The More You Grow…Part II

We’re constantly evolving and growing. The more you grow and learn about yourself the better life you can have. Certain aspects of life are important to you and meaningful than before. So I’d thought I update a previous post from earlier. The More You Grow…

The More You Grow

First as your grow having a life insurance policy is IMPORTANT!!!!! This isn’t something we want to think about when we’re younger or even think is important. Well its very important for everyone, even the children in the family. Making sure your family is ok in the event of something happening will eliminate unwanted stress. You can go online and get a quote, and guess what its not even expensive. The only thing that’s guaranteed for all of us is death.

Next, maintaining your home and cars. I was very guilty of this when I was younger. Routine maintenance and checkups on your vehicles saves you money in the long run, keeps your return on your investment high, and provides a sense of security. Maintenance on your home is more essential to you mentally and emotionally. Home is where you go to rest, relax, and release. It’s the place you feel most comfortable. So to ensure it’s updated, maintained, and inviting, allows you to focus on yourself.

Keeping regular doctor and dental visits are primary health care habits. We can do everything right and if we don’t get checked out something can go wrong. However, thinking preventive will keep you inspired to stay ahead. Making sure we’re the most healthy is essential to self care.

Along with physical health having a good spiritual foundation is the one ingredient that can’t be missed. Having a sense of gratitude and knowing that there is a higher power, provides the hope and faith needed to know everything is going to be alright no matter what. Whatever you believe and how ever you believe is up to you, your business, and is for you alone.

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As you become more seasoned, you know the importance of having a great understanding of your finances. Where they are, what you want, where you need to improve, and have a clear plan on how you’re going to get there. You no longer fly by the seat of your pants.

By this time you’ve lived and know the importance of having a great work life balance. So many of us in our early years work work work, and missed out on family time and milestones that we can’t get back. Furthermore, most of us don’t even enjoy the fruits of our labor. Now you know that taking time to breath, pat yourself on the back, and enjoy family and friends is priceless.

As we grow the relationships in our life is essential to our well being. Knowing what we need from each one and how we can reciprocate the love is clear. This is for your romantic, friendships, coworkers, family, and anyone else in your life. Long gone are the days of having 20 best friends. We keep a couple and throw the rest away.

When it comes to holidays, you really don’t need a gift. As long as you are around family and friends, good food, love, and laughter you are content and happy.

Avoiding people, places, and situations is essential to your mental health and you now know that. You no longer view it as running or punking out. Not putting yourself in uncomfortable situations or circumstances is smart and wise.

These are just some things I’ve picked up along the way and thought I’d share. Someone may feel the same way and not know what exactly is happening. It means you’re growing my love and becoming more aware of who you are. Don’t be afraid or run from it, embrace it because it’s going to make your life easier and more enjoyable.

The one thing that is constant is change. And while we’re on this journey of life, we’re going to forever grow. Let’s grow in the right direction.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

DON’T GIVE UP: RESET AND KEEP GOING

We are a week into February and some may be feeling a little down on themselves. You made all these new years resolutions and they haven’t turned out exactly how you thought. Don’t give up, reset and keep going. KEEP GOING AND PUSH YOURSELF

I know there are many folks out there who set goals on January 1. Unfortunately, circumstances didn’t allow you to stay on track. For some reason finances got in the way of your goals. One slip up of getting off the diet and now you back to eating whatever you want. The weather prevented you from getting to the gym for a couple of days and now you feel like what’s the point of even going back.

Well all of those may be true. But you have the power to reset, adjust, and recharge. Don’t give up on your goals because life happen. Life is going to happen. You have to make a decision and choice to not let life get in your way. Don’t give up, reset and recharge to give yourself a chance.

Make the money saving goal a little smaller until you can save what you initially set out. Instead of setting a 20lb weight loss goal, reset it to 10lbs until you get back in gear. Ok, so what you ate that burger and fries, make it a point to play in the garden to get your eating habits back on track.

