Favorite Iyanla Vanzant Quotes: MOTIVATIONAL AND INSPIRING

I love me a good quote. I have shared some of my favorite Iyanla Vanzant quotes below. I love her honesty and straight forward love. She gives it straight even if it’s hard to hear. A good quote is food for thought. Gives you a light bulb moment to shift your thought process into a different universe.

“If we celebrate, support, and nurture ourselves, we will not need anyone else to do it for us.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“You have to meet people where they are, and sometimes you have to leave them there. –Iyanla Vanzant

“The only way to get what you really want is to let go of what you don’t want.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“Stop squeezing into places that don’t fit you.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“You don’t get to tell people how to love you; you get to choose whether or not you want to participate in the way they love.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“If you don’t have a vision you’re going to be stuck in what you know. And the only thing you know is what you’ve already seen.“ –Iyanla Vanzant

“If somebody had the privilege and the honor of walking into your life, living and growing with you, and they didn’t have the good sense to stay, you need to be glad to be rid of them.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“We must inspire ourselves by believing we have the power to accomplish everything we set out to do.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“There’s no GREATER battle in life than between the part of you that wants to be healed, and the part of you that’s content remaining BROKEN.” –Iyanla Vanzant

“The journey into self-love and self acceptance must begin with self-examination…until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.” –Iyanla Vanzant

What does a quote do for you? To me it’s not just a quote or words, it gives me a different perspective and a new way of thinking. Seeing things through a different lens gives understanding and meaning to help you or allow you to help someone else.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

YOU HAVE EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO START A SIDE HUSTLE

Within the last year and half the idea of a ”side hustle” has really been pushed. There is so much advice, tips, and tricks on how to begin a side hustle that could make one overwhelmed. The one thing that you need to know if you want to create a side hustle is that you have everything you need to begin.

Most of the time people side hustles are what they are passionate about or some hobby that they enjoy. Well you can do that with what’s in your home. Whatever you are good at you can begin to create and sell. You have everything you need to start a side hustle and let the money work for you.

To begin with the obvious, many want to start their own Youtube channel. Well you can. You have a phone and it records. So you have what you need to begin. You have a story to tell that inspires someone. There is also a gift in you that is ready to come out. I know there are many who started their Youtube channel just using their phone. You don’t need to spend money on equipment to begin. That will come when it’s time.

The next is to start a blog. Once again you have a phone or IPAD, then you can begin to create your own story on the web. We have to get out of our head that we need all the bells and whistles to begin. When in actuality, if we had the bells and whistles we wouldn’t know how to use them correctly. Yes, there are some who started their blog on their phone or whatever device they had handy. By the way, your story is what’s going to capture your audience. You already have everything you need.

Next, side hustle you can do because you have everything is retail reselling or selling what you no longer use or need. There are many platforms and apps you can download on your phone that you already have, to begin selling items in your home and closet that you no longer use. Go through your home and pull everything that you haven’t worn or used in a year. I guarantee you, you will generate additional income. Your phone allows you to download the app, take photos, edit the photos, upload photos, create the listing, and sell the listing.

If you are good at baking or cooking, you can use your phone to market yourself on several apps you already use to cater events. Begin locally and let it grow. You have everything you need to create a free website to sell whatever goods or services you are good at. Self Care: Hobbies and Activities After all, we all have something we are good at.

There are so many other ”side hustles” that you can do to generate additional income with what you have. I know you’ve seen many articles and other content on side hustle ideas. You have everthing you need to begin. We all have something that we are passionate about. Furthermore, we all have a hobby that we love doing.

Using your talents and gifts that reside in you already, allows you to begin any side hustle you desire. If you’re good at organization, creating travel plans, planning, transcribing, writing, or many other ideas you can begin now. Use what you have to begin. Please don’t make the mistake of thinking you have time. On the other hand, thinking you need money and resources to begin. Build yourself up and you’ll enjoy the process.

P.S. This is not a post to tell you you should start a side hustle, its for those you’ve been thinking about it. They are waiting for the right time, or when they get the money to begin.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL HEALTH: YOU ALREADY HAVE BEEN VALIDATED

If we look around the validation we’re seeking is in front of our faces. You have already been validated. God sends you validation in many forms. We must hear and see in the spirit. As my grandmother would say when I was younger, if it was a snake, it would’ve bit you.

So often we look for validation when we’re experiencing different emotions. Or, we may seek validation when we begin a new venture of some sort. However, in my experience, the validation is already there.

