8 LIFESTYLE HABITS FOR MATURE WOMEN

As I really get good into my 40’s there are some lifestyle shifts taking place intentionally and some unintentional. I am proud to be my age, I don’t look my age, and I want to ensure I continue to be mindful and show my kids how to mature peacefully and with grace.

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  1. First I notice no matter what the situation is, I focus on the good and positive. No I don’t ignore what happened. But I don’t dwell on it either. I know from experience acknowledging what is, and moving on to the good is better for my mental health. As well as me progressing into the life I want to live. Focus on the good and keep positive.
  2. Love my body, hair, and skin as is. I’m not willing to do anything unhealthy to get the ”perfect” body, hair, and skin. Having imperfection on my skin is normal and what makes me, me. Getting a little frizz I’ve come Love, as it give me texture and volume. My body is amazing at this stage in my life after having 3 children. Love the body and skin you’re in. Just continue to take care of it and Love it at every stage.
  3. Following my heart and doing what makes me feel good. No more of me saying yes or volunteering myself when I don’t want to. We’re all guilty of this. But I’ve learned to let the guilt go of letting someone down. I no longer will put myself in an uncomfortable position to make someone else feel good.
  4. Keeping things simple these last couple of years has helped my mental and emotional wellness. One of my favorite sayings is, ”If I have to think about it more than once or if it’s taking me too long to make a decision then, it’s not worth it.” I’m not into going around the block to figure something out. I’ll go with my gut, and let the rest play out. I’ve learned to trust my instincts and not over analyze.
  5. Moisture is key. Keeping my skin looking young and healthy is about me keeping moisturized. The skin on my body is essential as I mature. Focusing on my hands throughout the day is a priority for me now. I have skinny fingers. So when they get dry, they look like dried up french fries. Also my hair is a part of my Moisture routine. Moisture Moisture Moisture.
  6. Enjoy nature as much as I can. Going for a walk and trying different trails and parks is very therapeutic. Being outside in nature is a freeing feeling and allows me to completely let my walls down. Hearing the different sounds and sometimes hearing nothing gives a good sense of peace. SELF CARE HABITS: 8 DAILY HABITS TO FEEL YOUR BEST
  7. Treat myself often. Now this doesn’t have to be anything expensive. But if I want to have a latte from the coffee shop I’m going to treat myself. If I just want a new lipstick I will treat myself. Give back to yourself. Reward yourself. You deserve it and worked hard.
  8. Less is more and I Love it. Eliminating options on a daily allows me to be more productive. It begins in the morning by keeping my routine simple to jump start the day. SIMPLE SELF CARE MORNING ROUTINE WHEN FEELING BLUE Keeping clothes, jewelry, meals, and schedule simple prevents overwhelming episodes from happening. Don’t make life difficult.

Those are 8 differences I noticed since being in my 40’s. I’m loving this stage of my life and I know if I continue I’ll be better for myself and my family. Have fun, keep things simple, and take care of yourself.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

”You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”-Buddha

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Everyone has a right to get mad, angry, and upset. No matter what we do in life, or how hard we work on ourselves something is going to bother us. However, it’s what we do in that moment of anger. How do you handle your anger? MOTIVATIONAL HEALING: LEARN YOUR SOURCE OF ANGER If you choose to act on it and make the other person feel just as hurt as you, then you’ll probably regret the results in the long run. On the other hand, if you choose to way your options, not respond, or take time responding you’ll be more at peace with how you handled your anger. I’m a firm believer in matching someone’s anger is what makes us most angry. We’ve allowed someone to have power and control over our emotions. Training your mind to remain calm and in control in every situation will help when we are having our moments. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

”Pay attention to what you’re saying about yourself. You’re going to become what you’re continually saying.”-Joel Osteen

