We have to be very careful at easing our foot off the gas pedal. Don’t lose focus on yourself and drift off into another lane. When we lose focus and drift off, accidents happen, we hit a bump in the road, end up going down the wrong street, and stuck between trucks that hinders our vision front and back. In result, we have lost time and now playing catchup trying to get back on track.
Don’t lose your focus yourself and keep going even when you feel like nothing is happening. Even when you don’t see physical results or change happening, every little step you take is progress. If we saw results, activity, or change every time we took a step then we’ll have nothing to look forward to. That is the idea of hope and faith. Believing in the things not seen or heard. When feeling a little discouraged pray, meditate, and center yourself. https://amzn.to/3I8TuSt Remind yourself that you are here for a purpose, a vision was placed in you to fulfill, and you have everything needed to complete the assignment.
When you get bored and lose your focus it’s time to get creative. Switch things up, try something new, and renew your focus. As we grow, what worked for us will no longer work. The more we heal the more we grow. Therefore, the need for new and exciting is broadened. Creativity allows for endless space to grow.
Are you tired of all this self care talk? Don’t want to hear about routines, habits, and caring for yourself? Guess what, we have to stay in our lane so we don’t veer off. That’s whyself care, routines, and creating habits are a constant must. Focusing on you, being the most healthyphysically, mentally, and emotionally, will allow you to withstand whatever is going on in the world. Keeping your focus on you is motivation for others to focus on themselves. It inspires everyone to be whole thus having a healthy community of support.
Staying committed to yourself is the best self care you can do for yourself. The relationship you have with you, will be the best one you have and the strongest. You owe it to yourself.
Keep your focus. Empty out the negative. Focus on the positive. Believe in your own strength.
”So tell me about yourself.” That is one question or phrase that stumps us all. We typically go to what we do for a living or what our job title is. It’s always easier to explain what we don’t like to do, what we don’t like about ourselves, or any negative thing. The journaling this week is focused on the better you. I set out on this challenge because I no longer wanted it to be a challenge for me. To do this, it’s sometimes helpful to use a guided journal or workbook to give you a boost. https://amzn.to/39qbkTJ
Use these 10 journal prompts to help you understand you. Sometimes we do things so routinely and don’t know why. Learning the why will help us know why we gravitate towards certain things in life. From there we’re able to understand our deepest self. As always, remember there is no right or wrong way to journal. Be specific as possible. Lastly, be as honest as possible. I know being vulnerable is uncomfortable. CHANGE IS UNCOMFORTABLE But to get to being your freest self, you must do the uncomfortable thing.
One of the best ways to get out of a rut is to remember how blessed you are, express gratitude, and take inventory of what you already have. The best way to do this is to make a list. Start off with the small things that makes you happy. The tangible physical things, to get you going.
It’s the little things that makes you happy. We’ve all said this at some point or heard it many times in life. Why? Because it’s true. It’s not that trip to Disney that makes you happy. It’s the little memories, moments, and experiences that add up from the trip that makes it special.
Take a moment to look around and list all the small things that make you happy. Nothing can be too small. The little things that helps you get through the day, that make you laugh, feel comfortable, feel good about yourself, and you can’t stop grabbing or doing.
Those are 10 little things I use everyday that make me happy or I do that makes me happy. I wanted to do something a little different than the usual. KEY TO HAPPINESS: DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO Drinking water, waking up, seeing the sun shine, going to work, having a job, having a car, having food to eat, family and friends that love me, and so on. It’s a no brainer that all those makes us happy and helps our mentalwellness. But it’s good to recognize and appreciate what we have in other areas that makes us happy as well.
So often we always want more or look to have more. But our happiness is right in our face if we look. It’s those small things that we don’t even blink an eye at that gives us happiness. The little things that you grab without thinking or you do without thinking on a daily.
We’ve all had those moments of feeling anxious. Sometimes we don’t realize it, until after the fact that we were in a frenzy. When your heart start to pound, your hands get sweaty, your body becomes unsettled, or you just have a sense that something isn’t right you’re probably feeling a little anxious.
Often times we think it takes huge measures to calm down. In actuality, it’s your small self care practices that will help ease your anxiousness. Here are some things I do when feeling a little anxious.
