”As bad as you want to address it, somethings are better left unsaid.” -@lowkyluv

I saw this quote and instantly thought of the conversation I had with my mom on Christmas. It’s no secret we haven’t been on the best terms. But what I had to do was understand her why behind her actions. While loving from a distance and giving myself the ability to heal and figure how I was going to participate in relations with her, I found the peace I needed. EMOTIONAL HEALING: OPEN YOUR MIND FOR UNDERSTANDING

So on Christmas when we were having a good conversation, she repeatedly asked if there was a way my brother and I could sit down and tell her everything she did so she can have a better relationship with us. She continually said she’ll listen and won’t get upset. I didn’t respond. I gave her the time and space to say whatever she needed. But I would not give in and respond to her request. As a matter of fact, thinking back, I didn’t give a millisecond thought of telling her what she did.

For me, I resolved whatever emotions and feelings I had. I didn’t need answers or an explanation. Nor did I need an apology. Lastly, I was ok with not having her acknowledge the past. It took me a while but once I understood and recognized it was my feelings and emotions to reconcile, healing and growth happened.

I knew I was on my aha moment, when she said I won’t even get into what you did to me. Typically that would have sent me over the edge, if I hadn’t already went there. Because I instantly thought I did nothing. I didn’t choose my father. But I let her continue and we ended with her saying she enjoyed Christmas at my house and she wants to do it again. Me: Ok you’re welcomed anytime.

Somethings are better left unsaid. Opening that wound isn’t going to get it to heal. Reaggravating an injury prolongs healing and adds unwanted infections. Find peace within. Resolve your own emotions about a relationship, person, or situation. Enjoy your day!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.