of the time we’re overwhelmed because we’re busy trying to fulfill other commitments to family, friends, and coworkers. Show up for yourself like you show up for others in your life. We feel obligated because they’re our children, spouse, boss, parent, sibling, or friend. Not in a million years do we want others to feel like we don’t want to be bothered or we don’t have time for them. But giving your all to everyone else in life, only leaves you with crumbs to feed yourself. You deserve more than that.
To show up for yourself first, take moment to feed oneself (literally and figuratively), and not being available is perfectly ok to do. If you don’t feed you first, how are you going to feed and pour into others. What do you have to offer them? Surely, not your best. You not even giving you your best self. And, guess what, it’s not even selfish to show up for you.
Will some in your life get angry, upset, or their feelings hurt, maybe. But they’ll get over it. Think about this, is it not selfish for someone to expect you to put them first over your own self? But on the other hand, that’s where communication comes in. Just give someone a call and say “hey I’m not really my best so can I come see you tomorrow?” Or, I got done with dinner late, I’ll call you tomorrow.
Sometimes we’re not able to communicate on the fly. After you’ve had your moment, you can call and say, “you know I’ve been a little overwhelmed lately sorry I missed your call.”
Either way you’ve communicated that you had needs for yourself to take care of. Most of the time we’re stressed and drained because we are trying to making everyone else feel whole. We’re not even whole and trying to make someone else whole. SELF LOVE: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
The next time you feel like you’re stretched thin, and can’t get any help, everyone is pulling at your leg, take time for yourself. However they are expecting you to show up for them, reverse and show up for yourself. You deserve it. Your overall wellbeing is depending on you.
Follow your heart, gut, and instinct. They won’t lead you wrong. There have been many times in my life where I wanted to do something or start something but was looking for outside validation. Mainly because what I wanted to do was against the norm of my family or friends. So to start anything no one has done in your immediate support is scary. In the times I did mention what I was thinking about doing, I immediately got rejected or discouraged from doing so. Admittedly, some things I ended up not doing because of that. After many years of suppressing my desires and dreams I finally developed the courage and confidence to follow my heart no matter what others said or how scared I was. When you follow your gut it’s a huge release because you know you’re making decisions for yourself.
Never be so loyal to a fault. I’ve learned to not be so loyal to the detriment of myself. Loyalty is a great trait to possess. However, it can be used against you and manipulated. Sometimes we can be so loyal to someone we hurt ourselves in the long run. I’ve seen this many times working in the corporate world. While you’re thinking about others, that person is busy making sure they’re set and not worried about how you’re going to make it. This can be in any relationship you possess. Don’t lose yourself being loyal to a fault.
Never regret anything in life. My father told me this at a very young age. It has stuck with me like glue. NO matter what decision you’ve made, don’t regret it. Even if it doesn’t work out how you thought, there is still a lesson to be made. Having regrets in life forces you down a path of living in the past, unable to make decisions, and low selfconfidence. Make the best choices and decisions you can with what’s available to you and learn from the rest. Even with all information, we all still won’t make the “best” decision.
Allow yourself to be human. Feel your emotions, good and bad. It’s ok to get angry, sad, upset, cry, excited, and happy. They are there to teach you about yourself. Mistakes are going to be made. No one on this planet is perfect. Don’t strive for perfection either. Lastly, ask for help. There is strength, courage, and confidence in asking for help. Sometimes we don’t know how much easier life would be if we would ask for help when needed.
Don’t be afraid to step out alone. Always stand out never fit in. Step outside the box and think different. Have different opinions, style, and live differently. The more you embrace being different the more you broaden your horizons. We were all made differently. So it’s perfectly ok to not have the same thought or opinions as friends and family. That’s what makes you, you.
Those are my 5 mantras I live by and don’t stray away from. Applying these to my everyday life reminds me of who I am at the core. These mantras can be applied at home, work, in social settings, and anywhere you need affirmations.
