We are a couple weeks shy of fall beginning. However, if you look around, the market has already begun transitioning to the new season. We see fall decor in the stores, clothing racks look fuller with the jackets and sweaters, and Halloween candy is out. Along with that, you’ll see the transition in beauty routineproducts hitting the shelves. As a beauty junkie myself, I look forward to it as well.But there are some beautytips to keep in mind as you begin to consume and transition to the heavier creams.
Everyone gets, has, or will get wrinkles and fine lines. They are normal. We are supposed to age. Yes, you can support and assist aging with creams and serums. But let your wrinkles and fine lines show through. It shows you have some wisdom to offer.
Texture is normal. No one has glass skin. There isn’t a such thing as perfect skin or flawless skin. I don’t care what your age is. There isn’t a product that can get rid of texture. Can a product minimize and help, absolutely. Remember there are filters out there.
Your skinroutine doesn’t have to be 10 steps. That’s time and money spent on too many products. Use what works for you. As long as you get results, then it’s perfect for you. Some can get away with a cleanser and moisturizer. Other’s may need to add a target treatment. Either way, it doesn’t take 10 steps. Me personally, I question if those many products are really penetrating the skin and being effective. But who am I.
Expensive doesn’t mean it’s better. That cream that’s $500 better create magic on your skin. You can get a cream for $20 and under that probably would give you better results. Most of the time you are paying for the name and packaging. Don’t go into debt buying expensive products thinking they are going to produce faster and better results.
Keep it simple. Don’t over complicate your routine. Look and feel your skin, see what it needs and go from there. Too many products with active ingredients isn’t good. Gear your routine to fit your lifestyle and budget.
Those are a couple beautytips to remember as we head into the fall season. 5 NON BEAUTY RELATED SKIN CARE TIPS We are going to be bombarded with new products enticing us. Don’t let the pretty packaging fool you. The over promised expensive product with the celebrity on it, don’t fall for it. When looking to switching your routine, take into account genetics. Yes, our genes play a huge role. Your diet, lifestyle, sleep habits, climate, and stress all play a part in your body. Remember to keep it simple, drink water, eat colorful, sleep, and journal your thoughts to detox your body and skin.
Plant seeds of boundaries within you. I don’ t mean cutting people off. If that’s necessary then do so. But I’ve learned to tell people (meaning family members) don’t call me talking about another family member. When they text how is so and so doing, I don’t even respond to that text. Now, when they text me and ask me how the kids are doing I’ll respond. If someone needs a ride and I have plans, I’ll let them know I have plans I can take you when I’m done. It’s more about not stretching yourself thin to the point you’re burned out.
Another thing I do, throughout the day, take a break. Plant seeds of permission to yourself to take a break. Yes, a day off is good. Vacations are good. Lazy days are good. However, small breaks daily can become more beneficial and effective. During the day at work, if I notice I’ve been going since I sat down at the computer, I’ll stop, and give myself a mentalbreak. Get up. Step outside. Go to the bathroom. Get a snack or something to drink. Most importantly I’ll read a good passage. My go to for this is Hallmarks mahogany.com. The community writing group is amazing.
Plant seeds of protection. If I don’t want to do something or go somewhere I’ll say no. I no longer do so just to keep the peace. So often I’d say yes because I didn’t want them to think I was an ungrateful person or rejecting them by rejecting their invitation.
A great seed to plant is a cutoff seed. Sometimes I can go all day and not realize I haven’t sat down or watched a program on TV. After several loads of laundry, cooking, and taking care of my family, I’ll tell them I’m done for the day. I’m going to do something for me. This prevents me feeling overwhelmed and burned out. 15 DAILY AFFIRMATIONS TO BOOST CONFIDENCE
Lastly, seeds of investing in self. My night time cap is very important to my mental health. It allows me to put a period on the day and have a clear mental space in the morning. Same with my morning routine. Getting ready, making sure I feel my best to present gives me confidence to walk in any room and offer my authentic self.
Feeling down on yourself, I’ve been there. Boost your self esteem with these simpletips. They are free and simple. The transformation starts on the inside and then moves to the outside. Our mental and emotional is very important. However, the outside must match the inside. The insecurities we face about our looks can heavily effect our mental and emotional health.
