25 ORDINARY THINGS I’VE NEVER DONE

I thought I’d share a fun post list of things I’ve never done that some may consider ordinary or normal. A list of ordinary things I’ve never done has been eye opening to write and also learn about myself. I encourage anyone to sit down and write ordinary things you’ve never done. It may just give you some insight on how your upbringing, family, life, and now adulthood has shaped you. MOTIVATIONAL HEALING: LEARN YOUR SOURCE OF ANGER

  1. I’VE NEVER HAD A SLEEP OVER!!!!
  2. SMOKED A CIGARETTE OR ANYTHING ELSE
  3. RAN A MARATHON
  4. BROKE A BONE OR LIMB
  5. OWNED A IPHONE (I LOVE MY GOOGLE PIXEL)
  6. WATCHED ”SEX & THE CITY”
  7. PLAYED THE LOTTERY
  8. BEEN TO A CASINO
  9. TAKEN AN UBER
  10. NEVER GOT A TATTOO
  11. WATCHED ”HARRY POTTER, WALKING DEAD, TWILIGHT, OR GAME OF THRONES”
  12. NEVER BEEN STUNG BY A BEE
  13. TOOK A ROAD TRIP WITHOUT AN DESTINATION
  14. LIVED IN ANOTHER COUNTRY
  15. WROTE A BOOK (SERIOUSLY THINKING ABOUT IT THO)
  16. NEVER HAVE I GOTTEN A FACIAL MASSAGE OR BODY
  17. THREW MYSELF A BIRTHDAY PARTY
  18. I’VE NEVER EATEN OYSTERS
  19. NEVER DIED MY HAIR
  20. I HAVEN’T BEEN TO VEGAS (REALLY NOT A PLACE I’D LIKE TO VISIT TOO MUCH)
  21. I’VE NEVER BEEN ON A CRUISE
  22. NEVER EATEN COTTAGE CHEESE
  23. I HAVE NEVER HAD A HANGOVER
  24. NEVER USED DOOR DASH OR UBER EATS
  25. I HAVE NEVER WATCHED THE MOVIE ”TITANIC”

Those are just a few things that ”normal” or ”ordinarily most people have done. It was fun for me to sit down and think about. It also gave me an insight about myself on a different perspective. Sometimes growth and healing doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. I’m pretty sure there are more things that I’ve never done that are ordinary.

Have a great day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

6 TIPS FOR MONDAY MORNING BLUES

The alarm clock goes off and you instantly get into a mood. The only thing you can think about is what you have to do at work, the coworker that gets on your last nerve, what’s for dinner, and the bills that are due today. You have no energy to get out of bed nor do you have any enthusiasm.

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We’ve all had these mornings, probably once twice. The truth is we can’t stop these kind of mornings, however we can do minor things to get us through.

  1. Immediately stop any negative talk or thoughts. Instead, remind yourself of why you took the job or position in the first place. What excitement did you have when you first started? That co worker that gets on your nerves is telling you there is something about you, that they hoped to have. You inspire them. YOU INSPIRE SOMEONE OUT THERE Dinner is hours away, you will have a meal on table.
  2. Stretch. Just about 5 minutes of stretching from head to toe. Wake up your joints, bones, and get that blood circulating. You’ll feel loose and ready to move.
  3. Take a shower, wash your hair, and face. Release all the negative into the drain and renew your spirit. Put some time into yourself. Make yourself feel good and look good.
  4. Put something good in your belly. Have a good fulfilling breakfast. Breakfast is not only good for your physical body, but your brain and emotional wellbeing as well.
  5. Before heading out for your day, take a moment to pray. Gratitude for the vehicle to get to work, the job itself, the home and bed you just woke up in, that nutritional breakfast, and simply waking up. There is someone out there who went to sleep last night and didn’t wake up.
  6. Lastly go have a good day. Expect goodness throughout the day. When we expect goodness and have hope, our thoughts will remain positive. By the evening you’ll forget you even woke up on the wrong side of the bed.

