Sometimes doing something so out of the box is what you need to get you out of your comfort zone. Here are some fun journal questions to have fun with especially if you’re feeling down, stressed, or need to spice it up.
”Only in the darkness can you see stars.”- Martin Luther King Jr.
The toughest moments in life provides the greatest lessons of life. The stronger the storm, the brighter, tougher, wiser, richer, smarter, and braver you become. Why? You’ve been tested, and you survived. Therefore, your ability to stand off anything becomes more manageable the more wisdom you gain. Learn in the darkest of times. Grow in those times. Heal through the pain. Most of the time when we’re at our lowest point we’re stuck. We can’t seem to make any decisions or move forward. The situation or circumstances has to play out. Therefore, while you’re idle, you have all the time you need to reflect, make plans, and heal. Once you’re in a storm once you won’t be in that same storm again. Yes, another one will occur, but it won’t be exactly like the last. Embrace the darkness. Just like when we sleep at night our bodies and mind are recharging. There is good that can come out of darkness. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!
After a weird and busy last couple of months I feel like things are settling down at bit. It seems as if everything always happens at once. Of course preparing for back to school the last month has been insane, I had a birthday in the middle, and oh yeah, I’m transitioning to work from home full time. But I will give myself a pat on the back, for remaining calm and letting the days play out and not get overwhelmed.
Sunday: We all slept in because it’s summer and the kids like to stay up til 2 in the morning. And it doesn’t help they want us to stay up with them. But today after brunch is all about preparing for the first day of school tomorrow. Loading backpacks, signing forms and papers, and making sure they all have their schedules handy. Also I had plans to do a huge Sunday dinner by request of my son. Finally in early afternoon, we were done with back to school. I was able to get dinner done early, and be able to go out for a walk. The walk I needed to calm myself and clear my head. All while I’m thinking about what I have to do this week because this is my last week in office.
Monday: First day of school. As a tradition my husband and I always take off. It’s like our mental health day for parents. The kids are excited and we’re off to another year. After drop off and a quick appointment we went to our favorite coffee shop to have coffee and breakfast. The plans were to set up my computer and make sure my home office was ready for the following week. But, after breakfast we ended up binge watching some programs we recorded in peace. In the afternoon I did a quick grocery run, tidy up the house a bit, and enjoyed my time before they got out of school. After school was a bit busy with more forms to sign, my son had to work a couple of hours, and of course they were tired. Lastly, in the evening after a good workout we all were ready to turn in quite early.
Tuesday: Back to the office and I am wrapping things up to transition to work from home. I’m very anxious and excited to get started. Thank goodness it’s been quiet and slow so the transition is going perfect. After work and picking up the kids I decided to finish up my home desk, do a little work around the house, and then workout. My son had to work tonight so my evening isn’t over yet. However, after everything we were still able to turn in early. For some reason I haven’t been sleeping well or getting a good nights rest. So I’ve been ramping up on my night routine to get me calmed, relaxed, and clear mind for bed. Self Care: Sleep Routine
Wednesday: It’s bittersweet. This is my second to last day in the office. Drop off has been going really good in the mornings. It’s still quite a bit long lines, as expected the first week of school. After work I have a zoom meeting. A few hours later: my meeting went extremely well. I’m getting more excited about this transition and feel ready. We had dinner early, workout done, and ready for bed. Because as a family we all are adjusting to back school schedule we’re tired. I had to do a couple of errands and found some amazing fall decor that I’m ready to put up. I feel like it’s still too early but I’m so ready to decorate for fall.
Thursday: My last day at the office. Honestly I don’t know how I feel. I’m ready for the new adventure but a couple of agents I will miss talking too. I had a great gift waiting for me on my desk, we ordered lunch, and I left feeling whole. That was important for me. I know I will see them again and continue to have relationships. Later on in the day I got an urge to clean, move furniture around, and do some laundry before heading out for a walk. That fall decor was staring at me and I couldn’t help but begin to prep the house for fall. I’m still looking for a few pieces to have and once I find them I will decorate. There’s a switch in schedule due to my son work schedule because he wants to go the football game Friday night. Finally after a late night walk and my son getting home, I was able to head for bed.
