Whether we want to believe it or not, there is someone out there we all inspire. You could be going through the toughest of times, but someone is watching you in awe. I know it’s hard to believe. The saying is so cliche but it’s true.

The last couple of months I’ve noticed the smallest influence I had on my daughter. I began to notice every time I repainted my nails or did my manicure, within a day or so, she would change her nail color to match mine. Again on Sunday I decided to do my weekly manicure, and last night she did hers, and without fail, she came downstairs matching me.

Some may think it’s not a big deal. However, even the smallest thing you do, someone is watching. Others would say that is what she’s suppose to do. And they are right in a sense. Of course, I want to inspire her and give her the best example.

But guess what, she’s just not watching me change a nail color. She’s watching my daily routine. How I show up as a woman. My daughter listens and watches how I handle business. Let’s go a step further. She has a front row seat on how I interact with her dad. How I show up as a woman in my marriage with her dad. The way I resolve conflict, how I handle pain, mentally, physically and emotionally, if I process my feelings, and how I communicate. HOW DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF

No matter what you are doing or where you are working someone is out there inspiring to be like you and mimic how you go about your life. You may feel less than your best, or you don’t have anything to offer. But you do. You have so much to offer. There is a special gift that was specifically created for you. The smallest gesture will have the greatest impact.

Someone out there is watching and inspired by your story. That coworker that you think is rude to you or doesn’t like you, they are inspired by you. That lady at the coffee shop sees your strength and light. The grocery store worker that bags your groceries is inspired by you. How you show up and smile everyday for your children is an inspiration. Family members are in awe of your inner beauty and wisdom.

If you’re out there working and grinding yourself to exhaustion but feel like you should give up, please don’t. You are an inspiration to yourself and someone else. You may not know it now, but you are a light for someone. So keep shining bright and being the best version of you. The greatest free gift you can give to someone is hope.

Happy International Women’s Day!!!! Have a great day!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


There are somethings that I see younger ladies doing that makes me cringe. Here are some tips I would love to share with my younger lady friends.

1. Be mindful of what you say and do. Not only the “what” but who you say it to. Also who you do certain things around. We want to be trusting and think everyone will be good to us. However, the reality of it is they aren’t. Not everyone has the best intentions. What we say and do will get twisted around.

2. Don’t bite your nails. This is one of my biggest pet peeves with my own daughter. I finally got through to her, to stop biting her nails. Our hands are the first thing people see outside of our teeth. Ladies when we go in to shake a persons hand, please make sure we have well manicured and moisturized hands.

3. Opt for a tight small circle of friends. Having too many people around can create unnecessary drama. Too many personalities and points of views cause tensions within the group. You never want to be in a situation where you may have to choose a side. FACTS ABOUT INTROVERTS YOU SHOULD KNOW

4. Watch your language. We all have had a slip up, but especially watching your language in public is important . You never know who’s around and who’s paying attention. Not to mention, in this digital age, you definitely will be recorded. You don’t want to miss out on a dream opportunity over non sense.

5. If your friends are talking about someone to you, they will talk about you to others. Pay attention to how your friends treat their other friends. That is a key indication of who they are.

6. Use your manners and maintain self respect. If you don’t take anything else from me, know you are watched and people take notice. Don’t get loud in stores and draw unwanted attention to yourself. Distant yourself from those who seek negative attention. Especially in public.

7. You can be sexy and not show skin. Leave something to the imagination. Unfortunately, we live in a world where you will be judged based off your appearance. Make sure what you are presenting is what you want to be interpreted.

8. Do your own research. Don’t always believe what people say. Learn for yourself so you can have your own thoughts, views, and opinions. Having your own mind will allow you to trust yourself and instincts, therefore not being able to be manipulated easily.

9. Don’t pick your skin or face. If you have a breakout, it is perfectly normal. I was guilty of this so bad. Trust me it will take you a lifetime to clear up the acne scars from picking your skin. Create a good skin care regimen, drink water, exercise, and have a good diet to help with your skin.

10. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I have never been one shy to ask for help. It pains me to see so many people in a frenzy but won’t ask for help. We are always going to need help. Asking for help is a sign of strength.

I’m pretty sure there are a million other tips we all can think of to offer the younger ladies. Those are just a few I had in mind. If I can help a young lady have a more simple and stress fee life, then my job is done.


Be you so you can be free.

Women Are Powerful

She doesn’t think she’s better than anyone, nor does she think anyone is better than her
She will give you a chance, but if you muck it up you won’t get another
She doesn’t mind being different
She doesn’t mind being alone
She is strong
She knows her own strength
She knows what she wants
She minds her own business
She mourns in silence
She doesn’t have, need, or want a lot of “friends”
She is natural
She is caring
She can keep a sercret
She makes her own decisions and sticks with them
She doesn’t care what others are doing
She loves hard…and hurt hard
She is a gentle lion
She is educated
She’s always thinking, analyzing, and plotting up something new
She isn’t afraid to try something new or step outside her comfort zone
She knows how to balance her life
She doesn’t sweat the small stuff
She is confident
She is comfortable in heels
She is comfortable in sweats
She is proud
She is talented
She’s always switching up her look
She never lets you get too close or comfortable with her
She doesn’t stop once she get started
She is unique
She doesn’t seek advice, she trusts her instinct
She validates herself
She share, give, and love unconditionally
She is unapologetically her
She is woman


Be you so you can be free.