SIMPLE DAYS ARE THE BEST DAYS

So often we have this misconception that each day has to be filled with an event or something big happening. When in actuality, the simple days are the best days. As I’ve matured and go on this journey I love having a simple full productive day.

Expect To Have A Great Day

What Does That Look Like:

It starts off with me sleeping in with my husband. The both of us not getting up at 5a.m. and can lay there to watch the sun come through the window is peace, love, joy, and calmness. Hearing my kids gradually wakeup when they are ready instead of me waking them up to get ready for school I love hearing. To see their personalities and who likes to get up early and who likes to sleep in is amazing.

Next, it’s getting dressed in my comfortable lounge around house clothes, but still cute enough to go to the store. Having a moment getting showered, dressed, and ready for the day triggers the positive side of my brain. Doing my skincare routine and making sure I’m presentable and feel good about myself sets my mood.

After that, opening up blinds, curtains, and windows to let the natural sunlight and air come through. When you allow nature to come in, it opens your eyes, heart, and mind to a new spiritual realm. It makes you want to go out for a walk, lifts your spirits, and know darkness is only temporary. SELF CARE HABITS: 8 DAILY HABITS TO FEEL YOUR BEST

Fixing breakfast for my family and having the smell of coffee coming from the brewer makes me feel good and excites me. I love being a mom and wife. Taking care of my family is something I pride myself on. They are the air I breathe.

After everyone has had breakfast they break off and do whatever it is they heart desires. This is having a simple day that is the best. My daughter goes to draw and use her creativity. My sons and husband get in their time on the video game. While I, do laundry, edit blog post, post listings on Poshmark, do a quick tidy around the house, or go for a walk.

That may take a couple of hours and then my daughter and I will play in hair and makeup. She may want me to change her hairstyle while I go and play in new makeup I’ve purchased. Either way spending quality time with her is the best.

Well, now it’s early evening and we’re hungry. So we decide to go have dinner. Having dinner out is fun, great conversation with the kids, and good family time. The kids are talking without prompts and we’re all engaged because they aren’t distracted with their phones. After dinner we may go to the store and get ice cream or walk around because the kids just want to go buy ”something.”

Lastly, we go home unwind, shower, and wash the day off. Maybe watch some movie or find something to binge watch. Sometimes we get alone time because the kids are off doing their own thing and other times they may join us in whatever we watch.

The beauty of this simple day is that it was filled with love, family, gratitude, and variety. All while doing ”nothing” I was able to sleep in, spend time with my husband alone, have family time, get a little work done, and still have time to rest. I can’t ask for a better day.

Simple days are the best days. Don’t stress yourself out trying to ”make” the day fun or exciting. You are already fun and exciting. Focus on what you have and the small details and the best simple day will come to you. You don’t have to do anything extra to have a great day. When you wake up expect to have a great day no matter what.

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RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

9 DAILY FEMININE SELF CARE HABITS TO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD

As I’ve matured, I own and relish in the fact that I’m high maintenance. High maintenance in a good way. There are some feminine daily self care habits I do without even blinking. These habits make me feel good on the inside, keeps me motivated, and helps with my confidence as I tackle the day.

These 9 daily habits ensure I’m always ready no matter what happens, I’m presentable, yet comfortable, and I can put my best foot forward. In no particular order here are 9 daily feminine self care habits for a good day. Daily Self Care Habits To Boost Your Mental Health

Apply Perfume Daily
Now I used to be one that wasn’t a perfume girl. However, a couple spritz of perfume gives you the confidence to know you are smelling good all day. It wakens your senses and gives you confidence to stand in your sexiness.

Moisturize
Specifically body lotion. Without question after showering applying lotion is a must. I met many women who say they don’t do it everyday. Applying lotion not only keeps your skin moisturized, but it’s the number way to keep your skin youthful looking. Any kind of skin concerns, a good lotion will help. Having a nice soft body and skin, gives you permission to feel feminine and sexy.

Lip Gloss
Moisturize those lips. Keep those lips exfoliated and moisturized. Even if you don’t wear lip stick or lip gloss, chap stick is still a ladies essential. Moisturized lips keeps my lips plumped and adds shine to your smile.

Comb Your Hair Daily
Seems like a no brainer. But taking 5 minutes to brush your hair instantly boost your self esteem. You care enough about you, to say I’m going to brush my hair back. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant, but at least when UPS knocks, you look cute.