Monday morning blues will come and they will go. But be intentional and practice small habits that will boost your mood. Certain things will always be out of our control. What we can control is what we think about the situation, how we respond, and get through. Remember good times don’t last but tough people do. This is temporary.

Have a great day!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

7 JOURNAL PROMPTS FOR A GOOD WEEK

In the last month or so, I’ve decided to journal write every morning. As previously stated, I would journal randomly. Because I really been trying to be intentional about being present and emotionally sound, I thought I’d journal every morning to see where it takes me.

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I can say I’ve been more calm, stable, and aware of myself mentally and emotionally. I can make decisions and not feel guilty. I’ve learned the importance of responding to situations and events as opposed to reacting to them. Furthermore, journaling every morning has giving me peace to not respond to some situations at all. HAVE YOU HAD YOUR ANNUAL MENTAL HEALTH CHECK UP?

I think one of the reasons I didn’t journal regularly before, even though it was helpful when I did, I wasn’t sure if I was doing it ”right”. In this last month I’ve gotten comfortable in journaling my way. Even if you don’t have anything going on, nothing is bothering you, journaling for a specific time is healthy for your own personal clarity. Journaling For Mental Health, TRY IT

Here are 7 journal prompts to try this week:

  1. Today I feel(this three word prompt allows you to be free and express every emotion you are feeling, be as specific as possible.)
  2. The school year is coming to an end and I feel…about it (this prompt is great for you to express yourself as a parent and what the transition of changing routines makes you feel)
  3. This time of year spring/summer is my favorite or least of the year, why or why not? (exploring how you feel about different seasons allows you to determine if you have seasonal depression or anxiety, and a different perspective about your personality)
  4. One thing that will make me more confident is…(be completely honest about the one thing that nags at you that you want to be more confident about)
  5. The one thing I need to stop doing and why…(we all have that one thing that hinders us from getting to where we want to be, verbalize it, express it, and leave it on the paper)
  6. Dream day in my life(this was my absolute favorite, get as detailed and specific as possible of what you dream a day is like in your perfect world)
  7. If you’re not happy doing what you’re doing, what would you like to do? (be as specific as possible, about your dream career, job, or profession)
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These 7 journal prompts allows you the ability to explore every area of your life and where you are. Some fun and some serious to give you balance. The most light hearted can be the most eye opening sometimes. It makes for a fun journaling session. journal your way, how you want to write, and get out what you need to be the best you.

When setting up your journaling session, clear the table or desk. Then make sure there aren’t any distractions like television, phone, kids, or spouse. Get you a cup of tea, coffee, or water. Allot yourself a set time. You can opt to start at 15 minutes or even an hour. Either way, you’ll come to learn you won’t be able to put the pen down. Have a specific place to put your journal when you’re finish. Lastly, use the same pen each day.

happy Writing!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

ALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA APPS DELETED

YUP, you read that right. I deleted all my social media apps. I had been contemplating this for a while. There isn’t any incident or specific reasoning. In my gut I knew this was a challenge I wanted to tackle and knew it would be beneficial. For starters, I was never a fan of social media. I am one who feels the less you know about me, the better. Also people share too much now days. And to be perfectly honest, I’m lazy. It takes a lot of time, work, effort, and patience to engage in so many apps.

I wouldn’t say I was addicted to it, but it was a great way for me to ”pass time”. You know, in the doctors office, car rider line at school, or when the commercials come on TV. Even though I only used Instagram to promote my blog and spread motivation, I deleted the app. I knew it was the right thing because I wasn’t consistent, no matter how much people say I need it to promote my blog. I’d rather it gain traction organically and the person who needs motivation will find it. It wasn’t my passion or something I enjoyed so I rarely posted on Instagram.