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Everything begins with the mind. The thoughts you think will eventually become your actions and reality. Be mindful of what you say aloud to yourself, in conversation, and in your head. Speak into existence all the goodness you want out of this thing called life. 5 REMINDERS ABOUT SELF LOVE Tell yourself you’re beautiful, smart, confident, a good person, parent, friend, worker. Also speak abundance into your life. Love, finances, relationship, opportunities, health, wealth, and healing. Don’t speak on the negative. Speak as if it’s already been done. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

LIFE DOESN’T HAPPEN TO US…IT’S HOW WE PLAY THE CARDS WE’RE DEALT

Being blessed to have a life to live isn’t a bad thing. It’s how we play the cards in our hand at the time. God didn’t put us here to be miserable, sad, angry, or depressed. He placed us here to do His work. We all have a mission from Him to complete. 7 JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR A GOOD WEEK

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Ok, so it seems like every hand that you’ve been dealt has been bad and you can’t make anything out of them. Well maybe we need to figure out the lesson in what God is trying to tell us. If what you’ve been praying for hasn’t changed, maybe God isn’t changing the situation because there is a lesson there you need to learn before he can move you forward.

Simply changing our attitude toward a situation, person, or even money can help propel us forward. Switching or adjusting your perspective can help you see a little more clear. So those cards that you can’t do anything with, change your perspective and attitude about. Switch them around in your hand, take a risk, and play them differently than last time.

How we handle the bumps in the road, will determine where we go, how far we go, and if we go. If faced with the same bump twice, don’t go over it the same as you did last time. Take a different route. Choose a different speed. Switch the avenue in which you decide to get over the bump. Also not everything that ”happens” to us, is for us to tackle. Check out this book ”Living A Loved lifehttps://amzn.to/3zwQ0GO that is filled with inspiration and motivation to help us tackle this thing called life.

life doesn’t happen to us, but it’s how we play the cards that are dealt. Remember no two hands will ever be same. We will have challenges and situations that occur that we don’t like, but it’s about learning, adjusting, and conquering. The challenges we face are there to teach us, motivate us, and prepare us for the next. It’s up to us to listen and learn.

As you prepare for the week ahead, remember to stay calm, don’t respond or react emotionally, and allow yourself to have a moment. Rely on your meditation, journaling, routines, exercise, and community for support. #SundayFunday

Have a great week everyone!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

7 SELF REFLECTION JOURNAL PROMPTS

We just reached the half year mark. Have you accomplished any of your New Year goals? Are they even still goals of yours? We have six months to make a difference and hold ourselves accountable. While the weather is nice and we have more daylight, now is the time to do some self reflecting. Here are 7 journal prompts for self reflection.

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7 self Reflecting journal Prompts:

  1. What do I enjoy doing over and over again without getting bored that I will do for free?
  2. List the 10 most interesting characteristics about yourself. (It could be physical, mental, emotional, talent, dream, desires, or whatever makes you you.)
  3. What are three things I do well?
  4. What is one goal that keeps making it to my list that I start but don’t finish, never start, or too afraid to start?
  5. What do I need to let go of, but having a hard time doing?
  6. List three things I can do everyday to make myself feel better? (If you can write more, then do so.)
  7. What are my favorite ways to unwind?

As you begin to reflect remember to be as detailed as possible. No detail is ever too small. The more in depth you’re able to go, the better your self awareness you’ll become. In result, leading you to your goal of living the life you want. Use the link provided to begin journaling to a better you. https://amzn.to/3xbjxmA These journal prompts are for you to have a deeper dive into who you are now and where you want to go. There aren’t any right or wrong answers here. MENTAL HEALTH AND SELF CARE IS FREE

journaling for self reflection is a great way to check in on ourselves. This is one way to hold ourselves accountable. Also gives you a mental check on where we are and where we need to go. Furthermore, self reflecting journal prompts gives us an insight on what’s working and where we may need to adjust our self care. These 7 self reflecting journal prompts help me to get clarity on what I wanted to do with my time, who I wanted to spend my time with, and how I show up in certain relationships.

