JOURNAL WRITING: 10 QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU FIND YOURSELF

This weekend I found myself speaking with someone who was having a hard time expressing themselves. Before I knew it, I started a rapid fire of questions to help get their mind flowing with thoughts, views, and ideas. 4 WAYS TO KNOW YOU’RE ON THE PATH OF HEALING

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So often we seem to make things complicated. It’s the simple and most common questions that would help us get past the starting line. If you are having trouble figuring out your next move, what you want to do next, how you’re going to figure it out, and where you’re going, then in your next journal session answer the following.

Questions To Help You Find Yourself:

  1. Am I happy in my current job/career? If the answer is yes, then what makes it joyous for you? How do you feel every day getting ready for work? What excites you about going to work everyday? If the answer is no, then what would you like to be doing? What is your dream job/career/profession?
  2. What do I like to do for fun? When was the last time I had true fun?
  3. What is a typical day in my life like?
  4. What am I passionate about?
  5. What am I good at?
  6. What is the one thing I get complimented on the most?
  7. What do I enjoy doing for others the most?
  8. What are 3 things I do very well?
  9. What is my greatest accomplishment?
  10. What keeps me up at night?

Use the above 10 questions to get your mind going on how to find yourself and move forward in the direction you’d like. If you need more guidance on how to find yourself, use this workbook https://amzn.to/3I1ETI5 “Find Your F*cking happy: A journal to Help Pave the Way for Positive Sh*t.”

As a reminder, take your time, be detailed, and be honest. That is the path needed to get you to your happy place. It’s not a race, it’s a journey. Only you can answer the questions. Dig deep and regain your power and happiness back.

happy writing!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

DON’T LOSE FOCUS ON YOURSELF

We have to be very careful at easing our foot off the gas pedal. Don’t lose focus on yourself and drift off into another lane. When we lose focus and drift off, accidents happen, we hit a bump in the road, end up going down the wrong street, and stuck between trucks that hinders our vision front and back. In result, we have lost time and now playing catchup trying to get back on track.

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Keep your focus on why you started in the first place. Anytime you get a little tired, take a break and regroup yourself. Don’t lose focus on why you started that new course, financial savings goal, relationship, healing journey, or whatever else you’ve begun for yourself. Take a moment and list all the milestones you’ve reached so far. The lessons you learned thus far. Make a list of 3 goals going forward. 7 SELF REFLECTION JOURNAL PROMPTS Journal your thoughts and experiences on how your journey is going. Regrouping and reassessing will give you clarity and motivation to keep going.

Don’t lose your focus yourself and keep going even when you feel like nothing is happening. Even when you don’t see physical results or change happening, every little step you take is progress. If we saw results, activity, or change every time we took a step then we’ll have nothing to look forward to. That is the idea of hope and faith. Believing in the things not seen or heard. When feeling a little discouraged pray, meditate, and center yourself. https://amzn.to/3I8TuSt Remind yourself that you are here for a purpose, a vision was placed in you to fulfill, and you have everything needed to complete the assignment.

When you get bored and lose your focus it’s time to get creative. Switch things up, try something new, and renew your focus. As we grow, what worked for us will no longer work. The more we heal the more we grow. Therefore, the need for new and exciting is broadened. Creativity allows for endless space to grow.

Are you tired of all this self care talk? Don’t want to hear about routines, habits, and caring for yourself? Guess what, we have to stay in our lane so we don’t veer off. That’s why self care, routines, and creating habits are a constant must. Focusing on you, being the most healthy physically, mentally, and emotionally, will allow you to withstand whatever is going on in the world. Keeping your focus on you is motivation for others to focus on themselves. It inspires everyone to be whole thus having a healthy community of support.

Staying committed to yourself is the best self care you can do for yourself. The relationship you have with you, will be the best one you have and the strongest. You owe it to yourself.

Keep your focus. Empty out the negative. Focus on the positive. Believe in your own strength.

Have a great week!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be free so you can be you.