On the other hand, I absolutely enjoyed reading and listening to others encouraging words and motivation. That is something I enjoyed having at my finger tips. Knowing the courage, confidence, and conviction so many have to want better, get better, and be better. In the end, I know I will still be able to engage and encourage.

Pinterest was my favorite app to be on. The endless inspiration can be addicting. From home decor, to hair, to nails, and holiday decor I loved. My absolute favorite was the quotes I could have at any moment for any emotion. I knew in an instant I could get a quick pick me up or reminder. HAPPINESS ISN’T A DESTINATION

Lastly, I only had TikTok to keep up with my daughter. She enjoys sharing her artwork on that app. However, because of her age, I still periodically check her phone. Also my husband has the app downloaded. Therefore, it was a no brainer I deleted it. I never had a Facebook or the desire to. Never had a Snapchat or whatever else is out there.

The other apps I deleted were gaming apps that I either don’t play or never played. Once again I am trying to get to a place of being present and using my time. To prevent having an urge, I place the phone in another room when I’m watching TV. That way I can enjoy the program and not have to shift my focus. I began picking up a book and reading it. I have so many books that I’ve purchased and never read. Getting back into reading is very important for my mental health. Finally, I purchased some crossword and sodoku puzzles.

As a surprise I don’t feel like I’m missing out. Nor do I have the urge to pick up my phone. I’ve been enjoying reading and doing puzzles. If you are wanting a change or need a break I encourage you to delete your social media apps. If you can’t, give yourself a time limit. You’ll feel more encouraged to be creative and productive.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

6 BEAUTY TIPS FOR CLEAR SKIN

It took me a while to learn my skin and create a regimen. However, there are some non product beauty tips for clear skin that I’ve adopted to help keep my skin clear. 5 NON BEAUTY RELATED SKIN CARE TIPS The first thing to do is learn your skin type, then learn what products work for you, and lastly, be consistent. You must be consistent to achieve results.

Tip#1-Limit Alcohol
If you want to dry your skin out, drink excessive amounts of alcohol. Too much consumption, dehydrates the skin, thus leaving the skin to begin sagging, creating wrinkles, and causes breakouts. Also the lack of hydration causes your skin to look dull, grey, and lifeless. Notice I said too much. An occasional drink here and there is ok. If you do have a drink, drink double the amount of water to flush out your system. Another good way to flush out the system is to sweat it out. So a good workout to get you sweaty will help.

Tip#2-Don’t Touch Your Face
This one was hard for me. For someone who works in an office it’s very easy to rest your face in your hands. This causes all the natural oils from your hands and bacteria to soak into the skin. Not only touching your face with hands, make sure to wipe your phone often because it rest on the skin while talking, and don’t let others touch your face.

Tip#3-Keep Hair Out of Face
We use a lot of product in our hair. I know for me, any kind of hair on my face I will immediately breakout. The hair sprays, oils, and serums can effect our skin if we consistently allow our hair to rest on our face.

Tip#4-Change Your Pillow Case Often
I’ve heard some women say they sleep on their back to keep their face off the pillow. But at some point our face will touch the pillow. I’m personally a side sleeper, so inevitably my face will touch the pillow. Once again, the oils from the hair and product will transfer onto the skin. Changing as often as you can, will help eliminate unwanted breakouts.

Tip#5-Limit Sugar and Dairy
This is personal for me. Once I eliminated sugary drinks and dairy from my diet I noticed a huge difference in my skin. Lots of soda, candy, dairy, and sweets can cause breakouts that leave scars and discoloration. Remember whatever we put into our body comes out in our skin. That is with the good and bad.

Tip#6-Don’t Stress and Worry
Yes, I know this is very difficult to do. But Stress and Worry wears on our skin worse than makeup. Sometimes we can Stress so bad, it wears on our pores, saggy skin, redness, dark circles, breakouts, lines, wrinkles, and even swelling. When faced with difficult times it’s most important to focus on our self care more. Spending extra time on ourselves in challenging times, refocus our attention on something we can control.

