-We actually do like people and socializing. Just so happen we prefer a small select few to socialize with.
-We are very observant.
-We truly do enjoy being alone and spending time with ourselves. Matter of factly, that will be our first choice is to do something in solitude.
-We absolutely don’t care for the small talk. A meaningful conversation with substance is more fulfilling.
-Chances of us having or wanting a lot of friends is very slim. We’d prefer a small circle of people to keep close.
-We aren’t shy, timid, or fearful. More on the reserved side.
-We aren’t stuck up or anti social.
-We won’t speak unless we have something to say. Not going to say anything just to fill the silence or be apart of a conversation.
-We enjoy going out, vacations, beach, walking, and being outdoorsy.
-There isn’t anything wrong with us we don’t need to be fixed.
-We aren’t rude.
-Introverts are not depressed, have anxiety, or low self esteem.
I’ve totally embraced and love being an introvert. I am me and it feels good. Embrace and love who you are. Don’t let the outside world make you feel like there is something wrong with you because you aren’t doing what the mass majority is doing.
Do you have a closet full of clothes with tags on them? Shoe boxes lined for days that you haven’t worn or worn only once? Makeup drawer overflowing, drawers won’t close because clothes is oozing out of them, and more handbags than days, and you still aren’t fulfilled and living happily, thats because no matter how much “stuff” you buy it won’t do the work you need to do for yourself.
First the gratification we receive from a new purchase is short lived. Hence, the reason we sometimes don’t use or wear the specific item. We’ve all heard of the term retail therapy. The shopping temporarily fulfills us to get our mind off what really has us bothered.
Having more “stuff” isn’t fulfillling because we’re chasing something thats unattainable. There is this fictional idea that we’ve created and trying to chase. Have you ever wanted something really bad and finally got it, but no sooner than you turned the corner you were looking for something else. There is always going to be something else desired to fulfill the void inside until we fulfill ourselves.
Most often when we purchase something new it isn’t for ourselves. The new clothes, shoes, home decor, furniture, or whatever else is purchased to get a reaction from others. We’re looking for their reaction to fulfill or validate the emptiness. Thus the cycle continues when we don’t get the reaction we want. We begin to internalize it and take it personally.
The more stuff we have the more our homes are cluttered, the more “stuff” we have to take care of, and the more we are mentally cluttered. The more that is purchased the more the reality becomes physical that we need to dig a little deeper and say “what do I really want?”
Save yourself time, money, frustration, and anger when the next time you get ready to purchase something ask yourself:
If it’s a need or want?
What purpose does it serve?
Everything has a place and there’s a place for everything, does it have a place?
Will it make me better?
Can I afford it?
This will begin the process of you making well thought out decisions that will lead you to self fulfillment and saving money.
How does going to the doctor relate to self care? Well it has everything to do with self care.
Knowledge is power. Getting regular checkups and examinations allows us to detect any early signs of disease or infections. We’ll know if we are borderline and need to watch something more closely. With regular visits to the doctor we learn important information on how and why our bodies are changing and reacting in a certain manner.
The earlier we know about a diagnosis the better equipped we are with options of treatments and cures. The more options available the better we’ll be able to maintain a good bill of health.
Even though its a pain and we really don’t like going to the doctor it gives us a peace of mind and a sense of relief. Therefore providing less stress on our mental health.
Just because we feel fine or doesn’t see any physical signs of worry, doens’t mean we don’t need to see a physician. Routine blood work and examinations are needed to let us know what’s going on with risks we may not be aware of.
Keeping regular doctor and dentist appointments are an act of self care and self love. You are showing interest in your physical health and investing in prolonging your life. It shows we want to be here to live a fulfilling, healthy, and productive life. In result increasing our mind, spirits, and confidence.
Exercising preventative care saves us money, time, and pain. Giving us the freedom to use those resources in other areas of our life.
You’re worth it. Invest in your physical health to help promote your mental and emotional health.
It can be overwhelming when it comes to setting and maintaining goals. If we set them too high then its easily discouraging when we hit a bump in the road. For me what I’ve learned and what works for me is to set small goals that will set me up and motivate me to continue on to my larger goal.
Because I have so many ideas and so much I want to do I figured its best for me to begin setting small goals for myself to keep me on track and organized.
I’ve been slacking on my water intake and my body, skin, and energy has been telling me to get back to drinking more water. To do so I’ve made sure to have a bottle of water beside the bed so in the morning before I do anything I hydrate and get my juices going. Also on the drive to dropping off my children and picking them up in the afternoon I make sure I have a bottle of water. Side note: having a bottle of water in the car on the ride to and from school eliminates me wanting to stop at Starbucks.
My next goal for the week was to finish the paper work needed to start a project that I’ve been wanting to do. I’ve researched for the last several months and now its time for me to take the next steps and do the legwork. This goal seems simple yet its going to keep me line and make sure I not get side tracked and jump all over the place, because lets face it that can happen.
Working out is an essential part of my self care. I must workout at least 4-5 days a week. At this point my workout is mostly for my mental sometimes. The ability to clear my head and refocus is the best therapy for me sometimes. Now when I say schedule, no I don’t write it down, but its me staying in my routine. Typically for me I workout maybe three days straight then take a day off and then go another two days. I do a mix of aerobics, strength training, and of course walking.
The last and most important is an ongoing goal, personally, staying positive no matter what. My everyday corporate job can be mentally draining and stressful sometimes, I have three children in elementary, middle, and high school, and helping my mother is quite a feast I have to eat weekly. However, I wouldn’t change a thing. Staying positive, motivated, staying in the moment, releasing my tension when I have to, and not losing myself is my goal.
I love taking care of my family and being able to have my sense of self. It’s something I believe I can handle and have at the same time.
Setting and maintaining goals is something personal to you. Figure out what your ultimate goal is. Write it down. Set small goals to get you to where you want to go. This give a visual and won’t overwhelm you. Some of us can’t set a big goal and stick to it. We get side tracked, and discouraged.
Finally, its ok to not have a big goal like starting a business or writing a book. It can be as simple as drinking more water. Whatever it is that will get you to where you want to be set the goal.