Happy Writing!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY BLOG: SON 16TH BIRTHDAY, STATE TRACK MEET, AND END OF SCHOOL ACTIVITIES

After having the last couple weeks be mild and free. This week we’re going to busy wrapping up end of school year activities, state track meet will begin at the end of this week, and my son 16th birthday is this week. My goal is to stay on top of schedule, keeping the house in order, and maintaining calm.

Sunday: Starting the week off well rested and ready to have a good week. After our typical Sunday morning routine, I began laundry and planning dinner for later and tomorrow. I was also able to get 7 JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR A GOOD WEEK posted. The last three Sundays I’ve been very good uploading and posting as many listings as possible on Poshmark. Therefore, managing and selling through the week is simple and with ease. Mid afternoon I will post a couple more listings and do some admin stuff on my closet. After laundry I have a workout planned and then the goal is to relax after dinner.

Monday: 6 TIPS FOR MONDAY MORNING BLUES I really wasn’t ready for the work week to start. But after a quick pep talk to myself and prayer, I was back in good spirits ready to go. And after all, it was a good day at the office and we had a great evening. The kids are finishing up the end of year activities. We are gearing up for our son’s 16th birthday this week. To our surprise he doesn’t want much or want to do much. After dinner I wanted to try a new hair style so I washed my hair and gave it a good deep condition, then styled. I wasn’t able to get a workout in, because my brother called and of course we ended up having a lengthy conversation.

Tuesday: This morning is going well. The sun is shining and the humidity is low. The hubs had to go into work later this morning and we had a good coffee date. Due to work being slow, I was able to get many proposals sent out and work some contracts. After work, I was in a mood and cleaned while the kids headed to moms for a while. Later in the evening, I had to do some errands because my son wants an old fashion backyard BBQ for his birthday. When I finished the store run, I was tired and ready for bed.

Wednesday: Oh I didn’t want to get up this morning. I think I’m just as ready for the school year to be over with as the kids. But after drop off, I had to do a quick errand for my son birthday before heading to the office. My plans today is to clean and prep for his birthday. But while at the office do administrative work on my contracts and listings. Later in the evening after a workout I decided to do a mid week clean to get ready for my sons birthday.

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Thursday: Its my son’s 16th birthday. I took off to prepare so when my husband got off work and the kids get out of school we’ll be ready to have the BBQ. During the preparations I came to a great point where I was able to run out and have a good walk before everyone came home. It was very important for me to take a moment for myself and just be. Early evening my mom came over and we had a great time. It’s always a great night when I can clean and tidy up without feeling overwhelmed.

Friday: Feels weird this morning because the kids are off today, because state track meets starts. We are definitely headed out there this weekend. Therefore, leftovers and keeping up will be my priority. Work day was quiet and we were happy. Our office is transitioning into a new system and ironing out the kinks has been challenging. However, it is very hot and humid today. Which makes for a hot day at the stadium. State track meets have begun and we’re prepping to head out for the evening.

Saturday: After a long and hot humid day we were all tired, showered, and headed to bed. Again today we’re kinda busy. My son has a hair cut appointment first thing, track meets are starting very early, I have a quick appointment, and it’s storming like crazy. At first the meets were postponed due to lightening and thunder. After a couple hours delay they resumed. However, it was cold, damp, and uncomfortable. In the end we were able to make all appointments and oddly enough had a great time at the stadium both days.

Have a great week everyone!!!!!!

