Whatever fight you’re having, give it up. Give up the fight and free yourself. Constantly being in a battle or ready to battle is killing your soul and spirit. Not giving up the fight is hindering you from living and being free.

Give up the fight you’re having with yourself. The fight that’s in your head. Tell yourself you throw in the white flag and you’re done fighting. You too tired to do anything else because you’re always on defense and ready to fight.

Give up the fight with your spouse, friend, family, coworker, and money. The energy you’re exhausting to stay in the battle could be used to communicate, understand, and love. Instead, create new opportunities. Fight to open that new business. Fight to save for that new house. What are you even fighting for. To be right? To be heard? Vent your frustrations? All those reasons are valid. However, understand your feelings are valid. You don’t need anyone’s permission to feel how you feel.

At what point do you say I’m going to seek resolution or or be apart of the resolution? Going around in circles is making you dizzy. Let it go. MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH: 3 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL

Do you even know what you’re fighting for? Sometimes we can be in a battle for so long that we forget what we were mad about. You can definitely get your point across, vent your feelings, and stand up for yourself without raising your blood pressure. We can eliminate stress by fighting smart. Pause and take a break. Don’t let your emotions take over.

It’s time to let go. Free yourself of the bricks on your shoulders. It’s too heavy to carry. It doesn’t mean you have to forget. Adapt, adjust, and move on. Stop letting the same things continuously hurt you over and over. If you’ve been repeating the same argument they are going to believe and feel what they want.

As we approach summer and the second half of this year, make a decision to not fight anymore. It doesn’t matter what kind of fight you’re having, seek some resolutions. You absolutely can demand your respect without being in fight. Think light, think positive, and think of being free.

Be well on your journey.


Be you so you can be free.


The one thing I know for sure, is we all want to be happy, love, and be loved. The one thing that holds us back is not being our true authentic self. We hear it all the time, to just be you. If we all could live how we want, where we want, and with whom we want, the idea of stress and anxiety would greatly diminish.

To just be you means to not go buy a house because your friend has. Be comfortable in your apartment or living with your parents. Just be you and take small staycations instead of a grand vacation. Own who you are in the style of clothes you like to wear. Just because your friends or family like certain stores, brands, and styles doesn’t mean you have to wear that as well.

Trying to keep up with what everyone is doing, what they have, and where they are is going take your focus off of you and your happiness. Furthermore, why spend money and stress yourself trying to fit in. You being you will allow you to stand out the right way.

If you have a bubbly or colorful personality don’t hide it because you feel no one understands. Be the life of the party if that’s what your heart desire. Secretly, those with quiet personalities enjoy your free spirit and is motivated by you. Happy Sunday AND LET GO

To just be you means don’t put yourself in any situation where you have to compromise your comfort, smile, personality, and energy. Not everyone is going to run to you and love you but that doesn’t mean you have to hide who you really are.

Remember you were created to be specifically you. If that’s the way God wanted you to be, then that is who you ought to be. If God says you’re perfect and enough the way I created you, then you are PERFECT!!!!!!! So go out there and be you. Those who are supposed to love you will, and those who don’t, bless them and keep going.

You will only win at being you. Don’t waste time, money, or energy trying to be something other than what you were created to be. Everyone else is taken. Just be you.


Be you so you can be free.


Before I share how minimalism reduced my stress, I need to make it clear, I AM NOT A MINIMALIST!!!!!!!! There are certain areas of my life and lifestyle that I scaled back on to help me reduce stress and get some peace.

I wasn’t trying to become a minimalist or adopt that lifestyle. My goal was to create some free time, space, and energy for myself. After much research and watching many YouTube videos on minimalism, eliminating options was the most common piece of advice I heard. Having too many options creates chaos and stress, and a waste of time. You spend so much energy trying to choose.

The first thing I scaled back on was clothes and shoes. As someone who works in an office, meets with clients, and work downtown I always felt I had to be dressed up. I used to stress over work outfits. Having too many work clothes and shoes would guarantee me being almost late in the mornings. Even if I sat my outfit out at night, I would change it in the morning. Since scaling back and getting essential pieces that I can mix and match, I have so much more time in the morning. Also I’m more comfortable with not just the clothes but in my presentation.

Secondly I got rid of a lot of makeup. I came to a realization that I didn’t need 20 eyeshadow palettes. Having several foundations to choose from, blush, bronzers, and lipstick was very time consuming. Because I had so much makeup, I felt the need to rotate it and use because I’ve spent my money on it. Right now I haven’t even been wearing makeup. Makeup Free For A Year And Loving It But when I do need to or want to wear it, I have the basics to enhance the features I want to enhance.

The next thing I minimized to reduce stress was clearing my phone. Deleting photos and apps that I don’t use or need helped. I came to realize when you have so many apps on your phone, subconsciously you will feel the need to be on the phone more than usual. At first I tried to change my notifications but I still wanted more freedom to scale back. Having only the most important at my fingertips is all I need. Especially social media apps, if you spending too much idle time on the phone, delete some social media apps.

Lastly, my lifestyle and how I live. Keeping my home clean, fresh, inviting is my focus. Having the right cleaning products to keep my home clean at ease helps me stay stress free. Getting rid of useless items and knick knacks reduced a lot of stress. Another lifestyle change was my workouts, they have become more simple. Therefore, I am motivated and inspired to get it done.

Those are just a few things I did to help reduce my stress. Sometimes looking into our everyday life, and seeing what we can do to help ourselves out will eliminate much anxiety. No one needs too many options of anything. If you’re thinking about it too much, then it’s time to let it go or scale back.

If you are feeling a little stressed, declutter from the inside out and see how much lighter you begin to feel.


Be you so you can be free.