REMEMBER THE DARK SHADOWS YOU SURVIVED

Before we say “Happy New Year” I wanted to remind everyone of how strong and resilient they are. Remember back at the beginning of this year or further back, you were going through the most difficult time. In the dark shadows of this time you couldn’t breathe, think, eat, walk, or even talk at times. You came out the dark shadows more brave and wiser.

You Are Stronger Than You Think

While in this dark time you felt alone, scared, angry, sad, and worthless. There was no end in sight. The idea of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel was laughable. You absolutely had no idea how you were going to make it the next moment, day, hour, or week.

Well, well, well!!!! You made it. You are here living, breathing, walking, and talking. Whatever had a hold on you, didn’t break you. Guess what that means? You are powerful, strong, and courageous. Give yourself some credit, you are Stronger than you think.

As we approach this new year, I want you to have the mindset of Why Mindset Is Everything strength. No matter what is thrown at you, you can over come. There isn’t anything that could hold you down. You did it before, and you definitely can do it again. Darkness doesn’t last forever.

We will have obstacles. But remember you’ve overcame what you thought was the worst. So in the new year, when a bump in the road comes, that is minor. You will leap over that bump with speed, knowledge, and confidence. Each time you will conquer and be happier than ever.

We don’t want to relive the past, but we can draw strength from it. Positive mindset going into the new year, will set you off right.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

10 NEW YEAR SELF CARE HABITS FOR A FRESH START

As the end of the year approaches many people are making their visions boards, setting goals, and making their new year resolutions. All of those are great to have and implement, however there are 10 self care habits that I do behind the scenes.

In no particular order, here are 10 self care habits I do before the start of the year. These habits help me clear my mind, spirit, and home for a fresh start.

  1. Laundry Clear Out
    This is something we did growing up. At the start of the new year we couldn’t have any dirty clothes in the home. On New Years Eve, all laundry was to be washed, folded, and put away. As a bonus tip, as you are washing clothes, throw out any items that are too little, old, or you haven’t worn in the last couple of months. It makes no sense to carry baggage into the new year. If you haven’t worn it in the last 3 months then you probably won’t be wearing it anytime soon. If the clothes are too little, we don’t save it for when we lose weight. Once you’ve lost weight it’s time to get some fresh new clothes that fits your new body.
  2. Rearrange Furniture
    To give you a new perspective visually rearrange your furniture. If you are able to do as many rooms as possible. This will give you a new spunk about starting the new year with a fresh outlook. Start in your living room, move to the bedrooms, and if you can do your kitchen or dining table. This also forces you to take a different route when walking through your home.
  3. Organize and Declutter
    When you begin to clean up those Christmas Decorations make sure everything has a place and there is a place for everything. When putting your home back together if there are some items that you don’t use or have a space for get rid of it. You can donate it, sell it, or trash the item. Decluttering is great way to get your mental into a space for new ideas, energy, and make room for something new.
  4. A Day of Good Hygiene
    Before the new year do a good day of self care. A nice long bath or shower. Wash and condition hair. Get a hair trim if you can. Don’t forget to shave, wax, or laser. Have yourself a good simple mani and pedi. The goal is from head to toe make sure you are clean, fresh, groomed, and feeling good to start the new year.
  5. Spring Clean Your Home
    Yeah, it seems weird to Spring clean your home in the winter. But self care is taking care of your home. Before rearranging furniture, wash windows, vacuum, mop floors, wipe down everything, and add some fresh scent to your home. Open the windows, curtains, and blinds for some fresh air and sun light. Even if its cold where you live. Just for a few or as long as you can stand it, let some fresh air in and filter out all the bad.
  6. Keep $1 In Your Pocket
    This goes back to when I was a little kid. My family always stressed everyone having at least $1 in their pocket, savings, or bank account. The thought process was to never ring in the new year broke. Even if you had $1, you can turn that $1 into more through out the year.
  7. Get A New Plant
    Starting the new year with a new plant, gives you something to focus on. Even if you don’t have a green thumb. You have to repot it, water it, and keep it healthy through the year. As you learn and grow your plant, you have to refresh your soil throughout the year. So every time you walk past your plant think of yourself and take care of yourself through the year.
  8. Shred Old Mail
    This is apart of my weekend self care tips SELF CARE HABITS: 6 WEEKEND HABITS FOR A GOOD WEEK but go through your home and get rid of any old mail. Clear out your purse and wallet to make room for new blessings to come.
  9. Clean Fridge & Cabinets
    Start fresh by cleaning out your fridge and cabinets. So many have weight loss goals for the first of the year, however decluttering the fridge gets rid of temptations. Make room for the healthy food. You won’t feel like you can’t start your weight loss journey until that food has been eaten.
  10. Pray, Meditate, Cleanse Your spirit
    Before we can start any kind of new journey we shall pray and meditate. Get your spirit ready to start fresh and anew. If we aren’t centered and have clear mental space then anything we try will seem difficult. Get into a space, vibe, and energy. That way your physical and emotional being will begin to align with whatever you are trying to do.

