Love your self more than anyone else in this world. That is what I told my daughter on the way to school drop off. It sounds so simple but it’s the most essential and hardest thing for most to do.

Right now having teenagers in the home, my goal is to build their confidence and self esteem up constantly and consistently. They are facing mediums that at my age didn’t exist. But the thought of many adults not being able to love themselves now, needs this reminder as well.

Self Love Is the Best Love

Love yourself more than anyone else to give you an opportunity to have sanity. No matter what others may say or do, it just won’t stick. Be so full of yourself, in a humble way of course, that you won’t notice a void in your life. What you want to receive from others give to yourself. HAPPY SUNDAY…FOCUS ON YOURSELF

Loving on yourself means telling yourself good thoughts. Motivating yourself before anyone else does. Believing you can achieve and accomplish those goals and dreams you have. Looking in the mirror and telling that reflection how beautiful you are today. Compliment yourself often. Going out to work telling yourself you are going to be the best in the office. In the process, giving love, sharing love, and making others feel better about themselves. When we can love ourselves so much, we are confident enough to motivate and inspire others to feel the same gratification.

Even when things aren’t rolling smoothly, we still need to love ourselves through it. Everything isn’t going to be rainbows and unicorns, but you still got to say “ I got this.” As stumbling blocks are placed in our path way we should be able to encourage, motivate, and talk ourselves through it. When we love ourselves we attract the right energy and people. You’ve heard that saying, “you are what you attract.” That is in every relationship area of our lives. Remember negative energy feeds.

Now make it a point to spend some time on you and with you. You are number one and put yourself first. The way you love yourself is how others will show up and love on you.

“If you can’t love yourself how in the hell are you going to love somebody else. Now can I get a Amen up in here!!!!!!!”-Rupaul

That is one of my favorite quotes, it can be said anymore simple. You are no good to anyone if you aren’t good to yourself.

Have a great day!!!!!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


Happy Sunday everyone, I hope you all had a great weekend. Focus on yourself this week and moving forward. Protect your heart. Keep your mental and emotional mindset in a positive state. Get your body moving and keep your physical health in good shape.

As we begin to shift into another phase and as we are able to do more, we may face some new challenges ahead. Remain in focus of your personal health. Your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health is the foundation to which you need to make sure is solid. Don’t be so quick to say yes. You have a right to say “no”, to anyone. If what is being asked of you doesn’t serve your personal health, you have a right to say no. Please don’t feel guilty for saying no.

Focus on you for once and do something for yourself. Make some plans to get some things done that you’ve been putting off. We can’t keep saying wait until next time, when I settle down, or when the time is right. Those times are never going to come. Hence, while we keep saying them over and over again. The time is now. Happy Sunday AND LET GO

However, at some point we have to bet on ourselves and take a risk. If we don’t, we will be left dreaming of what could have been. Don’t waste your precision time being afraid of your own power and destiny. You have what it takes. Bet on you.

While you’re focusing on yourself, don’t worry about what others are doing or what they have. That’s how we get off track and lose focus. Just because they achieve their goal or seem to be moving along, doesn’t mean thats going to hold you back. What they do and what they have isn’t your business. On the other hand, what you do and what you have isn’t no one else business.

Focus on you. Do what you have to do to make yourself happy. Happy Sunday!!!! Have a great week.


Be you so you can be free.


I saw this meme and thought it was the cutest and definitely best advice ever. Some Friday inspiration is just what we need before the weekend. Repeat this meme over and over again to give yourself a reminder on how to put your needs first.

What are your plans for the weekend? Is there anything you looking forward to, besides not working? No matter where you are it’s Friday and you deserve a break. Have some fun this weekend. Even if you do nothing, as long as it serves you best. Use this Friday inspiration to get you going.

Happy Friday and have a great weekend!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


After many conversations with my mom, I noticed one thing, she was constantly trying to prove herself. I finally got the guts, to say”why are you wasting time proving yourself?”. I noticed on several occasions the common theme was her attempting to explain herself, show how much she knows, or stressing herself proving she can do something. Needless to say that hurt me to the core.