No matter what your resolution goals were, or how far you fell off. You can get back on track. Don’t give up on your goals. You can do this. We all fall off the wagon. That is being human. But what’s even more courageous, is not staying down.

Reset this month. Get your journal out and purge all your thoughts. Purge that guilt of eating fast food. Purge that shame of making excuses for not exercising. You spent the money, it’s not coming back, so free yourself of regret.

Next, go to the grocery store and get what you need to eat this week to stay on your good eating habits. Set your workout clothes out at night. Make a budget for you this week or do a little money challenge. Challenge yourself and do a no spend challenge this week.

Remember you can do it. Whatever that it is. Don’t give up. Reset and recharge.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

REMEMBER THE DARK SHADOWS YOU SURVIVED

Before we say “Happy New Year” I wanted to remind everyone of how strong and resilient they are. Remember back at the beginning of this year or further back, you were going through the most difficult time. In the dark shadows of this time you couldn’t breathe, think, eat, walk, or even talk at times. You came out the dark shadows more brave and wiser.

You Are Stronger Than You Think

While in this dark time you felt alone, scared, angry, sad, and worthless. There was no end in sight. The idea of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel was laughable. You absolutely had no idea how you were going to make it the next moment, day, hour, or week.

Well, well, well!!!! You made it. You are here living, breathing, walking, and talking. Whatever had a hold on you, didn’t break you. Guess what that means? You are powerful, strong, and courageous. Give yourself some credit, you are stronger than you think.

As we approach this new year, I want you to have the mindset of Why Mindset Is Everything strength. No matter what is thrown at you, you can over come. There isn’t anything that could hold you down. You did it before, and you definitely can do it again. Darkness doesn’t last forever.

We will have obstacles. But remember you’ve overcame what you thought was the worst. So in the new year, when a bump in the road comes, that is minor. You will leap over that bump with speed, knowledge, and confidence. Each time you will conquer and be happier than ever.

We don’t want to relive the past, but we can draw strength from it. Positive mindset going into the new year, will set you off right.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

TUESDAY TIP: LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES

I wanted to give everyone a quick mental note going into the new year, mistakes are good for you. Learn from your mistakes and never be shamed because you did make a mistake. We often beat ourselves up when we make a mistake. For some it’s very difficult to admit they made a mistake. In the mean time, others won’t even admit they actually do make mistakes. There isn’t anything wrong with making mistakes.

You Are Perfect The Way You Are

The honest to God truth is, we all are going to make mistakes over and over again. It’s all about how we grow and learn from them. Mistakes is how we learn what not to do. Whenever you make a mistake, and learn the correct way to do something, you’ll never make that mistake again. MENTAL HEALTH WELLNESS TIP: ONE STEP AT A TIME

In some situations in life, the only way to move forward is to make that one mistake that will teach us the who, what, where, why, and how.

As we approach the new year, I want the thought of being perfect to leave your mind. Embrace whatever mishaps happened. Figure out how you can learn and grow from them, and leave it as an after thought.

The humility, courage, and confidence you gain from admitting ”I made a mistake” is a power no one can take from you. When we deny, deflect, or dismiss we actually hurt ourselves. We give our power away. Admitting you made a mistake shows character, strength, courage, and humility.

Right now many people are gearing up for the ”new them”. One way to sit in who you are is to acknowledge the mistake that made you a better person today. It could be choosing the wrong partner, career choice, job, move, or conversation. Never regret the decisions or choices. Instead learn from them.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

WEEKEND AFFIRMATION: YOU CAN AND WILL GET BACK UP

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No matter how many times you fall, you will get back up. Don’t ever get discouraged because you have a little setback. SETBACKS, REJECTIONS, AND STUMBLING BLOCKS ARE NECESSARY FOR GROWTH That is how we learn, grow, and heal. On your journey have no regrets about the path you have been taken down. Your path and journey was created specifically for you. As you grow through life don’t listen to the negative chatter about how many times you’ve had to pick yourself up.

