Healthy Lifestyle · Personal Growth · Self care

10 Things I’m Thankful For In 2020

-Waking up to the sun shining in my window
-The fact that I get to say I have a job and get to go to work
-After falling ill, my health is in good condition
-We have been without lack of food and water
-I have family and friends that love me
-I get to enjoy going for a walk, blogging, listening to music, and playing in makeup
-Basic necessities; home, car, insurance, working arms and legs, fingers and toes
-Those veggie fajitas I had for dinner
-Kindness of the stranger who paid for our dinner at Applebees and then McDonalds
-Access to the Internet

This year has been EXTRA. As we approach the holiday season, the best time of the year, it is a constant reminder that we’re still in the year of 2020. How we used to gather and celebrate some of us aren’t able to.

Between working from, to the kids doing virtual learning, and the stress of worrying about my husband whose an essential worker its been trying. But I must say we have been BLESSED beyond measure this year.

As I think back when this all started in February and March, we were scared, confused, and trying to process it. For me I have a 14 year old who’s on the spectum and I couldn’t imagine how I was going to get him through virtual learning along with two other children and working from home. But of course with the GRACE of God we did, and everything worked out just fine.

Just me having the ability to work from home was a blessing. But then at the end of March we experienced a terrible hail storm that totaled both of our vehicles. We were on lockdown for real after that. We couldn’t do anything because at the time appraisers weren’t coming out and body shops were closed. I remember going outside everyday looking at my vehicles sweeping up glass in the driveway.

When it happened my husband and I made the decision we weren’t going to panic, stress, or make any spur of the moment decisions. We literally looked at each other and said “well I guess God said we need to sit at home”. We did and enjoyed every minute of it. If this was even a year ago, I would have panicked and stressed myself out so much. But there were circumstances that were out of my control and I just had to let go.

We’ve all been stressed this year, up and down, and waiting on a moment to just breathe a sigh of relief. But even in the midst, there is so much to be thankful and grateful for. I challenge you to look around and point out the countless things you’re grateful for.

It doesn’t have to be huge. It can be that gallon of milk in the fridge, the fact you got to watch your favorite tv show, or you got to clean the garage.

Use this time to express and share gratitude. Instead of worrying about what it used to be, look at how good it is now.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

STRENGTH

Take Your Power Back

S-Seek the “why”. When we are feeling hopeless, down, and in despair so often we can’t put our finger on how we ended up there. But figuring out the why, how, and what will lead us to the beginning of healing. We can’t pick ourselves up until we understand how we got to where we are.

T-Trust your instinct. How many times have we ignored our gut or went with the second choice instead of the first? Don’t let yourself and others talk you out of what you feel is right.

R-Recharge and reenergize yourself. After so long its easy to get into a slump. But find a way to get yourself back up and ready to fight. The more simple the better. A hot shower, nice walk, and a phone call to a friend will put you in a mood to get up and give it another try.

E-Experience every emotion you feel. When we allow ourselves to feel no matter how much it may hurt, we gather so much strength. If we always run we won’t know our actual strength that we possess.

N-Navigate at your own speed. Run your own race. One of our biggest mistakes is allowing others to dictate when we should get over something, do something, feel something, or just be.

G-Grind it out. Nothing in life that is worth having comes easy or free. Put in the time and work needed to achieve your dream or goal. What you put in, is what you’ll get out. Even if you only have an hour or 30 minutes, use that time to do something.

T-Talk yourself out of it. Talk to yourself aloud while doing housework, driving in the car, or working out. This has been a great tool for me. Have a conversation with yourself and think those thoughts through.

H-Hold on to the good. Even in the most difficult times we can learn a lesson or pick up something. For that matter, we can even learn something from the one person that hurt us, pick up the good and leave the rest.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Mental Health · Personal Growth · Personal Relationships · Self care

The More You Grow…

Conversations that aren’t meaningful or add value to your life, you won’t engage in. Sitting around the table listening to people gossip just gets under your skin.

