Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

FORGIVE

F-Forgive yourself first. Forgive yourself for everything you are feeling guilty about or regret. Whatever you said, done, allowed, ignored, or encouraged forgive yourself. Forgiveness is for you not them. Remember why you’re worried and losing sleep they are enjoying life while you carry this useless burden. Forgiving doesn’t mean you agree or you aren’t remorseful, it simply frees you and allows you to move forward.

O-Overthinking ruins your mental and emotional wellness. Overthinking also ruins our relationships, keeps us in our head, effects our ability to be productive at work, and our everyday life is greatly compromised. Trust yourself, make your decision, and forgive.

R-Regrets are useless. We can’t take back what was said or done. We can’t get time back either. The best thing to do is apologize if the misunderstanding was on our behalf, understand why it was hurtful, and grow the relationships from there. If the misunderstanding was on the other side, express why you were hurt, if they apologize, great kiss and makeup. However, if they don’t that’s even better, because when we express to someone how they hurt us and they don’t apologize, they have let us know how we show up in their life. Forgive them anyway, and have a relationship at arms length.

Forgiveness is for you.

G-Grudges effect you not the other person. Holding a grudge is like a kid constantly picking the scab off. The road to healing and forgiveness is prolonged. Also you are the one spending time and energy going out of your way trying to stay angry and thus making excuses for why you’re staying angry. Your sleep, eating habits, daily life, and wellness is all effected by holding a grudge.

I-Interrupt the bad or negative patterns of behaviors. We talk about what we want to do so much sometimes you just have to “get off the pot or piss” as my mom says. Stop talking about it and do it. That negative talk about yourself or others for that fact, interrupt the pattern in mid sentence. Bad sleeping habits, eating habits, language, or anything that you want to stop or get better with just take the leap and start. Forgive yourself for letting so much time go by.

V-Victories are won when we let go and forgive. It’s a victory for everyone. The tension is released, everyone is smiling and feel like themselves again. Benefitting from forgivenesses stop us from walking on eggshells. The muscles in our jaws are relaxed, the wrinkles in our foreheads are smoothed, and we’ve loosen the lips. Our frown has turned into a smile and we can show our beautiful faces again.

E-Express yourself some way. Show your personality in art, fashion, music, writing, dancing, makeup or whatever you love. While we’re shy or thinking people may talk about us for being us, that is the one thing others need to see about us. You never know who you may inspire or how free you may become. The more colorful, wierd, or extreme it is the better. Do it unapologetically.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

FAITH

F-Freshen yourself up. It’s amazing what a new haircut, outfit, new makeup, or facial will do. When we spend time on ourselves, it gives us a new look and confidence that we need to put some spunk in us.

A-Attract what you want. We are what we attract. That is in friendships, romantic relationships, finances, positive vibes, and in your spirit.

I-Increase the love you give yourself and others.

T-Talk and tell others how you feel. If we don’t express how we feel then our loved ones won’t know we need their ear, heart, conversation, and love.

H-Hope fuels faith. Always hope for the best. Even when things don’t pan out how you wanted them to or right away, having hope leaves us with the expectation that everything is going to be alright.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

LIFE…We Only Get One

L-Learn. Read, listen to podcast, and watch videos. If you have a hobby, or interest in something learn as much as you can about it as often as you can. In life, we can never stop learning.

I-Imagine your future and make it happen. You can create and live the life you want.

F-Feel the pain. So often we want to push it away and pretend it isn’t there. If we embrace it and figure out why we experienced that emotion it will lead us to healing and a better version of ourselves.

E-Entertain that crazy thought or dream. If we imagined it, then we can achieve it. The crazier, more far out, and the more scary dreams are, the more rewarding and life fulfilling they will be. Remember we only get one shot at this thing called life.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

mental health · Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

CHANGE

C-Choose you. Make yourself a priority. Whatever you’ve been doing that isn’t working for you, change it, and do the opposite to begin living for you.

H-Heal your open wounds. What you didn’t get when you were a child know its not your fault and give it to yourself now. Whatever hurt and pain you’re carrying free yourself from it and don’t let it keep holding you hostage from living the life you deserve and want. We can’t change what happened but we can learn and grow from it.

