As I’ve grown, there have been many life lessons and takeaways that have stuck with me. The one that keeps coming up as of late, is ”you can learn from anyone.” I think we put ourselves in box when we only focus on those that compliment us.

I had this light bulb years ago when some of my best business advice and life advice came from bosses that may not have had the best regards from their employees. I’ll never forget one time, I was in a meeting and my general manager informed me of a decision he made. In the next sentence he said “it’s not what everyone wants, but I can’t do what everyone wants me to do. I was hired to do a job and that’s what I’m going to do. They have a choice to live with it or not.”

At the onset, you kind of clutch your pearls. But as I sat at my desk, I realized he’s right. EMOTIONAL HEALING: OPEN YOUR MIND FOR UNDERSTANDING You can’t make decisions based off your emotions or others emotions for that matter. Just because someone wants you to make a certain decision, doesn’t mean you have to. Because that’s the best decision for them doesn’t mean that’s the best for you. Your emotions will lead you astray. One day you’re happy, and the next you’re sad.

That is all to say, we can literally learn a lesson from anyone. Some of your best life lessons will come from those who have wronged you, misunderstood you, or neglected you. In a sense, we should give a little more attention to those life lessons. They will teach us what our triggers are, what we’re lacking emotionally, and what we need to work on within ourselves.

Get yourself out of the rut by asking yourself what can I learn from what this person said to me. If someone has wronged you, ask yourself why are you offended, what made them feel comfortable saying what they said, and how did my response escalate or deescalate the situation. What does your reaction to certain instances say about yourself. One great way to see where we need work, is to look at how we respond to offenses. It says more about us, than the person who is giving the offense. On the other hand, watching how someone else responds lets you know where they are mentally and emotionally.

These are all life lessons that we can learn from others. Just because you don’t agree with someone, don’t be so quick to throw them away. Take a lesson, grow, and then move on.

The key is to watch, listen, and learn for motivation. Not to compare yourself to another person, condemn them, or demean anyone.


Be you so you can be free.


We can have the “perfect” routine and set up for life to be great. However, setbacks, rejections, and stumbling blocks are necessary for growth. In fact, they should be expected as nothing happens or develops how we set them out to.

No matter what we are planning or setting out to do, we are going to encounter a speed bump. The key is to not take this speed bump and let it stop us completely. We may have to slow down to get over it. We may have to back up and try some other vehicle to get us over it. But we will eventually get over the speed bump.

When we have to stop or go around a set back, we are learning and picking up knowledge needed to get us through to the next level. Obviously, there was something missing in our bag that we didn’t pick up on the way. Setbacks, rejections, and stumbling blocks helps us grow stamina mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically.

During this time, you may feel lonely and unsupported. There are times you are going to break down and cry. P.S. Crying is a good thing to do. It’s a good way to release tensions and frustration. We are human and its ok to cry. You may even have a time where you feel like giving up. In your mind you have done everything you could and just don’t see an answer in sight. My friend, all these feelings are normal. Even the most successful has had these thoughts and feelings. KEEP GOING AND PUSH YOURSELF

Once you reach what seems like the pit of hell, that is when you’re going to feel this surge of energy. Every answer you’ve been searching for finally comes to light. Now those setbacks, rejections, and stumbling blocks makes sense. You’ve figured the puzzle out and what each piece means.

We don’t know everything. Setbacks, rejections, and stumbling blocks helps us grow by teaching us what we don’t know.

The next time you’re faced with a speed bump, ask yourself what did I miss along the way? What didn’t I pick up that I left behind? Look at it and get excited because you’re about to discover and learn something that is going to propel you to the next level.


Be you so you can be free.

Why I’m not a fan of working a 9-5 job

The thought of doing the same thing over and over again for 40 years pains me to think about it. There are many reasons why I’m not fan of working a 9-5 job. I applaud those who sit at the same desk from the time they are 25 years old to 70 years old. On the other hand, I have a couple of questions, “Why and how did you do it.?”

The main reason why I”m not a fan of working a 9-5 job is because I need my brain stimulated. Doing the same thing over and over again everyday will make me bored very easy. I like to be challenged. The enjoyment I get out of problem solving and figuring things out, keeps me motivated. I guess that’s why accounting and numbers are my thing. Balancing books and figuring out that one number that’s off is my drug of choice.

Side Note: I know I promote and encourage a self care routine, but a routine that doesn’t allow me to expand or explore and wasn’t created by me isn’t a routine for me.

