MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

”Better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.” – Khaled Hosseini

”The truth hurts.” I think we all heard this since birth growing up. Why? Because it really does hurt. When faced with the truth there are some tough decisions and choices you’re going to have to make. Those decisions will effect relationships, your finances, and life circumstances. We often avoid them because the unknown side effects are unbearable to think about. However, imagine the internal pain and sometimes physical pain we cause ourselves when trying to justify what we know to be a lie. We make excuses, blame ourselves, give empty boundaries and consequences, blame other people, outside circumstances, and eventually give multiple chances. We just keep adding commas when a period or exclamation point should have ended it. TIPS TO MAINTAIN EMOTIONAL WELLNESS The relationship, job, financial budgeting, goals, health, dieting, exercising, and many other things we move the goal post on. Yes it’s so much easier to deal with the truth on the front end than back end. It saves time, money, and heart ache. If we don’t take care of ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally we have mental breakdowns, stress causing health problems, lack of sleep, and poor habits. When saying I need a day off is so much easier. Getting that check up and catching things early or preventing is better than a diagnosis. Taking care of your home and vehicle maintenance is better than spending thousands of dollars on the back end. No matter what area of your life it is, facing the truth, acknowledging the truth, and conquering it head on will be better for your wellbeing all around. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

BLOCK OUT THE DISTRACTIONS

Blocking out distractions is something we all have to adhere to at work, at school, or even home. For some, blocking out distractions is a little more difficult. When I was in the 4th grade, at one of my parent teacher conference, the teacher told my mom the only problem she had was every time the door open I’d look up to see who was there. Well, you can say I was curious, nosey, or bored. But if a door opens it’s almost a natural reaction to look up and see who’s there. Well not so much.

Fast forward to now. My youngest son, who’s in the 5th grade, have some kids that seek attention and may disrupt the class from time to time. Well when that happens and the teacher has to give certain students special attention, it throws my son off. He can’t concentrate. He’s upset that they are acting out and interrupting. In the result he has to finish his work at home or it may take a little longer than usual.

“Son you’re going to have to block out the noise.” Simply put. I explainied to him we can’t control other people, their actions, or when some distractions may occur. The only thing we can control is how we respond. We must not let other people actions cause us to lose sight on our task, goals, or job. MENTAL HEALTH REMINDERS: KEEPING MYSELF CENTERED

Is it tough? ABSOLUTELY!!!!!! But mastering the art of focusing on what you’re doing in the moment, completing the work, and staying consistent will allow you to block out the distractions. In every class, at every office, and every store there is going to be a distraction. If it isn’t preventing you physically, harming you, or affecting your mental capacity then it’s not your business to tend to. Every since then he has been able to block out distractions.

Blocking out distractions doesn’t just have to be at work or school. It can be at home. Blocking out negative mental and emotional noise is something we all work towards each day. Those are honestly the biggest distractions. The voices, thoughts, and emotions that we believe prohibit us from functioning on a daily. Block out the noise. Ignore the negative. Don’t feed into the distractions.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

AFFIRMATIONS TO RELIEVE ANXIETY

Throughout the day or at some point we’re all are going to have a moment of anxiety. It’s normal. It’s important for us to have some tools or positive affirmations to help us in those moments. I use this technique when I’ve really connected with a client, had an amazing conversation, and they feel like I truly listened to them but then for factors out of my control I can’t issue them a policy. The moment when that “Due to underwriting guidelines…” pops on my screen I instantly get tensed. Now I have to deliver some bad news. I take a deep breath and tell myself at least 3 positive affirmations. No matter what the circumstances are, we are in control. Here are some positive affirmations to get you through.

I am okay.
I am safe.
I am not in danger.
I can do this.
I am good enough.
I am strong.
I am confident.
I have everything I need to withstand.
I let go of what I can’t control.
I am in control of my emotions.
I will get through this.
This is temporary.
This doesn’t define me.
I am letting go of fear.
I am calm.
I believe in myself.
I am growing in this moment.

