The More You Grow…Part II

We’re constantly evolving and growing. The more you grow and learn about yourself the better life you can have. Certain aspects of life are important to you and meaningful than before. So I’d thought I update a previous post from earlier. The More You Grow…

The More You Grow

First as your grow having a life insurance policy is IMPORTANT!!!!! This isn’t something we want to think about when we’re younger or even think is important. Well its very important for everyone, even the children in the family. Making sure your family is ok in the event of something happening will eliminate unwanted stress. You can go online and get a quote, and guess what its not even expensive. The only thing that’s guaranteed for all of us is death.

Next, maintaining your home and cars. I was very guilty of this when I was younger. Routine maintenance and checkups on your vehicles saves you money in the long run, keeps your return on your investment high, and provides a sense of security. Maintenance on your home is more essential to you mentally and emotionally. Home is where you go to rest, relax, and release. It’s the place you feel most comfortable. So to ensure it’s updated, maintained, and inviting, allows you to focus on yourself.

Keeping regular doctor and dental visits are primary health care habits. We can do everything right and if we don’t get checked out something can go wrong. However, thinking preventive will keep you inspired to stay ahead. Making sure we’re the most healthy is essential to self care.

Along with physical health having a good spiritual foundation is the one ingredient that can’t be missed. Having a sense of gratitude and knowing that there is a higher power, provides the hope and faith needed to know everything is going to be alright no matter what. Whatever you believe and how ever you believe is up to you, your business, and is for you alone.

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As you become more seasoned, you know the importance of having a great understanding of your finances. Where they are, what you want, where you need to improve, and have a clear plan on how you’re going to get there. You no longer fly by the seat of your pants.

By this time you’ve lived and know the importance of having a great work life balance. So many of us in our early years work work work, and missed out on family time and milestones that we can’t get back. Furthermore, most of us don’t even enjoy the fruits of our labor. Now you know that taking time to breath, pat yourself on the back, and enjoy family and friends is priceless.

As we grow the relationships in our life is essential to our well being. Knowing what we need from each one and how we can reciprocate the love is clear. This is for your romantic, friendships, coworkers, family, and anyone else in your life. Long gone are the days of having 20 best friends. We keep a couple and throw the rest away.

When it comes to holidays, you really don’t need a gift. As long as you are around family and friends, good food, love, and laughter you are content and happy.

Avoiding people, places, and situations is essential to your mental health and you now know that. You no longer view it as running or punking out. Not putting yourself in uncomfortable situations or circumstances is smart and wise.

These are just some things I’ve picked up along the way and thought I’d share. Someone may feel the same way and not know what exactly is happening. It means you’re growing my love and becoming more aware of who you are. Don’t be afraid or run from it, embrace it because it’s going to make your life easier and more enjoyable.

The one thing that is constant is change. And while we’re on this journey of life, we’re going to forever grow. Let’s grow in the right direction.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WHICH SELF CARE CATEGORIES ARE YOU DOING WELL IN?

Physical self care and emotional self care I am doing well in. No one is ever a 100% all the time. However, maintaining balance in my physical and emotional health helps me manage all other areas of self care. In actuality, all the self care categories are related.

Without question my physical activity is the center prong of my self care. When I’m feeling sad, angry, or overwhelmed I turn to walking. Even when I’m excited or received good news, walking calms me. You know when you get those jitters and you don’t know what to do, walking brings me back down. walking is my meditation. When I walk I can sort my thoughts, answer questions, and regain focus. The best part is doing so without judgement or input from others. It allows me to literally and figuratively cleanse the negative energy.

Another form of physical activity that helps with managing my self care is cleaning. When I get in a mood, I put in my ear buds and get lost in cleaning products. This is a form of therapy for me. From top to bottom and front to back I do a physical cleanse as well as a mental while cleaning. It’s almost like disinfecting the negative energy, thoughts, and emotions away. After cleaning I always take a long shower or bath. In result I feel like I’ve had a therapy session with an actual counselor.