A-Achieve one goal this year. Begin with setting out to make one goal and work on that until you have achieved it. Change doesn’t happen in a finger snap, take baby steps until your courage and confidence builds.

N-Now is the time. If we always say next time, the time will never come. Things begin to change when we take action and do something.

G-Growth is a process. It takes us on twists and turns we didn’t expect. Embrace the journey and process. Change is uncomfortable, but thats how you know you’re growing.

E-Eliminate the negative talk about yourself. Be good to yourself, especially in your head and what you say to yourself. We know its very easy to pick out something we don’t like about ourselves, change that and point out all the goodness in you.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

mental health · Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

LOVE

L-Laugh a lot. It’s true what they say, laughter is the best medicine. Laugh at yourself most importantly. Love yourself enough to poke fun of yourself.

O-Open yourself up to the impossible. Keep your mind, heart, and ears open to learn new things. We can experience love from many people, places, and things.

V-Vulnerability isn’t a sign of weakness. It shows character, strength, courage, and allows others to connect with you on a deeper level. We love more, deeper, and connect when we let our guard down.

E-Extend a helping hand. One of the purist acts of love is lifting someone up.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

mental health · Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

FEAR

F-Finish what you started. Turn that thought into ideas to create a plan. Develop those ideas into a project. Design that project into a business. Whatever “it” is that you started or thought about starting FINISH it. It could be school, moving, weight loss goal, changing your hair color, or anything that was placed upon your heart.

E-Explore the world. When we travel and learn about different cultures it allows us to see life differently. It doesn’t have to be overseas, travel to a city or small town you never been to. What do they eat? Where does the dialect come from? We will have a better understanding of people. Of course right now staying safe and healthy is important.

A-Award yourself regularly. It doesn’t have to be something big. But we know you have a family and other responsibilities to take care of, however you should enjoy the fruits of your labor. Each time you get paid do something for yourself.

R-Release any tension, frustration, or aniety you may have. Find a way to let go of what was, what hurt you, or who made you mad. Holding on to that continues to hurt you not them. LET IT GO!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Mental Health · Personal Growth · Spiritual Health

DREAM

D-Declare and claim whatever it is you are hoping for, working towards, or desire. Speak as if its already happened.

R-Radiate the energy you want to receive. The vibes and positive energy you put out will come back to you. Just think, when we smile at someone and make eye contact they smile back.

E-Establish your goals, strategy, and plan for your life. Create a calendar, vision board, or journal to keep it as a visual reminder.

A-Affirm yourself everyday. Multiple times a day. Don’t wait on anyone to tell you how fabulous you are.

M-Master the art of being unbothered. When we run our own race and stay in our lane we don’t have the time or energy to be worried about others.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Mental Health · Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

Experience the Power of Being Still

Phones ringing, fax machine ringing and spitting out paper, clients walking in, meeting at the next desk with coworkers, papers on your desk, sticky notes, agendas, files, balancing the books, have to go to the bathroom, husband texting you what’s for dinner, school emailing you regarding re-entry plan, and you just ran out of coffee. Welp that was a day in my 8-5. I’m going to backtrack and say that was happening before lunch time even came.

I have experienced this scene more than once in my professional career. With all that chaos going on around you while you’re trying to be productive, do your job, and focus. That could be difficult for anyone. What usually end up happening is the rest of your day you’re equilibrium is off. There is this unsettling feeling on the inside, you can’t calm your nerves, or focus on anything the rest of day.

You get in the car drive home and begin to think back of that moment in time when the office was crazy and say “what happened?” How many times have you been in a situation to where nothing was said to you, done to you, meant for you, or about you but because everyone else in the office was in an uproar you became out of sync with your being.

After experiencing this more than once I vowed to not ever get myself worked up over nothing. Just because coworkers are having a “moment” and venting to me I wasn’t going to let it effect me again. I didn’t like the way I felt driving home and when my husband would ask “why are you on edge?” I wouldn’t have an answer.