These are 10 self care habits that I do starting the week of New Years. I know it may seem like a lot. But starting at the beginning of the week prepares me mentally, emotionally, and physically. That way by the time the 31st rolls around I’m ready to continue. The process takes time, so after having 5-7 days of being in a new mental space it will be easier for me to continue. So often we make the mistake of starting on the 1st.

The goal is to get you prepared mentally, emotionally, and spiritually before you begin your goals. Having a good thorough cleanse makes us ready to receive new. Out with the old, and in with new.

Happy New Year Everyone!!!!!! Be Safe!!!!! Be Well!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

TUESDAY TIP: LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES

I wanted to give everyone a quick mental note going into the new year, mistakes are good for you. Learn from your mistakes and never be shamed because you did make a mistake. We often beat ourselves up when we make a mistake. For some it’s very difficult to admit they made a mistake. In the mean time, others won’t even admit they actually do make mistakes. There isn’t anything wrong with making mistakes.

You Are Perfect The Way You Are

The honest to God truth is, we all are going to make mistakes over and over again. It’s all about how we grow and learn from them. Mistakes is how we learn what not to do. Whenever you make a mistake, and learn the correct way to do something, you’ll never make that mistake again. MENTAL HEALTH WELLNESS TIP: ONE STEP AT A TIME

In some situations in life, the only way to move forward is to make that one mistake that will teach us the who, what, where, why, and how.

As we approach the new year, I want the thought of being perfect to leave your mind. Embrace whatever mishaps happened. Figure out how you can learn and grow from them, and leave it as an after thought.

The humility, courage, and confidence you gain from admitting ”I made a mistake” is a power no one can take from you. When we deny, deflect, or dismiss we actually hurt ourselves. We give our power away. Admitting you made a mistake shows character, strength, courage, and humility.

Right now many people are gearing up for the ”new them”. One way to sit in who you are is to acknowledge the mistake that made you a better person today. It could be choosing the wrong partner, career choice, job, move, or conversation. Never regret the decisions or choices. Instead learn from them.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

THE HARD THING ABOUT BOUNDARIES

We’ve heard a million people say set boundaries. But setting boundaries isn’t the hard part. The hard thing about boundaries is keeping them and implementing said consequences if someone crosses a boundary.

I think we’ve all said we’re done with someone or a situation and even knew how we were going to handle it in the future. But when that next time came, we got cold feet. We second guess ourselves. The thought of cutting someone off, give us anxiety. We begin to worry about hurting their feelings. Especially if its a close friend or family member. We begin to question if we’re the one’s being too sensitive or overreacting. Having the guts or courage to let someone know they have hurt your feelings brings you embarrassment. You just don’t want to ruffle anyone’s feather. Or cause a scene. Be the person that ruins the dinner, holiday, or trip.

But guess what, that second guessing is what go us to this point. We know how we feel, we know what we need and want, but refuse to say it out of fear. What if you attempt to implement the consequences and it’s not received? The sad part is we are willing to continue to sacrifice our feelings to spare someone else’s. That’s not ok. Putting your feelings and boundaries first is a for sure way to demand respect in a respectful manner. It’s ok to tell others ”you’ve gone too far.”

The first thing to do when setting boundaries is to let them know if you do this, it makes me feel like this, and therefore I would have to do this to protect myself. Protect Your Peace And Energy Make it clear what the boundary is not to cross. Then be specific of what said consequence is for that boundary being crossed. That way when you do have to take action, it doesn’t come as a surprise.