Be You No Matter What

Once I asked her, why she continues to waste her time proving herself, she reluctantly admitted that has been something she battled with since she was a teenager. My mom went on to explain how her being the youngest of four children, she always felt the need to show her siblings she’s just as capable if not more in some situations. They still view her as the baby and she doesn’t want to be viewed that way.

Once I let her release her feelings, there are some things I relayed to her that I’d like to relay to you all. If my mom, who I won’t reveal her age, has these feelings, I know there is someone out there who has them as well. At some point we all have experienced or felt the need to prove or show ourselves.

First, its a complete waste of time. Who ever you are trying to prove yourself to has their mind already made up. For whatever reasons, that’s non of your business.They have drawn conclusions without getting to know you personally. Because their minds are made up, nothing you say or do will suede them in the other direction.

On one hand, you think you are showing them what you know and how right you are, but all you are doing is hurting yourself. Because they aren’t changing their mind about you, you are constantly trying to figure out ways to prove them wrong. Eventually, you begin to question everything you say or do. It’s a never ending cycle that will kill your self esteem and confidence.

Before you know it, you are making decisions based off what others think of you. That is a recipe for an emotional tornado. All in all, the other person can know deep down the truth but because they have made their mind up, they will not budge on their point of view. If anyone, makes you feel less than, they aren’t worth sharing the same air you breath.

What someone thinks about you isn’t any of your business. They see something in you that has their insecurities show up. The best thing you can do, is be yourself and do what makes you happy. Also don’t put yourself in any position to receive negative energy or feedback. It is essential to create an atmosphere around yourself that protect your mental and emotional wellbeing.

When we have to please others or prove who we are, we are insecure in our capacity of being our authentic selves. You never know, you being your authentic self just may motivate them to see a different point of view. Why are you wasting time proving something to others, when that precious time can be spent on you?

Lastly, that is way too much power and control given away. The person or persons you’re trying to convince is controlling your thoughts, actions, and decisions. You are living for someone else. That is a NO NO!!!!! Stop wasting time trying to prove yourself. Just be you and let everyone and everything fall into place.


Be you so you can be free.


Do you know who you are? I was in Walmart picking up what supposed to be one item. Well walking through the aisle I stumbled upon the mugs. I found this mug that caught my eye and I had to pick it up. It was a black mug with one word on it “Introvert”. FACTS ABOUT INTROVERTS YOU SHOULD KNOW Boy that made me smile and without hesitation, I told my husband I have to get it. Before I knew, the words, “this is so me and I love it”, came out my mouth.

I Am An Introvert

Walking to the register I thought to myself, what is so me? Well, I smiled on the inside because there was a comfort in me knowing who I am and what makes me, me. Yes, I am an introvert, I’ve told y’all before. I love everything about me being an introvert. I embrace who I am.

Also I loved the mug, because I am a mug collector. A good colorful inspirational mug makes me happy. It’s even better when I’m drinking my coffee or tea to have a reminder literally at my fingertips. It’s the little things that makes your personality shine and pop.

What is or are the little things that makes you smile? Do you know what makes you happy? Can you answer the question, what makes you happy? How does your personality shine through on a daily? On one hand, it doesn’t have to be big. So often we get stumped on a question like this because we think the person is looking for some grand answers.

The million little things that makes you stand out is what makes you so special and unique. Embrace every little thing no matter how quirky, colorful, small, or big it may be.

We are human beings with many emotions, which means we’re going to have some big and small things that makes us happy and who we are. Do you know who you are?


Be you so you can be free.

Monday morning check in

It’s the top of the week and it’s time to check ourselves. Monday morning check in is when you set into motion your goals for the week. On Monday morning, its good to give yourself a road map of what you want to accomplish this week.

Starting off with your mental health goals. Is there anything stressing you? Have you been constantly replaying a situation or scenario that has taken place? Are there any relationships that are fragile that has your anxiety up? Think about your mental status and be honest with yourself. Make a decision to tackle one thing head on this week. We can’t tackle every obstacle at once. But with every step and stride we will conquer and over come.