Fast forward to present day, and that chaotic office scene occurred again. “The power of being still”. That is what I said when I was walking to my car with the biggest smile from ear to ear. I’m pretty sure the folks driving by thought I was crazy for grinning so hard. First thing I did was detach myself from everyone. I remained focus on what I was doing, didn’t feed any negative energy that they were attempting to serve, and remained quiet. This allowed me to stay calm and be present in myself. There were even times I was able to chuckle at the commotion that was going on.

I felt as light as a feather after the dust settled . I was screaming Hallelujah!!!!!! that I had the ability to center myself. As usual, you find it really didn’t need all that to solve a problem or get done what needed to be done. That not only works in the professional world but in everyday life. There is so much power in remaining still. Don’t get so riled up that you won’t be able to make a decision, complete something, or miss out because you have lost focus. Then have hindsight looking back realizing it wasn’t what it was cracked up to be.

There is power in being still.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Mental Health · Personal Growth · Spiritual Health

In Everything…Give Thanks

GGive love, time, compliments, support, and thanks. No matter what’s going on around you show appreciation and thanks.

RRelease any negative thoughts, ideas, energy, words, or habits that are preventing you from being thankful and kind.

AActivate your inner power. Whatever it is that you want to do, know you have the power and grace to do so.

TThink Positive Thoughts. Positive thoughts produce positive energy, which leads to positive actions, and positive outcomes.

IInitiate a conversation. Engaging with someone feeds our mental and emotional wellness. Challenge yourself and initiate a conversation with someone you don’t know.

TTake actions towards your dreams. Create a plan and begin fulfilling the desires of your heart.

UUnderstand you are where you suppose to be. If you don’t like the situation begin to understand the lesson you need to learn before moving on.

DDedicate time to yourself. Get to know you.

EExpect nothing but goodness and greatness. Even when it gets tough know there is something greater waiting for you.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Mental Health · Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

How to Discover and Find Who I Am

Who are you? Tell me a little about yourself. Woman. Woman of God. Wife. Mother. Sister. Daughter. Friend. Professional. Sounds familiar?! Welp, that’s how most of us answer that question. We begin by stating what titles and positions we hold as if that’s truly who we are. This is one question that many of us struggle to answer. To answer this question is to know how to show your values and morals, know your boundaries and set expectations for your self and others, have a code of conduct, command respect without being disrespectful, and being consistent.

Answering said question takes time. Depending on where you are in your life, what experiences make up your story, how those experiences shaped your beliefs, and where you are in the healing process. There isn’t a right or wrong answer to this question. Your answer is going to be different than anyone else’s. There isn’t anywhere we can look to find the answer, except internally.

Discover Yourself

Thought Provoking Questions to Get You Started

  1. What is your pet peeve?
  2. What is your idea of a good time?
  3. What are your flaws?
  4. What is your best feature or attribute?
  5. What makes you cry?
  6. Does your friends inspire you?
  7. Are you happy in your relationship?
  8. Do you smile going to work everyday?
  9. What do you like to read?
  10. What is your favorite television show?
  11. What are you good at?
  12. What are your insecurities?
  13. Three words that best describes you.
  14. How do you handle it when someone pushes your buttons?
  15. What have you been putting off that you really want to do?

These are just a few questions to get you started. Once you begin to answer them honestly a more clear picture of who you are will come to you. For me it all started with me realizing my pet peeve. When someone would ask me what is my pet peeve I would have the deer in headlights look. My pet peeve is someone asking me questions to either pry into my business, get information to use for a later date, or to attempt to diminish what I’m doing. Once I figured this out I was better able prepared to notice when it was happening, divert the conversation, or simply avoid speaking with anyone who would do that to me. It took time and practice for me to get the courage to say “that isn’t something that I’m willing to discuss”.

Finding yourself or learning who you are is a journey. Because the only thing constant is change, maintaining a sense of your core allows you to make decisions without compromising yourself. Get a journal and keep it with you because its going to take time answering the above questions. The answer will come to you at the spare of the moment. Write that answer down and elaborate on it later.

Discovering who you are will set you free.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.