Next, start with realistic consequences that you feel comfortable implementing and sticking to. As time goes on you’ll develop the confidence to be stronger. We often make the mistake of starting off big because we’re so angry but it sets us up to fall hard. Remember it’s just as equally emotional for you to even create said boundaries with certain people.

In your journey of healing and life, boundaries are necessary. Creating them is easy. But the hard thing about boundaries is implementing the consequence. Start at a place where you are confident to handle and make no apologies for. When setting and implementing boundaries we can’t get cold feet, a shaky voice, or apologize before doing it.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

FEAR IS A WASTE OF TIME

So really quick, this wasn’t a planned post but getting over fear feels amazing. Fear is a waste of time. And I want everyone to take a leap and go for it.

Recently, I had been making goals for the next year. Nothing too extravagant, but I wanted to add another stream of income. Years ago, I found myself being an personal assistant to a broker and absolutely fell in love with that job. I flourished, the office thrived, and I learned a lot about myself. That position taught me so much about business, time management, multitasking, problem solving, and so many other things.

Fast forward to this year, I created a profile on Uprwork just to have fun. Really quick, Upwork is a place for Freelancers to land gigs. I thought it would be fun to do mini tasks, help others out, polish some skills, learn some new skills, all while making a little extra money. Now I had the profile for a while. I would log in, look at potential clients, and talk myself out of it.

For the last couple of days, I’ve had this urge to kick things into gear, challenge myself, and get things started before the new year. So today while I’m at work, I decided to jump all in, and logged into Upwork, and submitted proposals for potential clients. I didn’t think nothing of it. I thought I’d get looked over, and nothing would come of it.

Well within literally 10 minutes, I had offers and contracts to accept or deny. The disbelief was hard to mask. I began to silently panic sitting at my desk. I literally said “what have I done.” It was exciting but I started second guessing my talents and abilities. Saying things like what if they aren’t satisfied and they give me a bad review. Fear is a waste of time.

Either way, I accepted the contract, calmed myself down, and prayed because I was so filled with gratitude. I was grateful for the opportunities and finally having the guts to go for it. For a milisecond, I was mad at myself, like, why have I waited for so long.

I came home, completed the first task, submitted it, and they loved it. 👏🏾That gave me so much confidence I just started submitting proposals to all jobs I had saved but never had the guts to go forward with.

All that to say, you can have everything you want, when you throw fear out the window. Fear is paralyzing, makes you second guess, and is a waste of time. The first thing I said was ”and I’ve been scared for nothing.” Is it scary stepping out on a limb, absolutely. But we must take that step no matter how small it is, to get closer to our goals. KEEP GOING AND PUSH YOURSELF

Whatever it is, that you have been wanting to do, just do it. You never know how it will turn out if you always postponing, talking yourself out of it, and pushing it away. As I encourage myself to keep going, I encourage you to do the same.

The feeling of conquering fear, is liberating. You feel like you’ve lost weight. Conquering fear is an instant confidence booster. You feel good about yourself and have motivation to keep going. Fear is a waste of time.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HOLIDAY 2021 MOTIVATION: TAKE A MOMENT FOR YOURSELF

It’s the week of Christmas and everyone is running around frantic. This is a fun, exciting, and emotional week leading up to the big day. However, you, I, and everyone else must take a moment for ourselves. Don’t get so overwhelmed with what’s going on that you forget to breathe, look at yourself in the mirror, and just be. HOLIDAY 2021: 3 SIMPLE SELF CARE TIPS

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Even if this moment is only five minutes. Take it with pleasure. A long bath or shower is always a good way to recoup and be in the moment. If going out window shopping is something you can do for yourself then do that. Go to your local coffee shop, and have a moment to think or not think about anything at all. A good way to be uninterrupted, is to go in the bathroom and close the door. People may thing you’re doing number 2, 🤷🏾‍♀️ but that’s ok. Thats the point.

Take a moment and call a friend to see how they are holding up during this time. We never know what people are going through. Sometimes helping others and being an ear for others, helps us as well. You get through things together.

Worry about what you can control and leave rest. Don’t stress yourself over anything. No matter what happens you can have a great holiday if you choose to. Furthermore, it will all work out how it suppose to.

Either way you are suppose to enjoy yourself as well. Yes, we are supposed to give and make others feel special, but you have permission to make yourself feel good as well. As you prepare to enjoy your holiday don’t forget to take a moment for yourself. You deserve it. You have the right to. Don’t let this holiday go by without you enjoying yourself.

