4 WAYS TO KNOW YOU’RE ON THE PATH OF HEALING

We have so much material on how to know we’re suffering from a mental or emotional breakdown. However, there are signs to know when you’ve grown. Here are a couple of emotional wellness tips to know when you’ve grown.

First the things that used to trigger you no longer has an effect on you. You know you’ve grown emotionally when you don’t even realized you’ve experience a trigger that you used to have. The things that used to set you off, get you sad, or make you withdrawn doesn’t even touch you. This means you’ve reached a point to where you acknowledge the trigger, understand it, and let it go.

The second way to know you’ve grown emotionally is you respond with grace. You aren’t mad or upset. The desire to be sarcastic or prove your point isn’t there. You are at peace with the situation or relationship. You can wish them well, be in the same room, and your energy isn’t off. That person doesn’t have power over you. You’ve regained your control back.

Thirdly, your mind isn’t constantly occupied with the what ifs. You know longer think about what could have been. Nor do you think how you should have responded or what you wish you would have said. The idea of being anxious about a situation isn’t weighing you down.

Lastly, you see yourself having more good days than bad days. You find yourself smiling and laughing more. The desire to want to get out, enjoy fresh air, be around people, and move is becoming greater. The feeling of being free and lighter is shown through your body language and smile. Overall, you are happy being you.

The ability to overcome, let things go MOTIVATIONAL AND INSPIRATIONAL: JUST LET IT GO, and be at peace is a great gift we can all give to ourselves. However, it is a process and it takes time. Be patient in the process. We all will get to where we want to go.

Those are just 4 things that could let you know you’re beginning to grow. There are many other signs to know you are growing. But if you’re experiencing any of the above, then you are headed on the right track.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKEND AFFIRMATION: YOU CAN AND WILL GET BACK UP

No matter how many times you fall, you will get back up. Don’t ever get discouraged because you have a little setback. SETBACKS, REJECTIONS, AND STUMBLING BLOCKS ARE NECESSARY FOR GROWTH That is how we learn, grow, and heal. On your journey have no regrets about the path you have been taken down. Your path and journey was created specifically for you. As you grow through life don’t listen to the negative chatter about how many times you’ve had to pick yourself up.

The beauty is you’ve had the strength, courage, and perseverance to keep getting up. That means no matter what is thrown at you, you have the WILL POWER in you to live and get back up. There isn’t anything that you aren’t equipped to handle.

No matter where you are or what is going on in your life, you can and will get back up!!!!!!!

Have a great day, week, month, and holiday!!!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HAPPY SUNDAY FUNDAY: JUST BE YOU

The one thing I know for sure, is we all want to be happy, love, and be loved. The one thing that holds us back is not being our true authentic self. We hear it all the time, to just be you. If we all could live how we want, where we want, and with whom we want, the idea of stress and anxiety would greatly diminish.

To just be you means to not go buy a house because your friend has. Be comfortable in your apartment or living with your parents. Just be you and take small staycations instead of a grand vacation. Own who you are in the style of clothes you like to wear. Just because your friends or family like certain stores, brands, and styles doesn’t mean you have to wear that as well.

Trying to keep up with what everyone is doing, what they have, and where they are is going take your focus off of you and your happiness. Furthermore, why spend money and stress yourself trying to fit in. You being you will allow you to stand out the right way.

If you have a bubbly or colorful personality don’t hide it because you feel no one understands. Be the life of the party if that’s what your heart desire. Secretly, those with quiet personalities enjoy your free spirit and is motivated by you. Happy Sunday AND LET GO

To just be you means don’t put yourself in any situation where you have to compromise your comfort, smile, personality, and energy. Not everyone is going to run to you and love you but that doesn’t mean you have to hide who you really are.

Remember you were created to be specifically you. If that’s the way God wanted you to be, then that is who you ought to be. If God says you’re perfect and enough the way I created you, then you are PERFECT!!!!!!! So go out there and be you. Those who are supposed to love you will, and those who don’t, bless them and keep going.