In addition to these tips keep your regimen simple and listen to your skin. It will tell you what you need. Good all round skin care is in our daily habits.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

2022 SPRING SELF CARE CHECKLIST

This year my spring self care checklist is a little different. SPRING SELF CARE TIPS YOU CAN DO NOW For 2022, this spring I want to focus on some things I’d like to get better at or start doing. In no particular order here’s my spring self care checklist.

Cleanse
I’ve been a little loose lately on my eating habits. I don’t follow a specific diet. However, I try to keep a no carb, low sugar, low sodium, and non dairy diet. This is what works for me and I receive results that I’m happy with it. So to start the spring season, I’m focusing on cleansing my body as well as my mental. Drinking lots of water, making healthy low sugar smoothies at home, high protein, and colorful veggies. It’s been about two weeks since I’ve been sticking with it, and my body is thanking me for the cleanse.

As for my mental, I wanted to take a pause. Sometimes when you have so much going on and working on, you can lose track. For a moment I’m going to not do too much, as I prayed and meditated for clarity and direction. I want to make sure I’m supposed to be juggling my blog, being a freelancer, working outside the home, and other projects I’ve started. I don’t want to spread myself too thin and not enjoy all what I do.

Add Color Accents To the Home
Adding color to the house is something that visually satisfies me and make me want to be at home. First, I have to have some kind of door hanger for every season or holiday. This year I went with a very colorful butterfly in many different shades of blue with accents of all the spring colors. Next, I added some pillows and throw to the couch. Lastly, the spring candles are out and right now my favorite is “Bamboo and Waterlily Bliss” by Glade. The pale green color of the candle along with the pillows adds just the hint of spring to the inside.

Purchase A New Plant
For little over a year now, I’ve been trying to work on my green thumb. So far so good. None of my plants have died on me. The aloe plant is thriving and growing wildly. The baby peace lily has been amazing and is doing the best. My large peace lily is looking ok, but she still a work in progress. However, I want to add another plant. Adding plants has been a great challenge, project for me to focus on, and helping me expand my horizons to step outside my comfort zone to try new things.

Get A New Phone Case
Seems simple enough right. Well something as simple as getting a new phone case can add some style, change of scenery, and personality. This is a very inexpensive way to add color, style, personality, and variety with little effort. Also this will give you a little confidence boost. Sometimes starting with the smallest change can give you the push needed to keep going or go big.

Search New Recipes
There is a ton of content out there. Search for new recipes for the spring. Refresh your weekly menu to add variety, increase the amount of healthy food, and get rid of boredom. Learning new recipes gives you an outlet to be creative. Explore and expand with flavors, colors, and texture with food. In the meantime, you are busy creating, growing, and enhancing yourself.

Motivational Podcast
Podcast are one of the popular mediums to consume content. Search and find an inspirational podcast that speaks to what you are needing or wanting. Seek motivation on where you’re trying to go and how you can get there. Having this podcast can provide you with inspiration and motivation at a moments notice. It’s useful for a nice spring walk, while you’re on break at work, while you’re meditating or praying, waiting for your kid to get out of practice, while in shower or bath tub, or cooking. Furthermore, a great podcast will allow you to keep your mental and emotional tank full. Therefore, help your mental health status stay in the green.

Purge Old Winter Clothes
A good way to say good bye to winter is to get rid of old clothes that you can’t fit or not going to wear next year. This makes room for new spring inspiration for you to spruce your style up. An added bonus is to sell them. My favorite thing to do is list it on Poshmark . Poshmark is very simple to sell old items you no longer want or need. Not only are you decluttering, you’re making a little something off of it. In addition, becoming a seller catapults you into creating a new business venture for yourself.