WEEKLY BLOG: HOT SUMMER DAYS ,ADJUSTING SCHEDULES, & FESTIVAL

This week we are focused on staying cool and adjusting to schedules. My son work schedule has ramped up and making sure the other kids have someone with them, has been our priority.

Sunday: After a week of not much going on, today started very calm. I’ve been caught up on household duties. Therefore, I decided to finish up some of the things that was on my to do list. WEEKEND SELF CARE TO DO LIST Also took a chance to just sit and chill. During the week from the time I wake up at 5a.m. I’m going until I go to bed. Because it’s so hot out the kids didn’t want to do anything so we stayed in the cool air. Right now we’re adjusting to my oldest son working and our daily routine shifting a bit. Lastly, I’m trying to get the kids input on some Father’s Day ideas.

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Monday: Great morning. It’s a little rainy out and very humid. We are in the triple digits this week and I know we won’t be out much. The one thing I do love about this weather is I can go out and walk and get a good sweat in. That is the best feeling. Currently not too excited to head to the office, we been very slow. I’d rather spend time at home working on other things. But anyway, it was good to have some good conversation, get notes done, and get out the house. It’s extremely hot and humid out, which means I get to get in a good walk, sweat, and release. The rest of the evening we stayed in the cool air conditioned and relax.

Tuesday: We are adjusting to my son going to work and making sure someone else is here with my other kids. It’s been a struggle but it hasn’t turned out as bad as I thought. My son is really liking his job and has picked up well. I don’t have much on my to do list at work today. But I will take the time to do some research. Later in the evening I strolled the ailses of several stores looking for something for father’s day. Once agian I am completely stumped and have no idea what I’m going to do. Afterward, I decided to relax myself and get a good walk in before turning in.

Wednesday: These triple digits are draining. Your skin just feels like its crawling off. But heading into the office I know there isn’t much going on and I plan to do some other work to keep me busy. When we get off, my son has to go to the DMV and I’m so not ready for this. It’s hard to believe I have a kid old enough to work and drive. But the hubs and I enjoyed taking him around showing him how things go and what needs to be done when heading into this phase of life. Also it was good for my younger two to see the process. Later on in the evening I decided to go out for a walk and get some sun, watch the deer, and rabbits enjoy nature with me.

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Thursday: Morning is going great. Adjusting to different schedules and watching my son get ready for work with me is surreal. We literally had a conversation the other day about how we have a 16 year old who is working, getting a check in his name, and making his own way. But as usual, office has been really slow so I’m trying to use it as time to do some leg work on other opportunities. We haven’t been really planning much because it’s so hot out and no one wants to do anything. There is a festival this weekend we may head to.

Friday: I am so glad the week is over. Nothing too much is planned for the weekend. Because my son is working the evening on Sunday (Father’s Day). We might just do brunch and then spend the day at my moms. There are a couple activities going on locally tomorrow that I may take the other kids too. If it isn’t too hot and they want to go. Spent the evening doing my daughters hair and then cleaning. I was able to get some edits done and published 10 LITTLE THINGS THAT MAKE ME HAPPY.

Saturday: We had a chill sleep in kind of morning. There is a festival that we’re going to head out to after my son goes to work. After an afternoon clean up, laundry, and doing my daughters hair we headed out to the festival. It was also near a water park so the kids were able to have some fun even though it was extremely hot out. The music, games, food trucks, and activities were very nice and fun. We all enjoyed ourselves. Afterward we headed for a quick bite to eat, slushies, and ice cream. Finally we were home to shower and relax. Being in the sun and heat can drain you.

Have a great week everyone!!!!

P.S. Weekly Blog is designed to show the realistic day in the life of a working mom balancing herself, family,life, and career.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

5 REASONS VULNERABILITY IS STRENGTH

Being vulnerable is like disease to some. However, what we all shall know is being vulnerable takes strength, courage, and confidence. Not only does it help release any negative energy, but it encourages others to do the same.