Clothes That Fit
Just because you aren’t going anywhere or its the weekend doesn’t mean you have to be in baggy clothes all day. There are some amazing brands that sell comfy clothes that accentuate your body. While lounging around, cooking, and cleaning give yourself permission to look sexy. It does something to us mentally when we are wearing our husbands hoodies all day. Every time you walk pass a mirror you feel like Blah. Thats not our goal or what we want.

Simple Piece of Dainty Jewelry
I’ve made it a habit to wear a piece of jewelry everyday. This took me a while, but the shine and sparkle it gives on your skin is another instant confidence booster. You look good and feel good at the same time. That will motivate you to do anything. Some small earrings of course. But add a dainty bracelet or necklace.

Matching Underwear
Now this is tricky. If you can’t match your underwear everyday, then make sure they are cute everyday. No matter what we do, everything starts behind the scenes or internal. You have every right to look good and feel sexy for yourself. If you don’t feel it, then no one else will.

Oral Hygiene
Make sure we are taking care of our teeth and gums. Floss and brushing at least twice a day. I’m late to the party but I’ve been loving this Water Pik. I’ve noticed a huge difference in my oral health since incorporating it into my routine. Having a good fresh mouth and clean teeth gives you confidence when you go out.

Focus on Your Hands
I have dry skin, so applying lotion to my hands is something I do all day. Keep your hands moisturize and skin plump. I know when I don’t, my fingers look like dried up french fries because my fingers are so skinny already. In the event you have a meeting or need to shake someone hand you can do so confidently.

These are just a couple of girly things I do to keep myself confident. There isn’t anything wrong with being high maintenance. It’s all about what you perceive as high maintenance. As long as whatever you do makes you feel good.

Your self care habits doesn’t have to take an hour. Before you begin your day just spend 15 minutes with yourself making sure you look and feel good about yourself. That will set you up to have a great day.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SELF CARE HABITS: 6 WEEKEND HABITS FOR A GOOD WEEK

There are somethings that I do every weekend to help me jump start the week. Of course, our self care habits on the weekend looks different than the weekday habits. On the other hand, I’ve noticed, I have some self care weekend habits that I’ve been doing for years. These habits helps me mentally prepare for the week and keeps me organized.

  1. Change Linen. 🛌 Every Saturday or Sunday, I have to change the linen on everyone’s bed. This is something I did as a little girl growing up with my parents. So I guess I just kept that tradition going. But it’s not just changing sheets. It’s a symbolic way of leaving the week prior behind or throwing it away. Sort of like a spiritual cleansing. Not too mention, the cleanliness effect it has on keeping your home well kept.
  2. Shred Mail. 📨 To help keep the clutter at bay, I shred mail on the weekend. Organization, clutter, and chaos in the home is a reflection of your life. So I like to get rid of any old mail, bills that have been paid, and junk to keep it from piling up. This has been a huge boost for clarity and keeping up with important finances. Handle Your Business…Get Your Finances Together In the meantime, it’s a great confidence booster to your mental knowing you’re being responsible and handling business.
  3. Clean fridge. 🥡 After a long week of cooking and the kids placing half of a water bottle in the fridge, all week, I like to clean it out. This prevents me from spending money on things at the grocery that I already have. It’s always good to clean out and rotate any food to the front that needs to be used first. Also, I am able to figure out what I plan to cook for the week.
  4. Deep Condition Hair. 💇‍♀️ I do a good deep condition on my hair. After working out all week, I like to give my hair some TLC. I’m not one to go to the salon, I enjoy doing my hair myself. Once again, it’s how I love on myself. I challenge myself to learn and do it. The act and process of washing and conditioning boosts myself esteem. To know I’m taking time to make my hair healthy and feel good is a great confidence booster.
  5. Set Calendar. 📅 I go over everyone schedule and set the times and dates in my phone. This gives me an idea of how the week is going to go. I can plan meals, appointments, and other things around what we all have going on. However, I allow for adjustments and rescheduling. 📝 Nothing is ever set in stone. Sometimes it’s good to have an outline of the week. On one hand, you’re not going in blindly, but not bound either.
  6. Sleep In. 😴 After waking up at 5a.m. ⏱ during the week, I like to sleep in. Now my idea of sleeping in is to 7 or 8 in the morning. I can’t lay there for too long, as I’ve got older my body hurts. But I typically wake up earlier, I just tend to lay there and day dream for a while. It rejuvenates my body and give it the rest it needs. Self Care: Sleep Routine

The weekends are a time to relax and unwind. But we do have responsibilities that need to be taken care of. Therefore, our small weekend self care habits helps keeps us structured. I know there are many other weekend self care habits that we all do. As always, the goal is to help you have a easier life so you can enjoy your days.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL HEALTH: 6 TIPS TO BOOST SELF ESTEEM

Feeling down on yourself, I’ve been there. Boost your self esteem with these simple tips. They are free and simple. The transformation starts on the inside and then moves to the outside. Our mental and emotional is very important. However, the outside must match the inside. The insecurities we face about our looks can heavily effect our mental and emotional health.

