It’s only Wednesday and I’ve had my fair share of the emotional roll coaster. My everyday corporate job has sent me for a ride each day already, and there are some friendly reminders I tell myself when I’m emotionally spent. I thought I’d share some of my friendly reminders just in case you need to pull them out one day to use.
But first, let me give you a quick background. The owner of my establishment is known in the community very well, as well as the family, they’ve been pillars in the community for several generations now. However, the business is important but keeping a good image tends to take precedence due to said individual holding local political office.
Now that we have that out the way. Several times I have been placed in compromising positions to either do what is right or basically bend the rules to ensure said person stays in good standing with certain community members. It’s an ever changing goal post. Also the rules, parameters, and guidelines seem to shift depending on the “who”.
With that being said, there are others in the office that is willing to jeopardize and risk losing their credentials because it’s the boss. Which, of course puts me in a very uncomfortable and compromising position. Because of that, I learned early on to keep it strictly professional. I set my boundaries and don’t bend for an inch.
This is where my friendly reminders that I tell myself when in emotional despair come into play. First I remind myself that I am an asset and have something to offer. Due to my position, I continue to work hard and exceed expectations. I know I am a great and hard worker. I know I’m good at my job and is essential to the business running.
Disclaimer: It took me a while to say the above without feeling like I was tooting my horn. There isn’t anything wrong with you knowing your worth or value. After all, I worked hard to get where I am and I value the work I do. You can say it with confidence and humility.
My next friendly reminder, is to know my license and credentials I studied and worked hard for is mine. I consistently take continueing education courses to ensure I’m as qualified as possible. I will not and can not let anyone take that away from me. People have put their trust in me, and that is something I must honor.
Thirdly, my friendly reminder I tell myself when in emotional despair is their political ambitions has nothing to do with me and isn’t my business. What someone else’s goals and desires are, is for them. It’s not even for me to understand. With that, I can encourage and support you going after your dreams without compromising myself.
After telling myself what they do isn’t my business, I knew I had to make my boundaries clear. Having a conversation and making it clear that I have no desire to integrate myself in personal affairs was essential. Also making it clear that my license and credentials are important to me. Reminding one that I was brought on to do certain duties, fulfill a role, and be professional.It’s my duty to ensure the integrity of it and that is what I intend to do, always.
Finally, I stick to my duties and not venture off. I’ve learned in certain situations when you begin to venture off and do things out of kindness or because you want to be a team player, it isn’t appreciated as such. Soon others begin to think you’re obligated or they begin to take advantage.
These are some very simple, but yet needed friendly reminders I tell myself that we all can use some time or another. What I know is, even in a professional setting it is important to create boundaries. Also, as we do in our private lives, ensuring we take care of our mental and emotional wellbeing in the office. This is an essential so we don’t bring it home to our families. What happens at work should stay at work. Lastly, don’t second guess yourself or settle because you feel like you have to take whatever is thrown at you. Yes, that is your job and that’s how you take care of your family, but you can respectfully stand up for yourself.
Welp, thats all for my midweek ramble. I’m feeling lighter and better. If you have any friendly reminders or suggestions please feel free to let me know. Have a great rest of your week!!!!!
Until next time…..
Be you so you can be free.