C-Compassion allows us to connect with others and have meaningful relationships. The greatest act of courage is to show or have compassion for someone who have wronged you.
O-Offer your authentic self no matter who you’re around and where you are. The greatest gift we can give is our true authentic self. It takes courage to say “this is me”. Some people will love you and some won’t. That is perfectly ok.
U-Understand the source of the anger, hurt, or pain for yourself and others for that matter. Knowing the why will lead to the healing.
R-Rest. Take a break from time to time. Recharge and reset. We are human, we will get burned out at some point. It takes courage to say, “I need a break right now.”
A-Accept where you are and embrace it. We all want more, to reach higher places, and to grow. However, we have to be able to appreciate what we have now and where we are. Love that 2 bedroom apartment and appreciate it, so when you’re blessed with that 3 bedroom house, your gratitude will beam through the windows.
G-Goodness is in you. Share it with the world. You have a special gift and something to offer. Once again, it doesn’t have to be grand, the smallest gesture has the greatest good.
E-Energy is contagious. Be the energy you want to receive. When you smile at someone they smile back. Someone is having a bad day or moment, compliment them, encourage them, and make them smile.
Have you ever prayed for something and felt like you’ve been waiting for a while or it was never answered? Because we humans are emotional creatures, many times our prayers have been answered but we’re too in our head to realize it.
This lightbulb just went off for me recently. For many years I constantly said to myself and others I didn’t want a 9-5, Monday thru Friday job. The thought of doing the same thing over and over again, having no time during the week to handle business, and essentially a weekend that‘s non existent was something I wasn’t interested in.
Welp, I ate those words. Now don’t get me wrong I love being in the professional world, contributing to an office, and using what I’ve learned and went to school for. Balancing books, spreadsheets, financial reports, and budgets makes my heart flutter. However, I had so many other interest I wanted to pursue.
Recently I was honest with myself and husband in saying I no longer wanted to do a 9-5 because I wanted to pursue some other ventures. I knew I could pursue my gifts whilst making sure my family didn’t feel any effects financially.
Pre COVID-19 my attitude and emotions toward my professional job changed. I enjoy what I do, however staying until 5PM was beginning to weigh on me. I began feeling like my time was better suited at home taking care of my kids, husband, home, and personal ventures. Yes, many others would love to sit idle and make “free” money. So often I would tell family and friends I feel unproductive and I’m wasting time by sitting here.
They would respond in telling me that it’s easy, free money. Well I wasn’t happy just sitting there doing nothing knowing deep down my mind was elsewhere. So my happiness and eagerness every morning dwindled as time went on.
Now COVID-19 had come and the world went to a shut down but we continued to work through it. I was given the pleasure to choose what shift I wanted because only one person could be in the office at a time. Well that was a nice gift right there but I couldn’t receive it as a gift at that time. So anyway, I chose the 7am-1pm shift. I am a morning person. I was excited to have time to work, take care of my family, home and still have time to pursue what I wanted.
I fell in love with this shift and after weeks into the months I couldn’t envision myself going back to a nine hour day. I remember standing in my kitchen telling my husband I would love to stay on this shift because I was seeing my vision for the life I wanted to live begin to form.
Well literally God answered my prayers with in a week. My boss came to me with a proposition of remaining part time on my shift so he can bring back an old friend full time. When he approached me I felt insulted and unappreciated because he used the fact that I valued being a mom to get what he wanted. All the while it was what I wanted as well. Because it was packaged in old wrinkly wrapping paper with no bow I didn’t realize the amazing gift that was being handed to me.
Needless to say I felt every emotion. How dare he to proposition me like that. Mind you I just told my husband I wanted to stay on this shift of 7-1. So I reluctantly agreed and instantly went into my feelings.
I was angry that I was doing a full time job on part time hours. While the other person enjoy doing nothing. Remember what I said a little while ago, about how being there until 5pm, I felt like I was wasting time.
Eventually duties began getting taken away and they let it be known their preference on who they wanted to handle certain duties. Once again I’m in my feelings y’all. Because these gifts aren’t being wrapped in pretty packaging with bows I wasn’t realizing God was giving me the shift I wanted, taking away duties so I wouldn’t feel like I was doing another person job, and answering my Prayers.