Yes, I reap benefits physically keeping my body in shape. But now, I more so do physical activity to keep my mind clear and focused. Whenever you are feeling over whelmed, too many negative thoughts, or in a state of confusion, do some kind of physical activity. Physical self care or activities gives you a moment to turn your attention to something else. By the time you’re done you’ll have the strength and courage to move forward. HOLDING THAT GRUDGE IS ONLY HURTING YOU, LET IT GO

My second self care category I’m doing well at is emotional. Keeping my emotional health in check helps me communicate my needs and wants. Allows me to give myself permission to be happy and doing so guilt free. Not being to quick to respond. Not taking things personally. Being grateful in good and bad times. Allowing myself to have a moment. Acknowledging I am having a moment. Then tackling what caused me to have a moment.

Also part of my emotional health is giving myself a break. Saying I need time off. Lastly a huge part of my emotional health is positive self talk and journaling. Writing is very cathartic. Getting out your feelings and emotions is important to your overall health. Good and bad. All in turn has allowed me to even keep my mental health in balance. I realized leading with emotion or making emotional decisions can make situations worse.

What self care category or categories are you doing well in? We are so quick to point out areas we need to work on. Exercise some good emotional habits and point out what you are doing good in.

Have a great day!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY BLOG: EASTER WEEK, EMOTIONAL BREAKDOWN, & GAME NIGHT

This is going to be a short week for work and school. Because of Easter Sunday coming, I’m off work on Friday and the kids get out of school. We’re trying to figure out ways to spruce things up and do something different.

Sunday: Great morning with sunshine coming through just how I like it. It’s finally nice to have temps back into spring like weather. After breakfast I finished the final edits and published WEEKLY BLOG: BACK TO SCHOOL, LOTS OF CATCHING UP, SONIC MOVIE. I finished some notes and planned more post. I think we plan to enjoy the day before the work week begin. I’m focusing on me this afternoon, doing my hair and nails. The only thing on my agenda is to workout. Later in the evening I was able to have some ”me” time and relax.

Monday: Great start to a rainy morning. My plan for today is to work while I’m at work. I have some goals in mind that I’m trying to reach. After drop off, I had a little motivation so I published HAPPINESS ISN’T A DESTINATION. Work was very quiet and peaceful today. Later on in the evening I was still battling a headache that just wouldn’t go away. So I decided to cook dinner and turn in early. I understand when my body and mind says to sit down, that I will do. Tomorrow will be another long day because we have an event to go to in the evening.

Tuesday: Morning allergies is getting to my son again. But he was able to get up and get off to school ok. Office was kind of slow, but we’re in our final stages of transitioning another agent so it makes it better. Had plans to do some errands after work due to an event we’re supposed to go to. Yup, it’s Tuesday so we always go to my moms to set out her trash. Needless to say we’re in a pinch because we have less than an hour. After the event we stop by the store and headed home. I was in a mood and did a late night cleaning session. Afterwards, I did my night routine and headed off to bed.

Wednesday: Very gloomy morning. We’re under tornado and hail storm warning. I hate this weather. I don’t know what’s worse, snow and ice or rain and thunder. After drop off and before heading to the office there are some packages I need to drop at the post office. I plan to do some notes, proposals, and listings today. After dinner, in the evening I was debating on some contracts to accept, doing some research, and other work. Headed off to bed feeling very productive and sticking to my plan.

Thursday: Very emotional morning. There are some childhood emotional traumas that I’ve been tackling. It’s very hard, scary, and gut wrenching. However, I know I need to address this. After dropping the kids off, I literally took a moment for myself before heading to the office. Well, that didn’t go well. Maybe 20minutes into arriving I was still not doing well. I had to quickly gather my things and tell them I had to leave. I just had to let it out. I was literally crying as if I heard some tragic news. I came home jumped under the blanket and let myself go. I realized I needed to give myself permission to let it out. Afterwards I knew I had to collect myself in time to pick up the kids. I journaled and let every emotion out. I prayed. Then gave myself a quick ”girl get your ish together.” Later in the evening after dinner I got in a good workout and put myself to bed.