Another reason why I’m not a fan of working a 9-5 is there isn’t any flexibility. Because you go in at the same time everyday, sit at the same desk everyday, eat lunch at the same time, go home at the same time, and see the same coworkers, I begin to feel like the hamster on the wheel. My life as I know it is wasting away. After so long, I begin to feel like the value of what I have to offer is no longer a there. Therefore, the work become less exciting, the motivation to get it done isn’t as great, and eventually you begin to care less about production.

As a mom and wife, time for family life and handling business is little to none. The time you need to take care of certain business is during the time you’re at work everyday. Getting things done around the house is always a chore because of little time that’s available. Especially when you have kids that play sports. Your evenings are tied as well as your weekend. Not to mention, you only get one day on Saturday, because Sunday is spent getting ready for the week.

No matter how hard you work and your accomplishments, you are easily replaceable. You literally can die and they will begin looking to replace you immediately. They don’t care about you personally, even though you are spending more than 40 hours a week there. Let’s be honest, working a 9-5 your coworkers may know more about you than some family. They only care about what you can do for them.

Most of the time the company and their policies aren’t for the employees best interest. I’m not a fan of working a 9-5 and having myself or others feeling like a machine. It’s presented as such. However, the company number goal is to increase profit and maximize it with little expense. They cover themselves before you can even think of covering your behind. HR isn’t your friend. It’s the companies friend.

Final Thoughts

To give you some background, when I was in high school I thought I wanted to be a marketing consultant and a 9-5 was my destiny. However, as I got into college and began working and managing my class schedule, I knew a monotonous job and schedule wasn’t for me. I wanted to have the freedom to work and still live my life as I needed to. YOU CONTROL YOUR OWN DESTINY

Fast forward to after graduation and being a stay at home mom, I tried it, and I don’t like it. The office politics was just too much. The idea of being in the office for eight or nine hours was getting to me mentally. For starters, I knew I could be doing other things that needed to be done. Also doing something I actually loved and devoting my time to that. Finally I had too much down time, because once I was able to get into a routine and understand my duties I was able to complete them quickly.

Because of all the reasons above, the sheer motivation to get up every morning, get dressed, and have enthusiasm to get to the office just isn’t there. Why I’m not a fan of working a 9-5, I do believe you can achieve great success and results if you are efficient and proficient.

I am not a fan of working 9-5 and sitting around not doing much or being productive. Yes, I’ve heard people say “its easy money” but I don’t want easy money. I need and want to use my talents and gifts. I have a thing of needing to feel productive. Now if you’re a fan of a routine 9-5 system and it works for you that is amazing!!!!!!! I just need the flexibility to be creative, challenged, and motivated.


Be you so you can be free.


Throughout sometime in our life, we’re going to have to be ok with not having all the answers. So often we put our dreams on hold because we are waiting on “XYZ” to happen. Well, what usually end up happening is, “XYZ” never happens. Then excuse after excuse is used or we just give up hope all together. In many aspects of life, it’s ok to not have some answers and just go for it.

One can think they have all the answers, and then a wrench is thrown in. Life experience tells us, it’s impossible to have all the answers. Sometimes the best decisions are made with just winging it on a prayer. Of course, we want to have the answers to every what if. But that means we will know the outcome. That’s just not realistic or ideal.

The journey and experience of going through the process will make you mentally and emotionally stronger. You’ll get to see the strength you thought you didn’t have. Through each obstacle, patience and courage will show you what you really are made of.

If there is anything you’ve been dying to do or have been on your mind for a while, just go for it. Start with what you have and let the process play out. Everything doesn’t have to be in place for you to make your move. There is true enjoyment in learning as you go. Going though the steps and process of figuring things out will give you the motivation needed to see things through.

It’s ok to not have answers and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about that. It’s impossible to figure out all the unknowns. Hence, they are the unknowns for a reason. If you continue to wait to have all the answers then you’ll never live the life you want.

We will never have everything we need or all the answers we need to make certain decisions and moves in life. The longer we wait the more time we are on the shoulda, coulda, woulda’s. If you are wanting to go back to school, change careers, move to another state, start a business, or anything else just go for it.

Take a leap of faith and believe in yourself. Know that you have what it takes to fulfill whatever your heart desire. Go for it!!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


There are many people right now who want to get up but just don’t know how to snap out of it. However, there are many tips on how to boost your mood instantly. These mood boosting tips can be done by anyone and any where. All you need is your willingness and able body to do so.

