Since the pandemic many have had an awakening of becoming their own boss versus working the current job they have. They had an epiphany about what they missed out on, financial freedom, flexibility, and being appreciated. However, depending on who you ask there may or may not be a right or wrong way to go about it.

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The Risk Taker

First you have those that says I’m going to bet on myself. I’m tired of working a 9-5. I want to be my own boss. They want the flexibility to work or create when they are most effective. The risk taker also is someone who has many ideas, creative, and very social. They have much confidence in themselves and says I’m going to win no matter what. The risk taker says if you have a plan B, then you aren’t putting all your efforts into Plan A. So of course you’re going to have to rely on Plan B one day. FINANCIAL MINDSET: WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

As Steve Harvey once said, “If my plan A doesn’t work then I’ll create another plan A.”

There isn’t a certain time to be stable to branch out on your own. Anything can happen. The more you try to work and save until you have enough, the longer you’re prolonging your dream and happiness. The comfort will always have you pushing back the deadline to begin your own.

The risk taker may also feel the company can shut down at any moment. They can lay you off without warning. Cut positions, hours, and benefits. Then where will that lead you.

The Cautious One

Next, we have those that says I have a family and bills. What about insurance. What if something happens. They are used to that guaranteed amount and needs that security “just in case.” It’s best to save at least six months, some say, before quitting your job. You need to make sure you’re financially secure and the family is stable while pursuing your dream. It’s all about security and comfort.

So do you quit your job and bet on yourself? Or keep that stable job until you feel you’re ready to stand on your own. Either way there are pros and cons to each. Depending on your life, lifestyle, circumstances, financial status, and many other factors. They both have the same end goal. To be financially free and to have something to pass down to their children. Doing what they love. Having fun. At some point working minimum hours while receiving maximum profit.

I’m a believer in your job or career should fit into your life not your life fitting into your job.

Which mindset are you? Quit or not?


Be you so you can be free.


In the last couple of weeks after I do my morning journaling , I do some affirmations. I began doing these affirmations to boost my confidence in my new position and to help me get rid of the anxiety I began to carry about it. After several weeks I learned that it does give me mental reminders throughout the day. 10 DAILY REMINDERS FOR A POSITIVE MINDSET Because when we write things down we have a visual and action that stays in our mind. Depending on how I feel, some new affirmations come to light while there have been some that remain constant. If you’re feeling not so confident or need some mental reminders to boost your confidence and self esteem, take a moment to write some daily affirmations. Here are some of my favorite affirmations that gives me confidence

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Daily Affirmations

-I am a good agent
-I am a good worker
-I am a kind person
-I am a good person
-I am confident in who I am
-I am good enough as I am today
-I am a good mom
-I am in control of my emotions
-I am strong
-I am doing my best
-I am proud of myself
-I believe in myself
-I am beautiful
-I have something to offer
-I am deserving of all dreams, visions, and goals I have

Those are 15 affirmations that I do daily to keep my mental bank in overflow. The key to affirmations is not just writing them, but you have to believe what you’re telling yourself. Along with the beliefs you must rely on them when faced with a situations that gives you anxiety. When I’m faced with a tough task or client, I pause, and repeat at least 3 affirmations before resuming. I am able to take control, do my job, and not let them ruin my day. I remain in control of my emotions.


Be you so you can be free.


I live a simple and basic life that I am happy with it. We live in a society where more is a standard of success. The more you work, says you’re more successful. Therefore, you’re more financially free, happy, and living your best life as they say. The more lavish your vacation is, the more successful you are. The list goes on.

Recently, I made the admission inadvertently that I live a simple, basic, and slow life. Whatever you want to call it. I also feel this is my gift that I give to others as well. When I engage with others I know they feel a sense a calm, relief, and can breathe a breath for a moment. When someone come around, they don’t feel like they have to be ”on”. They don’t have to prove what they have, what they know, how much money they have, how much they work, or how big their home is. I find it very refreshing and rewarding that I can provide that for someone.

So how do I live a basic or slow life? I’m am very comfortable with having less. Self Care: Declutter and Make Room for Growth I don’t need to have the latest trends in fashion. I am happy with my couple pairs of pants, which are basic in colors. Several pairs of black and grey pants. I love being able to create multiple outfits with the basic tops I pair with them. Once I find a shirt or pant I like, I will purchase it in several colors. Once I find the style to fit and it’s comfortable I’m not straying away. My wardrobe is pretty basic. I’ve never been one to want to be the center of attention anyway.

The next thing that made me realize I was living a basic life was not having the desire to go on this lavish vacation. Once again, my family was brainstorming on our next family vacation and everything they said was great but I just couldn’t understand why everyday had to be so filled with activity. On the other hand, my simple suggestions was shot down quickly. I would prefer to just be in a cottage in the country with nature and the water. That is an amazing vacation for me. Peace and tranquility. Maybe once I will be able to get out and enjoy the town I visit, but after that I can enjoy the quiet scenery with good food.

This may be a controversial one, but on my birthday I can just take the day off and do nothing. I’m grateful to see another day, however I’d rather spend it so I can remember it. I don’t even need to have a big gift on that day. Just food and spending time with people I love will make a great birthday for me.