Friday: I feel good this morning. I’m going to have some time to myself. After drop off I have to drop off my parking pass to my old office. Then I enjoyed breakfast, coffee, and watching Mally Cosmetics on QVC. In the meantime I tidied up the house, did a couple loads of laundry, published MENTAL HEALTH REMINDER: YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW and had a moment. After that I headed to Walgreens and found some amazing skin care deals on clearance. Mentally and emotionally I feel great. This last month I’ve really been ramping up journaling my feelings so I don’t get overwhelmed. Praying. Drinking lots of water. Walking. Taking a quiet moment to collect thoughts, regroup, and center myself. I can’t express enough the importance of those acts of self care. Anyway, we’re headed out to the first football game tonight.
Saturday: Rest, daughters hair, and final desk set up is on the agenda for today. So I had a plan for today but it didn’t go as planned. I did however sleep in while my husband had an early appointment. Did one of my favorite things and cooked breakfast for my kids, a load of laundry, tidy up a bit before heading to do errands. Later in the afternoon I decided to give my hair a good deep condition before heading to the football fan appreciation night for my alma mater. A few hours later…As soon as we were walking to the stadium a huge down pour came. We ran back to the car and decided to grab a bite to eat. The rest of the evening I spent getting my desk ready for Monday, indulging in my new skincare, and a little laundry. I will cap the evening by reading a few chapters in one of my books.
You can begin to love yourself right now, as you are, as God created you. There isn’t anything you’re lacking to stop you from loving, appreciating, and being the best version of you. Whatever you are feeling or going through it’s only temporary. That doesn’t define you, your life, and where you’re headed.
You can love the body in you’re in right now. Even if you aren’t as confident as you would like to be. Appreciate where you are right now and love the curves, cellulite, wrinkles, dark spots, and imperfections. So when you do reach your ideal weight, get a good nights rest, and reach the point you are confident, then you can appreciate how far you’ve come. Embrace and enjoy the journey.
The way you were created is perfect. Therefore, you don’t need to lose weight, get a bigger bottom, smaller waist, million followers, luxury vacation, long hair, short hair, spouse, children, jewelry, and everything else superficial to love who you are right now. You are equipped with everything you need to fall in love with yourself as is. You are perfect just the way you are.
Make a choice and decision to put your best foot forward so you can present the current you confidently as is. When we live in the “when I get this…” we’re not enjoying the now. In actuality, where we are and what we have now, is actually what we hoped and prayed for long ago. Accept the now to appreciate the future. If we don’t accept, acknowledge, and appreciate the small gifts then we’ll never be able to appreciate the large gifts that’s waiting on us.
Starting today and this weekendlove all of you as you are. Keep pouring love into you. The more you pour into you the more it pours to others. Have a great weekend.
”The final stage of healing is using what happened to you to help other people.”-Gloria Steinem
The greatest gift we can give someone is our story. So often we’re afraid to speak our truth out of fear, shame, guilt, and embarrassment. All the while, if we live in our truth and who we are, we will not only heal ourselves but others as well. Letting someone know they aren’t the only one going through a storm is music to their ears. Girlfriends…Why We Need Them Giving them peace and comfort to release frustrations, have an ear to listen, or just an outlet to be themselves is free to give with a priceless payoff. No matter how small you think your storm is, share it with someone you think it will help. Not only will it help them up you’ll have endless healing as well. Healing as a community invites confidence, motivation, and encouragement. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!
Most of the time we’re overwhelmed because we’re busy trying to fulfill other commitments to family, friends, and coworkers. Show up for yourself like you show up for others in your life. We feel obligated because they’re our children, spouse, boss, parent, sibling, or friend. Not in a million years do we want others to feel like we don’t want to be bothered or we don’t have time for them. But giving your all to everyone else in life, only leaves you with crumbs to feed yourself. You deserve more than that.