Those are some positive affirmations that you can repeat to yourself or aloud if you’re faced with a situation you may feel you’re losing a grip on. 17 THINGS I DO WHEN I’M FEELING ANXIOUS Pause. Take a deep breath. Remind yourself you are in control. Those thoughts aren’t valid and this too shall pass.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

” Sometimes happiness looks like staying home, minding your business, telling people no, and doing you.” – Myleik Teele

Please don’t get fooled by social media thinking you have to spend your life savings going on extravagant vacations, wearing expensive clothes, and having the latest IPhone. You can be happy taking a mini vacay to the next town over. Sight seeing, eating good food, and learning something new closer to home. Spending money on the latest trends requires a lot of time and money trying to keep up. No matter what you wear you define the outfit. Find your style and wear it with confidence. Labels doesn’t add value to you. KEY TO HAPPINESS: DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO Create an environment at home to where you don’t ever want to leave. Not only ensure it’s comfy, inviting, and secure, but make sure your home is safe mentally and emotionally. Declutter, clean, and infuse your home with scents of calm. This will allow for your home to give you a safe space mentally and emotionally. Happiness is being secure in who you are and not worry about what others are doing or what they have. How they live their life isn’t your business. The most freeing feeling is telling someone “no” without giving any explanation. So often we feel we need to explain why we’re declining an invitation, doesn’t want to do a favor, or be bothered. Happiness is simple, calm, and doesn’t require much. Enjoy the rest your day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SUNDAY RESET JOURNAL PROMPTS

Sundays are days where many people “reset”. It’s the start of a new week, work week, and school. As I ran to the store yesterday afternoon, I was quickly reminded of that because the store was so busy like it was Christmas Eve. It’s been a tradition to use Sunday as a day of preparation and reset to get through the week. Here are a few journal prompts to help you mentally and emotionally get you prepared for the week.

Sunday Journal Prompts

What is on the schedule for this week?
How do I feel about this schedule?
What was a win from last week that I’d like to carry over and continue?
What is one goal for myself this week?
What was the best thing that happened last week?
What do I need for this week to be a success?
What is something I can eliminate to take pressure off myself?
How do I want to feel at the end of the week?
How can I do something fun this week?
Where can I try something new this week?

Those are 10 journal prompts to get you started this week. RESOLVE EVERYTHING FROM LAST WEEK It’s important that our intentions and expectations are clear. These journal prompts allows you to work through what those intentions and expectations are. As you go to the grocery store, do laundry, clean the house, and have Sunday dinner don’t forget to reset your mental and emotional calendar. Happy Sunday Funday!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

RESOLVE EVERYTHING FROM LAST WEEK

Before the beginning of the new week or work week for some, it’s important to resolve everything that happened last week. From work, to family, health, plans, and what you didn’t get done. Write it down, talk about it, adjust, and learn from last week. One of the biggest mistakes we make is dragging Friday into Monday morning. That’s how we get stuck and trapped into a dark cycle. YOUR MIND AND BODY GIVES YOU ALL THE ANSWERS YOU NEED

white and black weekly planner on gray surface

First starting with work. Whatever happened, leave it there. Try not to bring work home. Once you leave don’t revisit until you go back the next day. Even if you work from home. You can’t change what happened or go back and get a redo. Figure out how you can manage yourself and your expectations going forward to give you the opportunity to succeed. Not just succeed in the functions, but mentally and emotionally as well. Create 2-3 goals for yourself professionally this week. Find a plan to eliminate some stressors, if you have them, to have a better days work.

If you didn’t get to take care of yourself like you wanted this week, again, create a plan to carve time for you to exercise. Sit down on Sunday and create a meal plan for the week. Look at your schedule and see when you have some free time to carve out. Make a commitment to focus on yourself for one hour each day.

Sometimes we need to connect and have a good conversation. If there is a family member or friend that you’ve been meaning to reach out to, schedule that in. Often we feel so much better when we talk out what’s been going on with us and just to release our thoughts and feelings. Purging and hearing someone else’s point of view may help us navigate our daily life.

We’ve heard the cliche, “make sure you close one door before opening another.” Close out this week to prepare for a clean slate. Don’t carry baggage over for it to just pile and stink up the week before you can create any new trash. Do what you have to do to be in safe space emotionally.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SELF CARE IS A LIFESTYLE

I was watching this video and they were discussing how self care is harmful for mental health. I think the misconception is that self care is this “thing” that you have to go find or get. Self care is a lifestyle of habits, tools, and activities you rely on in times of need. You won’t need every tool in the bag everyday. Self care for mental and emotional health is for everyone to cope with daily life.

Also these goals, systems, habits, and activities aren’t just for those suffering from mental illness. If you are a happy and healthy individual, self care is also for you. We all are going to get overwhelmed, drained, exhausted, and burned out. It’s great to have something to rely on and pull out the bag to shake you out of the funk. Sometimes we go on auto pilot and before we know it, life has passed us by and we missed out on some laughter and joy.