The validation could come from someone you least expect. We often seek validation from family and friends, but God will send your enemy to give you a boost of encouragement. Don’t look at it as the person is being nosy or want something from you. God is telling you to go for it, because you are going to inspire the one person you least expect.

You have already been validated when you read that message that pops up on your phone. You know, the one that makes you say “hmmm” or “that is a coincidence”. That is God saying you have everything you need. You have been seeking from places that can’t give you what you need. GOD IS A KEEPER

When your friend or family member send you a inspirational message, that’s God saying you have been validated. He uses his resources wisely. If you come across a passage and it hits you differently, then that is your validation confirmation.

When I say validation, it could be you worried about switching jobs. Have you decided to move away and you are worried if its the right decision. You may seek validation from setting some boundaries and you want to make sure you’re doing the right thing. You could need affirmation to make a decision that would effect you financially. Just look, its already there. Any way you stand up for yourself and it scares you, its been validated already.

This thought of already being validated came to me when I was worried about if I made the right decision on something . But for several days, I came across messages and inspirational videos that let me know I was doing the right thing. Every morning for a couple of days, my morning message that I read, would have something to do with my decision. I had to stop and think to myself, this isn’t popping up by coincidence, this is God telling me to stop worrying, you made the right decision.

If you are struggling with a decision or feel you’re not receiving the validation you need, stop and look around you. I guarantee you, that you’ve been affirmed and validated. Get in tuned with your spirit. It won’t steer you wrong.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

GOD IS A KEEPER

The other day I was walking with my husband and we were doing some reflecting on this past year as well as our 15 year marriage. The one thing that we always came back to was, God has kept us. God is a keeper. No matter what you go through or how bad a situation may seem, God has always kept us, you, and everyone else. How else are you able to sit here breathing and reading this. God has kept you.

What has God kept you from? When you were falling and didn’t hit that ground. He swooped you up right before you hit. There were times a bill or debt needed to be taken care of, God provided. It may not have been how you thought. Or, the resources come from the places we least expect. You’ve been able to eat everyday, God has kept you. Each and everyday you wake up, God has kept you. Let’s say the obvious, we survived an unpredictable year. God has kept us.

Most importantly there are many things God has kept us from and we don’t even know it. He has blocked us from so much without us knowing. In any event, you have overcome. There is so much you can probably say about what you’ve been through, but I guarantee you that there is more God has protected you from.

As we were reflecting on our walk, we agreed that trying to maintain control made issues worse than they should have been. I think we are all guilty of that. Trying to control and hold on to things that God has clearly said let go and let me handle it. Most often, we need to let go and let God lead us into the direction He has set for us. Gods ways is better than ours.

If you find yourself going around in the same cycle, let go and trust God to lead you. He has kept you this long, He will continue. Move out His way and let his will be done. He won’t steer you wrong. Trusting God, you can’t never lose. Allow Him in to lead you. Let him keep you as he has done so many times before.

Trust and have faith. God is a keeper!!!! STRENGTH

P.S. I am not a preacher. I encourage and inspire based off my personal experiences. My hopes are to motivate and help others prevent them from any heart ache.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

HAS 2021 BEEN WHAT YOU EXPECTED?

We’ve approached June 1, 2021 and its hard to believe. Has 2021 been what you expected it to be? Coming off a crazy year like 2020, we had many hopes and expectations of what we wanted and thought 2021 should be. Has 2021 been a great year for you so far? Or has it been a great disappointment?

To be perfectly honest, I had absolutely no expectations for the year 2021. I actually had a feeling of more of the same. I wasn’t expecting a huge shift in anything. However, I did go into the year with one goal, and that was to be grateful and positive no matter what came my way. How have I done so far? I must say I’m proud of myself. I’ve been very good at keeping a level head and trying to encourage myself and others.

On the other hand, I wanted to be fearless and take chances. And again, I’ve taken some steps professionally and business wise that I have been putting off. I’m proud of myself. So far for me 2021 has gone by fast and isn’t waiting on us for anything. If I can get through a COVID-19 school year, with the kids in seat, I can do anything. WHAT I’VE LEARNED THIS YEAR ABOUT MYSELF

Has your 2021 been what you wanted? If it hasn’t you still have time to plan, create, and set yourself up for success. The one thing we can’t get back is time. What are you waiting for? Turn your dreams into reality one step at a time. Do something everyday towards your dream or goal. It could be something as simple as reading an article or doing research.

If you want to go back to school, relocate, change careers, lose weight, or start a business, do one thing each day to make it reality. The more you work and grow, the more motivated and encouraged you become. Furthermore, we can’t just dream, we have to put some action behind it.