Tip #1-Be Grateful For Another Day

The first thing I do before my two feet’s hit the floor is Thank God for another day. That instant gratification removes any negative thoughts of not wanting to go to the office. Or whatever you may have going on that day. My grandma used to say some people went to sleep last night and didn’t wake up. You were on the “wake up list” as Tabitha Brown would say. So just being thankful to open those eyes again is something to be happy for.

After saying thank you, that sends a message to the people in your head to click the positive button. From there, tell yourself aloud, “today is going to be a great day”. I know this to work and be true because those are the two lines I say to myself every morning. Expecting to have a great day sets your mood for the day. You have made a conscious decision to be positive and have a great day.

Hallelujah, Thank You Jesus. Today is going to be a great day!!!!

Tip #2-Open the Curtains

How you can boost your mood instantly is seeing the sun shine through your windows. Open those curtains or blinds and let the natural light shine upon you. That instantly boost your mood. Seeing the sun shine makes you feel happy and want to go out to enjoy the day. It brings a natural smile to your face and makes you stick your shoulders back.

Bonus Tip: Open some windows for some fresh air. There isn’t anything like the fresh smell of nature. Opening windows allows fresh air to flow through the entire house to awaken your spirits.

Tip#3-Freshen Yourself Up

After thanking God, and letting some sun light shine through, go freshen yourself up. Now if you have to go to work of course you’re going to get ready. But even on the weekend, if you work from home, or if you are still looking for employment spend a few minutes investing in you. For example, brushing teeth, gargling, washing face, showering, putting on a little perfume, and some lounge clothes will lift your mood instantly. I know those things seems like a no brainer , but there are some who can’t even get themselves up just to do the basics. As my father used to say “look like you care about yourself.” SPRING SELF CARE TIPS YOU CAN DO NOW

Tip#4-Clean the House

How to instantly boost your mood, clean the house and get rid of clutter. This is my all time go to. I use cleaning as a 3 in 1 deal. It’s my way of getting out of a funk, exercise, and mental therapy. When I’m feeling a little out of sorts, I go on a cleaning spree. The act of dusting, sweeping, mopping, vacuuming, and doing laundry gives me energy. I receive a boost of “I’m back.” Things are back in order which mentally puts me back in order. The house is fresh so now my mood is fresh and I’m ready tackle on the rest of the day and days.

Bonus Tip: Listening to music is an instant mood booster. On the other hand, cleaning is a great time to get in a motivation podcast or listen to something inspiring if music isn’t your thing. While cleaning or doing laundry listening to music is the best way you can escape and let go.

Tip#5-Watch Something Funny

We are surrounded with negativity. So when you sit down to watch a program, choose something that will make you laugh until you pee your pants. Laughter really is the best medicine. After watching something funny, you will have forgotten about what you were sad about. Once again, a comedic show allows you the escape to think about something else.

These tips on how to boost your mood instantly is great for anyone. It’s not just for those who aren’t doing well mentally and emotionally. These are things that I do everyday. Even on the days I don’t go into the office. These are just a few. Of course, there are many more. But the key here is to take all the tips and use them where you see fit. You can switch things up so you don’t get tired of the same ole routine.

Last Tip: You have what it takes to snap out it. Just believe in yourself and you can do it. Know that you are enough, you belong on this earth, and you have something to offer to the world.


Be you so you can be free.


Tap into your creative side to help you figure out what you want to do next. So many of us are stuck trying to figure out what to do next, how to use this time we have to invest or invent something for ourselves. Creativity to boost mental health takes the chore out it. There is a true connection between creativity and mental health. When you begin to get creative it doesn’t have to be anything big.

Right now I’m having the time of my life learning and investing my time and energy into three new things to me. The first one I’m working on is to perfect my recipe for my version of Avocado Toast 🥑as well as my version of an Vanilla Iced Almond Latte🧋. The last is me working on my green thumb. I’ve always envied those who could nurture plant 🪴 and flowers 💐. One of my goals at the beginning of the year was to get some greenery in the home. I purchased one (an Aloe plant) and due to unfortunate circumstances, a death in the family, I ended up with three plants (a small peace lily and a large peace lily plant).

