WEEKEND AFFIRMATION: YOU CAN AND WILL GET BACK UP

No matter how many times you fall, you will get back up. Don’t ever get discouraged because you have a little setback. SETBACKS, REJECTIONS, AND STUMBLING BLOCKS ARE NECESSARY FOR GROWTH That is how we learn, grow, and heal. On your journey have no regrets about the path you have been taken down. Your path and journey was created specifically for you. As you grow through life don’t listen to the negative chatter about how many times you’ve had to pick yourself up.

The beauty is you’ve had the strength, courage, and perseverance to keep getting up. That means no matter what is thrown at you, you have the WILL POWER in you to live and get back up. There isn’t anything that you aren’t equipped to handle.

No matter where you are or what is going on in your life, you can and will get back up!!!!!!!

Have a great day, week, month, and holiday!!!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL HEALTH WELLNESS TIP: ONE STEP AT A TIME

We’ve all heard the saying ”look at the bigger picture.” Well sometimes it’s in our best interest to take one step at a time. Mentally and emotioanlly we may not be able to look at things on a grand scale. In order to get where we need to go, focusing on the first step and building from there will be more beneficial.

Sure we can have an end goal or a larger picture to see, but for our sanity each step is an accomplishment in certain situations. A house doesn’t become a house all at once. You have to build it brick by brick. An author doesn’t start with a full book, it’s word by word.

Focusing on one step at a time allows you to build confidence. STRENGTH Your vision becomes more clear with each step. You’re able to hold your head a little higher with each step. As you take your steps to your goal, you’ll gain awareness, compassion, and intelligence for yourself and the process. The learning and realization of what you’re becoming increases your confidence and self esteem along the way.

Because you are taking one step at a time, the lights are getting brighter, and eventually your vision broadens. Overtime you begin to see the ”bigger picture”. Until we focus on the foundation, the why, what and how, we won’t be able to see the bigger picture.

Some of us are in a mental state to where we can’t even lift a foot. Find your courage and strength to lift your foot to take the first step. With each step, pat yourself on the back, and take the next step. Don’t let others tell you how to proceed, how fast you should go, and where you should be in the process.

Focus on the next step until you feel you’re able to see more. Every little step is progress.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

THE LONGER YOU WORRY, THE MORE TIME WASTED

Worrying is useless.The more time we spend worrying about something, the more time we are wasting. It took me a long time to realize, worrying isn’t going to change the situation. What happened has already happened and can’t be undone. Worrying isn’t going to make the time go by faster. We often think if we drive our selves crazy worrying, then time will speed up. Therefore, reaching the solution faster.

As we are wasting time worrying, we are losing sleep. Our focus is on the outcome of whatever we are worrying about. We’ve missed appointments, phone calls, and even our favorite program on television. The time we spend worrying we are frustrated, angry, and hyper sensitive. During this time, we probably have argued over something that makes no sense. In the meantime, the person we are arguing with have no idea where the anger is coming from. Furthermore, we are tense and have a short fuse, those around us feel the pressure and most likely is walking on egg shells.

Now, if we were to look back on the times we worried ourselves sick, the solution was right in front of us. The end result wasn’t as bad as we thought. The event turned out just fine. That one guest you wanted to show, showed up. On the other hand, that one guest you didn’t want to show up, didn’t. You were able to pay that bill. The financial situation worked itself out. The mistake you made really didn’t have the ripple effect you thought. That person you thought was mad at you, was going through something personal. Therefore, they needed their space.

No matter how bad you think the situation is, worrying about it is a waste of time. You worrying isn’t going to speed up the resolution. Nor is it going to change the outcome. The best thing we can do is relax. God has already won the battle for us.

The next time you find yourself worrying, pause for a moment. Remind yourself you have done all that you can do. It is out of your hands. Therefore, it is out of your control. 3 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL Once it’s out of your control, let it go. The solution is there, you just haven’t accessed it yet. Keep yourself busy and when the solution arrives, you’ll say “I worried myself to death for nothing.”

Worrying is useless and a waste of time. I know its easier said than done, but actively try to not worry.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MOTIVATIONAL AND INSPIRATIONAL: JUST LET IT GO

Whatever “it” is, just let it go. Don’t worry about what they said about you. Let go of what happened at work. Don’t be mad if someone didn’t call you back. Let go of the anger and hurt of not being invited. Just let that stuff go. It’s too heavy, it prevents you from laughing, and focusing on something good.

