Being vulnerable is like disease to some. However, what we all shall know is being vulnerable takes strength, courage, and confidence. Not only does it help release any negative energy, but it encourages others to do the same.
You Become Your Most Authentic Self When you show vulnerability in any sense, you are being honest with your truest Self. In that moment or moments you’ve chose you. The decision to choose Self eliminates the disease to please. It shows character, Self awareness, and comfort.
Step To The Front Being vulnerable give us the strength to be proactive instead of reactive. We step into situations and grow through them. The need or want to run from them or ignore them is no longer. Our confidence and awareness gives us inner strength and power to conquer and not let problems consume us. Vulnerability allows us freedom to exercise good mental and emotionalwellness.
exercise Muscles Vulnerability requires us to take risks. Therefore, our muscles of courage, confidence, and Self esteem are being exercised. With each wave, we get stronger, wiser, and better. We heal and grow through. Taking the risk builds stamina, get out our comfort zone, and expand our emotional horizon.
Those are 5 reasons showing vulnerability is strength. It takes a huge leap of faith to begin. But once you do, it will get easier each time. Do yourself a favor and let your guard down just a little bit. You’ll feel free, lighter, and better instantly.
We just reached the half year mark. Have you accomplished any of your New Year goals? Are they even still goals of yours? We have six months to make a difference and hold ourselves accountable. While the weather is nice and we have more daylight, now is the time to do some self reflecting. Here are 7 journal prompts for self reflection.
What do I enjoy doing over and over again without getting bored that I will do for free?
List the 10 most interesting characteristics about yourself. (It could be physical, mental, emotional, talent, dream, desires, or whatever makes you you.)
What are three things I do well?
What is one goal that keeps making it to my list that I start but don’t finish, never start, or too afraid to start?
What do I need to let go of, but having a hard time doing?
List three things I can do everyday to make myself feel better? (If you can write more, then do so.)
What are my favorite ways to unwind?
As you begin to reflect remember to be as detailed as possible. No detail is ever too small. The more in depth you’re able to go, the better your self awareness you’ll become. In result, leading you to your goal of living the life you want. Use the link provided to begin journaling to a better you. https://amzn.to/3xbjxmA These journal prompts are for you to have a deeper dive into who you are now and where you want to go. There aren’t any right or wrong answers here. MENTAL HEALTH AND SELF CARE IS FREE
journaling for self reflection is a great way to check in on ourselves. This is one way to hold ourselves accountable. Also gives you a mental check on where we are and where we need to go. Furthermore, self reflecting journal prompts gives us an insight on what’s working and where we may need to adjust our self care. These 7 self reflecting journal prompts help me to get clarity on what I wanted to do with my time, who I wanted to spend my time with, and how I show up in certain relationships.
This is going to be an interesting week. It’s the last week of school. The work week is cut by day for me due to us participating in United Way Fundraiser, and we have to plan a good 4 day weekend for the holiday. All in which will take us out of our normal routine. But it will be fun.
Sunday: Great day to sleep in and rest. After an long weekend with track meets and the temps have dropped by almost 30 degrees, I welcome the brisk fresh air. I’m all caught up on laundry and grocery shopping. So I’m going to focus on keeping the house tidy. I began asking the kids about some ideas we came up with for the long holidayweekend ahead. Needless to say I rec’d mixed reactions. So back to the drawing board. Later in the evening I had an amazing workout and a chill evening with my kids. The hubs has to go in and close the store due to a lack of help.
Monday: Great start to this short work week. I’m loving the cool temps actually. It’s going to give me a chance to mix up working out inside the home and going outside. Last week of school and I told my kids to just have fun and enjoy time with their friends. Had a really good day at the office and was able to get some admin stuff done on projects. Later in the evening I had an amazing walk outside and was able to retire in bed early.
Tuesday: Had a great breakfast and coffee date with the hubs after drop off. Office was quiet but I was able to get some research done. Later on in the day I was grooving and my daughter and I had a great conversation. I was very excited she wanted to talk and ask me questions. Once again I tried to make progress on what we were going to do this weekend and of course no input. After dinner we also discussed on ways to cut back this summer since the kids were out of school and we really weren’t using a lot of things we pay for. IE subscriptions and many other apps.