The key to calming myself when anxious is to focus on myself. Do things to get my mind occupied, figure out why I’m feeling the way I’m feeling, and to move past it. Most importantly it doesn’t last forever. Relying on your self care activities and do the things that makes you feel you is key to overcoming your anxiousness. SIMPLE SELF CARE MORNING ROUTINE WHEN FEELING BLUE
Even if you have a moment of anxiousness at work, doing certain self care practices will help calm yourself down. Several practices from the list can be done at home, work, vacation, or anywhere you may begin to feel your blood pressure rising.
Whatever you do, don’t ignore those feelings. It’s important to acknowledge them. Understand the why, and grow through it. We can’t stop them from happening but we can manage it well if we keep our self awareness high.
“I can’t afford to lose my job or take time off work to seek mental health treatment is there anything I can do”
YES!!!!! Your mental health and self care is free. Just because you have a strict schedule, job, or boss doesn’t mean you can’t practice self care. Having a lack of resources at your finger tips won’t hinder you from developing good self care habits. You’ve taken the first step in acknowledging you need and want a better care for yourself. Right now you have an abundance of resources it’s just how you use them.
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Next, you can use your phone that’s at your finger tips to get dailymotivation. Make a decision and choice to ONLY seek positive content. Once you only click or search positive content the algarithm will then flood your feed with that content. It has worked for me and I can truly say it helps to not even see a negative title or headline. YouTube, Pinterest, and Instagram has some amazing quotes, scriptures, passages, reminders, and hope to keep you fueled thoughout the day. Also begin to distance yourself or limit your interactions with those who aren’t feeding you like you want to be fed. Your motivation and encouragement doesn’t just have to come from digital. That one person that only calls, text, or have a negative story isn’t good for your mental health. Delete social media if you have too. ALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA APPS DELETED
Thirdly, focus on you. Wake up a little early. Make sure you look good and feel good about your appearance before heading out. Focus on your physical health. Do some walking, gardening, hiking, biking, or any activity to keep your body moving. Exercise and sweat out some toxins. Schedule in your activity. Create a schedule for the week, month, and day. Have an outline of what you have to do. This ensures you aren’t overwhelmed, you can make time for yourself, and still being productive at work and at home. The schedule is free because you can create it on your phone. Schedule your meals, activity, laundry, cleaning day, and this will give you something to hold yourself accountable. If you can use resources at work, email it to yourself and print it. The schedule is also a good way for you to begin to create boundaries and say NO!!!!!! Saying no and creating boundaries is free.
The fourth thing you can do to get a handle on your mental health is seek a spiritual community. Having a community of people to share, pray, and worship is the best way to filter out the bad and keep the good. If you choose to worship on Sunday in person that is great, but you can also do so using the phone you already have. The first I thing I do every morning is have time with God. In the form of music, a sermon on youtube, or me having my own prayer session. Get rooted in faith and hope.
The fifth is to use your time wisely. While you’re on break at work you can journal, listen to a podcast, read a book, or watch a quick motivational video. Opt to have lunch alone so you can get what you need without judgement, interruptions, or criticism. If you are cooking dinner, listen to a sermon on youtube. Find an inspiration channel that feeds your soul. When I clean and do laundry I put my earbuds in and let the universe speak to me. You are moving and getting Exercise, while feeding your mind with positive energy, and getting things done on your list. All of this is free and good for your mental health. You’ve developed habits.
The sixth free thing you can do for your mental health is develop routines. A good morning routine to get your day started. This will ensure you are in a good headspace to conquer the day. Even when things seem to go sour, you’ll have tools and motivation in your spiritual bank to pull from. Next a good night routine to wind yourself down. How was your day? What didn’t you like that you can work on? What was good about the day? Release it to make room for a clear slate the next day. MID WEEK MENTAL HEALTH REMINDERS
Lastly, give yourself permission to feel. You will have good days and some bad days until your habits become second nature. But continue to push through and work through it. Each bump in the road is a teaching moment. Don’t ignore them. Listen to them and ask yourself why am I reacting this way or feeling this way. The good news is because you did this on your own without seeking a paid counselor the reward in understanding and growth will be just that much greater.
What does self love mean to you? The truth is we all have different ideas of what self love is, should be, or can be. Here are 5 reminders we all can use when exercising self love.