Friday: Good Friday!!!!!!! I am off today. The kids have a half day of school. My plans are to have coffee, enjoy a program, and handle a couple of task while I’m at home alone. I’m feeling a lot better today and ready to get into gear. Late afternoon I have an spa appointment and we’ll probably go have dinner out. The kids said they didn’t want to do too much. In my time alone, I was able to post ALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA APPS DELETED. (No my emotional breakdown isn’t related to me deleting my social media apps.) Get some mail shredded and a couple loads of laundry. The weather wasn’t too friendly out, so we enjoyed our evening in.

Saturday: Cold brisk morning. Couldn’t sleep in too much. There were plenty errands to take care of before tomorrow, Easter Sunday. I decided to do a quick workout as soon as I got up. My son and husband went to the barber shop and then errands of their own. After working out we finished up errands before heading to game night. The kids wanted to have family game night at my moms. She and my aunt, who’s here visiting, WEEKLY BLOG: NEW PERFUME, DETOX, & VISIT FROM AUNT cooked and planned a great evening. Later after all my Easter Sunday prep was done, we headed over. family game night was fun and lasted very late.

Have a great week everyone!!!!!

Weekly blog is designed to show the realistic life of a working mom, while balancing life, family, and myself.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SIMPLE DAYS ARE THE BEST DAYS

So often we have this misconception that each day has to be filled with an event or something big happening. When in actuality, the simple days are the best days. As I’ve matured and go on this journey I love having a simple full productive day.

Expect To Have A Great Day

What Does That Look Like:

It starts off with me sleeping in with my husband. The both of us not getting up at 5a.m. and can lay there to watch the sun come through the window is peace, love, joy, and calmness. Hearing my kids gradually wakeup when they are ready instead of me waking them up to get ready for school I love hearing. To see their personalities and who likes to get up early and who likes to sleep in is amazing.

Next, it’s getting dressed in my comfortable lounge around house clothes, but still cute enough to go to the store. Having a moment getting showered, dressed, and ready for the day triggers the positive side of my brain. Doing my skincare routine and making sure I’m presentable and feel good about myself sets my mood.

After that, opening up blinds, curtains, and windows to let the natural sunlight and air come through. When you allow nature to come in, it opens your eyes, heart, and mind to a new spiritual realm. It makes you want to go out for a walk, lifts your spirits, and know darkness is only temporary. SELF CARE HABITS: 8 DAILY HABITS TO FEEL YOUR BEST

Fixing breakfast for my family and having the smell of coffee coming from the brewer makes me feel good and excites me. I love being a mom and wife. Taking care of my family is something I pride myself on. They are the air I breathe.

After everyone has had breakfast they break off and do whatever it is they heart desires. This is having a simple day that is the best. My daughter goes to draw and use her creativity. My sons and husband get in their time on the video game. While I, do laundry, edit blog post, post listings on Poshmark, do a quick tidy around the house, or go for a walk.

That may take a couple of hours and then my daughter and I will play in hair and makeup. She may want me to change her hairstyle while I go and play in new makeup I’ve purchased. Either way spending quality time with her is the best.

Well, now it’s early evening and we’re hungry. So we decide to go have dinner. Having dinner out is fun, great conversation with the kids, and good family time. The kids are talking without prompts and we’re all engaged because they aren’t distracted with their phones. After dinner we may go to the store and get ice cream or walk around because the kids just want to go buy ”something.”

Lastly, we go home unwind, shower, and wash the day off. Maybe watch some movie or find something to binge watch. Sometimes we get alone time because the kids are off doing their own thing and other times they may join us in whatever we watch.

The beauty of this simple day is that it was filled with love, family, gratitude, and variety. All while doing ”nothing” I was able to sleep in, spend time with my husband alone, have family time, get a little work done, and still have time to rest. I can’t ask for a better day.

Simple days are the best days. Don’t stress yourself out trying to ”make” the day fun or exciting. You are already fun and exciting. Focus on what you have and the small details and the best simple day will come to you. You don’t have to do anything extra to have a great day. When you wake up expect to have a great day no matter what.