Simple things like washing my face and doing my skincare routine makes me happy. Using a new body wash in the shower makes me feel good. Cleaning my home and making it smell good keeps me warm and fuzzy on the inside. Burning candles and binge watching housewives is living my best life for me.

This though came to me after I took notice that every Monday morning, my answer to my coworker when she says ”Ros what you do this weekend?” is nothing. I said she must think I am the most boring person. But I’m not bored or unhappy. I love being able to be in the moment, and remember days, events, and family gatherings. I didn’t like the feeling of going out and because it wasn’t about the event I didn’t enjoy myself or remember what went on.

It’s perfectly ok to enjoy being simple or basic. Our culture and society has us thinking that if you’re not doing the most, then you aren’t living. That couldn’t be any further from the truth. Slowing down and taking a moment to think, breathe, and live literally in the moment is great living. I enjoy my simple, basic, and slow life. I was one never to desire to have all the bells and whistles.

If you like the simple basic things in life don’t let anyone make you feel like you should be doing more. Or there is something wrong with you because you have no desire to be doing more. On the other hand, I’m not knocking anyone who loves the bells and whistles. I love those who have large personalities and can light up a room when they walk in. Whatever your heart desires, you deserve to have it all.


Be you so you can be free.


Get up and get to work. Ok, so you’ve lost your job. There was an misunderstanding and you had a huge falling out with your best friend. On top of all that, your kid is running a muck. Not to mention, you have broken up with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Or your marriage has fallen apart. The hot water heater has went out, the washer is broken, and you’ve had a flood in the basement. The only thing you are thinking is what the bleep else can go wrong.

Now that it seems the world literally has crashed upon you, you are ready to throw in the towel and give up. Oh no we not!!!!!!!! You’ve had a moment to scream, cry, and lay in the pit of darkness. But I know it won’t get better if you continue to lay in the darkness. You have to find the light. However, if you can’t find the light, create your light.

Get up and get to working on yourself. Clean yourself up mentally. Daily Self Care Habits To Boost Your Mental Health If someone isn’t on board with your vision for yourself mentally and emotionally, then you have to love them from a distance. Furthermore, as you walk toward your new light, you are going to have to leave people where they are stuck at. Everyone can’t go with you. You can’t pull someone who isn’t ready or who doesn’t want to go.

If its time for you to explore a new career path, then you need to do so. I know for me, when I get bored and unmotivated the tasks aren’t challenging. It’s time for me to move on to something that will challenge me and get me excited about working. If you wake up in the morning and dread going to work, then you aren’t being fulfilled.

No matter what you’re carrying on your shoulders, drop it and move on. Have your moment and mourn the loss of it. But after that, its time to get up and get to work.No one can change your life but you. If you continue to sit in the dark, its only going to effect you.

Don’t worry about who did what. Or what someone did that helped you get into a situation. We must take personal responsibility. Own and admit to the role we played in our downfall. Once we take ownership, we take back authority and control. Leaving the responsibility in someone else’s hands, leaves us handicapped in taking action towards getting our life back.

I know it hurt like no other pain you’ve felt. I know you feel empty, lost, and saying I have nothing to even begin. But guess what, you do. Your will to live, get better, and grow is all you need. Once you make up in your mind, this is not the end for me, you’ll find what you need to pull yourself out.

Get up and get to work. You can do it. Remember its not what happens to you, but how you handle it.


Be you so you can be free.


After a year and some months now, I now have the urge again to wear makeup. The beauty in life is that you can change your mind. You can change your mind and go back and forth as often as you’d like or need to. Probably almost two years ago, I wanted to challenge myself and live my life makeup free. I was having feelings of not wanting to depend on going out without a “mask”.

Everyone knows I was and still is a beauty junkie at heart. I still love all things makeup, skin, nails, and hair. But, I wanted to give my skin a break and just love me in my own skin. I’ve done that now for a little over a year and ready to go out again in makeup.

Throughout the last year, I’ve really enjoyed showing up to world bare faced. In fact, I can say I was more confident in going out naked. I was able to relax and just enjoy giving the world me, authentically. At first, I thought I was going to feel self conscious and was worried about going to the office and not “looking” professional.

That was something I quickly got over. I told myself that me wearing makeup has nothing to do with my job performance. Makeup had nothing to do with how I approach my day. I was still able to go into work and show out.

But you know what, you can change your mind. I now want to get back into putting a little extra time into myself. Because I can. That is one of the reasons I was drawn to makeup and skincare. While experimenting, I’m in my own world showing myself some love. And that’s what it’s all about. Doing something you love and spending time with yourself at the same time.

With that being said, you can change your mind. No matter what decision you made prior. You have the right to say I want to try again. You are under no obligation to stick to a decision. Give yourself room and permission to try again and again and again.

When others attempt to question your decisions, choices, and desires don’t get upset. Simply let them know you’ve changed your mind because you can and its your right. Remember never let others opinions about your life and the choices you make feel any type of way. What you do have nothing to do with others. Now go live your life and change your mind back if you want to.


Be you so you can be free.