Side note: For quite some time now I’ve longed to have the talent on how to sew. I’ve been looking for the perfect pair of pants but can’t seem to find them. I’ve had many thoughts of purchasing a sewing machine and making my own.

But anyway….

We’ll be surprised to see when we challenge ourselves how much it lifts our mood and spirits. Begin figuring out what you want to invest your time in learning or perfecting. We’re so quick to say “I don’t know how to do that” or “I can’t do that” or “That’s not something I’m good at”. Well now its time to try something new. Don’t worry about how big or small the adventure may be to others. It’s not for them or about them.

Your creativity is something personal to you. The more creative you are the better your mental health become.

This is essential to your mental and emotional health because it’s keeping you busy, learning a new skill, figuring out new things about yourself, it’s challenging you to step out your comfort zone , and you’re growing in the process. You never know where your hobby may take you. Use new activities and adventures as a free therapist. Good Luck and Have some Fun!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


**It is very easy for us to get discouraged and second guess certain decisions when we hit a bump in the road or face a set back. No matter what we must keep going and push ourselves. Whatever it is that you’re facing in your business, education, family, work, or finances its only temporary. Please know that when we make a decision to become a better version of ourselves thats when we really know who is in our corner cheering for us. As well as those who are sitting back watching waiting for us to fall. When you begin to face criticism, setbacks, and obstacles know that, that is a sign you’re doing exactly what you’re supposed to. They wouldn’t fight you if you had nothing to lose and nothing to offer. Keep Going!!!!!

**However, during this time it is perfectly normal to question if you should have went back to school, started that business, or began a wellness journey to better yourself. You now question if its all worth it. On one hand you may begin to compare your process with someone else. No matter what keep going and push through. Next you may begin to feel like the whole world is against you. The support you thought you’d receive is far minimal than expected, and the feeling of being in over your head is all normal. But the key is to push through those thoughts and use the rejection, criticism, and obstacles as motivation. Tough times don’t last. You will get through. Keep going!!!!!!

**Push yourself through obstacles and challenges. No matter how high that mountain is in front of you or how deep you are in the water push through. You’re going to be challenged and want to give up, but Keep Going!!!!!!

**You’ve made it this far. Don’t waste the time, money, and resources you’ve put into it thus far. Keep going and fulfill whatever it is that’s in your heart. You’ve got what it takes. The hard part was getting over that fear and starting. Keep Going!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


As we approach the middle of March, I’m having thoughts of what happened just a year ago. What I’ve learned about myself and my personal growth this year has been obvious, to me. This pandemic has been a blessing in disguise if you seek the positive. Yes, there are some positive things we can pull from this year. I’ve even said to my kids “you know guys at this time last year when ya’ll went on spring break, you never returned.”

At this time last year, we all went through a lot. I’ve said in a previous post the same time we went into quarantine both of our vehicles were totaled due to a severe hail storm. I remember when the storm happened we felt completely deflated and had no idea what we were going to do. My husband and I looked at each other and said “welp, we just going to take it day by day.” Which leads me to five lessons on what I’ve learned this year about myself:

Slow Down

You’ve heard me say it before over this past year, that God sent a clear message he wanted us to slow down, live in the moment, and enjoy the families He gifted us with. Being constantly busy doesn’t mean you’re living. In actuality, especially children, want you home and available. Children want that structure and disciplined home even if they don’t seem like they want it. Just sitting and being with one another is more valuable than anything. Those are the memorable moments that will be talked about years from now. Create moments.

Make Myself A Priority

As a mom and wife I’ve been guilty of putting myself on the back burner to ensure they are taken care of and have everything they need. Along with taking care of myself, I had to get over feeling bad about it. This year I quickly got over that feeling of guilt. Now I make it a point to watch a tv program, get a spa treatment, take care of my hair and nails, and treat myself. Honestly, thats what my husband and kids would want me to do.

Ask For What You Want

Another hard lesson for us all, is to ask for what I want and not be shy about it. Have you ever compromised or blatantly not said what you really wanted? But you see someone else get exactly what they want and then you get upset with them? What I’ve learned this year is to not compromise myself at the expense of someone else. This is very difficult for many of us. When someone asks you what you want, say unapologetically what it is you want or need. They are asking you for a reason and we owe it to ourselves as well as the person asking to be honest

Protect My Mental and Emotional Wellbeing

This year I’ve really been consistent and good at identifying what’s good for my mental health and what triggers me. Protecting my peace and calmness has been a major priority and focus. To do so, I had to not feel bad or worry about hurting others feelings in the process. I am no longer afraid or shy to exit a situation or place to prevent it from raising my blood pressure. Therefore I haven’t been as tense and on edge.