You begin to pay more attention to what others are saying and doing. Are the actions and words aligned with your values? How they show up in the world and to you is well noted. You begin to value character and integrity more.

Aren’t afraid to ask for help or say you don’t know. You’ve come to a point in life to know and understand you don’t know everything and that’s ok, but you aren’t going to act like it either.

Respectfully speak up for yourself. Turning the other cheek and letting things slide isn’t going to continue to happen.

Understand the importance of getting ahead of situations and problems. Having a proactive mindset as opposed to a reactive mindset.

Stand firm in your position and will not put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Saying yes to get it over with or not to hurt others feelings isn’t something you’re willing to do.

Taking time for yourself, self reflection, and constantly wanting to be a better person is a priority.

Prefer small intimate gatherings inside opposed to going out to large venues with crowds.

The well-being of others are important to you.

The small stuff doesn’t get to you and shift your mood.

No longer feel guilty about taking a day off or taking time out to take care of yourself. You understand that taking care of yourself isn’t up for negotiations.

Don’t worry about trying to impress others with “what” you have. The labels on clothes and shoes doesn’t mean a thing to you. As long as you are comfortable you’re happy. Just not interested in keeping up with the Jones’s.

Sleep is important, essential, and a priority.

What you watch on television, music you listen to, and what you give your time to is well intentional.

The desire to learn and attain knowledge is what you become.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Personal Growth · Self care

What Self Care Is NOT

  1. Self Care isn’t selfish. Being the best you can be to your loved ones is a gift that benefits everyone.
  2. Self care isn’t a quick fix. It’s consistent daily practices to have a fulfilling life.
  3. Self care isn’t a one and done thing. It’s a lifestyle and some practices may change or have to adjust as you grow through life.
  4. Self care doesn’t erase your problems. It’s your foundation and what you fall back on to get you back on track.
  5. Self care doesn’t mean you aren’t going to get upset or have a bad day. It allows you to overcome, forgive, and move on faster than before.
  6. Self care doesn’t make you perfect. It says “I am human and have emotions that I need to deal with as they come.”
  7. Self care doesn’t mean you aren’t going to break from routine. It gives you experience on knowing how to regroup and get back to you.
  8. Self care doesn’t mean that you are depressed or angry. It’s the act of creating a good mental and emotional space.
  9. Self care isn’t the only thing that is going to make your life better. It’s a prong on your life wheel that you need on your journey.
  10. Self care doesn’t look the same for everyone. It’s intentional, thoughtful, and catered to your personal needs.



    RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Personal Relationships · Self care · Spiritual Health

Holiday Season 2020: Make This Holiday Season A Meaningful One

There is no doubt the best time of the year has approached us, ‘tis the season. We already see Christmas decorations in the stores as well as Thanksgiving. In a normal year, holiday season can be stressful for some, but in this trying year of 2020 the stress, anxiety, and pressure can be even more suffocating.

Now more than ever is all the more reason to remember what the holiday season is about and to remember we all can still have an amazing, loving, joyful, and meaningful holiday season.

There is no room for self doubt, pity, anger, frustration, depression, anxiety, and darkness this holiday season. Do not let this season fly by and not use the opportunity to divulge in gratitude, joy, appreciation, togetherness, laughter, and love.

Being grateful for just making it to another holiday season is reason enough to get up and smile. There are many families this year that have experienced some unthinkable pain and loss. When I was growing up we were taught that holiday season is important because there are some people that aren’t here this year that was here last year.

Use this time to get together with family, if its safe of course, and enjoy just being together. There isn’t anything else in this world that’s more important than laughing together, taking photos, hugging one another, and breathing in the same air. Just think back almost nine months ago when we had no idea how we would make it through this year.