P.S. Weekly blog is designed to show the realistic life of a working mom balancing family, career, and herself.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

25 ORDINARY THINGS I’VE NEVER DONE

I thought I’d share a fun post list of things I’ve never done that some may consider ordinary or normal. A list of ordinary things I’ve never done has been eye opening to write and also learn about myself. I encourage anyone to sit down and write ordinary things you’ve never done. It may just give you some insight on how your upbringing, family, life, and now adulthood has shaped you. MOTIVATIONAL HEALING: LEARN YOUR SOURCE OF ANGER

  1. I’VE NEVER HAD A SLEEP OVER!!!!
  2. SMOKED A CIGARETTE OR ANYTHING ELSE
  3. RAN A MARATHON
  4. BROKE A BONE OR LIMB
  5. OWNED A IPHONE (I LOVE MY GOOGLE PIXEL)
  6. WATCHED ”SEX & THE CITY”
  7. PLAYED THE LOTTERY
  8. BEEN TO A CASINO
  9. TAKEN AN UBER
  10. NEVER GOT A TATTOO
  11. WATCHED ”HARRY POTTER, WALKING DEAD, TWILIGHT, OR GAME OF THRONES”
  12. NEVER BEEN STUNG BY A BEE
  13. TOOK A ROAD TRIP WITHOUT AN DESTINATION
  14. LIVED IN ANOTHER COUNTRY
  15. WROTE A BOOK (SERIOUSLY THINKING ABOUT IT THO)
  16. NEVER HAVE I GOTTEN A FACIAL MASSAGE OR BODY
  17. THREW MYSELF A BIRTHDAY PARTY
  18. I’VE NEVER EATEN OYSTERS
  19. NEVER DIED MY HAIR
  20. I HAVEN’T BEEN TO VEGAS (REALLY NOT A PLACE I’D LIKE TO VISIT TOO MUCH)
  21. I’VE NEVER BEEN ON A CRUISE
  22. NEVER EATEN COTTAGE CHEESE
  23. I HAVE NEVER HAD A HANGOVER
  24. NEVER USED DOOR DASH OR UBER EATS
  25. I HAVE NEVER WATCHED THE MOVIE ”TITANIC”

Those are just a few things that ”normal” or ”ordinarily most people have done. It was fun for me to sit down and think about. It also gave me an insight about myself on a different perspective. Sometimes growth and healing doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. I’m pretty sure there are more things that I’ve never done that are ordinary.

Have a great day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

BEING A MOM INSPIRES ME

Being a mom inspires me to be the best me I can each day. I know there are 3 little people looking at me in every move I make. I can fail at every other job I have, but being a mom I will give every bone to this position. God trusted me with these 3 beautiful children to lead. I will do my best to lead with humility, grace, integrity, and gratitude.

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Being a mom has taught me how to communicate better. Having a teen son who’s on the very low end of the spectrum encourages me to be patient, articulate, and show through action. A daughter who is in the middle with a bubbly artistic personality brings out my creativity. Meeting her and speaking her language has pushed me outside my comfort zone. My baby who is sensitive, loving, and wants the best for everyone increases my empathy and compassion towards others. SINGLE MOM SELF CARE TIPS: SIMPLE AND EASY

In an effort to pull the best out of them I had to learn how to effectively communicate my feelings, thoughts, views, and love. How my husband and I show love and affection teaches my kids how to love and show affection. It inspires me to give them an living an example.

However, how I speak to myself first they are paying attention. The choice of words, tone of voice, and interactions inspires me to be mindful. How I may think I”m showing up verses what they interpret can be two different things. That inspires me beyond the home.

Being a mom inspires me to go after every dream and goal I’ve had come in my head. I can’t tell them be all they can be, without doing so myself. I don’t believe in do as I say, and not as I do. Children learn from our actions, even the bad decisions and choices we make. Allowing my kids to see me do what I love and live my life, will show them all things are possible. It inspires me to tap into my creative side.

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Being a mom inspires me to think about things differently. Not only from my perspective, but from others as well. How I handle conflict resolution, discomfort, pain, bad news, financial problems, or any other life matters that arise I keep in mind they are watching. This is where children pay attention the most. How do we handle a set back, death in the family, disagreements, and how we bounce back shapes how they will approach said situations.

Being a mom absolutely inspires my self care. I must be in the best mental shape possible to show up for them fully and give them what they need. Keeping my physical self care visual shows them the importance of taking care of their temple. Having my “me time” as a mom, allows everyone to feel free to take a moment. Budgeting and planning gives them financial literacy early.