Career and Financial Goals

The last thing that has become clear is my career and financial goals that I’d like to achieve. For the first time this year, I’ve verbally stated aloud what I’d like to do in the near future career wise. Side Note: I will share my career goal when I reach it, I’m a firm believer in not sharing until it has manifested. Financially, I’ve become diligent in educating myself to ensure we are as financially responsible and financially literate as we can be.

There is no doubt that we all had a life lesson this year, some good and some bad. No matter where you may fall, we all can learn something. It’s very important to reflect and see how far you’ve come. Reflecting can provide direction, clarity, and understanding. What has this past year taught you about yourself?


Be you so you can be free.


As a mom of two teenagers I’m constantly trying to figure out ways to encourage, inspire, and motivate them. So I use our morning car ride to drop “mommy gems”. Today’s mommy gem was “you control your own destiny”. Especially for teens it’s important to remind them of the ole saying, “always be a leader, never a follower.” Remember they are teenagers so I have to be quick and to the point. I thought I share todays gem as we all can use it no matter our age.

Today’s Mommy Gem:

“Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to. When I say anyone, that goes for teacher, coach, friend, family, and anyone who is in an adult leadership role over you. If it doesn’t feel right in your heart, mind, spirit, or soul then don’t do it. Never let someone else make you feel a certain way because you’re not doing what they think you should. You control your own destiny. God created you the way He wanted you and He has given you what you needed to live the life He set forth. Therefore, no one else can control you unless you allow them. In the same token, no one can take what God has placed in you and for you. An Open Letter To Anyone You are enough

Also when you make your decision to stand in who you are don’t feel bad if you find yourself out there on a limb alone sometimes. No one else can push us better than we push ourselves. That’s when we find our greatest strength. So go have a great day and be great.”

As I was driving I thought someone out there need to hear this, this morning. Go be great today. Be the person God created you to be with no regrets. You control your own destiny in life.


Be you so you can be free.

An Open Letter To Anyone You are enough

An open letter to anyone, you are enough, I hear you, see you, and feel you. I know you’re in pain and I’m sorry. You feel like there is a dark cloud over you, lurking. No matter what you do, it feels like you just can’t catch a break. For every two steps forward, you take one back. The feelings of being unappreciated, invisible, and dismissed is mounting. Everyone is take take take and no one ever stopped to ask you how you are doing or if you need help.

You can’t breath. You can’t think. The numbness from the neck down has become comfortable and a security blanket. You’re always on edge. However, at any moment you feel like a ticking time bomb. Your life feels like a puzzle and all the pieces are on the table scattered. The frame isn’t even together, let alone at least two pieces in the center. My dearest of friends I’m sorry.

Every feeling, thought, and emotion you are having is valid. That is why I decided to write you an open letter. What you are feeling is right. There isn’t anything wrong with you. All you want someone to do is say thank you or ask are you ok. A simple kind gesture makes all the difference in how your day will go. On the other hand, you always make sure everyone else is good.

I’m here to tell you, it will get better. For instance, the happiness and joy you yearn for you will receive, and soon. My friend that beautiful smile and laugh we will hear again. Enjoying each day and having fun will be apart of your life. Use this open letter as a reminder that you will have power and control of your life. Just like bamboo you may bend but you won’t break. You have come this far and endured. After that you will come out stronger and tougher. Therefore, let this be a lesson so in the future you won’t bend as easily and definitely won’t break.

You have the right to say NO!!!!!. You have the right to decline an invitation or offer. Here are a couple of examples for declining someone, “you know I appreciate your offer and kindness of thinking of me, but I’m not in a good space right now so I’ll catch you next time.” Or if someone is asking something of you and its not in your spirit to fulfill, “I appreciate your trust in me but that isn’t something I’m able to do at this time.”

In the meantime, make yourself a priority, create boundaries, and focus on yourself. Don’t feel bad or guilty about saying “I’m not ok right now and I need to get better.” Also taking a step back away from everyone and everything is something we all need to do from time to time.

In conclusion take your life and happiness back. This is a temporary storm. Get well soon. Get happier soon. And trust me we all will love the happier YOU.

You are worth it. You deserve it.


Be you so you can be free.