EMBRACE THE GOOD AND BAD Neither one of us is perfect. Nor, will we ever be. To the end of time we all will have flaws. The key to self love is knowing we were made in the perfect image of God. We are enough no matter what the flaw is. Embracing the good in you increases your confidence and boosts your self esteem. However, embracing the perfect imperfections allows a great sense of self awareness. Knowing where you lack in something or need assistance gives you power to seek help, assistance, and get better. In return, will also increase your confidence. TUESDAY TIP: LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES
ARE YOUR GOALS REALISTIC When exercising self love, we have to be mindful of our expectations, GOALS, and reality. We can always dream, hope, and wish. But living in reality and setting realistic expectations will allow us to achieve the love for ourselves. Not looking to be perfect or seeking perfection will help stay on track. Accepting, embracing, and acknowledging each step before we move forward is key to achieving self love. Completing a level before moving forward will make for an enjoyable journey.
WHAT YOU THINK, IS WHAT YOU BELIEVE If you BELIEVE you can, then you will. What we tell ourselves is important to the journey of self love. If our mindset is lack, then we will operate in lack. If we think we deserve abundance then we will make abundance decisions and choices. Think highly of yourself, BELIEVE in your abilities, and know you deserve the lovefirst. Once you do, then everyone else will follow suit. We teach people how to treat us.
GRACE IS KEY Because self love isn’t a destination, there isn’t a such thing as perfection, and it’s ever evolving grace will be needed. You will have good days and bad days. There will be times you feel love, inspired, and motivated. Other times, you may feel alone, no one understand, and nothing is happening. Give yourself the grace to feel. Once you feel, adapt, adjust, and continue to love yourself. Healing and growth is a process.
Keep these 5 self love reminders handy when going through your journey. Your journey is unique to you and no one else has to understand.
I thought I’d share a fun post list of things I’ve never done that some may consider ordinary or normal. A list of ordinary things I’ve never done has been eye opening to write and also learn about myself. I encourage anyone to sit down and write ordinary things you’ve never done. It may just give you some insight on how your upbringing, family, life, and now adulthood has shaped you. MOTIVATIONAL HEALING: LEARN YOUR SOURCE OF ANGER
I HAVEN’T BEEN TO VEGAS (REALLY NOT A PLACE I’D LIKE TO VISIT TOO MUCH)
I’VE NEVER BEEN ON A CRUISE
NEVER EATEN COTTAGE CHEESE
I HAVE NEVER HAD A HANGOVER
NEVER USED DOOR DASH OR UBER EATS
I HAVE NEVER WATCHED THE MOVIE ”TITANIC”
Those are just a few things that ”normal” or ”ordinarily most people have done. It was fun for me to sit down and think about. It also gave me an insight about myself on a different perspective. Sometimes growth and healing doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. I’m pretty sure there are more things that I’ve never done that are ordinary.
Look around no more!!! You have to be your own cheerleader. Whatever affirmations or reassurance you’re needing right now, give it to yourself. The things you are needing to hear or want to hear, tell it to yourself.
If you’re at work, go to the bathroom, look yourself in the mirror, and cheer yourself up. Take a 15 minute break, step away from the desk, and give yourself a pep talk. If you can, go for a quick walk and come back to work. We have to be our own cheerleader.
Talk to yourself out loud. Remind you, how great you are. The hard work you’re doing is going to pay off, keep going. WELLNESS: EVEN THE STRONGEST NEEDS A BREAK You are a good mom. You are a good dad. Pray, do a 5 minute meditation, and sing yourself some praises. Pump yourself up.
If you’re at home and not feeling well, go step on your porch and breathe in some nature. Tell yourself you’re going to be healed, relationships are going to be restored, the financial setback has turned around, and you’ve done a great job. You aren’t tired. You’ve just exhausted all the energy that was allotted to you today.
You have to be your own cheerleader even when the circumstances are good. When you get a promotion, jump for joy, scream, and toot your own horn. You worked hard. Whatever accomplishment you’ve achieved or been recognized for, celebrate it. And don’t wait for someone else to start the celebration. If you’ve saved for a specific goal and that goal has been reached, celebrate that.
What we want from others we have to be able to give to ourselves. Then we’d be able to celebrate someone else genuinely, happily, and unselfishly. We have to be our own cheerleader.
When we seek praise or affirmations from outside first, it makes us subconsciously rely on others validation to make us feel like we’re enough. That will lead us down a path of self destruction. Someone else’s validation or reassurance doesn’t add or decrease our worth. However, does it feel good when we get noticed, absolutely. Anyone who tell you differently is a lie. Do we want others to recognize our hard work, absolutely. But that shouldn’t be what we base our worth off of.
