Just because you can handle the pressure and weight everyone places on you doesn’t mean you have to take it. The toughest and strongest of them all even needs a break. I know first hand how it feels to not want to let family and friends down, because they are counting on you. But no one ever stops to think if you’re weighed down. Do you need any help? Has anyone reached out to make sure you are ok. Or has someone said, “let me take that off your plate for you.” Nope.

It almost feels like after a while, it is expected of you. Because you either handle it so well or you’re really good at hiding the stress. Either way it doesn’t make it right. I had to learn to accept that just because I handle it, I don’t have to take on that load. It is difficult to tell someone to keep that load to yourself knowing you can help or assist them greatly.

But if you don’t give yourself a break, no one else will. We all know you are strong and you can handle what is thrown at you more easy than others. It won’t be a sign of weakness if you were to say, not today. I need to do this for me. Eventually they will get the hint.

Also as being mentally and emotionally strong, it is important to communicate your feelings. That is a downfall of being mentally tough. People know you can handle it, so they don’t think anything phases you. And because they have no idea how tired you are, they think you are made of steel.

So if you are the one people go to, give yourself a break. You are still going to be strong. Setting limits and taking a break is exercising great strength. STRENGTH If you know someone who carries the weight of the world on their shoulders reach out to them. Check up on them from time to time. It will be greatly appreciate it.


Be you so you can be free.


If we look around the validation we’re seeking is in front of our faces. You have already been validated. God sends you validation in many forms. We must hear and see in the spirit. As my grandmother would say when I was younger, if it was a snake, it would’ve bit you.

So often we look for validation when we’re experiencing different emotions. Or, we may seek validation when we begin a new venture of some sort. However, in my experience, the validation is already there.

The validation could come from someone you least expect. We often seek validation from family and friends, but God will send your enemy to give you a boost of encouragement. Don’t look at it as the person is being nosy or want something from you. God is telling you to go for it, because you are going to inspire the one person you least expect.

You have already been validated when you read that message that pops up on your phone. You know, the one that makes you say “hmmm” or “that is a coincidence”. That is God saying you have everything you need. You have been seeking from places that can’t give you what you need. GOD IS A KEEPER

When your friend or family member send you a inspirational message, that’s God saying you have been validated. He uses his resources wisely. If you come across a passage and it hits you differently, then that is your validation confirmation.

When I say validation, it could be you worried about switching jobs. Have you decided to move away and you are worried if its the right decision. You may seek validation from setting some boundaries and you want to make sure you’re doing the right thing. You could need affirmation to make a decision that would effect you financially. Just look, its already there. Any way you stand up for yourself and it scares you, its been validated already.

This thought of already being validated came to me when I was worried about if I made the right decision on something . But for several days, I came across messages and inspirational videos that let me know I was doing the right thing. Every morning for a couple of days, my morning message that I read, would have something to do with my decision. I had to stop and think to myself, this isn’t popping up by coincidence, this is God telling me to stop worrying, you made the right decision.

If you are struggling with a decision or feel you’re not receiving the validation you need, stop and look around you. I guarantee you, that you’ve been affirmed and validated. Get in tuned with your spirit. It won’t steer you wrong.


Be you so you can be free.


My hope for you is that you find the strength, courage, and passion you desire to live the life you want. As I sit here and enjoy my day off on my birthday 🎉 , I wanted to encourage at least one person to be themselves freely. Do You Have A Vision For Your Life

There is nothing more fulfilling than to be able to wake up everyday and be excited. You are excited because you are grateful. My hope for you is that you are excited because you are going to the job of your dreams. I want you to have excitement because you have accomplished your weight loss goal. You should get excited about waking up, seeing the sunshine, being able to walk, and to have breath in your body.

I set out this last year to take risks, set boundaries, and be of service. I am very happy and grateful God has given me the Grace to do so. But I’m more excited because I’m learning and growing in what my purpose and mission is. I know what I want to offer and bring into every situation or person I encounter.

On this day or whatever day you are reading this, I hope you forgive and let go of whatever is holding you back from being free. Give yourself a gift of freedom and happiness. The best thing I heard this week was “If your life don’t turn out the way you want it to, then you are the only person that has to deal with it.”-MJ Harris.

In this one life, we don’t get do overs. No matter if you do what others want you to or do what you want, someone is going to always have something to say. So why not live for you anyway. You have nothing to lose.

My hope for you is that you take one small step of faith. What do you hope for? How do you envision yourself living? Whatever the answer to those questions are, make it a goal by your next birthday to have achieved the vision. Step out on faith and give yourself a gift on your next birthday. Make it realistic and obtainable.

Using your birthday as a goal date is a great way to self reflect. By each birthday we want to have grown, achieved, or made progress. This day you won’t forget. And because it is your birthday, you will be more inspired and motivated to achieve your goal.

Have a great day!!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.