To show up for yourself first, take moment to feed oneself (literally and figuratively), and not being available is perfectly ok to do. If you don’t feed you first, how are you going to feed and pour into others. What do you have to offer them? Surely, not your best. You not even giving you your best self. And, guess what, it’s not even selfish to show up for you.
Will some in your life get angry, upset, or their feelings hurt, maybe. But they’ll get over it. Think about this, is it not selfish for someone to expect you to put them first over your own self? But on the other hand, that’s where communication comes in. Just give someone a call and say “hey I’m not really my best so can I come see you tomorrow?” Or, I got done with dinner late, I’ll call you tomorrow.
Sometimes we’re not able to communicate on the fly. After you’ve had your moment, you can call and say, “you know I’ve been a little overwhelmed lately sorry I missed your call.”
Either way you’ve communicated that you had needs for yourself to take care of. Most of the time we’re stressed and drained because we are trying to making everyone else feel whole. We’re not even whole and trying to make someone else whole. SELF LOVE: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
The next time you feel like you’re stretched thin, and can’t get any help, everyone is pulling at your leg, take time for yourself. However they are expecting you to show up for them, reverse and show up for yourself. You deserve it. Your overall wellbeing is depending on you.
Follow your heart, gut, and instinct. They won’t lead you wrong. There have been many times in my life where I wanted to do something or start something but was looking for outside validation. Mainly because what I wanted to do was against the norm of my family or friends. So to start anything no one has done in your immediate support is scary. In the times I did mention what I was thinking about doing, I immediately got rejected or discouraged from doing so. Admittedly, some things I ended up not doing because of that. After many years of suppressing my desires and dreams I finally developed the courage and confidence to follow my heart no matter what others said or how scared I was. When you follow your gut it’s a huge release because you know you’re making decisions for yourself.
Never be so loyal to a fault. I’ve learned to not be so loyal to the detriment of myself. Loyalty is a great trait to possess. However, it can be used against you and manipulated. Sometimes we can be so loyal to someone we hurt ourselves in the long run. I’ve seen this many times working in the corporate world. While you’re thinking about others, that person is busy making sure they’re set and not worried about how you’re going to make it. This can be in any relationship you possess. Don’t lose yourself being loyal to a fault.
Never regret anything in life. My father told me this at a very young age. It has stuck with me like glue. NO matter what decision you’ve made, don’t regret it. Even if it doesn’t work out how you thought, there is still a lesson to be made. Having regrets in life forces you down a path of living in the past, unable to make decisions, and low selfconfidence. Make the best choices and decisions you can with what’s available to you and learn from the rest. Even with all information, we all still won’t make the “best” decision.
Allow yourself to be human. Feel your emotions, good and bad. It’s ok to get angry, sad, upset, cry, excited, and happy. They are there to teach you about yourself. Mistakes are going to be made. No one on this planet is perfect. Don’t strive for perfection either. Lastly, ask for help. There is strength, courage, and confidence in asking for help. Sometimes we don’t know how much easier life would be if we would ask for help when needed.
Don’t be afraid to step out alone. Always stand out never fit in. Step outside the box and think different. Have different opinions, style, and live differently. The more you embrace being different the more you broaden your horizons. We were all made differently. So it’s perfectly ok to not have the same thought or opinions as friends and family. That’s what makes you, you.
Those are my 5 mantras I live by and don’t stray away from. Applying these to my everyday life reminds me of who I am at the core. These mantras can be applied at home, work, in social settings, and anywhere you need affirmations.
”It’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.”-Rumi
Two people can look at the same picture and see two different things. Why? Because no two persons see through the same lens. What we interpret is based upon our experiences, upbringing, background, and life circumstances. Therefore, your life’s journey is for you to walk. Not everyone will understand. But that’s perfectly ok. A hard lesson I had to learn is to not even attempt to make some people understand. In actuality, it’s not for others to understand. Just as you may not understand someone else’s lifejourney. The best thing to do is motivate and grow together. Embrace your lifejourney. Do it without regrets. Learn from the good and bad. They both are there for a reason. Be grateful for those who come along as well as those who doesn’t want to. Either way, there will be a lesson to learn. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!
