MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

”If you can’t do anything about it, then let it go. Don’t be a prisoner to things you can’t change.” -Tony Gaskins

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Worrying about things you can’t change is what has you stuck. You’re twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to fix or change something that isn’t yours to fix. If we think about it, we’re trying to fix things that’s not even ours most of the time. Worrying isn’t going to speed up the process, change the potential outcome, or make you feel better. In actuality, worrying so much is what gets us depressed, stressed, and tensed. We spend every waking moment trying to manipulate the process. Thus we aren’t living in the moment and allowing ourselves to learn through the process. If it’s out of your control or not your “thing”, to fix, then let it go. MOTIVATIONAL AND INSPIRATIONAL: JUST LET IT GO Do yourself a favor and trust that it’s going to work out how it supposed to. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

UNPOPULAR OPINIONS ABOUT SELF CARE

Practicing self care is all the buzz right now. However, there are some unpopular opinions about self that may help someone out there who is struggling to get a handle on this thing called self care. As always, do what works for you. Engage in activity and self love practices that brings you joy and peace. I thought I’d share some unpopular opinions about self care.

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  • You don’t have to wake up at 5a.m. If you are a night person, then sleeping in may be what is best for you. As long as you get a good amount of sleep. As well as, be the most productive you, you can be. If you are a 7a.m. Person that is perfectly fine.
  • Along with waking up at 5a.m. You don’t have to exercise that early either. Me personally, I’m an evening workout person. It best suits me and I get the job done. The goal is to get in some kind of physical activity daily to ensure you’re taking care of that part of self care.
  • Donuts, chips, candy, ice cream, and cake you can have. You don’t have to deprive yourself of sweets. It’s called moderation. Enjoy life, and the sweets it has to offer. You know what you can handle and what you can’t. So the next time you’re on vacation enjoy all the food that is offered.
  • No one said you have to have 2-3 jobs to be successful or productive. If your one job is great and you love it, it takes care of you and your family then you are good. Juggling many jobs or side hustles isn’t for everyone. There is this thing called life you still have to enjoy.
  • Working a 9-5 is ok. Not everyone is an entrepreneur or wants to own their business. Don’t feel the pressures to create a business or become an entrepreneur. Make sure you love what you do and enjoy going to work everyday.
  • Journaling isn’t for everyone. Not everyone has the patience to sit down and write out their thoughts. Or feel the need to purge thoughts. It’s perfectly ok, if you don’t journal, have no interest, and isn’t your thing.
  • You don’t have to have a master plan or grand vision. Waking up and living life as the day come is amazing in itself. Actually, doing this will lead you to what really makes your heart flutter.
  • Having friends are a good thing. Knowing your boundaries and setting them is key. But we all need friends to get through life. The love, laughter, and sheer companionship both male and females need. Not one person on this earth can do life alone. Girlfriends…Why We Need Them
  • Social media can be a good thing. Not every aspect of social is media bad. Find what works for you and leave the rest. Moderation and filtering out the negative is key.

Those are just some unpopular opinions about self care and self love. Hopefully, this will help some not feel so pressured, confused, or overwhelmed when finding their routine. Remember to enjoy your one life. Go at your pace and enjoy the journey.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

Exercise is a celebration of what your body can do. Not a punishment for what you do.”-Women’s Health UK

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I was one of those who dreaded working out. It was more of a chore instead of me making it apart of my daily lifestyle. Once I made the decision to do the workouts that benefited my body and more importantly what body was capable of doing, it became fun. My husband would do all these extreme workouts and programs, that worked great for him. But when I tried my body didn’t respond, I didn’t enjoy it, and I lost interest and motivation. Yes, there is a great deal of content on Exercise. But experiment until you find your niche. Now I can’t go a day without going for a walk. I get more results walking and doing minor strength training than following any program out there. But that what works for me. Find something fun, that you can’t wait to do each day. And you don’t just have to stick to that one thing, variety is your friend when it comes to Exercise. Lastly, we only get one body. When we get older we can’t trade it in for a new one. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

5 WINS OF THE WEEK

One of the things I’ve really been trying to do is appreciate the “small” wins in my life. Happiness doesn’t come from some grand gesture or thing. It’s built in your daily habits. Those small things that you do without thinking or look over is apart of the bigger happiness in your life. Here are my 5 wins this week.