Lastly, being a mom inspires me to give back. Even when it’s my last of anything, showing grace and gratitude will always come back. Everything isn’t about me and neither in life. Most importantly, giving time, love, and an lending ear is more valuable than any dollar. #MothersDay2022

I hope you are inspired where ever you are!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY BLOG: BACK TO SCHOOL, LOTS OF CATCHING UP, SONIC MOVIE

”Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which ones to surf.”-Jonatan Martensson

This week I’m am focused on catching up with some contracts, proposals, and listings. For the last couple of weeks I’ve been emotionally drained. My mother had an out patient procedure done. She’s home and recovering well. So now I’m jumping back into the sack and plus the kids were on spring break last week.

Sunday: Night 2 of Wrestlemania. My son and husband are huge wrestling fans. Wrestlemania is always a big deal in our home. Because we stayed up late for night 1, we slept in. As usual, have a big family breakfast, I worked out early, and got the kids ready. The pre-show started at 5p.m. After working out, we opted for a finger food dinner and watched Wrestlemania until late night. We enjoyed the show and headed off to bed afterwards.

Monday: Back to business. It’s always hard getting the kids back into gear after a long week of staying up and sleeping in. But the morning went off without a hitch. Work is a roller coaster because we have a agent that’s leaving. The plus side is we’re slow right now so the transition is going ok. After school we had dinner early and the kids relaxed. Because it was so pretty out, I had to go for a walk. We wanted to turn in early because the NCAA championship game was coming on. Late into the evening we stayed up until the game went off.

Tuesday: Staying up late the last two nights has me very sluggish in the morning. But I’ll take the moments when I can. It’s ACT testing day and my son is headed off and ready to go. The morning routine went well even though it was rainy and dreary out. Work was steady and peaceful. The quiet time at the office I’ve been using to send out proposals and manage my listings on Poshmark. The rain subsided, so the day turned out to be nice and breezy. Although I said I was going to give my legs a break I’m going to head for a quick walk. Capped the evening off with posting more listings on Poshmark.

Wednesday: I had a little interruption in my morning routine. My annual wellness visit to the doctor was rescheduled for 8am today. Handle Your Business…Go To The Doctor So the hubs and I had to split drop off. The doc visit went very well and glad I was able to get it over with. Heading to the office it’s very windy and cool out. I wasn’t busy at all today which left me time to work on scheduling interviews for some freelance contracts. (This is how you work a side hustle. Use your time wisely. It can be done.) I decided to take the evening off and give my body a break from working out. The evening was very chill. After dinner I worked a little bit, had a cup of tea, and channel surfed. We will have a long day tomorrow because we’re catching an early screening of the new Sonic movie. My son is a huge fan of Sonic the Hedgehog.

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Thursday: MOVIE NIGHT!!!!!! My son is super excited to go to this Sonic movie. But business is first. Morning routine went off great. My hubs went in later in the morning so he was able to join me on the drop off. Of course, we stopped at our favorite cafe to have coffee and a quick bite to eat before we head off to work. However, I made a pit stop home to do some final edits and publish 3 NEWLYWED SELF CARE MISTAKES I MADE real quick. After work we had dinner and only 2hours before heading out to the movies. The movie was amazing. We all loved it. Afterwards grabbed a quick bite to eat and headed home. Everyone was ready to shower and go to bed. My daughter has art club in the morning so we have to wake up extra early.

Friday: We made it another week. The morning started extra early because we had to get to art club before school. Stayed up kinda late doing some contracts and more proposals. I said I wanted to get more listings posted on Poshmark and send out as many proposals as possible, and I’ve accomplished both. It’s kinda of cold and dreary this morning. What do you know, we woke up to a little snow. But it quickly subsided. There really isn’t much planned for this weekend. Relax and resetting. The evening turned out quiet, slow, and peaceful. We all came in got comfy and relaxed.