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  1. You Become Your Most Authentic Self
    When you show vulnerability in any sense, you are being honest with your truest Self. In that moment or moments you’ve chose you. The decision to choose Self eliminates the disease to please. It shows character, Self awareness, and comfort.
  2. Promotes Compassion and Sympathy
    Because of your Self awareness, the ability to process and feel emotions are easier. Even the negative emotions that come, they don’t startle you like before. In turn, your awareness and understanding for others become greater and more clear. We have the ability to feel for others, show love, understanding, and Compassion. EMOTIONAL HEALING: OPEN YOUR MIND FOR UNDERSTANDING
  3. Step To The Front
    Being vulnerable give us the strength to be proactive instead of reactive. We step into situations and grow through them. The need or want to run from them or ignore them is no longer. Our confidence and awareness gives us inner strength and power to conquer and not let problems consume us. Vulnerability allows us freedom to exercise good mental and emotional wellness.
  4. exercise Muscles
    Vulnerability requires us to take risks. Therefore, our muscles of courage, confidence, and Self esteem are being exercised. With each wave, we get stronger, wiser, and better. We heal and grow through. Taking the risk builds stamina, get out our comfort zone, and expand our emotional horizon.
  5. Build Relationships
    When you choose to be vulnerable it give others confidence in you and their relationship with you. It builds trust, Compassion, and communication. The more communication the better our Relationships become. The better communication we have the more fulfilling our lives will be.

Those are 5 reasons showing vulnerability is strength. It takes a huge leap of faith to begin. But once you do, it will get easier each time. Do yourself a favor and let your guard down just a little bit. You’ll feel free, lighter, and better instantly.

Be Well!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

10 JOURNAL PROMPTS TO A BETTER YOU

”So tell me about yourself.” That is one question or phrase that stumps us all. We typically go to what we do for a living or what our job title is. It’s always easier to explain what we don’t like to do, what we don’t like about ourselves, or any negative thing. The journaling this week is focused on the better you. I set out on this challenge because I no longer wanted it to be a challenge for me. To do this, it’s sometimes helpful to use a guided journal or workbook to give you a boost. https://amzn.to/39qbkTJ

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10 journal Prompts To A Better You

  1. What is something good that happened to me? (Big or small)
  2. When was the last time I laughed uncontrollably? What made it funny? How did it make me feel?
  3. What was the last book I read?
  4. My favorite memory that I tell over and over again.
  5. What do I like to do for fun?
  6. I feel most comfortable in…(This could be a place, time, clothing, or anything that makes you feel comfortable.)
  7. If my friends were to describe me they would say…
  8. The one thing I can’t live without…(Use this and run with it. It could be food, a person, object, product, or anything.)
  9. My favorite movie and why?
  10. Three words to describe me and why?

Use these 10 journal prompts to help you understand you. Sometimes we do things so routinely and don’t know why. Learning the why will help us know why we gravitate towards certain things in life. From there we’re able to understand our deepest self. As always, remember there is no right or wrong way to journal. Be specific as possible. Lastly, be as honest as possible. I know being vulnerable is uncomfortable. CHANGE IS UNCOMFORTABLE But to get to being your freest self, you must do the uncomfortable thing.

Happy Writing!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

10 LITTLE THINGS THAT MAKE ME HAPPY

One of the best ways to get out of a rut is to remember how blessed you are, express gratitude, and take inventory of what you already have. The best way to do this is to make a list. Start off with the small things that makes you happy. The tangible physical things, to get you going.

It’s the little things that makes you happy. We’ve all said this at some point or heard it many times in life. Why? Because it’s true. It’s not that trip to Disney that makes you happy. It’s the little memories, moments, and experiences that add up from the trip that makes it special.

Take a moment to look around and list all the small things that make you happy. Nothing can be too small. The little things that helps you get through the day, that make you laugh, feel comfortable, feel good about yourself, and you can’t stop grabbing or doing.