The first thing to do is not compare yourself to what you see on television, internet, print, and every other place that is filtered. No one body is perfect. Nor is their skin perfect. Accept every ounce of weight, stretch marks, cellulite, wrinkle, pimple, and big toe. Side note: The big toe was for me. My second toe is bigger than my first toe. And, I have a six head not a forehead. But who cares. The key here is, our flaws is what makes us unique and stand out from the rest. I know for me, I want to look like me.
Once you’re able to love all of you, you can then dress and style yourself to your body. There are many clothing brands out there. Find the right style, comfort, and fit for you. If you are worried about your shirts, start with having the right bra. Sometimes having a bra with full coverage makes a world of difference. It’s the simple things that we can correct that will make a huge difference. If you’re worried about your mid section, don’t buy low rise nothing. That only makes you accentuate areas you don’t want. The point is to learn your curves and work with them.
After that, boost your self esteem with a hair cut, color, or style. Sometimes we can hold on to a style and it will make us look more worn out that we are. Refresh with new hair to give yourself a new attitude. My philosophy is ”it’s only hair, it will grow back.” My hair is usually the first thing to change when I need a shift change or mood booster. Short, long, curly, straight, black or highlighted I’ve done it all. Recreate yourself and see yourself into a new light. How To Boost Your Confidence With Daily Self Care
Get out of a funk and boost your mood by just window shopping. Get out of the house. Go to a mall or store and just browse. Walk around and get outfit ideas. Figure new ways to decorate your home. Look at different foods for new recipes. And what do you know, you’ll see someone you know. Have a great conversation and forget why you were in a funk in the first place. On the other hand, you just might find a stranger and have a conversation. Either way you have opened your mind and heart to receive some good energy. I’ve done this many times to boost myself up.
Feeling down on your luck, get dressed up and dolled up to do nothing. This is the easiest self esteem boost tip you can do. Unconsciously, I’ve done this and didn’t realize it. I’ll wake up and before you know it I’m walking around on Sunday morning in a face full of makeup. But the rest of the day, I’m happy. Every time you walk pass a mirror you enjoy looking at yourself and that instantly boosts your self esteem.
Lastly, if you’re not in a good mood accept an invite. We get so used to making excuses and not accepting invites that we’ve forced ourselves into loneliness. Just because you’ve never been to an event like the one you were invited to doesn’t mean you won’t enjoy it. You never know who you’ll meet. I received job opportunities by having lunch with someone.
I know the best thing to do is to get up, get out, and move. Make yourself look good, so you can feel good, and then be able to receive good. When our self esteem is low, we aren’t able to see good in anything. When in actuality, the good is there. There are many more ways to boost your self esteem. But start with what you have to boost your self esteem and then build up. We have to shift our mind to focus on the positive.
Oh this confidence thing again. Confidence can make or break a person. Having a lack of confidence kills relationships, stop you from living life due to fear, and all around a person performance in every aspect of their life suffers. I’ve said before and I’ll say it again confidence comes with practice. There are dailyconfidence boosters you can begin doing now.
1.Be who you want to be. Whatever your vision for yourself is, just be it. Once you sit in who you authentically are everything else will follow. What career path do you want to take? Is there a business you’d like to start. Are you living in the city, state, or country you want? So often we have these dreams or visions but fear, lack of money, and persuasion of others tells us we can’t. But guess what, you can. If you open a business and it dissolve, you’re still alive to try another. Nothing is definite you will always bounce back.
2.Compliment yourself daily. There are a million things we can find wrong with us. But I know there is something you like about yourself. Start off by finding one thing to compliment yourself on. Then build up to giving yourself multiple complements throughout the day. In the morning start with your skin, hair, outfit, or just simply waking up in a good mood. When you find yourself criticizing something you see “wrong” quickly divert that to something you like.
3.Give Back. It’s great to buy someone a gift or lend some money. But the greatest way to give back is serving or giving your time. Spending time with someone when they are down means more than a dollar. Volunteering gives someone in need an example of hope and sense of inspiration. Invite someone on a walk with you, give them a new perspective or different way of thinking and being. Guess what this will boost your confidence in so many ways. You see yourself as a someone who has something to offer, which gives you motivation to continue to find yourself.