These self care activities also doesn’t have to be extreme or expensive. 8 FEEL GOOD SELF CARE ACTIVITIES You have a great tool already, your phone. You can find great motivation and encouragement on YouTube daily, all day. You can journal on your phone. There are many free ebooks and templates you can download. Podcast are great for those seeking motivation and inspiration. A simple self care habit of reading more, can be done on your phone. Download a good book and read instead of scrolling on social media. We can find great exercise videos, plans, and workouts on our phone.

Simply put, self care is for you to have something custom fit for your mental, emotional, and physical health to prevent the burn out or exhaustion. One small daily habit is all some need. One hour of drawing or coloring by numbers is a great stress relief moment for yourself. Rearranging a room in your home is self care. Cleaning your makeup brushes is self care. Self care is endless. Going to sleep early is a self care activity.

There are many great tips, tools, and tricks that many share that has worked for them. Take what you can to help you and leave the rest. Self care is a lifestyle not a one time thing.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

DON’T PUT YOURSELF IN A BOX

Ironically in the last two days my daughter and I had the same scenario of letting fear keep us in a box. Yesterday I only spoke to my husband about my situation after I worked it out. Then when the same scenario arose with my daughter I was able to give her the same pep talk I gave myself.

After a meeting this week with my supervisor going over a coaching plan he said this is for you when you become a supervisor. Before I knew it I said, “I don’t want to be a supervisor.” He said it’s a very rewarding position and I can see you being a supervisor. I didn’t say anything and we moved on to the rest of the meeting. At the end when we were wrapping up he said again, this is for you down the road when you’re a supervisor. I froze and awkwardly smiled while gritting my teeth at the same time.

Now, I had been very vocal and outspoken on where I wanted to go and the type of position I wanted. But he’s the third person that has referenced me moving into a supervisor role or position. When I got off I had to think to myself. Am I holding myself back? Have I been putting myself in a box? Am I stunting my growth and potential on what I can become? Then I realized I had to stop saying what I don’t want and truly trust God’s plan for me. I said I want to be in support role. He said you’ll be very supportive in this position for your team.I finally said to myself, I’m going to stop saying what I don’t want and what I’m not going to do. CHANGE IS UNCOMFORTABLE

Fast forward to my daughters parent teacher conference and her writing teacher was explaining to us that they really wanted my daughter to enroll in an honors course, but she opted out. After many conversations and counselors telling her how good she is and the support she’d have, my daughter still opted out. The teacher and I discussed how we understood the fears a student may have in enrolling in an honor course and may not be ready for that leap.

While on the ride home, I had to let my daughter know what I had just said to myself. I explained that sometimes we allow our fear of failure or not succeeding as we have been hinder us and stunt our growth. We have to believe in the talent, gifts, and greatness that is in us. We have so much potential and can do great things but we put ourselves in a box. Step outside our comfort zone, expand our mind and open up to new opportunities, allow our horizon to expand, and be the great person that we are and everyone sees.

Just because it’s not something you visioned yourself doing or wanted doesn’t mean that isn’t for you. Each step on the journey is preparing us for the next.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

”The silent treatment is a normalized form of emotional abuse. Part of maturing is learning how to communicate, rather than using silence as punishment.” Dr. Nicole Lepera

Just like not forgiving someone, giving someone the silent treatment hurts us worst than the other person. We think we’re hurting them by not talking. But we truly are hurting ourselves more, by not telling them how they made us feel. Thus resulting in repeated behaviors. If they don’t know how they hurt us, then they won’t know how to avoid it or preventing it from happening again. In turn when receiving the silent treatment we hurt ourselves by trying to prove, over compensate, or reverse the silence. When someone gives you the silent treatment and not communicate how you may have hurt them, it has everything to do with their conflict resolution skills. Instead of lashing out, they’ve probably had to cope alone as a child and navigate things on their own. EMOTIONAL HEALING: OPEN YOUR MIND FOR UNDERSTANDING Also the silence can be interpreted as the person or relationship isn’t valued enough to talk it out. Even if you’re so angry that you need to cool off before discussing something, at least inform them of that. Let them know you need to cool before having a sensible conversation. Either way communication skills and conflict resolution is key when having disagreements. Have a great day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!!!!

Love conquers all.
Love wins.
You deserve love.
Love is a powerful thing.
Love is action.
You are loved.
You are beautiful.
You are amazing.
You are special.
You are a light that brighten up the day.
No one could ever replace you.
You bring joy to your family and friends.
You are talented beyond measure.
You are an inspiration to others.
Love is all around you.
You have the right to experience love.
You are enough.
Love always wins.
Love heals.