If you feel wronged, let it go. You can’t change what happen. So often we take things personally, and it literally has nothing to do with us. Remember people project their pain and hurt onto you. They want and need someone else to feel as hurt as they do. Just let it go. The More You Grow…

Let it go and don’t let anyone stop you from enjoying yourself. When we spend time trying to figure out why someone said what they said. Or why they left you out. Did you deserve to be treated so unfairly. You are questioning yourself and trying to figure what you did to make them do what they did. You are internalizing something that has nothing to do with you. That is infectious and grows like a cancer.

Shed the confusion, wondering, and questioning. It’s going to put you in a place of darkness. Once you are in this place of darkness for a while, it will become increasingly hard to get out of.

So, if anything happened this week or today, let it go. Don’t hold on to yesterday’s trash or any other days trash. Get rid of it, before it starts to stink up your mind, spirit, and body. If you still have no answers then you probably won’t get any. And if you do, it most likely, wont make things better. Let it go. Furthermore, it had nothing to do with you. Make a mental note and set some boundaries.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

EMOTIONAL HEALING: OPEN YOUR MIND FOR UNDERSTANDING

Quick mental note today, that came to me after having a great conversation this morning. Open your mind for understanding, clarity, and direction. We all heard this phrase growing up, keep an open mind, but never really understood or applied it in life. Of course, as we get older and experience life, we can appreciate the advice.

But having an open mind for understanding benefits you in every relationship you may have. Ask and understand why a person has a certain point of view. Get to know what experiences shaped their perspective to believe a certain way. Knowing and understanding the circumstances around events will help you not be judgmental or critical because you guys aren’t seeing eye to eye.

When we’re able to get to know someone and their experiences, this allows the relationship to grow and develop deeper. There won’t be a stumbling block or hurdle constantly there you guys can’t get over. The ability to talk things through and work through differences become easier.

Open your mind for clarity allows you to know your position in the relationship. Any type of relationship. Because you are clear on where a person needs help or growth, you are able to assist in their healing. Which means, you are becoming a better person and you know where you are needed. You will be able to know how to love that person as well as know if that person is able to give you what you need in return.

Having an open mind for direction gives you the strength needed to know if you should continue or dissolve the relationship. The ability to effectively communicate, understand, and see another person side can save a relationship from completely going sour. Now having direction, will enable you to set boundaries and create plans for the relationship if needed. Girlfriends…Why We Need Them

Agree to disagree. Know your position and place. Then, do what you have to do to make sure you’re whole in the situation. You have all the tools needed then to proceed on any relationship or situation. This not only goes for relationships, but business deals, or any situation that requires you to compromise, give or take.

Remember you’re not changing your position or stance on what you believe or what you want. Basically, you just seeing where they are coming from. You are simply keeping an open for your mental sake, to know how to proceed. This avoids wasted time, money, resources, and losing relationships. Keep an open mind for understanding, clarity, and direction.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be .

YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR MIND

After a year and some months now, I now have the urge again to wear makeup. The beauty in life is that you can change your mind. You can change your mind and go back and forth as often as you’d like or need to. Probably almost two years ago, I wanted to challenge myself and live my life makeup free. I was having feelings of not wanting to depend on going out without a “mask”.

Everyone knows I was and still is a beauty junkie at heart. I still love all things makeup, skin, nails, and hair. But, I wanted to give my skin a break and just love me in my own skin. I’ve done that now for a little over a year and ready to go out again in makeup.

Throughout the last year, I’ve really enjoyed showing up to world bare faced. In fact, I can say I was more confident in going out naked. I was able to relax and just enjoy giving the world me, authentically. At first, I thought I was going to feel self conscious and was worried about going to the office and not “looking” professional.

That was something I quickly got over. I told myself that me wearing makeup has nothing to do with my job performance. Makeup had nothing to do with how I approach my day. I was still able to go into work and show out.

But you know what, you can change your mind. I now want to get back into putting a little extra time into myself. Because I can. That is one of the reasons I was drawn to makeup and skincare. While experimenting, I’m in my own world showing myself some love. And that’s what it’s all about. Doing something you love and spending time with yourself at the same time.