Wednesday: Very humid this morning. Almost to the end of the school year, just one more day. Had to make a quick grocery store run before heading to the office. This week is very quiet because it’s a holidayweekend. Of course, I used my time wisely and submitted proposals, worked on editing and updating some listings, and worked on some ideas. Later on in the evening I decided to do a mid week clean. Due to the weather changing, rain, and humidity, the ants and spiders I can’t take. Afterwards I was already warmed so I decided to go out for a walk and get in a good sweat since it was very humid. It was amazing as I got to see some Deer hang outside and enjoy the weather also. Late night I enjoyed the NBA game and went to bed.
Thursday: LAST DAY OF SCHOOL!!!!!!!!! We are all excited for this day. Another year has flown by and I’m so proud of my kids for staying the course in these challenging times. To celebrate them for doing amazing we planned to go out for dinner and have a night out. Oddly enough the memorial day weekendplans they want to keep it simple and remain local. So we’re going to head to the lake, have a little cookout, and play it by ear the rest of the weekend. We had an amazing night and enjoyed one another. MENTAL HEALTH AND SELF CARE IS FREE
Friday: Today begins my 4 day weekend and I’m super excited. Started early with cleaning, laundry, and making breakfast for the kids. The hubs had to go open the store. I have a couple errands I need to run and whilst I do that I’m going to test out some new skincare and makeup to see how it holds up. Later in the evening we headed downtown to enjoy the Memorial Day kickoff. They had a live band, activities for the kids, food truck Friday, and the weather was great. After having a great time we opted to keep it local the rest of the weekend and let the days come to us.
Saturday: I woke up and had breakfast with the kids. Got a lot of housework done before heading out to enjoy the evening. The kids wanted to go do laser tag, bowling, and mini golf. So we enjoyed having fun with the kids. After game night out, the kids were tired and wanted to order take out. The hubs and I opted to go have a dinner date and head back up town for some fun. I would say I wanted to have a good plan for the weekend, but this enjoying local activities and letting the day come to us has been much more enjoyable.
Have a great week everyone!!!!!!!
P.S. Weekly blog is designed to show the realistic life of a working mom, balancing life, career, and herself.
“I can’t afford to lose my job or take time off work to seek mental health treatment is there anything I can do”
YES!!!!! Your mental health and self care is free. Just because you have a strict schedule, job, or boss doesn’t mean you can’t practice self care. Having a lack of resources at your finger tips won’t hinder you from developing good self care habits. You’ve taken the first step in acknowledging you need and want a better care for yourself. Right now you have an abundance of resources it’s just how you use them.
As you begin to heal and grow, you can opt to save for a really good journal that will help you develop all around wellness. Try this beautiful journal that’s less than $10 to get you started when you’ve saved enough to purchase it. https://amzn.to/3HaANwQ
Next, you can use your phone that’s at your finger tips to get dailymotivation. Make a decision and choice to ONLY seek positive content. Once you only click or search positive content the algarithm will then flood your feed with that content. It has worked for me and I can truly say it helps to not even see a negative title or headline. YouTube, Pinterest, and Instagram has some amazing quotes, scriptures, passages, reminders, and hope to keep you fueled thoughout the day. Also begin to distance yourself or limit your interactions with those who aren’t feeding you like you want to be fed. Your motivation and encouragement doesn’t just have to come from digital. That one person that only calls, text, or have a negative story isn’t good for your mental health. Delete social media if you have too. ALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA APPS DELETED
Thirdly, focus on you. Wake up a little early. Make sure you look good and feel good about your appearance before heading out. Focus on your physical health. Do some walking, gardening, hiking, biking, or any activity to keep your body moving. Exercise and sweat out some toxins. Schedule in your activity. Create a schedule for the week, month, and day. Have an outline of what you have to do. This ensures you aren’t overwhelmed, you can make time for yourself, and still being productive at work and at home. The schedule is free because you can create it on your phone. Schedule your meals, activity, laundry, cleaning day, and this will give you something to hold yourself accountable. If you can use resources at work, email it to yourself and print it. The schedule is also a good way for you to begin to create boundaries and say NO!!!!!! Saying no and creating boundaries is free.