Be Well!!!!!

Happy Holidays!!!!!! Merry Christmas!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HOLIDAY 2021: LUXURY BEAUTY GIFT WISH LIST

I have said it a million times, I’m a beauty junkie. However, I do have a limit and there are some items I just leave to a luxury beauty gift wish list. Now what seems luxury to me, may be everyday for some. But that’s ok. This year there have been some beauty items tugging at my wallet, but I just can’t seem to follow through with the purchase.

CHARLOTTE TILBURY MAGIC CREAM MOISTURIZER WITH HYALURONIC ACID
**This claims to be age defying, plumps the skin, and provides a glowing complexion amongst other things. 1.0oz priced at $64.00. I’m pretty sure this is an amazing moisturizer, but there are many others that can provide the same benefits or better. But with the pretty packaging it will look good on any vanity. So I’ll just leave it on my wish list.

Charlotte Tilbury Magic Cream Moisturizer

GUCCI ROUGE A LEVRES VOILE + BALM HOLIDAY LIP gift SET-$90
For $90 I can get 3 lipsticks in 3 different shades. One sheer, matte, and a balm finish. I know this will make my lips soft and have great color pay off. However, I almost never finish a lipstick because I try so many. So I just can’t pay the price for it. I’m pretty sure they are lovely.

Gucci Rouge A Levres Voile + Balm HOLIDAY gift Set

TOM FORD ILLUMINATE BLUSH DUO $90
skin perfecting blush and highlighter duo. First of all I don’t even wear makeup everyday. When I do, its just brow gel, mascara, and Carmex. I’ll apply a mattifying primer to keep the oil at bay. So to spend this on a blush or highlighter that won’t get used I’m going to leave it on my wish list.

Tom Ford Illuminate Blush Duo

BOBBI BROWN INTENSIVE SERUM FOUNDATION WITH SPF 40 $72
I’m almost positive that this foundation is amazing. It claims to have long lasting skin benefits that helps overtime. I know for sure I’d be able to find my perfect shade. But, I’ve thrown away many foundations over the years due to me having so many and some not getting used as often.

Bobbi Brown Intensive Serum Foundation


LA MER POWDER BRUSH $90
I am a sucker for anything with pretty packaging or handle. I just want to know will this brush make my powder do something magical? There are some amazing affordable makeup brushes that has stood the test of time.

La Mer Powder Brush

These are just a couple of beauty items that continually caught my eye. But due to my minimal lifestyle, me trying to be financially responsible, and less wasteful I just can’t make the purchase. HOLIDAY 2021: 3 SIMPLE SELF CARE TIPS Now if this was me, 5 years ago, then absolutely I would have to have them all. But I know I can achieve the same look and get the same results with other products.

Please don’t mistake this for me condemning anyone for purchasing these products. This is just me having fun and living in my dream fantasy with my luxury beauty items.

Have a great HOLIDAY!!!! Happy Holidays Everyone!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

GROWTH TIP: YOU CAN LEARN FROM ANYONE

As I’ve grown, there have been many life lessons and takeaways that have stuck with me. The one that keeps coming up as of late, is ”you can learn from anyone.” I think we put ourselves in box when we only focus on those that compliment us.

I had this light bulb years ago when some of my best business advice and life advice came from bosses that may not have had the best regards from their employees. I’ll never forget one time, I was in a meeting and my general manager informed me of a decision he made. In the next sentence he said “it’s not what everyone wants, but I can’t do what everyone wants me to do. I was hired to do a job and that’s what I’m going to do. They have a choice to live with it or not.”

At the onset, you kind of clutch your pearls. But as I sat at my desk, I realized he’s right. EMOTIONAL HEALING: OPEN YOUR MIND FOR UNDERSTANDING You can’t make decisions based off your emotions or others emotions for that matter. Just because someone wants you to make a certain decision, doesn’t mean you have to. Because that’s the best decision for them doesn’t mean that’s the best for you. Your emotions will lead you astray. One day you’re happy, and the next you’re sad.

That is all to say, we can literally learn a lesson from anyone. Some of your best life lessons will come from those who have wronged you, misunderstood you, or neglected you. In a sense, we should give a little more attention to those life lessons. They will teach us what our triggers are, what we’re lacking emotionally, and what we need to work on within ourselves.