4.Exercise. Do some form of physical activity. I’m not saying you have to go out and kill your self to the point you won’t be able to move the next day. However, walking is the easiest, thought provoking, free, and effective exercise you can do. Each time you walk pick a different trail or route. The different scenery opens your mind to think and see the world in a different way. Sweating release toxins. You begin to feel good about your body and outer appearance. Which increases your confidence when you put your clothes on. Because you feel good on the inside you look good on the outside and present that confidence for others to see. Your shoulders are back, heads up, and walking with a purpose.
5.Take a risk. Instead of thinking about the shoulda, coulda, woulda take that leap. What’s the worst that can happen? If it doesn’t work out try something else. The pain of not trying at all is worst than the pain of failing. At least if it failed, you learned something. You have knowledge and experience on what to do and what not to do. Get out the box and see what else the world has waiting for you. With each risk you take your ability to learn, grow, and overcome will boost your confidence.
6.Listen. I’ve learned when I receive a criticism or comment from two or more independent people I need to listen. Obviously if two people that doesn’t know each other are saying the same thing, then I need to evaluate what I’m doing to put that out there. You’re not changing who you are. You’re self reflecting. What mannerisms am I doing to for others to receive me that way?
7.Don’t pretend. “Don’t be a follower, be a leader.” that’s the famous line we’re told as kids. Being like someone else is impossible. You can only win at being you. You will fail at trying to be like someone else every time. Trying to be like someone else exhaust more time, energy, and money. It’s simply free and effortless to be you.
8.Journal. Building confidence and keeping it takes daily practice and efforts. That means you are going to have some bad days. We are human with feelings and emotions. But when those bad days come we can rely on our dailyconfidence boosters to get us back on track. Keeping a journal and writing things down gives you a visual and reference to go back to. When you’re on a high, journal that and when that low comes journal that in detail. That way you are able to look back and see what triggers caused you to have a bad day and how not to let it effect you again. Journaling allows us to be honest and release any toxins so we don’t hold on to them to spill into the next day.
9.Learn how to accept a compliment. How many times has someone given you a compliment and you minimize it to something that’s not a big deal. When someone says “I like those shoes,” simply reply with a thank you. Don’t say oh I’ve had these for years or these old things. Be appreciative that someone was willing to tell you they liked something about you instead of holding it in. Then pass it on and give someone a compliment.
10.Work. You get back what you put in. On the job that pays you, you have to work hard in order to keep that job and not allow someone else to come in and replace you. The same applies to your life. Put work into your selfdaily. Read, write, and talk to yourself on a daily. We can’t expect others to give us what we won’t give ourselves. Love on yourself and others will follow in your footsteps.
These are just a couple things you can do to begin boosting your confidence. The key to making it work is to be consistent. Don’t give up because you’ve had a bad day. Those are needed for our growth.
Selfconfidence comes from a person taking care of themselves. That is the most obvious. There is a trigger in the mind that goes off when we are able to put our best foot forward. I know every woman understand the thought of, if we are having a bad hair day then the entire day feels like crap.
It pulls our self esteem up when we take time to shower, put on a nice outfit, and feel good about our appearance. When we look good, we feel good. From there we go out and is able to engage confidently, take risks, and use our creativity.
Selfconfidence begins in the mind and how we process our setbacks. If we call ourselves negative names, and use negative self talk we plummet to depression fast. The most confident person looks at the situation and pull the positive and take it with them. Having confidence you understand that not everything is going to work out perfectly.
Selfconfidence is willing to take risk and tackle our fears. Not being afraid to challenge yourself. When you have selfconfidence you know challenges and fears are an opportunity for growth. Those with confidence are always willing to learn and grow. They aren’t afraid to be uncomfortable.
One of my biggest confidence boosters, is having the courage to ask for help. If I don’t know something or have spent enoughtime trying to figure it out, I will ask for assistance. Selfconfidence is knowing you will need help. It is impossible to have all the answers.
Another one of my biggest confidence boosters is not being afraid to look different, be different, go against the grain, or stand alone. I learned early on that choosing different is the easiest way to challenge yourself and know your own strength.
Even when the most confident people don’t have the support they desire, they still take that leap of faith. They know what they want and how it would make them feel. Along with not having support, selfconfidence will give you motivation when you don’t have all the answers and there is uncertainty.
Lastly, we need to remember whatever is placed upon heart and mind is ours and ours only. You don’t need permission from anyone to pursue what God has placed in you. The lens that you see through are a prescription for you and anyone who try to see through your lens their vision will be blurred.