The first thing to do is not compare yourself to what you see on television, internet, print, and every other place that is filtered. No one body is perfect. Nor is their skin perfect. Accept every ounce of weight, stretch marks, cellulite, wrinkle, pimple, and big toe. Side note: The big toe was for me. My second toe is bigger than my first toe. And, I have a six head not a forehead. But who cares. The key here is, our flaws is what makes us unique and stand out from the rest. I know for me, I want to look like me.

Once you’re able to love all of you, you can then dress and style yourself to your body. There are many clothing brands out there. Find the right style, comfort, and fit for you. If you are worried about your shirts, start with having the right bra. Sometimes having a bra with full coverage makes a world of difference. It’s the simple things that we can correct that will make a huge difference. If you’re worried about your mid section, don’t buy low rise nothing. That only makes you accentuate areas you don’t want. The point is to learn your curves and work with them.

After that, boost your self esteem with a hair cut, color, or style. Sometimes we can hold on to a style and it will make us look more worn out that we are. Refresh with new hair to give yourself a new attitude. My philosophy is ”it’s only hair, it will grow back.” My hair is usually the first thing to change when I need a shift change or mood booster. Short, long, curly, straight, black or highlighted I’ve done it all. Recreate yourself and see yourself into a new light. How To Boost Your Confidence With Daily Self Care

Get out of a funk and boost your mood by just window shopping. Get out of the house. Go to a mall or store and just browse. Walk around and get outfit ideas. Figure new ways to decorate your home. Look at different foods for new recipes. And what do you know, you’ll see someone you know. Have a great conversation and forget why you were in a funk in the first place. On the other hand, you just might find a stranger and have a conversation. Either way you have opened your mind and heart to receive some good energy. I’ve done this many times to boost myself up.

Feeling down on your luck, get dressed up and dolled up to do nothing. This is the easiest self esteem boost tip you can do. Unconsciously, I’ve done this and didn’t realize it. I’ll wake up and before you know it I’m walking around on Sunday morning in a face full of makeup. But the rest of the day, I’m happy. Every time you walk pass a mirror you enjoy looking at yourself and that instantly boosts your self esteem.

Lastly, if you’re not in a good mood accept an invite. We get so used to making excuses and not accepting invites that we’ve forced ourselves into loneliness. Just because you’ve never been to an event like the one you were invited to doesn’t mean you won’t enjoy it. You never know who you’ll meet. I received job opportunities by having lunch with someone.

I know the best thing to do is to get up, get out, and move. Make yourself look good, so you can feel good, and then be able to receive good. When our self esteem is low, we aren’t able to see good in anything. When in actuality, the good is there. There are many more ways to boost your self esteem. But start with what you have to boost your self esteem and then build up. We have to shift our mind to focus on the positive.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HOW TO BOOST YOUR MOOD INSTANTLY

There are many people right now who want to get up but just don’t know how to snap out of it. However, there are many tips on how to boost your mood instantly. These mood boosting tips can be done by anyone and any where. All you need is your willingness and able body to do so.

Tip #1-Be Grateful For Another Day

The first thing I do before my two feet’s hit the floor is Thank God for another day. That instant gratification removes any negative thoughts of not wanting to go to the office. Or whatever you may have going on that day. My grandma used to say some people went to sleep last night and didn’t wake up. You were on the “wake up list” as Tabitha Brown would say. So just being thankful to open those eyes again is something to be happy for.

After saying thank you, that sends a message to the people in your head to click the positive button. From there, tell yourself aloud, “today is going to be a great day”. I know this to work and be true because those are the two lines I say to myself every morning. Expecting to have a great day sets your mood for the day. You have made a conscious decision to be positive and have a great day.

Hallelujah, Thank You Jesus. Today is going to be a great day!!!!

Tip #2-Open the Curtains

How you can boost your mood instantly is seeing the sun shine through your windows. Open those curtains or blinds and let the natural light shine upon you. That instantly boost your mood. Seeing the sun shine makes you feel happy and want to go out to enjoy the day. It brings a natural smile to your face and makes you stick your shoulders back.