Saturday: This was a great Saturday as my husband says. We had breakfast and literally relaxed the rest of the day. Although it was sunny out, it was still quite cool. None of us wanted to go out. My husband had to go to his store for a couple hours. After that, he joined me in Netflix and chill. I found a good show to binge watch and enjoy. Late night, I did a quick tidy up before showering and bed. I was happy to relax and reset. I accomplished what I wanted in pumping our proposal’s and contracts.

Have a great week everyone.

P.S. Weekly blog is designed to show the realistic life of a working mom, balancing life, family, and myself.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

3 NEWLYWED SELF CARE MISTAKES I MADE

Now that I’ve been married for 16 years this September, I can honestly say it’s been a ride. A good ride, but there were some mistakes I made as a newlywed. Honestly, so many men and women make mistakes as newlyweds. It’s the growth and journey that makes it worth it. Here are 3 newlywed mistakes I made. 3 SELF CARE MISTAKES I MADE AS A STAY AT HOME MOM

Making Myself Too Available
Starting off, I wanted to make our bond, relationship, and unit as strong as possible. Going in, we both fell into our ”role” and mine was the super homemaker while he provided financially. My everyday routine and life was dedicated to ensure he didn’t have to lift a finger. There wasn’t anything for him to worry about. Even when he came home I was all ears on how his long day went. I watched whatever it is he watched to spend time with him, get interested in his interest, and to have someone to talk to. Although I was doing what I thought a wife should be, my mental and emotional needs was placed on the back burner. I felt like because I didn’t work outside the home I didn’t deserve anything. Not even a tube of lipstick.

Sometimes I would deliver him lunch at work when he wanted it. But then when I did get the guts to want to do something it was like lightening struck. He didn’t know what to do when I wasn’t there. I made him so comfortable that it was becoming codependent. One day talking to my brother he said ”stop making yourself too available”. I had never thought about it that way. I thought I was doing what I was supposed to as a wife. Now years later we have this thing figured out. When I tell him I need a break, order pizza, and figure it out for yourself, he gets it. He does whatever he needs to ensure I’m ok.

Put The Kids First
So once again I thought (or we both) top priority was taking care of the kids. Giving them the life we desired them to have. Going above and beyond to provide. There was a point I went back to school for my medical billing coding certification. The professor asked us, “who was the most important person in my life.” Without hesitation , I said my kids. He immediately responded with shock and said, ”I thought you’d say your husband.” In my head, and my husbands, we put the kids First over everything.

Well now I understand why it’s important to put your spouse First. The kids are going to be loved and cared for no matter what. But my husband was there First and he is the reason I have kids. Now we make sure to put our marriage and relationship First. We have our date nights, tell the kids we need some time together , and got rid of the guilt. We used to feel so guilty for doing something for ourselves. The kids are fine. Actually it’s better and healthy for them to see mommy and daddy loving on each other. Now they tell us go out and have a date we’ll be fine.

I Lost Me
I completely gave up everything. My dreams, hopes, and desires. Mom and wife was my title and I couldn’t have anything else. So I thought. Whatever I wanted to do, create, or start I forgot about and convinced myself I couldn’t do it. Something as simple as voicing what I wanted to eat became, ”whatever you guys want I’ll eat.” My sense of individuality was gone.

I did the bare minimum when it came to my appearance. I didn’t play in makeup, workout as much, watch my diet, read, write, or any other hobbies I desired. Don’t get me wrong, I dreamed like crazy. It was burning inside me, but I didn’t pursue anything. Now I completely made up for it, because when I did start I dabbled in everything. It makes for a better relationship and marriage.

Those are just 3 mistakes that I made in the beginning of my marriage. We have this idea or is taught to be a certain way. When the right way is what you and your partner decides. Just like life, marriage is a journey. Who you were at the beginning isn’t who you are year 3, year 7, or year 15. It’s about growth, communication, and understanding it’s a never ending road.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.