#SelfCareSaturday

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE: YOU CAN’T GET AWAY FROM YOU

No matter what happens in this world or where you go, you can’t get away from you. Mental note to remember, write down, and never forget is you are the one person that’s going to be around forever. That’s why self care is important. Your mental health check-ins are important because you have to be around you 24/7. HAVE YOU HAD YOUR ANNUAL MENTAL HEALTH CHECK UP?

Let’s think about this. You wake up with you. Every time you eat, shower, exercise, work, laugh, cry and sleep you are with you. You have to answer to yourself. So why not make it a great relationship. If you are stuck with yourself, have the greatest laughs, memories, and fulfillment form within. In the meantime, if you have a great relationship with yourself, you’ll have great relationships with others.

Check-in with yourself every so often. Fulfill your urges to love and receive love by being around family and friends. Mostly importantly love yourself first. Believe you can do whatever you put your mind to. Have faith that you can over come. The good and the bad. When we have a great experience it’s easy to ride a high or wave. But eventually we’re going to come back down. So how do you handle that high wearing off? On the other hand, don’t run from adversity, fear, guilt, or shame. It’ll only come back around to you.

You are the one you talk to the most. Have great conversations with yourself. Ask yourself questions. I know they say it’s not good to answer yourself, but answer yourself. I found it’s the best thing I could have done. Tell yourself the honest Gods truth. You can’t get away from you.

The one person that you inspire the most, is yourself. What you tell yourself you are going to Believe. Furthermore, how you motivate from within will show on the outside. Finally, take care of your body, trust yourself, Believe in you, and listen to yourself. Mental note: you can’t get away from you.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

2022 SPRING SELF CARE CHECKLIST

This year my spring self care checklist is a little different. SPRING SELF CARE TIPS YOU CAN DO NOW For 2022, this spring I want to focus on some things I’d like to get better at or start doing. In no particular order here’s my spring self care checklist.

Cleanse
I’ve been a little loose lately on my eating habits. I don’t follow a specific diet. However, I try to keep a no carb, low sugar, low sodium, and non dairy diet. This is what works for me and I receive results that I’m happy with it. So to start the spring season, I’m focusing on cleansing my body as well as my mental. Drinking lots of water, making healthy low sugar smoothies at home, high protein, and colorful veggies. It’s been about two weeks since I’ve been sticking with it, and my body is thanking me for the cleanse.

As for my mental, I wanted to take a pause. Sometimes when you have so much going on and working on, you can lose track. For a moment I’m going to not do too much, as I prayed and meditated for clarity and direction. I want to make sure I’m supposed to be juggling my blog, being a freelancer, working outside the home, and other projects I’ve started. I don’t want to spread myself too thin and not enjoy all what I do.

Add Color Accents To the Home
Adding color to the house is something that visually satisfies me and make me want to be at home. First, I have to have some kind of door hanger for every season or holiday. This year I went with a very colorful butterfly in many different shades of blue with accents of all the spring colors. Next, I added some pillows and throw to the couch. Lastly, the spring candles are out and right now my favorite is “Bamboo and Waterlily Bliss” by Glade. The pale green color of the candle along with the pillows adds just the hint of spring to the inside.

Purchase A New Plant
For little over a year now, I’ve been trying to work on my green thumb. So far so good. None of my plants have died on me. The aloe plant is thriving and growing wildly. The baby peace lily has been amazing and is doing the best. My large peace lily is looking ok, but she still a work in progress. However, I want to add another plant. Adding plants has been a great challenge, project for me to focus on, and helping me expand my horizons to step outside my comfort zone to try new things.

Get A New Phone Case
Seems simple enough right. Well something as simple as getting a new phone case can add some style, change of scenery, and personality. This is a very inexpensive way to add color, style, personality, and variety with little effort. Also this will give you a little confidence boost. Sometimes starting with the smallest change can give you the push needed to keep going or go big.