In my family, we use holidays as a way to gas our tanks and fuel up to get through the year. Sometimes we just need those couple of days to not think about work, finances, troubles, schedules, meetings, school, relationships, or whatever else is weighing heavy on us. Being around loved ones allows us to remember who we are, that we are loved, and we’re not fighting this fight alone. As long as we have a meal and everyone arrived safely, we could careless about a gift . That is our gift.

Yes this year many people are out of work, experiencing financial difficulties like no other, children are home schooling, some don’t know how they are going to pay bills, or where the next meal is coming from but guess what you still can have a faithfilled, enjoyable, and happy holiday season.

It isn’t about how much you spend on a gift or even if you gift at all. The gift is the joy of being together. It is so much truth and value in the saying “eat, drink, and be merry”. Start by creating an atmospheric presence in the home. Make your home inviting with decorations and scents of the season. Set a mood of calmness, peace, and relaxation for everyone.

We are in the time where DIY is the best decor. Have the kids and the whole family for that matter get creative and put some personal touches of gratitude throughout the home. Years ago at my office we came up with a chain of gratitude. We cut strips of construction paper about 2 inches in width, in holiday colors and passed them around to every employee including the CEO. The instructions were to write down things we were grateful and happy for. Next we would link them together to see how long the chain could grow and for the entire holiday season we hung it around the office. It was amazing to say the least and to walk in everyday and just see what others were grateful for and how far they’ve come through the year was inspiring.

Candles are always a great way to set the mood. Get some hot chocolate and whipped cream, Netflix and chill, and take photos. Document the journey.

Use the technology that’s available to you. Have family Zoom meetings. Talk about what each other is cooking, how was school or work, and connect. Staying connected in some way will keep everyone spirits high.

Don’t stress about gifts. Give what your heart desire. Give what’s in your budget. And guess what, if thats nothing more than a phone call to say I love you and I miss you, then thats worth a million. Give a gift of commitment to engage with the family more.

Fill your heart by volunteering, donating time, money if you have the means, or serve a meal in your community. Trust me, this is a gift. In the end you’ll be filled with so much gratitude.

Remember to be thankful, you’re alive, breathing, appreciate this moment, there is a lesson that 2020 has given us, and live in your truth. Don’t worry about what others are doing this holiday season.

Laugh, Smile, Eat, and enjoy each other.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

mental health · Personal Relationships · Self care

Things To Know About Introverts

As an introvert

-We actually do like people and socializing. Just so happen we prefer a small select few to socialize with.

-We are very observant.

-We truly do enjoy being alone and spending time with ourselves. Matter of factly, that will be our first choice is to do something in solitude.

-We absolutely don’t care for the small talk. A meaningful conversation with substance is more fulfilling.

-Chances of us having or wanting a lot of friends is very slim. We’d prefer a small circle of people to keep close.

-We aren’t shy, timid, or fearful. More on the reserved side.

-We aren’t stuck up or anti social.

-We won’t speak unless we have something to say. Not going to say anything just to fill the silence or be apart of a conversation.

-We enjoy going out, vacations, beach, walking, and being outdoorsy.

-There isn’t anything wrong with us we don’t need to be fixed.

-We aren’t rude.

-Introverts are not depressed, have anxiety, or low self esteem.

I’ve totally embraced and love being an introvert. I am me and it feels good. Embrace and love who you are. Don’t let the outside world make you feel like there is something wrong with you because you aren’t doing what the mass majority is doing.

BE YOU!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Personal Growth · Self care

Self Care: Sleep Routine

As I’ve approached a certain age, the importance of me getting the proper amount of sleep has become a priority. Once I realized and admitted to myself that sleep is an essential part of my self care routine and I needed to make it a priority, the next step was me creating a sleep routine or nighttime routine.

So often at the end of the night we go take a shower or bath, lights out, and then go to bed. You ever find yourself not able to fall asleep, restless, still have a million things on your mind, and eventually you don’t get a good nights rest. Well that’s because body has laid down but your mind is still wide awake.