Bonus Tip: Open some windows for some fresh air. There isn’t anything like the fresh smell of nature. Opening windows allows fresh air to flow through the entire house to awaken your spirits.

Tip#3-Freshen Yourself Up

After thanking God, and letting some sun light shine through, go freshen yourself up. Now if you have to go to work of course you’re going to get ready. But even on the weekend, if you work from home, or if you are still looking for employment spend a few minutes investing in you. For example, brushing teeth, gargling, washing face, showering, putting on a little perfume, and some lounge clothes will lift your mood instantly. I know those things seems like a no brainer , but there are some who can’t even get themselves up just to do the basics. As my father used to say “look like you care about yourself.” SPRING SELF CARE TIPS YOU CAN DO NOW

Tip#4-Clean the House

How to instantly boost your mood, clean the house and get rid of clutter. This is my all time go to. I use cleaning as a 3 in 1 deal. It’s my way of getting out of a funk, exercise, and mental therapy. When I’m feeling a little out of sorts, I go on a cleaning spree. The act of dusting, sweeping, mopping, vacuuming, and doing laundry gives me energy. I receive a boost of “I’m back.” Things are back in order which mentally puts me back in order. The house is fresh so now my mood is fresh and I’m ready tackle on the rest of the day and days.

Bonus Tip: Listening to music is an instant mood booster. On the other hand, cleaning is a great time to get in a motivation podcast or listen to something inspiring if music isn’t your thing. While cleaning or doing laundry listening to music is the best way you can escape and let go.

Tip#5-Watch Something Funny

We are surrounded with negativity. So when you sit down to watch a program, choose something that will make you laugh until you pee your pants. Laughter really is the best medicine. After watching something funny, you will have forgotten about what you were sad about. Once again, a comedic show allows you the escape to think about something else.

These tips on how to boost your mood instantly is great for anyone. It’s not just for those who aren’t doing well mentally and emotionally. These are things that I do everyday. Even on the days I don’t go into the office. These are just a few. Of course, there are many more. But the key here is to take all the tips and use them where you see fit. You can switch things up so you don’t get tired of the same ole routine.

Last Tip: You have what it takes to snap out it. Just believe in yourself and you can do it. Know that you are enough, you belong on this earth, and you have something to offer to the world.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

How To Boost Your Confidence With Daily Self Care

Oh this confidence thing again. Confidence can make or break a person. Having a lack of confidence kills relationships, stop you from living life due to fear, and all around a person performance in every aspect of their life suffers. I’ve said before and I’ll say it again confidence comes with practice. There are daily confidence boosters you can begin doing now.

Daily Confidence Boosters

1.Be who you want to be. Whatever your vision for yourself is, just be it. Once you sit in who you authentically are everything else will follow. What career path do you want to take? Is there a business you’d like to start. Are you living in the city, state, or country you want? So often we have these dreams or visions but fear, lack of money, and persuasion of others tells us we can’t. But guess what, you can. If you open a business and it dissolve, you’re still alive to try another. Nothing is definite you will always bounce back.

2.Compliment yourself daily. There are a million things we can find wrong with us. But I know there is something you like about yourself. Start off by finding one thing to compliment yourself on. Then build up to giving yourself multiple complements throughout the day. In the morning start with your skin, hair, outfit, or just simply waking up in a good mood. When you find yourself criticizing something you see “wrong” quickly divert that to something you like.

3.Give Back. It’s great to buy someone a gift or lend some money. But the greatest way to give back is serving or giving your time. Spending time with someone when they are down means more than a dollar. Volunteering gives someone in need an example of hope and sense of inspiration. Invite someone on a walk with you, give them a new perspective or different way of thinking and being. Guess what this will boost your confidence in so many ways. You see yourself as a someone who has something to offer, which gives you motivation to continue to find yourself.

4.Exercise. Do some form of physical activity. I’m not saying you have to go out and kill your self to the point you won’t be able to move the next day. However, walking is the easiest, thought provoking, free, and effective exercise you can do. Each time you walk pick a different trail or route. The different scenery opens your mind to think and see the world in a different way. Sweating release toxins. You begin to feel good about your body and outer appearance. Which increases your confidence when you put your clothes on. Because you feel good on the inside you look good on the outside and present that confidence for others to see. Your shoulders are back, heads up, and walking with a purpose.