On the other hand, if your 2021 has been everything you hoped, then continue on the path you’re on. Continue to grow and live the life you set out. Even if no one says it, you are an inspiration to others. Enjoy the process and may you accomplish everything you set out.

2021 isn’t over, however time is moving like lighting and it isn’t going to slow down. I wish we could add hours in a day or tell time to slow down and wait until we’re ready. Go after and get whatever it is you want or want to do. Remember it’s a journey without a destination. It’s not a race, it’s a marathon. And lastly, the journey is yours and no one else’s.

Have a great day, week, month and rest of the year!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE?

Do you know who you are? I was in Walmart picking up what supposed to be one item. Well walking through the aisle I stumbled upon the mugs. I found this mug that caught my eye and I had to pick it up. It was a black mug with one word on it “Introvert”. FACTS ABOUT INTROVERTS YOU SHOULD KNOW Boy that made me smile and without hesitation, I told my husband I have to get it. Before I knew, the words, “this is so me and I love it”, came out my mouth.

Walking to the register I thought to myself, what is so me? Well, I smiled on the inside because there was a comfort in me knowing who I am and what makes me, me. Yes, I am an introvert, I’ve told y’all before. I love everything about me being an introvert. I embrace who I am.

Also I loved the mug, because I am a mug collector. A good colorful inspirational mug makes me happy. It’s even better when I’m drinking my coffee or tea to have a reminder literally at my fingertips. It’s the little things that makes your personality shine and pop.

What is or are the little things that makes you smile? Do you know what makes you happy? Can you answer the question, what makes you happy? How does your personality shine through on a daily? On one hand, it doesn’t have to be big. So often we get stumped on a question like this because we think the person is looking for some grand answers.

The million little things that makes you stand out is what makes you so special and unique. Embrace every little thing no matter how quirky, colorful, small, or big it may be.

We are human beings with many emotions, which means we’re going to have some big and small things that makes us happy and who we are. Do you know who you are?

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Money Jar Saving Method for easy saving

I grew up on the money jar saving method and didn’t even know it. For example, as a little girl my father would have this huge glass jar filled with coins. When the jar became full, he would take it to the bank, cash it in, and make a deposit. My aunt also had a money jar, that she kept on the corner table filled with coins, and that’s what we used as our daily bus fare.

It’s ironic that in the last couple of years, I too, have adopted the save money method using jars. Right now we keep an old peanut jar on the kitchen counter for our daily lose change.

What is a money jar? Welp, its a money management system used to save, budget, plan, and be financially responsible. It’s the act of using mason jars or any kind of jar to place a certain dollar amount in daily, weekly, or monthly to reach a certain finacnial goal. This is a great system for those who have trouble saving or poor spending habits. The money jar system can be used to save for something specific or rainy day.Handle Your Business…Get Your Finances Together

Go to your kitchen cabinet and grab a glass that you aren’t using and put a dollar in it. Do this every Monday, or whatever day you choose. If you have more to spare in your budget then start with $5 or whatever you can afford. The best thing about this system is that you can start as little as your budget allows. This is the quickest and easiest way to save money especially if you’re on a budget or just going through a rough time right now.

Having a money jar or jars in the home are a great way to physically see your savings. Yes, we have saving accounts, but the physical action of taking money out of your wallet, and watching that jar fill, encourages you mentally and emotionally. You see the progress which encourages you to save more and spend less.

Also, I don’t know about you, but we’ve become so used to swiping our debit or credit card. How many times have you said you weren’t going to spend any money, and before you know it, your account balance has dropped. It’s very easy to swipe, and guys those small amounts add up.

You begin to know the importance of spending less, being grateful for what you have, and the desire of having “stuff” isn’t as fulfilling anymore. You become more comfortable in living without certain “things” and notice the amount of frivolous spending that may occur.

The insight on “what did I spend my money on” becomes clear. How many times do you look and say where did I spend all that money? What did I buy? I’ve done it plenty of times walking out the store, and saying “it doesn’t look like I have a cart of stuff worth a $100”. How many times have you guys said that?

You can have as many money saving jars as you think you need or want. To begin the process, figure out what you want to save for and how many jars you need. We have 3 children so January 1, we get a jar and label it Christmas. Next, we like to pay our car insurance in full so we have one labeled car insurance. Thirdly, we have one that literally say “rainy day”. Finally we each have one for something we are saving for personally to us.

Next, label each jar. You can create labels, color code them, or purchase some labels . Then figure out a place in your home of where you’d like to place it. You can opt to keep it visual or in a spot to where it’s out of sight.