Why Getting Proper Sleep is Important

Sleep is important because its our charge and refuel for the next day. Just like you plug in your phone at night, our mind and body needs to be charged.

Mentally getting proper sleep helps us the next day remain alert, focus, and prepared to attentively tackle the day. When we are tired mentally, we’re more apt to be anxious which leads to anger and frustration. Lack of proper sleep leads to more stress and mentally being broken down.

Physically, when we get proper sleep, our bodies are rejuvenated and energized to get through the next day. Sleep gives our muscles a break and let them rebuild. Lack of sleep leaves our bodies feeling heavy, stiff, and fatigued.

Getting enough sleep allows our emotional health to remain stable. Because we’re tired mentally and physically the way we begin to process the days course is off. The smallest detour in the day may cause you to lash out, have a breakdown, and the snowball would just keep rolling.

Our productivity when we get sleep in increased. Having the energy to complete tasks, maneuver all the balls we juggle, and have the ability to prioritize is because the sleep has allowed our mind and body to recharge.

How to Create A Sleep routine

A sleep routine or nighttime routine is important because you need to unwind and unpack the days events. It’s sort of sealing or capping off the day so it does’t carry over into the next. Not having a routine will allow the days to run over and you still won’t rest at night.

Having a sleep or nighttime routine doesn’t have to take long, its time set aside to get you prepared for the next day, let go of what was today, and keeps your wellness in check.

The first thing is to pick a time to get started. The easiest way to get started is by tidying up the house and making sure its ready for the next day. This not only physically sets you up for success in the morning, but it puts your mental in a space of resetting. It may change or adjust as you become comfortable or life happen. Of course its going to vary depending on your career, if you have a family, and the days events.

Next in creating a sleep or night routine is logging off. That means checking emails, social media, playing your favorite games, and yes even watching the news. You don’t want the last thing you see or hear to be something that is going to interrupt you mental space when lying down to sleep.

In addition to logging off make sure you have written down or looked over your to do list or appointments for the next day. You know where you have to be and when. This one in particular is important for me because I can then create an outfit in my head for work or even get it out.

Of course a sleep or nighttime routine isn’ t complete without a shower or bath to wash the day down the drain. Take your time as this may be the only moment to yourself you have all day. Do your skincare routine and prep your hair for the next day. When we look good, we feel good, and present our best selves.

Lastly make it a point to get in the bed around the same time every night. When you do, don’t sit up and watch television. Decide to journal or read for 30 minutes. Listen to some soft music or read a devotional, my favorite.

Creating a routine puts our mental and a physical in clear headspace that set us up for productivity the next day. Most of the time we are so drained that we are in a rush, making decisions that aren’t thought out, and leads to stress and breakdown.

Sleep is important for everyone no matter what you’re doing, where you’re going, and what you have.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

FORGIVE

F-Forgive yourself first. Forgive yourself for everything you are feeling guilty about or regret. Whatever you said, done, allowed, ignored, or encouraged forgive yourself. Forgiveness is for you not them. Remember why you’re worried and losing sleep they are enjoying life while you carry this useless burden. Forgiving doesn’t mean you agree or you aren’t remorseful, it simply frees you and allows you to move forward.

O-Overthinking ruins your mental and emotional wellness. Overthinking also ruins our relationships, keeps us in our head, effects our ability to be productive at work, and our everyday life is greatly compromised. Trust yourself, make your decision, and forgive.

R-Regrets are useless. We can’t take back what was said or done. We can’t get time back either. The best thing to do is apologize if the misunderstanding was on our behalf, understand why it was hurtful, and grow the relationships from there. If the misunderstanding was on the other side, express why you were hurt, if they apologize, great kiss and makeup. However, if they don’t that’s even better, because when we express to someone how they hurt us and they don’t apologize, they have let us know how we show up in their life. Forgive them anyway, and have a relationship at arms length.

Forgiveness is for you.