Those are my spring self care habits for 2022. They are simple, effective, and something that will benefit us in more than one way. It’s a new season, and a fresh start for you to get your spark back, renew it, or switch it up. Whatever you need to do this spring, do it for you.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HAVE YOU HAD YOUR ANNUAL MENTAL HEALTH CHECK UP?

You don’t have to be sick, ill, sad, depressed, or anxious to have a mental health check in. Just as we have our annual check up with our doctor and dentist, we shall have a mental health check up as well. It is best to be proactive than reactive. Preventive measures allows us to catch symptoms early.

There is this misconception that you have to be “suffering” from something in order to practice mental health self care. When in actuality, your mental health is just as important as your physical health. We need to treat our mental health like we do our physical health, oral health, financial health, and spiritual health.

Once a year we go to the doctor to check blood pressure, weight, aches and pains, hypertension, diabetes, and other preventive health measures. In the same, we shall check in with a therapist at least once a year. Sometimes we don’t even know how the events of the year may have effected us. There is absolutely nothing wrong with speaking with a therapist once or twice a year. If you can’t see a therapist someone at church, a family member or friend you trust, or journal every so often will help. You’d be surprise as to what comes out.

We take many measures making sure our oral health is in tact. We brush, floss, and gargle on a daily to keep our teeth and gums healthy. Well, having a daily self care routine, moment, or habits is one in the same. Daily Self Care Habits To Boost Your Mental Health Having an hour to yourself each day is essential for your mental health. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. Whatever you need to do to ensure you show up the best version of yourself is your daily self care check list.

As individuals we work hard to earn income to pay our bills, take care of our families, and to do the things we enjoy. Banking affirmations, knowing your worth, and creating boundaries is building your wealth for your mental health. We have to have so much in the bank, that when something do happens to us it doesn’t break us. Also when we do hit a bump in the road our bank isn’t depleted.

Lastly, we go to church and worship. Keep believing and having faith is how most of us make it through the day. Just as we believe our Lord will carry us. We must believe in ourselves. Don’t doubt yourself, trust yourself, believe in your talents, and be good to yourself.

Having a mental health check up isn’t just for those who aren’t feeling 100%. All of us should check in with ourselves. That is the only way we can be a great mom, wife, sister, friend, coworker, husband, father, man, or woman. Once we have checked in, it’s important to give back, spread the love, and encourage others to check in as well.

Be well on your journey .

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL HEALTH REMINDER: TRUST YOURSELF

To trust myself has been a very important part of me maintaining mental health. A great mental health reminder for us all is to trust ourselves. I’ve learned to trust instincts, thoughts, feelings, emotions, and experience.

When you are faced with a decision, trust that first thought or instinct. That usually is the right one. Sometimes it may not be the best or easiest choice for you, but it’s the right one. Trusting our instincts prevents us from second guessing or questioning. Also it eliminates the Monday morning quarter back. You know, when you knew what choice you wanted to make but you backed out to make the easy one. Now in hindsight you wish you could reverse course. Listen to your instincts.

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trust your thoughts. Remember our thoughts controls us and leads to our actions. If you’re having good thoughts and thinking positive feed that. On the other hand, if you’re having negative thoughts quickly acknowledge the source of pain, hurt, or anger then correct the course and move forward. Either way our thoughts will tell us where we are headed. Be honest with yourself and trust yourself to get through it. MID WEEK MENTAL HEALTH REMINDERS

Trusting yourself and listening to your feelings and emotions will lead you on a great path to healing and understanding. Both our good and bad emotions shows us how we are being. Listen to them, ask yourself why am I having said feeling, and then you’ll be able to heal. Trusting your feelings and emotions will allow you to learn behaviors, triggers, and patterns about yourself.