Get yourself out of the rut by asking yourself what can I learn from what this person said to me. If someone has wronged you, ask yourself why are you offended, what made them feel comfortable saying what they said, and how did my response escalate or deescalate the situation. What does your reaction to certain instances say about yourself. One great way to see where we need work, is to look at how we respond to offenses. It says more about us, than the person who is giving the offense. On the other hand, watching how someone else responds lets you know where they are mentally and emotionally.

These are all life lessons that we can learn from others. Just because you don’t agree with someone, don’t be so quick to throw them away. Take a lesson, grow, and then move on.

The key is to watch, listen, and learn for motivation. Not to compare yourself to another person, condemn them, or demean anyone.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

4 WAYS TO KNOW YOU’RE ON THE PATH OF HEALING

We have so much material on how to know we’re suffering from a mental or emotional breakdown. However, there are signs to know when you’ve grown. Here are a couple of emotional wellness tips to know when you’ve grown.

First the things that used to trigger you no longer has an effect on you. You know you’ve grown emotionally when you don’t even realized you’ve experience a trigger that you used to have. The things that used to set you off, get you sad, or make you withdrawn doesn’t even touch you. This means you’ve reached a point to where you acknowledge the trigger, understand it, and let it go.

The second way to know you’ve grown emotionally is you respond with grace. You aren’t mad or upset. The desire to be sarcastic or prove your point isn’t there. You are at peace with the situation or relationship. You can wish them well, be in the same room, and your energy isn’t off. That person doesn’t have power over you. You’ve regained your control back.

Thirdly, your mind isn’t constantly occupied with the what ifs. You know longer think about what could have been. Nor do you think how you should have responded or what you wish you would have said. The idea of being anxious about a situation isn’t weighing you down.

Lastly, you see yourself having more good days than bad days. You find yourself smiling and laughing more. The desire to want to get out, enjoy fresh air, be around people, and move is becoming greater. The feeling of being free and lighter is shown through your body language and smile. Overall, you are happy being you.

The ability to overcome, let things go MOTIVATIONAL AND INSPIRATIONAL: JUST LET IT GO, and be at peace is a great gift we can all give to ourselves. However, it is a process and it takes time. Be patient in the process. We all will get to where we want to go.

Those are just 4 things that could let you know you’re beginning to grow. There are many other signs to know you are growing. But if you’re experiencing any of the above, then you are headed on the right track.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

DO WHAT YOU CAN AND FORGET THE REST

One easy and instant way to relieve stress is to stop trying so hard. Simply take it day by day, do what you can and forget the rest. I tell my kids that every morning, ”do your best and forget the rest.” You’re not going to be good at everything. We don’t know everything. And that is perfectly ok.

Many times the reason one may feel overwhelmed is they are trying to do everything at once. If you can only get two things done today then you’ve accomplished something. Be proud of that. Don’t beat yourself up because you had five things on your list today, but the universe had other plans for you. It was only meant for you to get two things done today.

I will say that is one thing I’ve learned and mastered. THE LONGER YOU WORRY, THE MORE TIME WASTED Not worrying about what didn’t happen, what didn’t go right, and what else is left to do. Don’t strive to be perfect, appear to be perfect, or to have it all together. Attempting that will, only stress you to have a face full of wrinkles and dark circles. Do what you can and what’s in your realm of abilities. Everything else will work out.

As of late, I’ve had this saying. ”Only answer the question that is asked.” Literally and figuritavely. Don’t give out or give up more than what is asked. Sometimes giving more, sends you down a path you didnt want to go on. Unwanted expectations from others tend to make us feel obligated. They take advantage of your kindness. It may result in them using your words, information, or vulnerabilty against you. We can’t be everything to everyone. That goes for personal life, relationships, and at work.

Do what you can and forget the rest. Throw the guilt, shame, and apologies out. If you are feeling overwhelmed, weighed down, or drowning let some things go. If you aren’t able to fulfill a request, then say it. Don’t twist yourself into a pretzel to do something for someone that couldn’t do it themselves. If you don’t know how to do something that is ok as well. And if you need to ask for help, please do. You’ll make your life a little easier.

Now have a great day. Do something nice for yourself. Give someone a compliment. Lastly, express gratitude.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.