That goes for your professional life as well. Many times we are stressed about work and it carry over into our personal life. What is it that you want to leave behind that happened at work last week? How do you want to approach your work week? It’s always good to leave last week in the past. Make a decision that you aren’t going to let your coworkers trigger you. What is on your calendar that has you stressed at work. How can you conquer that?

We just had a holiday, Mother’s Day. So we ate pretty good and probably had some drinks as well. Which is what you’re supposed to do, have a good time and enjoy yourself. Now its time to get back to the grind. It’s Monday, now lets get that work out in. Have you been keeping up with your fitness goals or do as much physical activity as you can? Set some exercise goals this week. Get back at it. We all know how important exercise and physical activity is for our mental and emotional health. Take a stroll to clear your head and refocus.

Next, your spiritual health. This Monday morning make it a point to center and ground yourself. Fill yourself up for the week with positive messages, reading, inspirations, and happiness. The more we ground ourselves and deepen our Faith the more we are able to push through a speed bump. God didn’t say we wouldn’t have difficulties, but he has given us the strength to move through. Remember we must move through to get the lesson and wisdom. If we attempt to avoid or move around we will miss the lesson and the blessing. SELF CARE: WHAT’S YOUR MOTIVATION

Lastly our emotional health. Positive thoughts, energy, and affirmations are a requirement to keep us sane. The love we show ourselves must be so heavy that no one can get to our flesh. Get in the habit of creating yourself a safe space. We have to constantly check our surroundings and who we share the same space with. Making sure we have good people with good intentions are essential to your emotional wellbeing.

It’s Monday morning check in. How are you feeling about the week ahead? What are your plans for the week? Time is flying by and we must make sure we are in tune and check ourselves regularly. This is going to be a great week. No one is going to push my buttons or get me out of character. They will not have that power over me. I’m going to go in with a positive attitude even when the circumstances aren’t positive. I will seek the positive in every situation. However, there is a lesson to be learned no matter what the out come may be. If things doesn’t work out how I want them to or envision, I know to keep pressing forward.

Talk yourself up. Give yourself a pep talk every morning. Until it becomes habit. Eventually you’ll get to a comfortable place in your being.

Happy Monday everyone and have a great week!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


Mother’s Day is tomorrow. How will you celebrate Mother’s Day 2021? Last year we all had to rethink and come up with a way to honor our mommies. This year some of us are able to gather, while others, unfortunately aren’t able to. No matter if your mom is hear in the flesh or the spirit you can celebrate her.

If you are a mom yourself, please pat yourself on the back, TWICE!!!!!! You are doing an amazing job with your kids. As moms we make the best decisions possible with the information we have. We aren’t always going to get it right. But who said there was a book on being a parent. Also who said parents knew everything or was right all the time. That is the beauty in being a mom. We teach, love, inspire, motivate, and grow. And those are some of the best lessons we can teach our children.

What are your family traditions on Mother’s Day? Will you all do something differently in 2021 due to the circumstances? For me, I just like to enjoy my family intimately. I am not a fan of going out to restaurants or having some grand event. I’d prefer ordering out, because I don’t cook on Mother’s Day, and having a great time at my Moms house. So often when we decide to go out or have an event of some sort, we don’t get to enjoy it sometimes. Because we are so busy entertaining.

Everyone can have a great Mother’s Day 2021. Your circumstances or situation doesn’t define how you choose to enjoy the day. If you are a single mom you can enjoy the day. Mommies who are still nurturing their babies in the womb can celebrate. Bonus moms, surrogate mommies, mother figures who inspire others, and even aspiring moms can have a good day.

The word of the day is LOVE. Focus on giving and sharing love. The love your mother gave to you, that makes you feel good, show to someone else. The love that you hoped to receive, give away. Whatever you define or desire as a mothers love, spread, share, and give it away. But make sure you are the first person to show some love to.

Happy Mother’s Day!!!!!! Have a great amazing day.