5.Take a risk. Instead of thinking about the shoulda, coulda, woulda take that leap. What’s the worst that can happen? If it doesn’t work out try something else. The pain of not trying at all is worst than the pain of failing. At least if it failed, you learned something. You have knowledge and experience on what to do and what not to do. Get out the box and see what else the world has waiting for you. With each risk you take your ability to learn, grow, and overcome will boost your confidence.

6.Listen. I’ve learned when I receive a criticism or comment from two or more independent people I need to listen. Obviously if two people that doesn’t know each other are saying the same thing, then I need to evaluate what I’m doing to put that out there. You’re not changing who you are. You’re self reflecting. What mannerisms am I doing to for others to receive me that way?

7.Don’t pretend. “Don’t be a follower, be a leader.” that’s the famous line we’re told as kids. Being like someone else is impossible. You can only win at being you. You will fail at trying to be like someone else every time. Trying to be like someone else exhaust more time, energy, and money. It’s simply free and effortless to be you.

8.Journal. Building confidence and keeping it takes daily practice and efforts. That means you are going to have some bad days. We are human with feelings and emotions. But when those bad days come we can rely on our daily confidence boosters to get us back on track. Keeping a journal and writing things down gives you a visual and reference to go back to. When you’re on a high, journal that and when that low comes journal that in detail. That way you are able to look back and see what triggers caused you to have a bad day and how not to let it effect you again. Journaling allows us to be honest and release any toxins so we don’t hold on to them to spill into the next day.

9.Learn how to accept a compliment. How many times has someone given you a compliment and you minimize it to something that’s not a big deal. When someone says “I like those shoes,” simply reply with a thank you. Don’t say oh I’ve had these for years or these old things. Be appreciative that someone was willing to tell you they liked something about you instead of holding it in. Then pass it on and give someone a compliment.

10.Work. You get back what you put in. On the job that pays you, you have to work hard in order to keep that job and not allow someone else to come in and replace you. The same applies to your life. Put work into your self daily. Read, write, and talk to yourself on a daily. We can’t expect others to give us what we won’t give ourselves. Love on yourself and others will follow in your footsteps.

These are just a couple things you can do to begin boosting your confidence. The key to making it work is to be consistent. Don’t give up because you’ve had a bad day. Those are needed for our growth.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SELF CONFIDENCE BEGINS WITH THE MIND

Self confidence begins with the mind. What you say and think about yourself will determine how well your self confidence is going to show up. To obtain self confidence, it requires patience, persistence, and consistency. Confidence isn’t something that is one and done. It takes daily habits and practices to continually sustain self confidence.

No two persons path is going to look the same to gain self confidence. Our backgrounds and experience shapes our mindset. Why Mindset Is Everything Therefore what we value will be different on the list of priorities.

Self confidence comes from a person taking care of themselves. That is the most obvious. There is a trigger in the mind that goes off when we are able to put our best foot forward. I know every woman understand the thought of, if we are having a bad hair day then the entire day feels like crap.

It pulls our self esteem up when we take time to shower, put on a nice outfit, and feel good about our appearance. When we look good, we feel good. From there we go out and is able to engage confidently, take risks, and use our creativity.

Self confidence begins in the mind and how we process our setbacks. If we call ourselves negative names, and use negative self talk we plummet to depression fast. The most confident person looks at the situation and pull the positive and take it with them. Having confidence you understand that not everything is going to work out perfectly.

Self confidence is willing to take risk and tackle our fears. Not being afraid to challenge yourself. When you have self confidence you know challenges and fears are an opportunity for growth. Those with confidence are always willing to learn and grow. They aren’t afraid to be uncomfortable.

One of my biggest confidence boosters, is having the courage to ask for help. If I don’t know something or have spent enough time trying to figure it out, I will ask for assistance. Self confidence is knowing you will need help. It is impossible to have all the answers.

With that, confidence gives you permission to admit your fears, anxiety, and emotions. We aren’t robots, so we will experience an arrange of emotions at any given time.

Different Is Good

Another one of my biggest confidence boosters is not being afraid to look different, be different, go against the grain, or stand alone. I learned early on that choosing different is the easiest way to challenge yourself and know your own strength.

Even when the most confident people don’t have the support they desire, they still take that leap of faith. They know what they want and how it would make them feel. Along with not having support, self confidence will give you motivation when you don’t have all the answers and there is uncertainty.

Lastly, we need to remember whatever is placed upon heart and mind is ours and ours only. You don’t need permission from anyone to pursue what God has placed in you. The lens that you see through are a prescription for you and anyone who try to see through your lens their vision will be blurred.

You are you and that’s what make you unique.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.