Search New Recipes
There is a ton of content out there. Search for new recipes for the spring. Refresh your weekly menu to add variety, increase the amount of healthy food, and get rid of boredom. Learning new recipes gives you an outlet to be creative. Explore and expand with flavors, colors, and texture with food. In the meantime, you are busy creating, growing, and enhancing yourself.

Motivational Podcast
Podcast are one of the popular mediums to consume content. Search and find an inspirational podcast that speaks to what you are needing or wanting. Seek motivation on where you’re trying to go and how you can get there. Having this podcast can provide you with inspiration and motivation at a moments notice. It’s useful for a nice spring walk, while you’re on break at work, while you’re meditating or praying, waiting for your kid to get out of practice, while in shower or bath tub, or cooking. Furthermore, a great podcast will allow you to keep your mental and emotional tank full. Therefore, help your mental health status stay in the green.

Purge Old Winter Clothes
A good way to say good bye to winter is to get rid of old clothes that you can’t fit or not going to wear next year. This makes room for new spring inspiration for you to spruce your style up. An added bonus is to sell them. My favorite thing to do is list it on Poshmark . Poshmark is very simple to sell old items you no longer want or need. Not only are you decluttering, you’re making a little something off of it. In addition, becoming a seller catapults you into creating a new business venture for yourself.

Those are my spring self care habits for 2022. They are simple, effective, and something that will benefit us in more than one way. It’s a new season, and a fresh start for you to get your spark back, renew it, or switch it up. Whatever you need to do this spring, do it for you.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY BLOG: NEW PERFUME, DETOX, & VISIT FROM AUNT

This week the only thing on my mind is to detox my body and cleanse it out. I decided to eat Gumbo, it just didn’t sit well with my body. Water, lots of it, fish and veggies was the only thing on my diet this week.

Sunday: Woke up early to a very nice sunshine coming through the window. Instantly puts me in a good mood and ready to have a great day. The only thing on the agenda was braiding my daughters hair. She has very long and thick hair. It usually takes me two and half hours to do. The day started with breakfast as usual, no cafe coffee run. We opted to make our own at home. Then, of course, I dump a load of laundry in the washer. Next, about mid afternoon, I started my daughters hair which took me to early evening. Because my back usually hurts quite a bit when I finish her hair, I relax the rest of the time. So dinner (Gumbo) was already done and all I had to do was reheat it. I showered and binged watch ”Our Kind of People” the rest of the night.

Monday: So I woke up to a horrible stomach ache. This wasn’t your usual stomach ache that says you need to go to the bathroom. I was literally bent over holding my stomach at 5a.m. I tried to walk around, drink Water, and go to the bathroom but it wasn’t getting any better. I pushed through and started my morning routine in getting the kids up and breakfast started. I wasn’t going to call in so I just pushed through. Very slow and quiet day at the office so I left early and went to the store to get everything I needed for a cleanse. Water, veggies, fish, and nighttime tea was the only thing on the menu for me all week. Later in the evening, I went for a walk and relaxed.

Tuesday: Still feeling a little blah, but making it. The Water keeps me in the bathroom, but it feels good to flush my system out. DIY Cucumber Lemon Water GREAT REFRESHER After thinking about it, I think the Gumbo had too much salt in it. My body just didn’t react well. I usually keep a low sodium diet. Thank goodness the office was quiet and I was able to catch up on some work. We are preparing for my aunt to visit us for a while on Saturday. The evening we spent relaxing getting ready for a short day tomorrow.

Wednesday: Short day for all of us. The kids have a half day so I naturally will as well. I’m feeling better but sticking to my cleanse and low calorie diet. After getting home early, I decided to do a quick mid week cleanup. As a family of five, it gets cluttered quickly with everyone going to school and working. Once again, we are preparing for snow days ahead at the end of the week. So now, we’re all on stand by because we don’t know the expectations. Later in the evening, I enjoyed a workout, working on some contracts, and proposals.

Thursday: Snowing as we awake. But the kids still have school. However, by mid afternoon it tapered off. It was a very quiet day at the office. I was able to get a lot of notes, ideas, and proposals done. The snow is expected to pick up in the evening and continue on to the night. I decided to do a store run just in case we get snowed in again. As of the evening around 7p.m. the snow began but to our knowledge school wasn’t cancelled. So we went on with our evening as if everyone had to get up in the morning.