Here are 10 little things that makes me happy:

  1. My leopard print phone case (https://amzn.to/3ba272E)
  2. My leopard print pen I write with at work (https://amzn.to/3MXVP3m)
  3. My reusable Starbucks cup (https://amzn.to/3b78zYf)
  4. Coffee mug I drink out of every morning
  5. Dove Glow Body Wash (https://amzn.to/3xqQWtO)
  6. Dr. Teals Coconut Toner (https://amzn.to/3mYKk0Z)
  7. My daily walk
  8. Rose Quartz Beaded Bracelet (https://amzn.to/3mTuAfJ)
  9. Listening to music
  10. Watching TV with my husband

Those are 10 little things I use everyday that make me happy or I do that makes me happy. I wanted to do something a little different than the usual. KEY TO HAPPINESS: DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO Drinking water, waking up, seeing the sun shine, going to work, having a job, having a car, having food to eat, family and friends that love me, and so on. It’s a no brainer that all those makes us happy and helps our mental wellness. But it’s good to recognize and appreciate what we have in other areas that makes us happy as well.

So often we always want more or look to have more. But our happiness is right in our face if we look. It’s those small things that we don’t even blink an eye at that gives us happiness. The little things that you grab without thinking or you do without thinking on a daily.

Have a great day everyone!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

QUICK FINANCIAL WELLNESS TIP

I don’t know who need to hear this but you can’t solve money problems with money. A quick wellness tip for you on this Wednesday, is to stop trying to figure out how to get more or make more. The more money you make, the more bills you have, the more debt you’ll have.

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Yes, the world seems to have taken us all by storm, again. But to stay ahead and get ahead you must change some daily habits. First is changing or shifting how you feel about money. What is your relationship with money? Secondly, look at your daily spending. Is it necessities or wants? What can you do to cut back? Have you been budgeting? When was the last time you tracked your spending. https://amzn.to/3mQ1uh7

To be honest, you’ve probably been working overtime to make ends meet, has it worked for you? Or have you found yourself in the same spot that you were in last pay period? Meal planning, grocery planning, car pooling, and daily household planning are good beginning steps to begin your financial wellness journey. Also, playing catch up is never a good idea. If it’s food items, cleaning products, hygiene products, or even gas, not letting it run too low or get empty is key to keeping your nose above water. Money Jar Saving Method for easy saving

I know this is extremely difficult. Milk is even out of budget. Think about meals that can last for two days or have leftovers that you can cook. Make a plan to only go to the store once a week or every two weeks depending on your budget and family needs. That will save on gas. In return, the less trips to the store, the less you spend. Google events and activities in your area to go to for free. You and your family can still have fun and enjoy life.

I know this is a difficult time. But just as with anything else, this is only temporary. Making the choice to tackle it and be proactive instead of reactive will help ease stress and pressure. Start with tracking your daily activities, what’s coming in and going out, and then create a plan. “If you fail to plan then you plan to fail.” #healthiswealth #financialwellness

Have a great day everyone!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

17 THINGS I DO WHEN I’M FEELING ANXIOUS

We’ve all had those moments of feeling anxious. Sometimes we don’t realize it, until after the fact that we were in a frenzy. When your heart start to pound, your hands get sweaty, your body becomes unsettled, or you just have a sense that something isn’t right you’re probably feeling a little anxious.

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Often times we think it takes huge measures to calm down. In actuality, it’s your small self care practices that will help ease your anxiousness. Here are some things I do when feeling a little anxious.