Now school has started and I need to be available before and after school. Well I was once again given the gift of “let me know when you want to come in and what hours you want to work”.
No joke I literally make my schedule and work how many hours I want. At one point I was given a compliment of how I get more work done in 5 hours than a normal person does in 8 hours. I was grateful for the compliment but because these gifts I was “given” was wrapped in old paper I couldn’t fully appreciate it.
Because they would say things like, you’ve got us to a good place but we want her to handle it now, I felt some type of way. Or, you really good at what you do, but she knows how I like things done. Then I got, if you ever want to go back full time let me know because you come first. All the while I was thinking, if I’m your first priority, why are you choosing someone else over me? This was God giving me exactly what I wanted. When I spoke to my husband that day in the kitchen, God heard my cry, and delivered.
God was answering my prayers, while polishing my character and making me stronger. Letting me know, it’s not always going to be pretty. Trust in the Lord and His Will shall be done.
OMG!!! I am blessed and had to look back to see how every prayer was answered. I literally got everything I asked for. I love being a mom and wife, taking care of the house and making sure they have the time, energy, and love they need to succeed. I also love having the ability to pursue my interests and hobbies that makes me, Me. I love being able to work outside the home and provide.
Guys this has taught me to get out my head and get out my feelings because if not I would’ve missed or even lost some blessings. Just because things aren’t answered how we want them to, when we want them to be answered, and who we want God to use doesn’t mean that our prayers isn’t answered.
-Waking up to the sun shining in my window -The fact that I get to say I have a job and get to go to work -After falling ill, my health is in good condition -We have been without lack of food and water -I have family and friends that love me -I get to enjoy going for a walk, blogging, listening to music, and playing in makeup -Basic necessities; home, car, insurance, working arms and legs, fingers and toes -Those veggie fajitas I had for dinner -Kindness of the stranger who paid for our dinner at Applebees and then McDonalds -Access to the Internet
This year has been EXTRA. As we approach the holiday season, the best time of the year, it is a constant reminder that we’re still in the year of 2020. How we used to gather and celebrate some of us aren’t able to.
Between working from, to the kids doing virtual learning, and the stress of worrying about my husband whose an essential worker its been trying. But I must say we have been BLESSED beyond measure this year.
As I think back when this all started in February and March, we were scared, confused, and trying to process it. For me I have a 14 year old who’s on the spectum and I couldn’t imagine how I was going to get him through virtual learning along with two other children and working from home. But of course with the GRACE of God we did, and everything worked out just fine.
Just me having the ability to work from home was a blessing. But then at the end of March we experienced a terrible hail storm that totaled both of our vehicles. We were on lockdown for real after that. We couldn’t do anything because at the time appraisers weren’t coming out and body shops were closed. I remember going outside everyday looking at my vehicles sweeping up glass in the driveway.
When it happened my husband and I made the decision we weren’t going to panic, stress, or make any spur of the moment decisions. We literally looked at each other and said “well I guess God said we need to sit at home”. We did and enjoyed every minute of it. If this was even a year ago, I would have panicked and stressed myself out so much. But there were circumstances that were out of my control and I just had to let go.
We’ve all been stressed this year, up and down, and waiting on a moment to just breathe a sigh of relief. But even in the midst, there is so much to be thankful and grateful for. I challenge you to look around and point out the countless things you’re grateful for.
It doesn’t have to be huge. It can be that gallon of milk in the fridge, the fact you got to watch your favorite tv show, or you got to clean the garage.
Use this time to express and share gratitude. Instead of worrying about what it used to be, look at how good it is now.
To Cry To Laugh Take a day off Not answer the phone Eat Cake Say you’re tired Feel anxious To Change your mind Let go and be done Feel Sad Feel Nervousness Experience an episode of depression Want to splurge and purchase something Need a vacation Want a vacation Like being alone Move to another city, state, or country Switch jobs or careers Disconnect from the world from time to time Say No Say Yes Ask for what you want Feel how you feel Be who you are Protect yourself…or others Be different Look different Try something different Want to just do nothing Be confused Start over…more than once It is ok to not be ok
Ok, I have a guilty pleasure of going to Starbucks. However, I do know it can be an expensive habit and I get a rush on figuring out ways to make my favorite drink at home. One of my favorite drinks is the Honey Citrus Mint Tea aka the medicine ball.
