Most of the time we’re overwhelmed because we’re busy trying to fulfill other commitments to family, friends, and coworkers. Show up for yourself like you show up for others in your life. We feel obligated because they’re our children, spouse, boss, parent, sibling, or friend. Not in a million years do we want others to feel like we don’t want to be bothered or we don’t have time for them. But giving your all to everyone else in life, only leaves you with crumbs to feed yourself. You deserve more than that.
To show up for yourself first, take moment to feed oneself (literally and figuratively), and not being available is perfectly ok to do. If you don’t feed you first, how are you going to feed and pour into others. What do you have to offer them? Surely, not your best. You not even giving you your best self. And, guess what, it’s not even selfish to show up for you.
Will some in your life get angry, upset, or their feelings hurt, maybe. But they’ll get over it. Think about this, is it not selfish for someone to expect you to put them first over your own self? But on the other hand, that’s where communication comes in. Just give someone a call and say “hey I’m not really my best so can I come see you tomorrow?” Or, I got done with dinner late, I’ll call you tomorrow.
Sometimes we’re not able to communicate on the fly. After you’ve had your moment, you can call and say, “you know I’ve been a little overwhelmed lately sorry I missed your call.”
Either way you’ve communicated that you had needs for yourself to take care of. Most of the time we’re stressed and drained because we are trying to making everyone else feel whole. We’re not even whole and trying to make someone else whole. SELF LOVE: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
The next time you feel like you’re stretched thin, and can’t get any help, everyone is pulling at your leg, take time for yourself. However they are expecting you to show up for them, reverse and show up for yourself. You deserve it. Your overall wellbeing is depending on you.
”It’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.”-Rumi
Two people can look at the same picture and see two different things. Why? Because no two persons see through the same lens. What we interpret is based upon our experiences, upbringing, background, and life circumstances. Therefore, your life’s journey is for you to walk. Not everyone will understand. But that’s perfectly ok. A hard lesson I had to learn is to not even attempt to make some people understand. In actuality, it’s not for others to understand. Just as you may not understand someone else’s lifejourney. The best thing to do is motivate and grow together. Embrace your lifejourney. Do it without regrets. Learn from the good and bad. They both are there for a reason. Be grateful for those who come along as well as those who doesn’t want to. Either way, there will be a lesson to learn. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!
”All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”-J.R.R. Tolkien
We all get the same amount of time in a day. It is what we do with that 24hours that makes us different. What do you spend the most time doing? What do you spend the least time doing? Is there something you need more time for? The answer is write down your priorities, needs, and wants. Take a good look at what you put the most time in. That tells you what you value, rather good or bad. Do you spend a great amount of time scrolling on social media? Or on the other hand spending too much time at the office. If you are wishing there were more hours in a day, stop wishing. Reallocate your time to fit your priorities, hobbies, and desires. The time is given to us. We have complete control and free will to spend those 24hours how we see fit. TIME AND PATIENCE ARE TWO IMPORTANT FACTORS FOR GROWTH Make the best of it. Because time is one thing we can’t get back or make up for. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!
Have you ever looked back and realized there are some things that you naturally do without thinking? Those are your self care habits and activities that makes you feel good and get you through the day. I have some simple favorite self care activities that makes a huge difference in my dailyroutine.
My Morning routine My morning routine helps me start my day in a positive mindset, makes me feel good, and provides confidence. The simple act of telling myself it’s going to be a great day instantly motivates me to get out of bed. My morning skin care routine is the most important self care activity I do. The act of washing my face, applying serum, and moisturizer gives me the confidence needed to put my best foot forward the rest of the day. I take my time doing my skincareroutine and enjoy the act of taking care of my skin.
Weekly Hair Mask I’ve always loved doing my own beautyroutines and rituals. I enjoy trying different hair products and masks to maintain the health of my hair. I’m always going back and forth in wearing my hair naturally curly and straightening it. Deep conditioning regularly has helped me maintain the health of my hair. MY NATURAL HAIR LOVE HATE RELATIONSHIP
Maintaining My Home I love being a wife and mom. Creating an environment to give my familypeace, love, and comfort is never ending for me. Keeping my house clean, smelling good with inviting with comfort scents, and visual peace is joy for me. Knowing when we’re on vacation and one of my kids says, I’m ready to go home, warms my heart. Having a home and a place to where myself and family can feel the most safe will always take priority. Also to whomever, comes over and needs that sense of peace.
Drinking Water The older I get the more in tuned I am in taking care of my body. Drinking an excess amount of Waterdaily is my goal from the time I wake up. It allows me to flush out my system, eliminates bloating in my stomach, and keeps my skin clear. I feel much better when I maintain a certain amount of dailyWater intake. Staying hydrated and drinking Water is the easiest self care activity you can do for yourself.
Doing Nothing Having a moment to self and doing nothing is probably one of my favorite activities. I try to take advantage of moments when I can. I intentionally have a moment in the morning before I go to work. Sometimes I’ll sit on the couch, with my coffee, and look out the window. No phone or television on to provide distraction or interruption. The ability to not think about anything and just daydream is great for my mental and emotional health.