”All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”-J.R.R. Tolkien
We all get the same amount of time in a day. It is what we do with that 24hours that makes us different. What do you spend the most time doing? What do you spend the least time doing? Is there something you need more time for? The answer is write down your priorities, needs, and wants. Take a good look at what you put the most time in. That tells you what you value, rather good or bad. Do you spend a great amount of time scrolling on social media? Or on the other hand spending too much time at the office. If you are wishing there were more hours in a day, stop wishing. Reallocate your time to fit your priorities, hobbies, and desires. The time is given to us. We have complete control and free will to spend those 24hours how we see fit. TIME AND PATIENCE ARE TWO IMPORTANT FACTORS FOR GROWTH Make the best of it. Because time is one thing we can’t get back or make up for. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!
Have you ever looked back and realized there are some things that you naturally do without thinking? Those are your self care habits and activities that makes you feel good and get you through the day. I have some simple favorite self care activities that makes a huge difference in my dailyroutine.
My Morning Routine My morning routine helps me start my day in a positive mindset, makes me feel good, and provides confidence. The simple act of telling myself it’s going to be a great day instantly motivates me to get out of bed. My morning skin care routine is the most important self care activity I do. The act of washing my face, applying serum, and moisturizer gives me the confidence needed to put my best foot forward the rest of the day. I take my time doing my skincareroutine and enjoy the act of taking care of my skin.
Weekly Hair Mask I’ve always loved doing my own beautyroutines and rituals. I enjoy trying different hair products and masks to maintain the health of my hair. I’m always going back and forth in wearing my hair naturally curly and straightening it. Deep conditioning regularly has helped me maintain the health of my hair. MY NATURAL HAIR LOVE HATE RELATIONSHIP
Maintaining My Home I love being a wife and mom. Creating an environment to give my familypeace, love, and comfort is never ending for me. Keeping my house clean, smelling good with inviting with comfort scents, and visual peace is joy for me. Knowing when we’re on vacation and one of my kids says, I’m ready to go home, warms my heart. Having a home and a place to where myself and family can feel the most safe will always take priority. Also to whomever, comes over and needs that sense of peace.
Drinking Water The older I get the more in tuned I am in taking care of my body. Drinking an excess amount of waterdaily is my goal from the time I wake up. It allows me to flush out my system, eliminates bloating in my stomach, and keeps my skin clear. I feel much better when I maintain a certain amount of dailywater intake. Staying hydrated and drinking water is the easiest self care activity you can do for yourself.
Doing Nothing Having a moment to self and doing nothing is probably one of my favorite activities. I try to take advantage of moments when I can. I intentionally have a moment in the morning before I go to work. Sometimes I’ll sit on the couch, with my coffee, and look out the window. No phone or television on to provide distraction or interruption. The ability to not think about anything and just daydream is great for my mental and emotional health.
Staying Off My Phone It’s no secret I’m not a fan of social media. But intentionally staying off my phone has become an increasing self care activity for me. I don’t have the images and thoughts of others constantly in front of me. Staying off the phone allows me to avoid consciously or unconsciously comparing my life to others. Lastly, it forces me to do something else creative or productive. ALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA APPS DELETED
Night Routine In the last couple of weeks I’ve noticed my night routine I do without thinking. While I’m washing off my makeup or just cleansing my skin I reflect on the day and release. I’m in a mental state of clearing my mind and feeling lighter. I always have to put on some type of facial mask which makes me feel like I’m pulling the entire day out of my skin. The shower or bath I take, washes the day away and get me prepared for the next. I’m calm, settled, and have a freemental state to head to bed. The goal is to not go to bed heavy.
Those are just some self care activities I noticed I do without thinking and in routine. So often you hear people ask how do I get into routine or habits. Well sometimes if we pause, look at our dailyhabits, we’ll notice self care is already being practiced.