G-Grudges effect you not the other person. Holding a grudge is like a kid constantly picking the scab off. The road to healing and forgiveness is prolonged. Also you are the one spending time and energy going out of your way trying to stay angry and thus making excuses for why you’re staying angry. Your sleep, eating habits, daily life, and wellness is all effected by holding a grudge.

I-Interrupt the bad or negative patterns of behaviors. We talk about what we want to do so much sometimes you just have to “get off the pot or piss” as my mom says. Stop talking about it and do it. That negative talk about yourself or others for that fact, interrupt the pattern in mid sentence. Bad sleeping habits, eating habits, language, or anything that you want to stop or get better with just take the leap and start. Forgive yourself for letting so much time go by.

V-Victories are won when we let go and forgive. It’s a victory for everyone. The tension is released, everyone is smiling and feel like themselves again. Benefitting from forgivenesses stop us from walking on eggshells. The muscles in our jaws are relaxed, the wrinkles in our foreheads are smoothed, and we’ve loosen the lips. Our frown has turned into a smile and we can show our beautiful faces again.

E-Express yourself some way. Show your personality in art, fashion, music, writing, dancing, makeup or whatever you love. While we’re shy or thinking people may talk about us for being us, that is the one thing others need to see about us. You never know who you may inspire or how free you may become. The more colorful, wierd, or extreme it is the better. Do it unapologetically.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

mental health · Personal Growth · Self care · Spiritual Health

CHANGE

C-Choose you. Make yourself a priority. Whatever you’ve been doing that isn’t working for you, change it, and do the opposite to begin living for you.

H-Heal your open wounds. What you didn’t get when you were a child know its not your fault and give it to yourself now. Whatever hurt and pain you’re carrying free yourself from it and don’t let it keep holding you hostage from living the life you deserve and want. We can’t change what happened but we can learn and grow from it.

A-Achieve one goal this year. Begin with setting out to make one goal and work on that until you have achieved it. Change doesn’t happen in a finger snap, take baby steps until your courage and confidence builds.

N-Now is the time. If we always say next time, the time will never come. Things begin to change when we take action and do something.

G-Growth is a process. It takes us on twists and turns we didn’t expect. Embrace the journey and process. Change is uncomfortable, but thats how you know you’re growing.

E-Eliminate the negative talk about yourself. Be good to yourself, especially in your head and what you say to yourself. We know its very easy to pick out something we don’t like about ourselves, change that and point out all the goodness in you.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Mental Health · Personal Growth · Self care

Are You A People Pleaser?

The most important thing for people to remember is they are enough the way God made them. They are unique and no else on this earth can be them no matter how hard they try. With knowing that we have people walking around living their life pleasing others while they suffer. Some are admitted people pleasers and others are in denial or just don’t know.

If you have to give up an arm, leg, and your big toe for others to want you to play with them in their sand box then they aren’t worth it. You don’t have to over extend or prove that you’re worthy. You being you is enough.

If you find yourself constantly apologizing even when you haven’t did anything or no one said anything then you need to stop. This means apologizing to your mate, friends, coworkers and even strangers. Apologizing isn’t going to make them like you more and doesn’t excuse their behavior towards you.

If you find you the one always volunteering your time and money specifically when no one else wants to then you need to stop it. Just because you are willing to lose sleep, time with your family, or spend your hard earned money doesn’t mean they are going to accept you for who you are. They are only going to continue to use you up dry.

If you never say no or always go with the flow then you need to stop it. Just because they invite you doesn’t mean they generally want you there. If you can’t give any input or suggestions on what you’re going to part take in and go anyway then you need to stop it. Most of the time they want you there to do the work they don’t want to.

I know it could be easier said than done but taking small baby steps builds your confidence more and more. You’ll begin to feel good that you stuck up for yourself. Yes those who are use to you giving in will be angry but they’ll either respect you creating boundaries or move on. With that decision you’ll know if they were really there for a true relationship with you.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.