Friday: I am feeling much better. Received a call at 5:30a.m. from the school saying the day was cancelled. Of course the kids were happy, but I still had to make it to the office. Thankfully, we didn’t get what was expected. I was able to drive to work with no problem and had a quiet successful day at the office. My husband decided to leave work to stay home with the kids. It was still kind of cold, so we decided to stay in for the night.

Saturday: My new perfume is expected to arrive. I ordered me a new perfume (Calvin Klein Sheer Beauty) because I just wanted to and my Tom Ford Velvet Orchid finally ran out. At the moment perfume, is one of my favorite self care things I do to make myself feel good. The morning started great with breakfast. I am finally feeling like myself. Relaxed and watched tournaments of basketball because March Madness is approaching. Then I had this itch to clean. But first, I went to the store and stocked up on supplies and new oil diffusers. My aunt finally made it and it’s always fun when she visits. Later on we went out to dinner and then had ice cream again.

Have a great week everyone!!!!

P.S. Weekly blog is designed to show the realistic life of a working mom, balancing life, family, and myself.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY BLOG: SUPER BOWL, SNOW DAYS, & POWER OUTAGE

This week my focus and intentions were to stay organized and on top of the daily routine because I knew it was going to be a busy week. Starting off with the Super Bowl, then Valentines Day the very next day, an anticipated snow and ice storm again, to parent teacher conferences. It was sure to be a busy week.

Sunday: Super Bowl Sunday. The day my husband has been waiting for. I know on big game days he doesn’t like to be interrupted and he stays glued to the T.V. The day started great with us doing our routine Sunday morning coffee at Dunn Bros. Then we went to the store to make sure we had what we wanted to eat for the big game. Side Note: So my husband doesn’t like to attend or host big game parties. He feels he can’t watch the game and hear everything if there is alot of people around. So we partied with the immediate family. Our menu stayed simple with burgers and salad. Baked a cake and some brownies, everyone was happy.

However, in early afternoon around 1:30 pm we experienced an unexpected power outage. This was not the day for it. It was nice and sunny outside so it was very confusing. Well, we figured out it was a neighborhood outage and it was estimated to restore around 5pm. Thankfully it was still sunny out and I used that time to repot my plants, the kids used the IPAD for entertainment, while my husband paced the floor. After all, it was restored within 2 hours and we had an amazing evening.

Monday: Happy Valentines Day!!!! ❤️ HOW DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF It’s love day, but we all still have to go to work and school. I knew I had a couple of coworkers who were single and didn’t have the best attitude towards today. So I stopped and got them some candies to cheer them up. Typically the hubs and I usually don’t make a big stink about Valentines Day, but we knew we wanted the kids to feel special. I decorated the house and got some flowers for the table. Then we chose to order in because every restaurant was booked. We enjoyed the evening and it was intimate with the kids. Lastly, we capped it off with some red velvet cake.

Tuesday: Had a really good day at the office. Successful in balancing some editing, contracts, and getting some good proposals out. This was a great day to go out and enjoy nature before the storm that is expected Thurdsay. Temps reached to near 70 and it was refreshing to be outside. The kids did their weekly Tuedsday trip to grandmas house, which gives me time to do what I need to do. I was able to get some cleaning done, a couple of laurndry loads, and workout.

Wednesday: Very quiet and peaceful day at the office. Because we’re expecting another storm I was a little busy ensuring that everything was up to date and clients had everthing they needed in the event they would close the office. Per usual, I went to the store to make sure we had more than enough. Snow days I love because I get to be home with the kids, working on my blog, freelancing, and just being available to my kids. We got the call kind of late in the evening that they were going to close everything. The kids were excited for another break.