You can use the money jar saving method for a house down payment , purchasing a new car, tuition, vacation, or whatever you desire. If you don’t have the finances or desire to purchase a set of mason jars, then you can literally get some glasses and place the money in there.

This process is completely personal to you. You can get as creative as you like. Actually the more creative you are the better.

Mentally you will be encouraged to save as you see it grow, you gain confidence in knowing you’re taking responsibility, and knowing you are pursuing your goals actively. Emotionally you become more aware and conscious of your actions. It makes you question priorities, needs, and wants. Financially you have taken responsibility , being more aware of your spending, and taking control of your life.

Initially, I was like so many people in thinking that’s what I have a savings account for. But since I’ve began using the money jar saving method weekly, I’m more encouraged to save, excited about the possibilities and opportunities the savings will allow me, and motivated to continuously be more financially responsible and aware.

One of our biggest motivations is to know that we have something saved not just for our family but if someone we love who is need we can provide a little financial assistance to them in their time of need.

Most of the time one of the biggest reasons we begin to feel hopeless or in despair it’s due to a financial set back that we didn’t expect. Having a financial set back tends to send every other area in our life into a pit. The best way to set ourselves up for success is to begin to save no matter what our income level is and using the money jar system is a great way to start. I encourage anyone to try the money jar saving method. Make a commitment, start small, and work on your finances this year.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

I WAS GROWN BEFORE, BUT LIFE CALLED ME

Something happens when you hit 40. I’ve always heard people talk about it and say how something shifts, it definitely does and it’s noticeable. I was grown before, but now I really think I’m grown. Some can be adults in age, but not so much in their priorities, responsibilities, and life.

For starters, I no longer care about having a closet full of clothes and shoes. Let alone caring about the name or labels on the tags. My care has shifted to making sure my home is as cozy as possible. I enjoy walking through Menards, Lowes, and the Garden section in Walmart. Creating a home with positive energy, peace, comfort, and happiness tickles my fanny.

While creating a safe space to be free, I’ve adopted the less is more option. That is with everything. Clothes, shoes, makeup, skincare, knickknacks, decor, kitchen gadgets, and just stuff. I find myself throwing away a lot of “stuff” as I clean and do laundry.

The next thing I noticed, and this is what made me figure out the shift in myself, is I pay attention to what others say on certain topics, or what they don’t say specifically. I pay attention to a person actions towards others, positive and negative. I specifically watch to see if they cut corners, always wanting something extra, looking for a leg up, wanting favors, and just how they move in general.

“The best judgment of character is to watch how a person engage with others.”

Another thing that I noticed is my daily lifestyle habits are very important. You know when you’re younger, eating right isn’t at the top of the list. Also when you’re young and dumb, you think you never going to gain weight or you can lose it easily. Yeah Right!!!!!! Making sure I have healthy eating habits, exercising throughout the week, and oh, this is a big one, gettting my behind in the bed at night is a priority at the top of my list.

The eating and drinking habits of others is something I’ve come to pay attention to. I love it when a coworker or friend tell me they want to lose weight or going on this fad diet, while eating a bucket of ice cream. I will support and motivate anyone, but if you’re wasting my time by not being serious or taking your health serious then, I have to move on.

I’ve become more mindful on what I watch, read, and listen to. Because of the world we live in, I find myself constantly seeking motivational and inspiring content to consume to ensure I’m operating from a place of positivity. YouTube has tons of motivational content on all subject matters to keep your gas tank full. I can find long videos while I clean up or a quick video on the ride to work to keep me going. Pinterest has millions of inspirational quotes to get you through any situation. Of course we know Instagram has content that motivates us.

Side Note: The key to social media is to only click on the content that you seek, or aspire to indulge. That way the algorithm will only pull the content in which you want to see.

My insatiable desire to let everyone know they are worthy is mounting. It really pains me to hear or see of a individual feeling down, in despair, hopeless, and unmotivated.

“You are bigger than the storm you going through. Remember storms are temporary.”

The ability to comfortable in feeling my feelings and not feeling bad about it has lifted weight off my shoulders . Feeling my feelings allows me to process it, talk it out, and move passed it. Which is great for my mental health. I encourage everyone to feel their feelings so you can learn and move forward. Ignoring or pretending like nothing bothers you, only hurts you and prevents you from being the best version of yourself.

I used to love going to the store to “just” look, now I only go when necessary and frankly I don’t even like doing that. It’s not so much about spending money or trying to save money, it’s not wanting be in the midst of the craziness that happens when you go shopping. Also, thats how I know I‘ve accomplished my goal of being at peace and content with what I have. There is nothing wrong with “wanting” more, but you have to start by being grateful for what you have now.