This is advertised as an high in vitamin c drink that supposed to boost your immune system through the cold and flu season. Does it help with boosting your immune system or get over a cold, that remains to be proven. The only thing I do know, is this drink on a brisk fall morning or an evening night cap drink is a must try.
The ingredients are very simple. The recipe for a Grande, which is 16oz, calls for half hot water and half steamed lemonade. So 8oz of hot water to 8oz of steamed lemonade. Then two flavors of tea are Jade Citrus Mint and Peach Tranquility and a packet of honey which measures about 1 teaspoon.
The blend of the citrus and mint along with the honey is very soothing to the throat even if you don’t have a sore throat. Late in the evening before bed, it opens your sinuses while giving you a relaxed calming energy.
The last two weeks I have divulged in tea while creating many recipes of my own with a twist. My at home recipe consists of the following:
Start by placing the one cup of water and one cup of lemonade into a small pot and bring to a steam. Just as soon as it begins to come to a boil take it off.
Next, pour mixture into mug with both tea bags. Let it steep for about 2-3 minutes. Add one teaspoon of honey, stir , and its ready to sip.
Total prep and cook time, 10 minutes. I have loved and enjoyed my evening with this drink. The most fun though, has been playing around with different mixtures and flavors of tea.
Some others mixtures I’ve tried have been: -Mint Honey and Lemon Ginseng Tea (https://amzn.to/2H3GKBe) – one peppermint and one honey lemon ginseng tea bag each -Citrus Honey and Lemon Ginseng Tea-one citrus sunrise tea bag and one honey lemon ginseng tea bag -Double Mint Lemondage tea-2 peppermint tea bags -Black Citrus (https://amzn.to/3f4jP5s) tea in the morning- one black tea bag and one citrus sunrise tea bag -Black Mint Awakening tea- one black tea bag and one peppermint tea bag. **All mixtures are made with the same one cup of hot water and one cup of lemonade with the teaspoon of honey.
As you can see I have experimented quite a bit and found some great soothing indulgence for morning, noon, and night. Any of the above mentioned mixtures can be enjoyed anytime of the day.
S-Seek the “why”. When we are feeling hopeless, down, and in despair so often we can’t put our finger on how we ended up there. But figuring out the why, how, and what will lead us to the beginning of healing. We can’t pick ourselves up until we understand how we got to where we are.
T-Trust your instinct. How many times have we ignored our gut or went with the second choice instead of the first? Don’t let yourself and others talk you out of what you feel is right.
R-Recharge and reenergize yourself. After so long its easy to get into a slump. But find a way to get yourself back up and ready to fight. The more simple the better. A hot shower, nice walk, and a phone call to a friend will put you in a mood to get up and give it another try.
E-Experience every emotion you feel. When we allow ourselves to feel no matter how much it may hurt, we gather so much strength. If we always run we won’t know our actual strength that we possess.
N-Navigate at your own speed. Run your own race. One of our biggest mistakes is allowing others to dictate when we should get over something, do something, feel something, or just be.
G-Grind it out. Nothing in life that is worth having comes easy or free. Put in the time and work needed to achieve your dream or goal. What you put in, is what you’ll get out. Even if you only have an hour or 30 minutes, use that time to do something.
T-Talk yourself out of it. Talk to yourself aloud while doing housework, driving in the car, or working out. This has been a great tool for me. Have a conversation with yourself and think those thoughts through.
H-Hold on to the good. Even in the most difficult times we can learn a lesson or pick up something. For that matter, we can even learn something from the one person that hurt us, pick up the good and leave the rest.
Conversations that aren’t meaningful or add value to your life, you won’t engage in. Sitting around the table listening to people gossip just gets under your skin.
You begin to pay more attention to what others are saying and doing. Are the actions and words aligned with your values? How they show up in the world and to you is well noted. You begin to value character and integrity more.
Aren’t afraid to ask for help or say you don’t know. You’ve come to a point in life to know and understand you don’t know everything and that’s ok, but you aren’t going to act like it either.
Respectfully speak up for yourself. Turning the other cheek and letting things slide isn’t going to continue to happen.