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Wins of the Week

  1. Earlier in the week we did a family trip to the store and got all the school supplies the kids needed. Typically I would wait until the last minute or just pick them up a little at a time. But I wanted to do something different and take them along and let them check the stuff off the list themselves. JUST TAKE ONE DAY AND BE WORRY FREE As a bonus I was able to already have 2 backpacks ordered, still waiting on my oldest son to tell us what he wants to do.
  2. Had a really good conversation with a childhood friend. She’s an assistant principal and I always like to check in on her to see how she’s doing as she prepares for the upcoming year. It’s been mentally challenging the last couple of years for her and we actually help each other get through the year. Also it was great catching up and picking up where we left off since the last time we talked. Great friendships are so needed right now.
  3. Began publishing my “Mental Note Of The Day”. MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY I’ve always wanted to do this but I didn’t know if anyone would want to read it. One of the best ways I get through my day is to indulge in quotes, scriptures, and passages. Then I take those small tokens and apply it to my current life situations. It helps me put things in perspective and give me inspiration to get through each day. They are little nuggets of motivation that takes one minute to read but provide an endless supply of comfort.
  4. Had a day to go out to dinner. My youngest son had been asking us to go out to eat. So finally, we all had a day to where we were available. After not going out for a while, it was very refreshing to hang out with the kids and see where their head is before school begins. As my kids get older, I know I won’t have too many more times they’ll want to hang out. My husband and I take the chances as they come.
  5. This week I gave myself permission to just be. The last couple of weeks, I’ve been experiencing some heart palpitations more than normal. I decided at the beginning of the week to focus on my diet, exercise, and not have a care for anything or anyone. I didn’t think I was stressing but I wanted to focus on what I can do that’s in my control. After eating clean for the week, still exercising, going to bed a little earlier, and just not worrying about what others need, think, or feel I’ve had little to no palpitations.

Those were my 5 wins of the week. I was able to have some quality family time. Was productive in getting some things done off my list. In addition to having accomplished tasks for my blog, my hobby, and its for me. Good conversation and focused on my Mental and physical health. Not every week will you be able to hit every aspect of self care. But, hitting one prong of self care is a win.

Not every week will I have 5 wins. Some weeks, I may get so overwhelmed to where I only get one or three. Either way, a win is a win. Celebrate your wins. In your next journal session talk about your win or wins of the week or day.

Be well on you journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

Motivation is what get’s you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”-@thewomenglow

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How many times have you started over? How many times have you started something new? Just think of every New Year, we have all these resolutions and goals. But it seems we don’t even make it through the first month. The first step is great. Having the will, Motivation, and courage to want something new and different. QUICK MONDAY MORNING MOTIVATIONAL TIP The problem lies when we don’t become consistent and persistent on what we start. Creating small habits will enhance the Motivation and keep your drive going. It’s perfectly normal and ok, to want to try many different things in life. We all are multifaceted. When engaging something new it’s important to understand and know your why. Then have a plan on how you’re going to navigate this new experience. Lastly, enjoy whatever this new experience offer and learn from the bumps in the road. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

Mind is a beautiful servant, but a dangerous master.” – Buddha

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We are very good at thinking negatively. Replaying the worst situations and experiences that has occurred in our life is easy to do. If the Mind is that powerful, then we can retrain and reprogram to think of a beautiful life. Replay your dream day in the life over and over again and watch it come to reality. SELF CONFIDENCE BEGINS WITH THE MIND Dream up your family, home, vacations, and career you have been wanting. It will all come to pass. Just as all the negative that comes to pass when we speak it up. The Mind is a powerful thing. Use it for the good. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

8 LIFESTYLE HABITS FOR MATURE WOMEN

As I really get good into my 40’s there are some lifestyle shifts taking place intentionally and some unintentional. I am proud to be my age, I don’t look my age, and I want to ensure I continue to be mindful and show my kids how to mature peacefully and with grace.