With that being said, you can change your mind. No matter what decision you made prior. You have the right to say I want to try again. You are under no obligation to stick to a decision. Give yourself room and permission to try again and again and again.

When others attempt to question your decisions, choices, and desires don’t get upset. Simply let them know you’ve changed your mind because you can and its your right. Remember never let others opinions about your life and the choices you make feel any type of way. What you do have nothing to do with others. Now go live your life and change your mind back if you want to.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

CREATIVITY AND MENTAL HEALTH GO HAND IN HAND

Tap into your creative side to help you figure out what you want to do next. So many of us are stuck trying to figure out what to do next, how to use this time we have to invest or invent something for ourselves. Creativity to boost mental health takes the chore out it. There is a true connection between creativity and mental health. When you begin to get creative it doesn’t have to be anything big.

Right now I’m having the time of my life learning and investing my time and energy into three new things to me. The first one I’m working on is to perfect my recipe for my version of Avocado Toast 🥑as well as my version of an Vanilla Iced Almond Latte🧋. The last is me working on my green thumb. I’ve always envied those who could nurture plant 🪴 and flowers 💐. One of my goals at the beginning of the year was to get some greenery in the home. I purchased one (an Aloe plant) and due to unfortunate circumstances, a death in the family, I ended up with three plants (a small peace lily and a large peace lily plant).

Side note: For quite some time now I’ve longed to have the talent on how to sew. I’ve been looking for the perfect pair of pants but can’t seem to find them. I’ve had many thoughts of purchasing a sewing machine and making my own.

But anyway….

We’ll be surprised to see when we challenge ourselves how much it lifts our mood and spirits. Begin figuring out what you want to invest your time in learning or perfecting. We’re so quick to say “I don’t know how to do that” or “I can’t do that” or “That’s not something I’m good at”. Well now its time to try something new. Don’t worry about how big or small the adventure may be to others. It’s not for them or about them.

Your creativity is something personal to you. The more creative you are the better your mental health become.

This is essential to your mental and emotional health because it’s keeping you busy, learning a new skill, figuring out new things about yourself, it’s challenging you to step out your comfort zone , and you’re growing in the process. You never know where your hobby may take you. Use new activities and adventures as a free therapist. Good Luck and Have some Fun!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

An Open Letter To Anyone You are enough

An open letter to anyone, you are enough, I hear you, see you, and feel you. I know you’re in pain and I’m sorry. You feel like there is a dark cloud over you, lurking. No matter what you do, it feels like you just can’t catch a break. For every two steps forward, you take one back. The feelings of being unappreciated, invisible, and dismissed is mounting. Everyone is take take take and no one ever stopped to ask you how you are doing or if you need help.

You can’t breath. You can’t think. The numbness from the neck down has become comfortable and a security blanket. You’re always on edge. However, at any moment you feel like a ticking time bomb. Your life feels like a puzzle and all the pieces are on the table scattered. The frame isn’t even together, let alone at least two pieces in the center. My dearest of friends I’m sorry.

Every feeling, thought, and emotion you are having is valid. That is why I decided to write you an open letter. What you are feeling is right. There isn’t anything wrong with you. All you want someone to do is say thank you or ask are you ok. A simple kind gesture makes all the difference in how your day will go. On the other hand, you always make sure everyone else is good.

I’m here to tell you, it will get better. For instance, the happiness and joy you yearn for you will receive, and soon. My friend that beautiful smile and laugh we will hear again. Enjoying each day and having fun will be apart of your life. Use this open letter as a reminder that you will have power and control of your life. Just like bamboo you may bend but you won’t break. You have come this far and endured. After that you will come out stronger and tougher. Therefore, let this be a lesson so in the future you won’t bend as easily and definitely won’t break.

You have the right to say NO!!!!!. You have the right to decline an invitation or offer. Here are a couple of examples for declining someone, “you know I appreciate your offer and kindness of thinking of me, but I’m not in a good space right now so I’ll catch you next time.” Or if someone is asking something of you and its not in your spirit to fulfill, “I appreciate your trust in me but that isn’t something I’m able to do at this time.”

In the meantime, make yourself a priority, create boundaries, and focus on yourself. Don’t feel bad or guilty about saying “I’m not ok right now and I need to get better.” Also taking a step back away from everyone and everything is something we all need to do from time to time.