Understand the importance of getting ahead of situations and problems. Having a proactive mindset as opposed to a reactive mindset.
Stand firm in your position and will not put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Saying yes to get it over with or not to hurt others feelings isn’t something you’re willing to do.
Taking time for yourself, self reflection, and constantly wanting to be a better person is a priority.
Prefer small intimate gatherings inside opposed to going out to large venues with crowds.
The well-being of others are important to you.
The small stuff doesn’t get to you and shift your mood.
No longer feel guilty about taking a day off or taking time out to take care of yourself. You understand that taking care of yourself isn’t up for negotiations.
Don’t worry about trying to impress others with “what” you have. The labels on clothes and shoes doesn’t mean a thing to you. As long as you are comfortable you’re happy. Just not interested in keeping up with the Jones’s.
Sleep is important, essential, and a priority.
What you watch on television, music you listen to, and what you give your time to is well intentional.
The desire to learn and attain knowledge is what you become.
If there is one thing we learned during this pandmeic is how to make do with what we have. During quarantine, I was able to maintain a anti aging, affordable, and simple skincare routine.
In recent years my focus shift from makeup to skincare. Now don’t get me wrong, I still love playing in the newest launches of makeup. However, I wanted to be a able to love my skin and I knew I could achieve a fresh face if I worked at it. Not only did I want to have great healthy skin, I refused to believe that I had to spend a ton of money to achieve it.
Thanks to being in quarantine I was able to experiment with what I had and practice until I was happy with not only the results but the time my skin care routine takes.
In The Evening…
I begin with Ponds Cleansing Creamhttps://amzn.to/38rSpVF . This has actually been a staple of mine for years. This was always my makeup remover of choice. Even on days I don’t wear makeup I begin with this to breakdown any dirt and oil from the day. Because I have dry skin this works as a two in one, to moisturize while deep clean. After spreading a thin layer on my entire face and neck, I wipe away with a warm wash cloth. Leaving my skin soft, smooth, and ready for the rest of my skin care routine.
The second step I use Shea Moisture Black Soaphttps://amzn.to/2UbicZX to cleanse and calm my skin. Black soap is great for problematic or troubled skin. Any breakouts, irritations, or redness black soap soothes. The two step cleansing process works for me and it ensures I’m getting rid of all the debris from the day. Yes black soap can be drying however the moisture from the cleansing cream on the first step is a layer of protection.
After my two step cleansing process I pat dry and spritz my face with toner. My favorite is Heritage Store Rose Waterhttps://amzn.to/36nxWPe . This closes my pores, hydrates my skin, and calm redness.
Once the rose water dries down I moisturize with Ponds Dry Skin Creamhttps://amzn.to/38pIwrG . A little goes along way for my entire face and neck. This age ole cream sinks into my skin and keeps me moisturized all through the night.
Lastly I do a final spritz of the Heritage Store Rose Water Spray to seal everything in for the night.
I wake up with glowy, dewy, poreless, and healthy skin.
In the Morning…
Instead of beginning with the Ponds Cleansing Cream, I use Ponds Moisture Clean Towelettes https://amzn.to/32sApXC. This textured wipes of premoistened with Vitamin E to wipe the skin clean.
Yes I do a two step cleansing process in the morning as well. After wiping face clean with a wipe I go ahead and do a quick wash with the Shea Moisture Black Soap.
Of course once I pat dry I spritz with my rose water and proceed to Moisturize with Simple Skin Moisturizer with SPF 15https://amzn.to/3n4WjYQ. I am a firm believer in moisturizing and using SPF. Lastly I spritz to sink everything into the skin. I am reading to go out with clear, clean and naturally filtered skin or I can put a little makeup on to enhance my beauty.
Yes as a beauty product junkie I have tried an array of products on the price spectrum, but momma didn’t raise no fool. If I achieve my goal and results while saving money and time its a win win.
What this should teach us all is with patience and practice we don’t need to spend an large amount of money on anything to be great. It’s all about the technique and practice.
Disclaimer: This is what works for me. We all have didn’t skin types, live in different climates, and certain products that work for me may not work for you. The point is during this pandemic and while in quarantine we must make do with what we have and we can achieve it without breaking the bank.