The beauty is you’ve had the strength, courage, and perseverance to keep getting up. That means no matter what is thrown at you, you have the WILL POWER in you to live and get back up. There isn’t anything that you aren’t equipped to handle.

No matter where you are or what is going on in your life, you can and will get back up!!!!!!!

Have a great day, week, month, and holiday!!!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SOMETIMES WE JUST OUTGROW RELATIONSHIPS

Sometimes we outgrow relationships and that’s ok. People come into our lives for a reason. No matter how well they develop or dissolve we outgrow the relationship. It’s perfectly normal and ok to outgrow some relationships.

If we outgrow a relationship that doesn’t mean its a bad thing. Two people have grown into two separate paths that doesn’t aline. The career path we choose takes us into different directions. Furthermore, any distance apart can help the relationship outgrow. The personal life we lead, takes us into different directions. LOVE YOURSELF MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE

Not everyone is meant to be in our lives forever. We would love to have that one friend since childhood. Or that college roommate that kept us company. Hey Beal. Luv U!!!!! I’m so blessed and grateful to still have my college roommate in my life. But anyway, just because we outgrow a relationship doesn’t mean you’re not going to ever talk to them again. It just means the things you used to have in common isn’t shared.

We don’t just outgrow relationships, we may outgrow the job we’ve been at for years. I’ve heard people say they outgrew their hairstyle. Also one may outgrow the neighborhood their in and want to move. We outgrow the music we listen to, the television shows we watch, and personal style preferences. It’s ok.

I know for me, something as simple as what I like to eat has drastically changed. My tolerance level for certain foods isn’t as high. My choice in music has shifted. I always say if it hurts my ears I can’t listen to it. How I like to entertain myself most people would probably think its boring. I enjoy being different, taking a risk, and challenging myself.

We aren’t supposed to stay the same day after day. Year after after. As we grow our taste changes. What we want and like shifts and adjusts. Also our point of view transform as we grow. So of course we would outgrow some relationships. I know its hard, but growth of any kind is good.

However, if someone isn’t happy, excited, or encourage you to keep going then you know the time has expired on that relationship. I know its scary but you’re going to develop some amazing new relationships along the way.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HAS 2021 BEEN WHAT YOU EXPECTED?

We’ve approached June 1, 2021 and its hard to believe. Has 2021 been what you expected it to be? Coming off a crazy year like 2020, we had many hopes and expectations of what we wanted and thought 2021 should be. Has 2021 been a great year for you so far? Or has it been a great disappointment?

To be perfectly honest, I had absolutely no expectations for the year 2021. I actually had a feeling of more of the same. I wasn’t expecting a huge shift in anything. However, I did go into the year with one goal, and that was to be grateful and positive no matter what came my way. How have I done so far? I must say I’m proud of myself. I’ve been very good at keeping a level head and trying to encourage myself and others.

2021 Expectations

On the other hand, I wanted to be fearless and take chances. And again, I’ve taken some steps professionally and business wise that I have been putting off. I’m proud of myself. So far for me 2021 has gone by fast and isn’t waiting on us for anything. If I can get through a COVID-19 school year, with the kids in seat, I can do anything. WHAT I’VE LEARNED THIS YEAR ABOUT MYSELF

Has your 2021 been what you wanted? If it hasn’t you still have time to plan, create, and set yourself up for success. The one thing we can’t get back is time. What are you waiting for? Turn your dreams into reality one step at a time. Do something everyday towards your dream or goal. It could be something as simple as reading an article or doing research.

If you want to go back to school, relocate, change careers, lose weight, or start a business, do one thing each day to make it reality. The more you work and grow, the more motivated and encouraged you become. Furthermore, we can’t just dream, we have to put some action behind it.

On the other hand, if your 2021 has been everything you hoped, then continue on the path you’re on. Continue to grow and live the life you set out. Even if no one says it, you are an inspiration to others. Enjoy the process and may you accomplish everything you set out.