In conclusion take your life and happiness back. This is a temporary storm. Get well soon. Get happier soon. And trust me we all will love the happier YOU.

You are worth it. You deserve it.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

FEELING STUCK Here Are 30 Questions To Ask Yourself

Knowing you want to improve certain areas of your life is half the battle. Don’t know where to begin and feeling stuck, here are 30 questions to get your mind running.

When was the last time I gave myself a compliment?
What is one of the biggest fears that’s holding me back from doing what I want to do?
Do I treat people how I want to be treated?
Am I living the life I want?
Are there limits I‘m putting on my life, dreams, hopes and the way I think?
Do I live or just exist in this world?
Are the choices I’ve made been with my mind or heart?
Have I been good to myself: my mind, body, and spirit?
What is the one thing that makes me uncomfortable?
When I make a mistake, how do I handle it?
Am I an inspiration to myself and those around me?
What are my biggest accomplishments that I’m most proud of?
My biggest goal I’d like to accomplish this year is…
What is the one thing that happen last year that I’d like to continue?
Is there one thing I’d like to change, fix, or get better at?
If I had a magic wand, and was feeling stuck the one thing in the world I’d like to fix is?
How do I define success?
What are the three things I value most?
What is the one thing I’m really good at?
Do I enjoy what I do?
What can I do right now that will have a positive impact on my life?
When was the last time I stepped outside my comfort zone?
What is the one thing I enjoy doing in my free time?
Do I have any hobbies or favorite activities?
If I were completely honest with myself, what is my confidence level on a scale of 1-10?
How do I deal with change?
How do I respond to negative situations or negative people?
What is the one place I’d like to vacation if money wasn’t an object?
Am I a happy person?
Do I like myself?

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Random THOUGHTS…Happy Friday Y’all

We’re 15 days into the new year and it seems it’s been a long one already. I’d thought I give a random post of all my thoughts random thoughts. There is so much going on around the world, in our homes, and on our jobs that can easily get us into the state of “How in the world did I end up here?”

Right now more than ever taking a moment to ourself is crucial to all of our wellbeing. Even if you can get five minutes in, it’s better than none. For example, turn the news off, do not consume that all day. Also turn off your social media notifications for a day or so. If you feel you can’t turn off your notifications just don’t respond, read, or look at them for a day. The goal is to give yourself a moment for clarity and to be with one in your own thoughts.

To sum up, please be mindful of what and how much you are consuming for the benefit of your mental health . This includes your conversations with family, friends, and coworkers. If you have someone at work like I do, who loves to talk about politics every moment of day, find a way to recenter. For me, I either completely ignore them, turn on my radio really low, and zone out. Eventually when I don’t respond or engage they stop or switch the subject. Another way I deflect is to simply say “I’ve had my fair share of politics I’m really not interested in discussing it right now.” Finally, my last resort, is to literally refer the conversation back work or another subject.

That goes for any subject matter that you are tired of talking about or hearing about.

Another random thought that has been heavy on me is to ask yourself what are you condoning, participating, accepting, and accommodating? Right now there are many things that we normalize and gloss over as if its ok, knowing deep down it’s not. Stop twisting yourself into a pretzel, to keep the peace in fear of being left out and talked about.

If it ain’t right, don’t sit well in your spirit, and you don’t want to, then exist gracefully. Just another random thought I’d like to share to help those feeling pressured to do certain things.

I’ve had to come to grips with this subject matter this week. Unfortunately, my mother in law passed away, and me knowing my role on when, where, and how far to extend my support had to become clear to me. I had to step back and say it’s not my mother, my husband has siblings, and I don’t have a say so. The most important was for me to make myself available. I was beginning to struggle on if I was being a good wife. But I had to realize my support is to my husband and my children, who lost their grandmother.

Finally, I come to know and understand that I can’t fix people or save people. I can’t and will not break myself down trying to fix someone else. Also if it has nothing to do with you, it doesn’t concern you, it’s none of your business, it doesn’t effect you or your family, it’s out of your control, or you can’t change it, then let it GO. Don’t be mad, angry, upset, bitter, or hold a grudge. Just be done and let go. And don’t look back.

I’m pretty sure I’m not the only that have some random thoughts that doesn’t seem to all fit. But thats ok, as long as you can acknowledge them. Those random thoughts will fit together one day. Bet on yourself first, this one time, and give yourself a chance.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.