Staying Off My Phone It’s no secret I’m not a fan of social media. But intentionally staying off my phone has become an increasing self care activity for me. I don’t have the images and thoughts of others constantly in front of me. Staying off the phone allows me to avoid consciously or unconsciously comparing my life to others. Lastly, it forces me to do something else creative or productive. ALL MY SOCIAL MEDIA APPS DELETED
Night routine In the last couple of weeks I’ve noticed my night routine I do without thinking. While I’m washing off my makeup or just cleansing my skin I reflect on the day and release. I’m in a mental state of clearing my mind and feeling lighter. I always have to put on some type of facial mask which makes me feel like I’m pulling the entire day out of my skin. The shower or bath I take, washes the day away and get me prepared for the next. I’m calm, settled, and have a freemental state to head to bed. The goal is to not go to bed heavy.
Those are just some self care activities I noticed I do without thinking and in routine. So often you hear people ask how do I get into routine or habits. Well sometimes if we pause, look at our dailyhabits, we’ll notice self care is already being practiced.
Everything you need to feel better, look better, and heal is right at your finger tips. The best resources that are available to us all is free and limitless. Going outside for a simple walk provides fresh air for you to breath, activity for your limbs, new scenery for you to recharge, and a distraction from all the problems holding you down. Dieting doesn’t mean deprive yourself of all the good food. It’s about moderation and portion control. Simply cut your portions in half, drink more water, and add activity. You will begin to see a difference in your body. To begin healing and feeling better it all starts from within. Open the blinds and curtains to let natural light in. I guarantee you the instant boost to want to do something with yourself and for yourself will kick in. Secondly, give yourself permission to rest and unplug from work, home, and technology. It will clear your mind and heart to move forward with a clear lens. JUST TAKE ONE DAY AND BE WORRY FREE Lastly, get outside and get you some fresh air and look at a life from a different perspective. You’ll feel lighter and brighter instantly. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!!
”Never discourage anyone who continually makes progress, no matter how slow.”-Plato
It takes a lot for someone to make a change, stick through it, and see their vision through. Any type of life altering decision will have it’s ups and downs. No one needs to hear judgement or criticism on how slow they are in reaching their goals. If a friend has a weight loss goal and doesn’t seem able to reach it by the date desired, they don’t want to hear negative feedback. Keep encouraging and motivating them to continue on with their goal. Giving unwanted or negative feedback doesn’t feel good to the person receiving it and in the long run no one feels good after giving it. life is a journey and not a race. 10 WAYS TO LIVE HAPPIER Each one of our journeys and paths takes us on different twists and turns. The more you encourage, motivate, and inspire others the more you feel motivated yourself. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!
”If you can’t do anything about it, then let it go. Don’t be a prisoner to things you can’t change.” -Tony Gaskins
Worrying about things you can’t change is what has you stuck. You’re twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to fix or change something that isn’t yours to fix. If we think about it, we’re trying to fix things that’s not even ours most of the time. Worrying isn’t going to speed up the process, change the potential outcome, or make you feel better. In actuality, worrying so much is what gets us depressed, stressed, and tensed. We spend every waking moment trying to manipulate the process. Thus we aren’t living in the moment and allowing ourselves to learn through the process. If it’s out of your control or not your “thing”, to fix, then let it go. MOTIVATIONAL AND INSPIRATIONAL: JUST LET IT GO Do yourself a favor and trust that it’s going to work out how it supposed to. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!!!
”Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles.”-Charlie Chaplin
The only thing that’s permanent is change. If we don’t learn to adapt and reset as our life evolve we will live in the past, and not live up to the life we should. You are stronger and tougher than any problem or situation you’re going through. Remember tough times don’t last, but tough people do. Yes, you get tired of being strong willed and pushing through, but you are built to outlast any obstacle or roadblock that comes your way. WELLNESS: EVEN THE STRONGEST NEEDS A BREAK At the end of every storm, a rainbow comes out. Then we pick up the pieces that lasted in the storm, leave behind what we don’t need or want, and move forward to the next destination in our journey. Through each challenge you may face, there is a piece of wisdom there. Pick up that piece of wisdom and move on to live the life you deserve. Enjoy the rest of you day!!!!!!
”Do not get upset with people or situations, both are powerless without your reaction.”–Unknown
Admittaly this one was the most gut wrenching for me. It pains me to allow others to get me to react emotionally. However, I’ve come to master the art of silence, walking away, ending conversations, and not giving in. Before someone can even finish what they are saying I’m already aware that they don’t deserve my emotional vulnerability. Whenever faced with a challenging situation remember you have the power and ability to be in control of your emotions. Don’t allow someone to drag you to the bottom and be their company. Politely end the conversation and walk away with your head held high. Leading with emotions will get us every time. Remember our emotions change on a daily. Even sometimes hourly depending on what life is handing us. So depending on emotions to lead us to the correct path isn’t a good idea. Learning to take how you “feel” out of the equation will allow you to be more level headed. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!
”Exercise is a celebration of what your body can do. Not a punishment for what you do.”-Women’s Health UK
I was one of those who dreaded working out. It was more of a chore instead of me making it apart of my dailylifestyle. Once I made the decision to do the workouts that benefited my body and more importantly what body was capable of doing, it became fun. My husband would do all these extreme workouts and programs, that worked great for him. But when I tried my body didn’t respond, I didn’t enjoy it, and I lost interest and motivation. Yes, there is a great deal of content on exercise. But experiment until you find your niche. Now I can’t go a day without going for a walk. I get more results walking and doing minor strength training than following any program out there. But that what works for me. Find something fun, that you can’t wait to do each day. And you don’t just have to stick to that one thing, variety is your friend when it comes to exercise. Lastly, we only get one body. When we get older we can’t trade it in for a new one. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!