You will only win at being you. Don’t waste time, money, or energy trying to be something other than what you were created to be. Everyone else is taken. Just be you.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL HEALTH WELLNESS TIP: ONE STEP AT A TIME

We’ve all heard the saying ”look at the bigger picture.” Well sometimes it’s in our best interest to take one step at a time. Mentally and emotioanlly we may not be able to look at things on a grand scale. In order to get where we need to go, focusing on the first step and building from there will be more beneficial.

Sure we can have an end goal or a larger picture to see, but for our sanity each step is an accomplishment in certain situations. A house doesn’t become a house all at once. You have to build it brick by brick. An author doesn’t start with a full book, it’s word by word.

Focusing on one step at a time allows you to build confidence. STRENGTH Your vision becomes more clear with each step. You’re able to hold your head a little higher with each step. As you take your steps to your goal, you’ll gain awareness, compassion, and intelligence for yourself and the process. The learning and realization of what you’re becoming increases your confidence and self esteem along the way.

Because you are taking one step at a time, the lights are getting brighter, and eventually your vision broadens. Overtime you begin to see the ”bigger picture”. Until we focus on the foundation, the why, what and how, we won’t be able to see the bigger picture.

Some of us are in a mental state to where we can’t even lift a foot. Find your courage and strength to lift your foot to take the first step. With each step, pat yourself on the back, and take the next step. Don’t let others tell you how to proceed, how fast you should go, and where you should be in the process.

Focus on the next step until you feel you’re able to see more. Every little step is progress.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Favorite Iyanla Vanzant Quotes: MOTIVATIONAL AND INSPIRING

I love me a good quote. I have shared some of my favorite Iyanla Vanzant quotes below. I love her honesty and straight forward love. She gives it straight even if it’s hard to hear. A good quote is food for thought. Gives you a light bulb moment to shift your thought process into a different universe.

“If we celebrate, support, and nurture ourselves, we will not need anyone else to do it for us.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“You have to meet people where they are, and sometimes you have to leave them there. –Iyanla Vanzant

“The only way to get what you really want is to let go of what you don’t want.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“Stop squeezing into places that don’t fit you.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“You don’t get to tell people how to love you; you get to choose whether or not you want to participate in the way they love.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“If you don’t have a vision you’re going to be stuck in what you know. And the only thing you know is what you’ve already seen.“ –Iyanla Vanzant

“If somebody had the privilege and the honor of walking into your life, living and growing with you, and they didn’t have the good sense to stay, you need to be glad to be rid of them.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“We must inspire ourselves by believing we have the power to accomplish everything we set out to do.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“There’s no GREATER battle in life than between the part of you that wants to be healed, and the part of you that’s content remaining BROKEN.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“The journey into self-love and self acceptance must begin with self-examination…until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.” –Iyanla Vanzant

What does a quote do for you? To me it’s not just a quote or words, it gives me a different perspective and a new way of thinking. Seeing things through a different lens gives understanding and meaning to help you or allow you to help someone else.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WHAT DO YOU OFFER?

I heard someone make a comment about what they wanted people to say about them when they leave this earth. That got me thinking about what I have to offer. In order to have an idea of what you want people to say or the legacy you want to leave you have to know what you offer.

After some reflecting I knew exactly what I had to offer. I want to bring someone a sense of peace and calm in their life. Protect Your Peace And Energy Without judgment and criticism, I want people to walk away feeling like they were validated. It’s not my job to point fingers or tell people how they should live. What I can offer is a ear to listen. My heart for compassion. Sympathy and empathy. And then, hopefully, from there they would have the ability to have clarity and understanding.

Most of the time, people know what they are doing, right or wrong. They know how to correct it. Offering someone my time and allowing them to sort through their detour is what I desire. At some point, we all are going to end up on a detour. Sometimes we just need someone to support us through until we get back on the right path.

With that you’ll need patience. Understanding of yourself and where you are mentally and emotionally. Also knowing your boundaries. In turn, your reward, is also growth and healing. When we love and support someone else in a troubled time, we grow emotionally and sometimes have lightbulb moments ourselves. That’s why it’s always good to use the two ears to listen and leave the one mouth close.

At the end of the day, I want to offer peace, calm, and comfort. Settling someone’s mind and heart will give them endless strength to make the decisions needed going forward. Furthermore, I’m pretty sure they have received a fair share of judgment, it doesn’t need to come from me. What is it you have to offer?