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  1. First I notice no matter what the situation is, I focus on the good and positive. No I don’t ignore what happened. But I don’t dwell on it either. I know from experience acknowledging what is, and moving on to the good is better for my mental health. As well as me progressing into the life I want to live. Focus on the good and keep positive.
  2. Love my body, hair, and skin as is. I’m not willing to do anything unhealthy to get the ”perfect” body, hair, and skin. Having imperfection on my skin is normal and what makes me, me. Getting a little frizz I’ve come Love, as it give me texture and volume. My body is amazing at this stage in my life after having 3 children. Love the body and skin you’re in. Just continue to take care of it and Love it at every stage.
  3. Following my heart and doing what makes me feel good. No more of me saying yes or volunteering myself when I don’t want to. We’re all guilty of this. But I’ve learned to let the guilt go of letting someone down. I no longer will put myself in an uncomfortable position to make someone else feel good.
  4. Keeping things simple these last couple of years has helped my mental and emotional wellness. One of my favorite sayings is, ”If I have to think about it more than once or if it’s taking me too long to make a decision then, it’s not worth it.” I’m not into going around the block to figure something out. I’ll go with my gut, and let the rest play out. I’ve learned to trust my instincts and not over analyze.
  5. Moisture is key. Keeping my skin looking young and healthy is about me keeping moisturized. The skin on my body is essential as I mature. Focusing on my hands throughout the day is a priority for me now. I have skinny fingers. So when they get dry, they look like dried up french fries. Also my hair is a part of my Moisture routine. Moisture Moisture Moisture.
  6. Enjoy nature as much as I can. Going for a walk and trying different trails and parks is very therapeutic. Being outside in nature is a freeing feeling and allows me to completely let my walls down. Hearing the different sounds and sometimes hearing nothing gives a good sense of peace. SELF CARE HABITS: 8 DAILY HABITS TO FEEL YOUR BEST
  7. Treat myself often. Now this doesn’t have to be anything expensive. But if I want to have a latte from the coffee shop I’m going to treat myself. If I just want a new lipstick I will treat myself. Give back to yourself. Reward yourself. You deserve it and worked hard.
  8. Less is more and I Love it. Eliminating options on a daily allows me to be more productive. It begins in the morning by keeping my routine simple to jump start the day. SIMPLE SELF CARE MORNING ROUTINE WHEN FEELING BLUE Keeping clothes, jewelry, meals, and schedule simple prevents overwhelming episodes from happening. Don’t make life difficult.

Those are 8 differences I noticed since being in my 40’s. I’m loving this stage of my life and I know if I continue I’ll be better for myself and my family. Have fun, keep things simple, and take care of yourself.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

”You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.”-Buddha

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Everyone has a right to get mad, angry, and upset. No matter what we do in life, or how hard we work on ourselves something is going to bother us. However, it’s what we do in that moment of anger. How do you handle your anger? MOTIVATIONAL HEALING: LEARN YOUR SOURCE OF ANGER If you choose to act on it and make the other person feel just as hurt as you, then you’ll probably regret the results in the long run. On the other hand, if you choose to way your options, not respond, or take time responding you’ll be more at peace with how you handled your anger. I’m a firm believer in matching someone’s anger is what makes us most angry. We’ve allowed someone to have power and control over our emotions. Training your mind to remain calm and in control in every situation will help when we are having our moments. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

3 SIMPLE SMOOTHIE RECIPES, 5 INGREDIENTS OR LESS

I used to think eating healthy and maintaining a healthy lifestyle was expensive. But I found some simple smoothie recipes all 5 ingredients or less to help maintain my lifestyle. Starting your fitness journey or creating a healthy lifestyle doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO START YOUR FITNESS JOURNEY Here are 3 smoothie recipes I use to ensure I’m getting the vitamins and nutrients I need, plus greens and veggies on a daily, and hydration.