Thursday: Snow Day as expected. We received freezing rain, then sleet, and lastly snow on top. Plus the temps dropped extremely low very quickly. Vast turn around from the 70 degrees on Tuesday. I spent this day relaxing and catching up on work. Because today I was supposed to have parent teacher conferences. I have 3 kids that go to 3 different schools (elementary, middle, and high school) I like to split the conferences between two days. Since this day was cancelled I know next week I will have all three on the same day. The kids and I were on edge all day because my husband had to make it to work and stayed all day and night because no one else could make it out. Thankfully he made it home safe.

Friday: They cancelled school again and I opted to work from home. I had a contract to negotiate and begin so it worked out for the best. My plans were to maintain my daily routine, get some contracts out and work done, all while enjoying my time with the kids. These snow days have been great mental health days for me. Due to the weather, our plans are to stay in and enjoy binge watching some old television shows. The kids have been loving us showing them the shows we watched when we were younger.

Saturday: The first thing on the agenda is to go get my daughters supplies for her family and Consume Science class. She’s preparing to sew and make a pillow. Had a good day out after being snowed in for a couple days running errands. The rest of the day was spent tidying up, working out, and relaxing. After a couple of long days, my husband is off for much needed break.

Another week down and we’re already at the end of February. As you go through your daily life and weeks, it’s important to take time for self, family, and rest. Have a great week!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKLY BLOG: CALM AND STILLNESS

The last two weeks my focus and intention has been calm and stillness. I knew and felt like there was so much going on in the world that I didn’t want it to suck me in. After a busy ending of January it was time for me to pause. Taking an occasional pause is very important.

Sunday: Was a reset day for me. I didn’t want to have the day filled with ”stuff” to do. My intentions were to let the day come naturally. I woke up by asking ”God what is it you want me to do today?” And I let Him guide me. It turned out to be a very chilled day. We enjoyed breakfast and coffee at our favorite coffee shop and lounged the rest of the day. One of our rule of thumbs, is to use Sundays as a mental health rest day. We know the importance of keeping a clear mind before our routine busy week with a family of five.

Monday: It’s always busy and back to business. Really had to drag myself to the office because we have been very slow and I would prefer to work from home and get more things done. I always have to quickly remind myself how fortunate and blessed I am to be able to manage my own schedule. Because my ultimate goal is to work for myself full time , any moment I may feel I can be working towards that gets me frustrated when I can’t. Monday evenings are always chill and light because we’re settling into our routine.

Tuesday: Was very busy as I finish up a contract and submit more proposals. Had a learning experience on what to look for when submitting proposals. This freelancer journey is teaching me a lot about business and people in a different way than corporate America. But I’m enjoying it. I had to finish things up at the office because we are expecting a snow storm and everything is going to shut down. After work I made sure we had everything we needed to be snowed in for a couple of days. Of course, my anxiety is up because no matter how much snow and ice we get, my husband has to go to work.

Wednesday: As expected we are snowed in, there’s no school, and my office is closed. I’m happy because I get to spend the day at home, with my kids, and have a mental break. WEEKLY BLOG: BALANCING EVERYDAY LIFE I enjoy waking up, still early, working on the things that make me happy, cooking breakfast, and of course baking a cake. I was able to maintain my midweek clean, relax, and make it a fun successful snow day. While still having my moments of calm and stillness.

Thursday: Another snow day. You better believe I’m loving it. I took advantage of these last two days by setting goals and intentions on how I plan to eventually be able to work for myself full time. Still loving being a mom, cooking, baking, and making sure we soak up every moment we have together. My kids usually love going to school being with their friends, but to my surprise, they are loving the snow days. Even as a mom, I am learning from my kids about life.

Friday: We weren’t sure, but they cancelled school again. I decided to stay home with the kids and work from home. Later on in the afternoon, we decided it was time to go out and play in the snow, shovel ourselves out, and get some fresh air. Although it was still brutally cold, we had fun. Finally the snow has stopped and everyone was ready to get out and breathe some fresh air. In the evening, we enjoyed the beginning event of the Winter Olympics. Just as the Summer Olympics, we love to hear the inspiring stories about the athletes and attempt to learn something from them.

