Oh this confidence thing again. confidence can make or break a person. Having a lack of confidence kills relationships, stop you from living life due to fear, and all around a person performance in every aspect of their life suffers. I’ve said before and I’ll say it again confidence comes with practice. There are daily confidence boosters you can begin doing now.
1.Be who you want to be. Whatever your vision for yourself is, just be it. Once you sit in who you authentically are everything else will follow. What career path do you want to take? Is there a business you’d like to start. Are you living in the city, state, or country you want? So often we have these dreams or visions but fear, lack of money, and persuasion of others tells us we can’t. But guess what, you can. If you open a business and it dissolve, you’re still alive to try another. Nothing is definite you will always bounce back.
2.Compliment yourself daily. There are a million things we can find wrong with us. But I know there is something you like about yourself. Start off by finding one thing to Compliment yourself on. Then build up to giving yourself multiple complements throughout the day. In the morning start with your skin, hair, outfit, or just simply waking up in a good mood. When you find yourself criticizing something you see “wrong” quickly divert that to something you like.
3.Give Back. It’s great to buy someone a gift or lend some money. But the greatest way to give back is serving or giving your time. Spending time with someone when they are down means more than a dollar. Volunteering gives someone in need an example of hope and sense of inspiration. Invite someone on a walk with you, give them a new perspective or different way of thinking and being. Guess what this will boost your confidence in so many ways. You see yourself as a someone who has something to offer, which gives you motivation to continue to find yourself.
4.Exercise. Do some form of physical activity. I’m not saying you have to go out and kill your self to the point you won’t be able to move the next day. However, walking is the easiest, thought provoking, free, and effective Exercise you can do. Each time you walk pick a different trail or route. The different scenery opens your mind to think and see the world in a different way. Sweating release toxins. You begin to feel good about your body and outer appearance. Which increases your confidence when you put your clothes on. Because you feel good on the inside you look good on the outside and present that confidence for others to see. Your shoulders are back, heads up, and walking with a purpose.
5.Take a risk. Instead of thinking about the shoulda, coulda, woulda take that leap. What’s the worst that can happen? If it doesn’t work out try something else. The pain of not trying at all is worst than the pain of failing. At least if it failed, you learned something. You have knowledge and experience on what to do and what not to do. Get out the box and see what else the world has waiting for you. With each risk you take your ability to learn, grow, and overcome will boost your confidence.
6.Listen. I’ve learned when I receive a criticism or comment from two or more independent people I need to listen. Obviously if two people that doesn’t know each other are saying the same thing, then I need to evaluate what I’m doing to put that out there. You’re not changing who you are. You’re self reflecting. What mannerisms am I doing to for others to receive me that way?
7.Don’t pretend. “Don’t be a follower, be a leader.” that’s the famous line we’re told as kids. Being like someone else is impossible. You can only win at being you. You will fail at trying to be like someone else every time. Trying to be like someone else exhaust more time, energy, and money. It’s simply free and effortless to be you.
8.Journal. Building confidence and keeping it takes daily practice and efforts. That means you are going to have some bad days. We are human with feelings and emotions. But when those bad days come we can rely on our daily confidence boosters to get us back on track. Keeping a Journal and writing things down gives you a visual and reference to go back to. When you’re on a high, Journal that and when that low comes Journal that in detail. That way you are able to look back and see what triggers caused you to have a bad day and how not to let it effect you again. Journaling allows us to be honest and release any toxins so we don’t hold on to them to spill into the next day.
9.Learn how to accept a Compliment. How many times has someone given you a Compliment and you minimize it to something that’s not a big deal. When someone says “I like those shoes,” simply reply with a thank you. Don’t say oh I’ve had these for years or these old things. Be appreciative that someone was willing to tell you they liked something about you instead of holding it in. Then pass it on and give someone a Compliment.
10.Work. You get back what you put in. On the job that pays you, you have to work hard in order to keep that job and not allow someone else to come in and replace you. The same applies to your life. Put work into your self daily. Read, write, and talk to yourself on a daily. We can’t expect others to give us what we won’t give ourselves. Love on yourself and others will follow in your footsteps.
These are just a couple things you can do to begin boosting your confidence. The key to making it work is to be consistent. Don’t give up because you’ve had a bad day. Those are needed for our growth.
Be you so you can be free.