  • Exercise/Go for a walk
  • Clean
  • Listen to music
  • Call a friend or family member. If the first person doesn’t pickup, I keep calling until someone does.
  • Go to a quiet room, close the door, and sit
  • Pray/Meditate
  • Journal
  • Fix a dish or meal I’ve always wanted to try
  • Read
  • Watch an inspiring video
  • Read motivational quotes on Pinterest
  • Talk to my husband
  • Drink a cup of coffee or tea
  • Find a program to watch
  • Pause, take a break, and do nothing
  • Give myself a pep talk
  • Take a hot shower or bath

The key to calming myself when anxious is to focus on myself. Do things to get my mind occupied, figure out why I’m feeling the way I’m feeling, and to move past it. Most importantly it doesn’t last forever. Relying on your self care activities and do the things that makes you feel you is key to overcoming your anxiousness. SIMPLE SELF CARE MORNING ROUTINE WHEN FEELING BLUE

Even if you have a moment of anxiousness at work, doing certain self care practices will help calm yourself down. Several practices from the list can be done at home, work, vacation, or anywhere you may begin to feel your blood pressure rising.

Whatever you do, don’t ignore those feelings. It’s important to acknowledge them. Understand the why, and grow through it. We can’t stop them from happening but we can manage it well if we keep our self awareness high.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

LIFE DOESN’T HAPPEN TO US…IT’S HOW WE PLAY THE CARDS WE’RE DEALT

Being blessed to have a life to live isn’t a bad thing. It’s how we play the cards in our hand at the time. God didn’t put us here to be miserable, sad, angry, or depressed. He placed us here to do His work. We all have a mission from Him to complete. 7 JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR A GOOD WEEK

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Ok, so it seems like every hand that you’ve been dealt has been bad and you can’t make anything out of them. Well maybe we need to figure out the lesson in what God is trying to tell us. If what you’ve been praying for hasn’t changed, maybe God isn’t changing the situation because there is a lesson there you need to learn before he can move you forward.

Simply changing our attitude toward a situation, person, or even money can help propel us forward. Switching or adjusting your perspective can help you see a little more clear. So those cards that you can’t do anything with, change your perspective and attitude about. Switch them around in your hand, take a risk, and play them differently than last time.

How we handle the bumps in the road, will determine where we go, how far we go, and if we go. If faced with the same bump twice, don’t go over it the same as you did last time. Take a different route. Choose a different speed. Switch the avenue in which you decide to get over the bump. Also not everything that ”happens” to us, is for us to tackle. Check out this book ”Living A Loved lifehttps://amzn.to/3zwQ0GO that is filled with inspiration and motivation to help us tackle this thing called life.

life doesn’t happen to us, but it’s how we play the cards that are dealt. Remember no two hands will ever be same. We will have challenges and situations that occur that we don’t like, but it’s about learning, adjusting, and conquering. The challenges we face are there to teach us, motivate us, and prepare us for the next. It’s up to us to listen and learn.

As you prepare for the week ahead, remember to stay calm, don’t respond or react emotionally, and allow yourself to have a moment. Rely on your meditation, journaling, routines, exercise, and community for support. #SundayFunday

Have a great week everyone!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKEND SELF CARE TO DO LIST

We made it another week. It’s the weekend and we can’t forget to prioritize our selves. No matter how big or small, get your weekend self care checklist ready. SELF CARE HABITS: 6 WEEKEND HABITS FOR A GOOD WEEK

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My self Care To Do List:

  1. Deep condition my hair. https://amzn.to/39b1GnU
  2. Give my hands and feet some TLC. Mani and pedi time.
  3. Go for a walk at the nature center.
  4. Binge Watch Season 2 of ”Love Is Blind” on Netflix.
  5. Sleep In. I give myself at least one day to sleep in.
  6. Clean out my fridge.
  7. Journal out my feelings and thoughts. https://amzn.to/3MzZc08
  8. Grocery shop and cut my fruit.
  9. Relax.
  10. Drink lots of water. https://amzn.to/3aUlqwJ
  11. Try not to get on my phone much.
  12. Write and edit.
  13. Spend time with my husband and kids.
  14. Take a hot bath.
  15. Light my new candle. https://amzn.to/3O6GLRJ

Those are my 15 self care activities for this weekend. It’s a combination of taking care of my mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing. Before the day ends make sure you get your list together.

Have a great weekend!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.