Which brings me to my next point, in being more financially aware or frugal. When I want something, I really think about it for some time. I go through a serious of questions: Do I really need it? Do I have a place for it? Can I afford it? Lastly on the financial tip, is I’d rather save and pay cash for it, instead of having debt and interest. When you’re younger you view money differently. I know I’m grown because life has called me to look at money and finances completely different.

My desire to give folks my time and argue just isn’t happening anymore. First of all, my blood pressure tells me girl you need to sit down, and you know what, they just aren’t worth it. I’m was grown before and life has called me to let certain things go. The energy that it exhaust out of me is too much and most of the time its not going to change the outcome, circumstances , or how a person feels.

It feels good to not care what people think or say. This one took me a while. It wasn’t so much of what my friends thought, but wanting the approval from my family that I was doing right or making the right decisions stressed me out. Another one that took me a while to grasp, is to not take things personally when people are rude or disrespectful. The anger that they display has nothing to do with me.

Welp, thats a few things I’ve noticed that has changed in me. It feels good, I feel good, and I want y’all to have the same liberating feeling. I was grown before, but now I’m really grown and growing. Remember it’s a journey, there isn’t a destination, and I’m still hopping along.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Happy Sunday AND LET GO

I just wanted to come to you all really quick and wish you a Happy Sunday morning, noon, or night. I hope you get the peace, relaxation, and joy this day has to offer before the start of the week.

It’s been heavy on me to express to those who are in distress or not, that there’s a reason and purpose for everything even in the toughest of times. Find your purpose for living. Even in the midst of storm my family is in following the death of my mother in law, I can’t help but to have this overwhelming feeling of gratitude.

While in the storm we are getting drenched, dirt poured on us, and beat down in the process. Stay present in the moment. Feel every drop of dirt, debris, and rain no matter how bad it hurts. We need the storms to grow and show us the true strength and power we have. My friends anything that is good for us needs dirt and water to grow. Plants, flowers, fruits and vegetables.

We will have storms, we can’t stop that. But its how we clean up that will make us stronger. How we learn and overcome, will prepare us for the next storm.

If you are sick believe that you are healed. If you are weak believe you are strong. You have been prepared and equipped for every storm. You have everything you need to withstand. At this moment you just have to access it through gratitude 🙏 and having Faith.

Thank you and God Bless. Happy Sunday everyone!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

SINGLE LIFE IS A BLESSING, ENJOY IT

If you didn’t know it before, I’m here to tell you, single life is a blessing. Embrace and enjoy every minute you have with yourself. There is this misconception that being single is a bad thing and you’re not complete if you’re not in a relationship. Being single is a blessing and gift from God. One can actually have an amazing run at living the single life.

For starters, when living the single life you have time for yourself, to yourself, and by yourself. You don’t have to worry about sharing your time and making sure they feel wanted. Being single is a blessing because you can come and go when you please.

Single life is a blessing because you can invest as much time as you want into your career and achieve your goals so when you’re ready for a relationship you can have time for the relationship. Another benefit to being single is learning, loving, and getting to know you. The more you have time to be with yourself, the more you’ll be able to know exactly what you want in a partner and how you want to be loved.

One being single can have an amazing life. Just because a person is single doesn’t mean they are depressed, bored, and unhappy. When you’re single you can be your own companion and love yourself the way you want to be loved. Having dinner alone is actually a good thing. Taking a vacation and enjoying your time and fruits of your labor alone is a good thing. Yes, single people take vacations all the time and have an amazing experience. HAPPY VALENTINES DAY To All!!!

Relationships are hard work. I often tell people being married is a full time job, it is just as important if not more than the one that pays you. You have to constantly work at the relationship to have a long sustaining meaningful one. Sacrifice and compromise is one thing you don’t have to worry about when you’re single.

Single life allows you to be independent and won’t feel the need to have someone to make you feel whole, accomplished, or complete. Fulfill yourself with those things.

Once you know how to love yourself you’ll be able to show someone how to love you and you’ll be able to receive love. How you treat yourself is how you teach people how to treat you. Love on yourself so good that you’ll find amazing love with a partner one day.

Remember just because someone is married or in a relationship doesn’t mean they are happy and the relationship is good. On the other hand, just because someone is single doesn’t mean they aren’t living a great life or has less significance than someone in a relationship.

Being single is a blessing and gift from God. Don’t let your single life go to waste. Enjoy it.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.