The fourth thing you can do to get a handle on your mental health is seek a spiritual community. Having a community of people to share, pray, and worship is the best way to filter out the bad and keep the good. If you choose to worship on Sunday in person that is great, but you can also do so using the phone you already have. The first I thing I do every morning is have time with God. In the form of music, a sermon on youtube, or me having my own prayer session. Get rooted in faith and hope.
The fifth is to use your time wisely. While you’re on break at work you can journal, listen to a podcast, read a book, or watch a quick motivational video. Opt to have lunch alone so you can get what you need without judgement, interruptions, or criticism. If you are cooking dinner, listen to a sermon on youtube. Find an inspiration channel that feeds your soul. When I clean and do laundry I put my earbuds in and let the universe speak to me. You are moving and getting Exercise, while feeding your mind with positive energy, and getting things done on your list. All of this is free and good for your mental health. You’ve developed habits.
The sixth free thing you can do for your mental health is develop routines. A good morning routine to get your day started. This will ensure you are in a good headspace to conquer the day. Even when things seem to go sour, you’ll have tools and motivation in your spiritual bank to pull from. Next a good night routine to wind yourself down. How was your day? What didn’t you like that you can work on? What was good about the day? Release it to make room for a clear slate the next day. MID WEEK MENTAL HEALTH REMINDERS
Lastly, give yourself permission to feel. You will have good days and some bad days until your habits become second nature. But continue to push through and work through it. Each bump in the road is a teaching moment. Don’t ignore them. Listen to them and ask yourself why am I reacting this way or feeling this way. The good news is because you did this on your own without seeking a paid counselor the reward in understanding and growth will be just that much greater.
Describe a time when you felt most comfortable or yourself. (when writing about this time describe where you were, who was around, what were you wearing, what the weather was like, what was said in the convesation, this would help you identify or clarify who and what makes you happy)
The first thing I think about in the morning is…(the moment you open your eyes what is the first thing that occupies your mind/thoughts, this prompt gives you an insight on what is causing your stress or anxiety)
The one thing I’m afraid for people to know is…(we all have that one thing that we don’t want people to know, it could be an insecurity, past trauma, or thought, be as specific as possible, this will tell you what you need to conquer to free yourself)
Do I feel stressed or anxious right now?why or why not? (sometimes we may not want to say exactly what has us jumpy or we want to use an excuse, be honest and specific why or why not you’re feeling anxious or stressed, it could be nothing, something big something small)
My most difficult relationship is…(once I realized what my most difficult relationship was, I was able to get clear on why I did certain things, closed myself off to certain people, and what triggered me. It doesn’t have to be romantic, it could a parent, sibling, coworker, cousin, aunt, uncle, friend, neighbor.)
I am proud of myself for…(when was the last time you told yourself you were proud of you, this is one affirmation I’ve come to love, it could be simple as ”I’m proud of myself for trying a new recipe”, no matter how big or small be proud of yourself)
What is my favorite TV show and why? (what we watch and consume consistently tell us a lot about our personalities and who we are, I love anything on ID Discovery, I’m more interested in the ”why” people choose the extremes that they do)
Try these 7 prompts for healing this week. The goal is to get a point of view from different backgrounds of life. Either way they’ll all come together to let us know how we’re doing, where we need to work, and what we are good at. You deservehealing and happiness.
I thought I’d share a fun post list of things I’ve never done that some may consider ordinary or normal. A list of ordinary things I’ve never done has been eye opening to write and also learn about myself. I encourage anyone to sit down and write ordinary things you’ve never done. It may just give you some insight on how your upbringing, family, life, and now adulthood has shaped you. MOTIVATIONAL HEALING: LEARN YOUR SOURCE OF ANGER
I HAVEN’T BEEN TO VEGAS (REALLY NOT A PLACE I’D LIKE TO VISIT TOO MUCH)
I’VE NEVER BEEN ON A CRUISE
NEVER EATEN COTTAGE CHEESE
I HAVE NEVER HAD A HANGOVER
NEVER USED DOOR DASH OR UBER EATS
I HAVE NEVER WATCHED THE MOVIE ”TITANIC”
Those are just a few things that ”normal” or ”ordinarily most people have done. It was fun for me to sit down and think about. It also gave me an insight about myself on a different perspective. Sometimes growth and healing doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. I’m pretty sure there are more things that I’ve never done that are ordinary.