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  1. Pineapple, Spinach, and Avocado Smoothie
    1 Cup of Coconut Water (https://amzn.to/3axP8Yp)
    1 Avocado
    1 Cup of Spinach (or a handful)
    1/2 Cup of Frozen Pineapple
    1 Scoop of Protein Power (https://amzn.to/3uytJ8w)
  2. Pineapple Strawberry Smoothie
    1 Cup of Coconut Water (https://amzn.to/3axP8Yp)
    1/2 Cup of Frozen Pineapple
    1/2 Cup of Frozen Strawberries
    1 Avocado
    1 Scoop of Protein Powder (https://amzn.to/3uytJ8w)
  3. Berry Banana Smoothie
    1 Bottle of Premier Protein-Vanilla Flavor (https://amzn.to/3NTNZYT)
    1 Banana
    1/2 Cup of Frozen Mixed Berries

Each of these smoothies are simple and quick to blend up. Coconut Water is great for hydration and provides flavor. You can opt to substitute with a flavored coconut Water or use regular Water. Also avocado and spinach is great because they provide great nutrients but are tasteless. I alternate bananas and avocados to give me some substance to the smoothies.

These are just 3 smoothie ideas with 5 ingredients or less you can try to jump start your routine or mix it up. It’s good to play around with flavors, ingredients, and recipes to avoid boredom. Remember don’t think too hard about it, have fun with the flavors and recipes, and keep the ingredients to a minimum. Also, it will save you time, money, and stress. The end result, you having a great balanced healthy lifestyle.

Enjoy!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

JUST TAKE ONE DAY AND BE WORRY FREE

Give yourself permission to have at least one day to be free of worry. Yes, times are challenging but I want to challenge you to take one day and worry about nothing. Don’t think about bills, work, back to school, groceries, gas, and any other thing that has you worried. In the end, it will all workout. How do I know? Because it always does. LIFE DOESN’T HAPPEN TO US…IT’S HOW WE PLAY THE CARDS WE’RE DEALT

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Worrying everyday about everything is stopping you from enjoying that day. Every minute is spent contemplating your next move or next step. You aren’t having fun, doing fun activities, enjoying time with family, or just being in the moment. Furthermore, if you are engaging, it’s probably spent talking about what you’re worried about.

It’s equally important to have someone or something to take your mind off the negative. I’m very grateful that I have friends that send me positive messages only. I don’t share negative content or engage in it, therefore I don’t receive anything back. If you have a circle of people that consistently send you negative stories about what’s going on in the world or negative videos. It’s time to rethink some things.

Having a day to be worry free came to me the other day when my husband said ”We have 2 backpacks ordered, just need for Aiden (our son) to tell us which one he wants.” Something just came over me and I said “I can’t think about that right now.” All I want to do is take a bath, relax, and prepare to have fun at the County Fair tomorrow.

Trust me I know there is a million to do things on my list and I just wanted to focus on having fun at the fair the next day. I knew the kids was excited. I was too. And I just wanted a time and day to not think about back to school, doctor appointments, work schedule, or anything else. Everyday can’t be just about responsibilities.

How I choose to have a stress free day? Plan an activity like going to the County Fair. Make it seem as big as possible even though it may be something small. Put my phone on silent and don’t touch it. If I choose to stay home, then I’ll find something to binge on Netflix, HULU, or Peacock.

It doesn’t have to be anything grand. Just make sure to be intentional about seeking positive thoughts and energy only. RANDOM Thoughts of encouragement

So I challenge you, one day this week, to NOT worry, stress, or think about anything. I know it’s hard. However, you’ll feel recharged and pumped to proceed the rest of the week. Make it a point to say today is all about fun, laughter, and just being.

Happy SundayFunday!!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.