2021 isn’t over, however time is moving like lighting and it isn’t going to slow down. I wish we could add hours in a day or tell time to slow down and wait until we’re ready. Go after and get whatever it is you want or want to do. Remember it’s a journey without a destination. It’s not a race, it’s a marathon. And lastly, the journey is yours and no one else’s.

Have a great day, week, month and rest of the year!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

IT’S OK TO NOT HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS

Throughout sometime in our life, we’re going to have to be ok with not having all the answers. So often we put our dreams on hold because we are waiting on “XYZ” to happen. Well, what usually end up happening is, “XYZ” never happens. Then excuse after excuse is used or we just give up hope all together. In many aspects of life, it’s ok to not have some answers and just go for it.

One can think they have all the answers, and then a wrench is thrown in. Life experience tells us, it’s impossible to have all the answers. Sometimes the best decisions are made with just winging it on a prayer. Of course, we want to have the answers to every what if. But that means we will know the outcome. That’s just not realistic or ideal.

The journey and experience of going through the process will make you mentally and emotionally stronger. You’ll get to see the strength you thought you didn’t have. Through each obstacle, patience and courage will show you what you really are made of.

If there is anything you’ve been dying to do or have been on your mind for a while, just go for it. Start with what you have and let the process play out. Everything doesn’t have to be in place for you to make your move. There is true enjoyment in learning as you go. Going though the steps and process of figuring things out will give you the motivation needed to see things through.

It’s ok to not have answers and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about that. It’s impossible to figure out all the unknowns. Hence, they are the unknowns for a reason. If you continue to wait to have all the answers then you’ll never live the life you want.

We will never have everything we need or all the answers we need to make certain decisions and moves in life. The longer we wait the more time we are on the shoulda, coulda, woulda’s. If you are wanting to go back to school, change careers, move to another state, start a business, or anything else just go for it.

Take a leap of faith and believe in yourself. Know that you have what it takes to fulfill whatever your heart desire. Go for it!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

TIME AND PATIENCE ARE TWO IMPORTANT FACTORS FOR GROWTH

My biggest lesson of this week is TIME!!!!!!!. Specifically anything you’re planning, creating, or building it takes time. Time is key. Once you lose it, you can’t get it back. On the other hand, the time is now to take a leap of faith and do what you’ve been putting off. Along with time, having the patience to go through the obstacle course is key. The growth of your business requires discipline in using time wisely as well as having patience.

If you want whatever you’re creating or building to be sustainable or have any kind of value, my best advice is “give it time.” You don’t have to have all the answers. Therefore, trying to complete everything at once or in a day is impossible. Let things simmer and develop. Anything worth having will take time and patience.

Exercising patience and time allows you to flow through instead of the process being forced. Remember you don’t want to have all the answers. You want to grow and learn as much as you can. Time and patience are essential no matter what adventure you are on.

Time is our most important asset and it takes a significant amount of time to have patience. Even if you’re trying to over come an emotional trauma. Time is key for any healing. Having the patience to give the healing time is even more key. Your growth to overcome or build anything relies on your use of time and being patient.

What do you do in the waiting period? Educate yourself as much as possible. Reading and watching as much material as you can about your business is work. Knowing the background of anything will help you build a better foundation.

If you’re in a waiting period during your healing process, learn how your actions helped or hurt any situation. Work on yourself inside and out. Take up a hobby or do something that sparks your interest. The best answers to what we’re looking for happens in our waiting period.

In the end, remember to take your time and have patience to let things pan out how they are supposed to. Don’t rush anything, instead learn the lesson in the waiting period. Alas, enjoy every moment.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

I WAS GROWN BEFORE, BUT LIFE CALLED ME

Something happens when you hit 40. I’ve always heard people talk about it and say how something shifts, it definitely does and it’s noticeable. I was grown before, but now I really think I’m grown. Some can be adults in age, but not so much in their priorities, responsibilities, and life.

For starters, I no longer care about having a closet full of clothes and shoes. Let alone caring about the name or labels on the tags. My care has shifted to making sure my home is as cozy as possible. I enjoy walking through Menards, Lowes, and the Garden section in Walmart. Creating a home with positive energy, peace, comfort, and happiness tickles my fanny.