We’ve all been in the low valleys and highest of the peaks. trust your previous experiences and how you conquered the highs and lows. Rely on your experiences to pull yourself through and become better for yourself. Your experiences will help guide you mentally and emotionally. Finally trust yourself to be better for yourself.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

DON’T GIVE UP: RESET AND KEEP GOING

We are a week into February and some may be feeling a little down on themselves. You made all these new years resolutions and they haven’t turned out exactly how you thought. Don’t give up, reset and keep going. KEEP GOING AND PUSH YOURSELF

I know there are many folks out there who set goals on January 1. Unfortunately, circumstances didn’t allow you to stay on track. For some reason finances got in the way of your goals. One slip up of getting off the diet and now you back to eating whatever you want. The weather prevented you from getting to the gym for a couple of days and now you feel like what’s the point of even going back.

Well all of those may be true. But you have the power to reset, adjust, and recharge. Don’t give up on your goals because life happen. Life is going to happen. You have to make a decision and choice to not let life get in your way. Don’t give up, reset and recharge to give yourself a chance.

Make the money saving goal a little smaller until you can save what you initially set out. Instead of setting a 20lb weight loss goal, reset it to 10lbs until you get back in gear. Ok, so what you ate that burger and fries, make it a point to play in the garden to get your eating habits back on track.

No matter what your resolution goals were, or how far you fell off. You can get back on track. Don’t give up on your goals. You can do this. We all fall off the wagon. That is being human. But what’s even more courageous, is not staying down.

Reset this month. Get your journal out and purge all your thoughts. Purge that guilt of eating fast food. Purge that shame of making excuses for not exercising. You spent the money, it’s not coming back, so free yourself of regret.

Next, go to the grocery store and get what you need to eat this week to stay on your good eating habits. Set your workout clothes out at night. Make a budget for you this week or do a little money challenge. challenge yourself and do a no spend challenge this week.

Remember you can do it. Whatever that it is. Don’t give up. Reset and recharge.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

5 SELF CARE TIPS TO REFRESH AND RECHARGE

As we now know, self care isn’t just manis, pedis, and masks. You can practice self care everyday anytime of day. TGIF: SELF CARE IS ALL AROUND YOU Here are 5 quick self care tips to refresh and recharge when you need a pick me up.

  1. Make Your Bed
    I know this seems simple. But making your bed everyday is a quick way to make your room feel tidy. You can leave everything as is, but with a made bed, you’ll feel a sense of productivity. It will give you a clean fresh slate at the start of the day. You’ll feel less stressed and thus, boosts your mood. The best thing to do, is make your bed as soon as you get up.
  2. Clean Your Purse
    This is somethings that always gets me in a recharged mood. Throw away old receipts. Get rid of that lose change and start that money jar. Money Jar Saving Method for easy saving Toss old candy and wrappers that’s been thrown in your purse. Bonus Tip: A great way to boost mood and increase confidence is to switch out your purses. I know some women do this daily while others like myself do so seasonally. Either way, it’s a great way to improve overall happiness.
  3. Take Your Vitamins
    We all would love to say we eat 3 healthy meals a day as well as snacks. But that’s just not the case for many. Taking a daily vitamin is a great to boost your immune support and give your body the extra nutrients needed. Set a time and get into a habit where you do it at the same time everyday.
  4. Clean Your Car Out
    As a mom of 3, I would love to say my car is spotless. But that has never been the case since I started having children. Every so often I’ll go out while it’s nice and the sun is shining, and simply throw away any trash, papers from school, water bottles, and anything else my kids left behind. I wipe and dust the inside. Of course, every so often I’ll take it to the car wash and vacuum it out.
  5. Delete, Uninstall, and Clear Phone
    If you really want to give yourself a mental recharge, go through your phone and delete any apps that you don’t use. Or if you’d like a challenge delete an app you spend too much time on. Get rid of all those random photos and videos thats taking up storage. Clear any files or downloads. Delete old contacts, conversations, and numbers that doesn’t serve you.

If you’re feeling like you’ve fell into a slump and need a recharge try these 5 self care tips. Any one of the tips can be done any time and any day of the week. Give you a chance by recharging and refreshing your mind.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.