Be you so you can be free.


After watching a video with Sarah Jakes Roberts talk about remembering her why, I thought I’d answer my own question of remembering why I blog? Remembering why I blog was a great moment of reflection for me. When I began, I knew why in my head but to verbally speak it and make it make sense was different. But that is the beauty in the dreams that God places in us. We know and understand why we do what we do or what we want to do. However, that isn’t for everyone else.

Remembering My Why

First I’ve had this vision or dream for over five years now. To be honest with you all, it was out of pure fear as to why I didn’t start my own blog. I would write for others first as a hobby, then to gain experience, and finally as a form of expression. All the while, I knew deep down I still wasn’t completely satisfied. Alas, after much thought, prayer, and trials I decided to create my own.

Think about your trials and tribulations. That will give you answers and insight of remembering your why.

My first reason as to Why I Blog, was to motivate, encourage, and inspire. As an adult woman, wife, and mother of three I have experienced life and I was the type to hold things in. I never let anyone know I was feeling sad, anxious, depressed, or unfulfilled. Dealing with things on my own and internally was my mojo.

Even the thought of wanting to go back to school or make a career change I kept to myself. I was at a place where the slightest criticism or remark would make me question and sometimes change my mind. The biggest brick on my shoulders was my mommy guilt. Anything that took time away from me being available to my kids, I felt like I couldn’t do.

Remember when one area of your life is out of sync all areas are out of sync. I had this vision of what I wanted my life to be and how I wanted to live. The only options was for me to make it happen. My internal peace and happiness is beneficial to my marriage, kids, family and friends. I knew if I wanted to be that strong individual that everyone depends on then I had to be strong for myself.

I began to make decisions and choices without anyone knowing. Letting another’s opinion about my desires suede me in any way. In contrast, the thought of sparing their feelings was no longer an option. Also, understanding my dreams are mine and no one else has to understand them was essential to my healing process. Trusting and believing in myself was also the number one essential.

Why I Blog

Remembering why I blog is easy for me. I know for a fact there are many women and men who experience the same type of emotions. Putting it into words can be difficult. Expressing your concerns can be difficult. Not getting the support needed or understanding can be a blow to your mental and emotional health. If I can in any way say “hey I’ve been there and if I can escape you can too”. At then end of the day, if I only touch or inspire one person then I have done what God has asked me to do.

Putting yourself out there is very hard and vulnerable. But I do know, I want to grow and be the best version of myself. So that means I have to be vulnerable and embrace uncertainty. When you’re uncomfortable you’re growing. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable as I heard Steve Harvey say. I am someone who embraces changes and loves to take risks. So keeping those thoughts in the front of mind allows me to rely on my faith, capabilities, and desire to know there is someone out there who is depending on me to show a little vulnerability.

Another reason I blog, is for my mental health. Me attempting to motivate and encourage others helps me. So often we suffer in silence because we think we the only one going through something. Not realizing if we had the courage to speak up, we all could be healed. There is truly strength in numbers. In my years, I learned holding things in aren’t good for your emotional wellbeing. Therefore, I need to release it. What better way to release it, get it off my mind and help someone in the process. My number one thing I tell so many is “you are not alone.

In a circle of friends or family, if everyone has their cup full, then there is plenty to drink from. Now, if one or two people only have something in their cup, then dehydration is going to set in. So why not make sure my cup is running over so I can help someone else begin to fill theirs. Notice I said help. We can’t completely take the cup from them. We can assist and we all can fill our cups together.

Lastly, in remembering why I blog, I noticed how happy, energized, and full I felt when I would talk to a coworker, friend, or family member out of sadness. When I would try to build someone up, encourage them to go after their dreams, or tell them they are worthy, I was the most happy myself. I knew that was my WHY. How I felt on the inside was all the confirmation I needed.

Remember your why. Why do you do what you do. When things aren’t seeming to pan out how you thought, don’t give up. Remember why you started. Always staying true to your why, will lead you down a path of fullness.


Be you so you can be free.