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HAPPY HUMP DAY!!! YOU’LL GET OVER THE HUMP

It’s hump day!!!! I tell my kids every Wednesday, ”you almost done with the week. Once you get over hump day, you’ll running to the finish line.” Happy hump day everyone!!!!

I just want everyone to know if there is any kind of hump in your life that you are trying to get over, you’re almost there. Don’t give up, keep going!!!! It gets the toughest when you are almost at the finish line. You have the strength to pull through. EVEN THE STRONGEST NEEDS A BREAK

When you are at your lowest, weakest, and just can’t take it any more, the breakthrough is coming. Please believe and know you are stronger, bigger, tougher, and wiser than any obstacle you are facing. No matter if it’s a physical hump, mental hump, emotional hump, financial hump, relationship hump, or work hump. You will conquer and see through to the other side.

Has it been challenging? YES!!!!!! Have you taken all you can take? YES!!!!!! There have been tears shed. You have screamed, shut down, and stressed yourself to no end. But, hold on because it’s hump day and there isn’t a hump big enough to hold you down.

You’ve been here before. Remember?!?! There was another time you thought you weren’t going to get through, and you did. Think back, and pull from that strength. Rememeber how you felt when you finally conquered and got over the hump. Expect and anticipate the victory of WINNING!!!!!!

In the meantime, be patient, pray, and do your best. The rest has been worked out already. Remember it’s not our timing that is the best timing.

So on this hump day, go be great. Be your best self. Tough times don’t last. You will outlast any hump that you face today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. We will have humps. But it’s how we climb that hump and what we do in the process that makes it manageable.

Have a great day!!!! Happy Hump Day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL HEALTH: 6 TIPS TO BOOST SELF ESTEEM

Feeling down on yourself, I’ve been there. Boost your self esteem with these simple tips. They are free and simple. The transformation starts on the inside and then moves to the outside. Our mental and emotional is very important. However, the outside must match the inside. The insecurities we face about our looks can heavily effect our mental and emotional health.

The first thing to do is not compare yourself to what you see on television, internet, print, and every other place that is filtered. No one body is perfect. Nor is their skin perfect. Accept every ounce of weight, stretch marks, cellulite, wrinkle, pimple, and big toe. Side note: The big toe was for me. My second toe is bigger than my first toe. And, I have a six head not a forehead. But who cares. The key here is, our flaws is what makes us unique and stand out from the rest. I know for me, I want to look like me.

Once you’re able to love all of you, you can then dress and style yourself to your body. There are many clothing brands out there. Find the right style, comfort, and fit for you. If you are worried about your shirts, start with having the right bra. Sometimes having a bra with full coverage makes a world of difference. It’s the simple things that we can correct that will make a huge difference. If you’re worried about your mid section, don’t buy low rise nothing. That only makes you accentuate areas you don’t want. The point is to learn your curves and work with them.

After that, boost your self esteem with a hair cut, color, or style. Sometimes we can hold on to a style and it will make us look more worn out that we are. Refresh with new hair to give yourself a new attitude. My philosophy is ”it’s only hair, it will grow back.” My hair is usually the first thing to change when I need a shift change or mood booster. Short, long, curly, straight, black or highlighted I’ve done it all. Recreate yourself and see yourself into a new light. How To Boost Your Confidence With Daily Self Care

Get out of a funk and boost your mood by just window shopping. Get out of the house. Go to a mall or store and just browse. Walk around and get outfit ideas. Figure new ways to decorate your home. Look at different foods for new recipes. And what do you know, you’ll see someone you know. Have a great conversation and forget why you were in a funk in the first place. On the other hand, you just might find a stranger and have a conversation. Either way you have opened your mind and heart to receive some good energy. I’ve done this many times to boost myself up.

Feeling down on your luck, get dressed up and dolled up to do nothing. This is the easiest self esteem boost tip you can do. Unconsciously, I’ve done this and didn’t realize it. I’ll wake up and before you know it I’m walking around on Sunday morning in a face full of makeup. But the rest of the day, I’m happy. Every time you walk pass a mirror you enjoy looking at yourself and that instantly boosts your self esteem.