If you’re feeling in a little slump, no matter where you are, get up and cheer yourself up. Pat yourself on the back. Guess what, it’s an accomplishment just to acknowledge you’re not feeling that well. No matter how small something may seem, praise yourself for it and keep stepping forward. Have a great rest of your day!!!!!!!!
This is going to be a short week for work and school. Because of Easter Sunday coming, I’m off work on Friday and the kids get out of school. We’re trying to figure out ways to spruce things up and do something different.
Sunday: Great morning with sunshine coming through just how I like it. It’s finally nice to have temps back into spring like weather. After breakfast I finished the final edits and published WEEKLY BLOG: BACK TO SCHOOL, LOTS OF CATCHING UP, SONIC MOVIE. I finished some notes and planned more post. I think we plan to enjoy the day before the work week begin. I’m focusing on me this afternoon, doing my hair and nails. The only thing on my agenda is to workout. Later in the evening I was able to have some ”me” time and relax.
Monday: Great start to a rainy morning. My plan for today is to work while I’m at work. I have some goals in mind that I’m trying to reach. After drop off, I had a little motivation so I published HAPPINESS ISN’T A DESTINATION. Work was very quiet and peaceful today. Later on in the evening I was still battling a headache that just wouldn’t go away. So I decided to cook dinner and turn in early. I understand when my body and mind says to sit down, that I will do. Tomorrow will be another long day because we have an event to go to in the evening.
Tuesday: Morning allergies is getting to my son again. But he was able to get up and get off to school ok. Office was kind of slow, but we’re in our final stages of transitioning another agent so it makes it better. Had plans to do some errands after work due to an event we’re supposed to go to. Yup, it’s Tuesday so we always go to my moms to set out her trash. Needless to say we’re in a pinch because we have less than an hour. After the event we stop by the store and headed home. I was in a mood and did a late night cleaning session. Afterwards, I did my night routine and headed off to bed.
Wednesday: Very gloomy morning. We’re under tornado and hail storm warning. I hate this weather. I don’t know what’s worse, snow and ice or rain and thunder. After drop off and before heading to the office there are some packages I need to drop at the post office. I plan to do some notes, proposals, and listings today. After dinner, in the evening I was debating on some contracts to accept, doing some research, and other work. Headed off to bed feeling very productive and sticking to my plan.
Thursday: Very emotional morning. There are some childhood emotional traumas that I’ve been tackling. It’s very hard, scary, and gut wrenching. However, I know I need to address this. After dropping the kids off, I literally took a moment for myself before heading to the office. Well, that didn’t go well. Maybe 20minutes into arriving I was still not doing well. I had to quickly gather my things and tell them I had to leave. I just had to let it out. I was literally crying as if I heard some tragic news. I came home jumped under the blanket and let myself go. I realized I needed to give myself permission to let it out. Afterwards I knew I had to collect myself in time to pick up the kids. I journaled and let every emotion out. I prayed. Then gave myself a quick ”girl get your ish together.” Later in the evening after dinner I got in a good workout and put myself to bed.
Friday: Good Friday!!!!!!! I am off today. The kids have a half day of school. My plans are to have coffee, enjoy a program, and handle a couple of task while I’m at home alone. I’m feeling a lot better today and ready to get into gear. Late afternoon I have an spa appointment and we’ll probably go have dinner out. The kids said they didn’t want to do too much. In my time alone, I was able to postALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA APPS DELETED. (No my emotional breakdown isn’t related to me deleting my social media apps.) Get some mail shredded and a couple loads of laundry. The weather wasn’t too friendly out, so we enjoyed our evening in.
Saturday: Cold brisk morning. Couldn’t sleep in too much. There were plenty errands to take care of before tomorrow, Easter Sunday. I decided to do a quick workout as soon as I got up. My son and husband went to the barber shop and then errands of their own. After working out we finished up errands before heading to game night. The kids wanted to have family game night at my moms. She and my aunt, who’s here visiting, WEEKLY BLOG: NEW PERFUME, DETOX, & VISIT FROM AUNT cooked and planned a great evening. Later after all my Easter Sunday prep was done, we headed over. family game night was fun and lasted very late.
Have a great week everyone!!!!!
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