Saturday: Was a much better day. The temps are up and the sun is shining bright. So that helps much of the snow and ice to melt. The kids were having cabin fever. Therefore we decided to go have lunch at Panera. It was a great, quiet, calm afternoon lunch. My husband and I were absolutely excited because the kids chose Panera. The rest of the day and evening enjoying each other, watching the Winter Olympics, and doing nothing. My husband and I use to always think on the weekends we had to go go go. We are more happy binging watching an old tv show from our childhood and drinking coffee.

When I was younger I wish the importance of peace, calm, and stillness was highlighted. Yeah, they tell you to rest, but at the time I was growing up, it was all about grinding and working yourself to exhaustion. If you work yourself into exhaustion, no one is going to benefit from you being in the hospital or having a nervous breakdown. Part of self care is finding that balance of work and stillness.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MID WEEK MENTAL HEALTH REMINDERS

For the last couple of weeks I’ve really had to be intentional about pausing and taking a couple moments to gather myself. I thought I’d share some mid week mental health reminders that we all can use.

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  1. Relax. Seems simple enough right. When I say relax I don’t mean in literal since of laying down and going to bed. Whatever it is that has you worried, afraid, or anxious just breathe and let the circumstances play out. Worrying isn’t going to speed the time up. Getting anxious and pacing the floor isn’t going to change the outcome or determine the outcome. Instead, what I did was plop down on the couch and binge watch Law & Order. Then I decided to have a bowl of ice cream. TGIF: SELF CARE IS ALL AROUND YOU I even relaxed my mind by not even posting my weekly blog. I took a break and didn’t even do my routine laundry. And guess what, I was just fine. The world didn’t end or stop.
  2. Give Yourself Permission to Have a Bad Day. This may sound counter productive. But no one on this earth will have a great day everyday. We all will have a bad day and then some. It’s perfectly ok. Embrace that bad day. Don’t be afraid to admit you are in a mood, don’t want to wake up, don’t want to cook, clean, or go to work. Acknowledging we are having a bad day gives us the power and insight on where we need to show some love and care to ourselves. Not recognizing or denying ourselves a bad day will hinder our ability to point out triggers, insecurities, and unawareness. Once you admit you’re having a bad day, can identify why, then make it a point to make tomorrow a better day. SELF CARE HABITS: 8 DAILY HABITS TO FEEL YOUR BEST
  3. Accept What is the Now. Stop and be present in the moment. Don’t worry about what you have to do or want to do. Give yourself permission to be present, accept where you are and what you have, and learn how to be content and appreciative of that. If we are always wanting more, looking for more, then we’ll never be grateful and appreciative of what we have now. It’s great to have goals and plans, but what we have now we didn’t have before. So we are in an abundance.
  4. Embrace the Uncertainty. Especially right now we have no idea what our days are going to look like. We can plan and outline but if there is a detour you must take, don’t let it ruin your day or week. At a moments notice my kids can be in school, then have a day out, or do virtual learning for a couple of weeks. Or you may even have a snow day. I’ve learned to Embrace what the day brings. The best way to do this is be present, make the decision that no matter what, you are going to Embrace the moment. The idea I get to be home, cook, and spend time with my kids is a luxury. So for that I am grateful. I know there will come a point in time where my kids leave the nest. Whatever your uncertainty is, Embrace it, because you can handle it.
  5. You Have Everything You Need. God has provided and equipped you with everything you need in this moment. If you needed more, right now you would have it. When it’s time for you to have more, then God will deliver. He’s always on time. He won’t leave you in lack or without. If you’re in a situation to where you don’t think so, then how are you reading this. God has never failed to deliver. Remember He is the source that uses resources. God is the source that uses your job as the resource. If you lost your job then God has another job (resource) that’s better waiting for you when you are ready to receive it. You are here today when you thought you wouldn’t make it, so He will continue to guide you. Trust Him.

As we go through life it’s not about what we are going through or what’s happening to us. But more of how we handle it, what we do with our time, and how we learn. So just know you are doing fine, you will be ok, you have the strength to overcome, tough times are temporary, and you were put here to be happy.

Have a great day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.