Lastly, if you’re not in a good mood accept an invite. We get so used to making excuses and not accepting invites that we’ve forced ourselves into loneliness. Just because you’ve never been to an event like the one you were invited to doesn’t mean you won’t enjoy it. You never know who you’ll meet. I received job opportunities by having lunch with someone.

I know the best thing to do is to get up, get out, and move. Make yourself look good, so you can feel good, and then be able to receive good. When our self esteem is low, we aren’t able to see good in anything. When in actuality, the good is there. There are many more ways to boost your self esteem. But start with what you have to boost your self esteem and then build up. We have to shift our mind to focus on the positive.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

5 THINGS I’M LOVING RIGHT NOW

The little things makes me happy. There are 5 things I’ve been loving right now that has been getting me through the days. A good way to center yourself is to focus on what you have and those things that make you feel good. Here are 5 things I’m loving right now.

Alaffia Everyday Face Toner. Facial mist is one of my favorite skin care products. This particular toner gives my skin moisture, closes my pores, and keeps my skin soft. The scent of the coconut isn’t over powering. After cleansing I spray on my face and let it dry before continuing with my skin care routine. This toner claims to balance and hydrate, while protecting, toning, and firming the skin. I will definitely keep repurchasing this toner. https://amzn.to/3dSrbKx
Leopard Print. Anything leopard print I have been loving lately. Right now I’m loving my Dear Foam slippers. In my head, leopard print is a basic or neutral that has become my go to accent or accessory. I already keep a minimal palette of gray, black, and white. So without conscious I’ve been using leopard print to give me some sass. https://amzn.to/2PnNAG2
My Aloe Plant. One of my goals this year was to fix my green thumb. I must say I’m super excited and proud of myself because my aloe plant has been doing well. It’s growing and adding the touch I wanted to the house. I’ve began to branch out and trying to nurture some peace lily plants as well. It proves with practice, patience, and persistence you can achieve anything.🪴
Pajama Sets. For a couple months now I have enjoyed lounging in two piece sets. Even though they say they are pajamas, I’ve enjoyed them after work and on the weekends. I feel good in them. I’m comfortable and if someone makes a surprise visit I’m presentable to entertain. Sometimes people don’t even think they are pajamas. My, how the tables have turned. I used to think this was for people of a certain age, but I’m loving them right now. https://amzn.to/3vfnX9B
Simple Water Boost Skin Quench, Sleeping Cream. If you want an inexpensive dupe to any water gel moisturizer this is the one. First of all, it’s only $5 on Amazon. This moisturizer is perfect for your summer months. It’s light but sinks into the skin moisturizing it all through the night. Waking up, your skin is soft, smooth, and supple. It gives you the plumpness and bounce back you are looking for. https://amzn.to/2QYmPYU

What are you loving right? Big or small, there is something that makes you smile, makes you feel good, and gives you a boost of sass. These are just 5 things I’m loving right now, I’m pretty sure there are more. There is plenty to be grateful for. Focus on the things that uniquely makes you, You. Have a great day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Hit The Reset Button To Find Your Happiness

In life we can hit the reset button as often as we need to. Why? One of the reasons we become unhappy and everything seems to be in chaos is because we aren’t living for ourselves. Hitting the reset button and shifting our life to where its most fulfilling to ourselves allows us to be of great service to others.

Another reason we need to hit the reset button is because we’re tired of being the same version of ourselves over and over again. As humans we always are or should be, seeking for ways to constantly be better versions of ourselves.

First identifying what needs to be reset. We can reset our career, relationships, and even location of where we’re living to fulfill ourselves. Do an honest assessment and figure out what you want and need to get you to a better place mentally and emotionally.

Start with the most important. How do you figure out what’s the most important? It’s that thing that has been nagging at you or weighing the heaviest on your mind and heart. You know, that one thing that keeps creeping up no matter how far you try to run from it or bury it.

Set a goal, write down a plan, and begin strategizing on how you’re going to get there. Once you start everything else will snowball into place.

Just because you’re hitting the reset button doesn’t mean you have to forget about everything previously. Remember what worked for you in the past, what made you happy, and most important what didn’t work. Learn from your mistakes and achievements and build off that.

The smallest change will make a huge difference.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.