The alarm clock goes off and you instantly get into a mood. The only thing you can think about is what you have to do at work, the coworker that gets on your last nerve, what’s for dinner, and the bills that are due today. You have no energy to get out of bed nor do you have any enthusiasm.
We’ve all had these mornings, probably once twice. The truth is we can’t stop these kind of mornings, however we can do minor things to get us through.
Immediately stop any negative talk or thoughts. Instead, remind yourself of why you took the job or position in the first place. What excitement did you have when you first started? That co worker that gets on your nerves is telling you there is something about you, that they hoped to have. You inspire them. YOU INSPIRE SOMEONE OUT THERE Dinner is hours away, you will have a meal on table.
Stretch. Just about 5 minutes of stretching from head to toe. Wake up your joints, bones, and get that blood circulating. You’ll feel loose and ready to move.
Take a shower, wash your hair, and face. Release all the negative into the drain and renew your spirit. Put some time into yourself. Make yourself feel good and look good.
Put something good in your belly. Have a good fulfilling breakfast. Breakfast is not only good for your physical body, but your brain and emotionalwellbeing as well.
Before heading out for your day, take a moment to pray. Gratitude for the vehicle to get to work, the job itself, the home and bed you just woke up in, that nutritional breakfast, and simply waking up. There is someone out there who went to sleep last night and didn’t wake up.
Lastly go have a good day. Expect goodness throughout the day. When we expect goodness and have hope, our thoughts will remain positive. By the evening you’ll forget you even woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
Monday morning blues will come and they will go. But be intentional and practice small habits that will boost your mood. Certain things will always be out of our control. What we can control is what we think about the situation, how we respond, and get through. Remember good times don’t last but tough people do. This is temporary.
In the last month or so, I’ve decided to journal write every morning. As previously stated, I would journal randomly. Because I really been trying to be intentional about being present and emotionally sound, I thought I’d journal every morning to see where it takes me.
One thing that will make me more confident is…(be completely honest about the one thing that nags at you that you want to be more confident about)
The one thing I need to stop doing and why…(we all have that one thing that hinders us from getting to where we want to be, verbalize it, express it, and leave it on the paper)
Dream day in my life…(this was my absolute favorite, get as detailed and specific as possible of what you dream a day is like in your perfect world)
If you’re not happy doing what you’re doing, what would you like to do? (be as specific as possible, about your dream career, job, or profession)
These 7 journal prompts allows you the ability to explore every area of your life and where you are. Some fun and some serious to give you balance. The most light hearted can be the most eye opening sometimes. It makes for a fun journaling session. journal your way, how you want to write, and get out what you need to be the best you. The provided link to this amazing calendar and organizer is the beginning of you prioritizing your self care needs. https://amzn.to/3QchQy3
When setting up your journaling session, clear the table or desk. Then make sure there aren’t any distractions like television, phone, kids, or spouse. Get you a cup of tea, coffee, or water. Allot yourself a set time. You can opt to start at 15 minutes or even an hour. Either way, you’ll come to learn you won’t be able to put the pen down. Have a specific place to put your journal when you’re finish. Lastly, use the same pen each day.
Look around no more!!! You have to be your own cheerleader. Whatever affirmations or reassurance you’re needing right now, give it to yourself. The things you are needing to hear or want to hear, tell it to yourself.
If you’re at work, go to the bathroom, look yourself in the mirror, and cheer yourself up. Take a 15 minute break, step away from the desk, and give yourself a pep talk. If you can, go for a quick walk and come back to work. We have to be our own cheerleader.
Talk to yourself out loud. Remind you, how great you are. The hard work you’re doing is going to pay off, keep going. WELLNESS: EVEN THE STRONGEST NEEDS A BREAK You are a good mom. You are a good dad. Pray, do a 5 minute meditation, and sing yourself some praises. Pump yourself up.