While creating a safe space to be free, I’ve adopted the less is more option. That is with everything. Clothes, shoes, makeup, skincare, knickknacks, decor, kitchen gadgets, and just stuff. I find myself throwing away a lot of “stuff” as I clean and do laundry.

The next thing I noticed, and this is what made me figure out the shift in myself, is I pay attention to what others say on certain topics, or what they don’t say specifically. I pay attention to a person actions towards others, positive and negative. I specifically watch to see if they cut corners, always wanting something extra, looking for a leg up, wanting favors, and just how they move in general.

“The best judgment of character is to watch how a person engage with others.”

Another thing that I noticed is my daily lifestyle habits are very important. You know when you’re younger, eating right isn’t at the top of the list. Also when you’re young and dumb, you think you never going to gain weight or you can lose it easily. Yeah Right!!!!!! Making sure I have healthy eating habits, exercising throughout the week, and oh, this is a big one, gettting my behind in the bed at night is a priority at the top of my list.

The eating and drinking habits of others is something I’ve come to pay attention to. I love it when a coworker or friend tell me they want to lose weight or going on this fad diet, while eating a bucket of ice cream. I will support and motivate anyone, but if you’re wasting my time by not being serious or taking your health serious then, I have to move on.

I’ve become more mindful on what I watch, read, and listen to. Because of the world we live in, I find myself constantly seeking motivational and inspiring content to consume to ensure I’m operating from a place of positivity. YouTube has tons of motivational content on all subject matters to keep your gas tank full. I can find long videos while I clean up or a quick video on the ride to work to keep me going. Pinterest has millions of inspirational quotes to get you through any situation. Of course we know Instagram has content that motivates us.

Side Note: The key to social media is to only click on the content that you seek, or aspire to indulge. That way the algorithm will only pull the content in which you want to see.

My insatiable desire to let everyone know they are worthy is mounting. It really pains me to hear or see of a individual feeling down, in despair, hopeless, and unmotivated.

You are bigger than the storm you going through. Remember storms are temporary.

The ability to comfortable in feeling my feelings and not feeling bad about it has lifted weight off my shoulders . Feeling my feelings allows me to process it, talk it out, and move passed it. Which is great for my mental health. I encourage everyone to feel their feelings so you can learn and move forward. Ignoring or pretending like nothing bothers you, only hurts you and prevents you from being the best version of yourself.

I used to love going to the store to “just” look, now I only go when necessary and frankly I don’t even like doing that. It’s not so much about spending money or trying to save money, it’s not wanting be in the midst of the craziness that happens when you go shopping. Also, thats how I know I‘ve accomplished my goal of being at peace and content with what I have. There is nothing wrong with “wanting” more, but you have to start by being grateful for what you have now.

Which brings me to my next point, in being more financially aware or frugal. When I want something, I really think about it for some time. I go through a serious of questions: Do I really need it? Do I have a place for it? Can I afford it? Lastly on the financial tip, is I’d rather save and pay cash for it, instead of having debt and interest. When you’re younger you view money differently. I know I’m grown because life has called me to look at money and finances completely different.

My desire to give folks my time and argue just isn’t happening anymore. First of all, my blood pressure tells me girl you need to sit down, and you know what, they just aren’t worth it. I’m was grown before and life has called me to let certain things go. The energy that it exhaust out of me is too much and most of the time its not going to change the outcome, circumstances , or how a person feels.

It feels good to not care what people think or say. This one took me a while. It wasn’t so much of what my friends thought, but wanting the approval from my family that I was doing right or making the right decisions stressed me out. Another one that took me a while to grasp, is to not take things personally when people are rude or disrespectful. The anger that they display has nothing to do with me.

Welp, thats a few things I’ve noticed that has changed in me. It feels good, I feel good, and I want y’all to have the same liberating feeling. I was grown before, but now I’m really grown and growing. Remember it’s a journey, there isn’t a destination, and I’m still hopping along.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.