If you’re at home and not feeling well, go step on your porch and breathe in some nature. Tell yourself you’re going to be healed, relationships are going to be restored, the financial setback has turned around, and you’ve done a great job. You aren’t tired. You’ve just exhausted all the energy that was allotted to you today.
You have to be your own cheerleader even when the circumstances are good. When you get a promotion, jump for joy, scream, and toot your own horn. You worked hard. Whatever accomplishment you’ve achieved or been recognized for, celebrate it. And don’t wait for someone else to start the celebration. If you’ve saved for a specific goal and that goal has been reached, celebrate that.
What we want from others we have to be able to give to ourselves. Then we’d be able to celebrate someone else genuinely, happily, and unselfishly. We have to be our own cheerleader.
When we seek praise or affirmations from outside first, it makes us subconsciously rely on others validation to make us feel like we’re enough. That will lead us down a path of self destruction. Someone else’s validation or reassurance doesn’t add or decrease our worth. However, does it feel good when we get noticed, absolutely. Anyone who tell you differently is a lie. Do we want others to recognize our hard work, absolutely. But that shouldn’t be what we base our worth off of.
If you’re feeling in a little slump, no matter where you are, get up and cheer yourself up. Pat yourself on the back. Guess what, it’s an accomplishment just to acknowledge you’re not feeling that well. No matter how small something may seem, praise yourself for it and keep stepping forward. Have a great rest of your day!!!!!!!!
We’re constantly evolving and growing. The more you grow and learn about yourself the better life you can have. Certain aspects of life are important to you and meaningful than before. So I’d thought I update a previous post from earlier. The More You Grow…
First as your grow having a life insurance policy is IMPORTANT!!!!! This isn’t something we want to think about when we’re younger or even think is important. Well its very important for everyone, even the children in the family. Making sure your family is ok in the event of something happening will eliminate unwanted stress. You can go online and get a quote, and guess what its not even expensive. The only thing that’s guaranteed for all of us is death.
Next, maintaining your home and cars. I was very guilty of this when I was younger. Routine maintenance and checkups on your vehicles saves you money in the long run, keeps your return on your investment high, and provides a sense of security. Maintenance on your home is more essential to you mentally and emotionally. Home is where you go to rest, relax, and release. It’s the place you feel most comfortable. So to ensure it’s updated, maintained, and inviting, allows you to focus on yourself.
Keeping regular doctor and dental visits are primary health care habits. We can do everything right and if we don’t get checked out something can go wrong. However, thinking preventive will keep you inspired to stay ahead. Making sure we’re the most healthy is essential to self care.
Along with physical health having a good spiritual foundation is the one ingredient that can’t be missed. Having a sense of gratitude and knowing that there is a higher power, provides the hope and faith needed to know everything is going to be alright no matter what. Whatever you believe and how ever you believe is up to you, your business, and is for you alone.
As you become more seasoned, you know the importance of having a great understanding of your finances. Where they are, what you want, where you need to improve, and have a clear plan on how you’re going to get there. You no longer fly by the seat of your pants.
By this time you’ve lived and know the importance of having a great work life balance. So many of us in our early years work work work, and missed out on familytime and milestones that we can’t get back. Furthermore, most of us don’t even enjoy the fruits of our labor. Now you know that taking time to breath, pat yourself on the back, and enjoy family and friends is priceless.
As we grow the relationships in our life is essential to our well being. Knowing what we need from each one and how we can reciprocate the love is clear. This is for your romantic, friendships, coworkers, family, and anyone else in your life. Long gone are the days of having 20 best friends. We keep a couple and throw the rest away.
When it comes to holidays, you really don’t need a gift. As long as you are around family and friends, good food, love, and laughter you are content and happy.
Avoiding people, places, and situations is essential to your mental health and you now know that. You no longer view it as running or punking out. Not putting yourself in uncomfortable situations or circumstances is smart and wise.
These are just some things I’ve picked up along the way and thought I’d share. Someone may feel the same way and not know what exactly is happening. It means you’re growing my love and becoming more aware of who you are. Don’t be afraid or run from it, embrace it because it’s going to make your life easier and more enjoyable.
The one thing that is constant is change. And while we’re on this journey of life, we’re going to forever grow. Let’s grow in the right direction.