Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Self care

Why Mindset Is Everything

What you think will become your actions
What you think you believe, negative or positive
What you think you speak
What you think you become
What you think propels you forward
What you think holds you back
What you think is who you are

“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.” -Steve Maraboli

No matter what the situation or scenario is we must train our mind to think positive thoughts. How we process and think about anything will determine the outcome of every situation. For every thought we think turns into how we respond.

That action in our response therefore sets the tone on if we proceed into something positive or propels us into a downward spiral. Which, depending on the action can either put us on a path of success or destruction. Positive mindset is essential to our mental and emotional health.

“Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude. -Roy T. Bennett

Our mindset is everything even in the choice of words or language we use. What we think, we will say. Words matter, words hurt, and once we spew words we can’t take them back. Our choice of words can repair relationships, begin relationships, make someone feel good, and yes save our jobs.

That whole saying “mind over matter” isn’t just a saying, it is a way of life. What we think comes out in every action we do and every interaction we have. We don’t realize it, but people can tell what our mindset is by our actions and the way we speak.

Our mindset is what we believe in our core, who we are, and determines the path we take. Having a positive mindset and training it to be positive will allow us to overcome and weather any storm.

“Mind is a flexible mirror, adjust it, to see a better world.” -Amit Ray

Instead of saying “I have to go to work, say I get to go to work.” That simple thinking will put you in the right mindset in the morning and your subconscious is set for you to have a good day.

Positive thoughts lead to positive emotions that leads to positive feelings that sets positive actions into place which leads to positive vibes and positive energy that is contagious which means everyone around you has a positive attitude. That one thought has lead you to have a positive day, an enjoyable day, and you’ve controlled and determined your atmosphere just by having a positive mindset.

This last year I really put this into practice. When I decided to consciously be aware, I noticed one little thought made the difference in how my day went. For example, there were times in the morning before I got out of bed I said to myself I don’t want to go to work or I don’t want to see XYZ, and guess what happened when I got there. I had a horrible day at work. The moment I saw XYZ my facial expression and energy created an atmosphere that wasn’t pleasant. The rest of the day it was awkward and tense.

So I tried the positive route. I woke up saying I’m thankful to have a job to go to, we are different but I can learn a lot from XYZ, and you guessed it, I had an amazing day. I walked in, said good morning, and created an atmosphere that was pleasant. From that point on I knew the power in having a positive mindset, the power I had in setting out for a positive day, and creating an atmosphere that is advantageous to my mental health.

This year if you want to start fresh begin with a positive mindset. It will set you up for success every time no matter what the situation is.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Mental Health · Personal Growth · Self care

Why You Shouldn’t Say…“Someone Has It Worse Than You”

My apologies to everyone I have said “Someone has it worse than you,” to. I can’t remember where I heard it or what station I was watching but someone said that this is the worse response you can say to someone when they express their feelings or concern to you.

I had to take a pause and think how could that be a bad thing. Welp…for many reasons.

First of all, I had to think they could careless about someone else’s feelings or problems at the moment. What someone else is going through has nothing to do with them.

Secondly, I am pretty sure they know there are people out there who are having what seems to be the worst luck ever. They aren’t living in a bubble and don’t know what’s going on in the world.

Next, I realized when I say that to someone I have completely dismissed, diminished, and rejected their feelings, thoughts, situations, and experience. They have a right to feel how they feel and experience the emotions that come along with that.

Another reason why telling someone that isn’t good, is the message they hear is “it’s no big deal”. They hear “get over it and move on, what are you whining about.” When in actuality they probably had to build themselves up to open up and they just got crushed.

For those who suffer from depression, anxiety, or any other mental health trauma that statement will discourage them for speaking out or expressing themselves. They hear their problems are small, doesn’t measure up to others, and their feelings aren’t valid.

I can almost see as I think back after saying this to someone how I deflated them. They have built their energy up to express themselves and I go and say “well you know someone has it worse”, their response is silence and fades into the darkness.

Please understand when I’ve said that to someone, it wasn’t meant in a malicious way. I wasn’t trying to demean, dismiss, or diminish their experience or feelings. Literallly for me, that was my way of encouraging them not feel like the world has crashed down upon them. If you think your life is over, just imagine the crushing pain of others. You can get through whatever it is, because we all bounce back up.

But, I guess I should have said just that. Just like we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others, in no way we should insinuate they should compare their problems to others to makes themselves feel better.

But I now know that isn’t what they want to hear nor what they need to hear. Telling them their feelings are valid, work through the pain, and come out stronger is more like it. Helping them understand why they are experiencing said emotions is much more helpful.

Once again my apologies to anyone I’ve said this to and made you feel like your feelings didn’t matter. They do and so do you.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Personal Growth · Self care

Self Care: Declutter and Make Room for Growth

Right now we live in a world where more is better. We’ve come addicted to having “stuff”. One for sure way to get yourself lost is surrounding yourself with an abundance of “things” or making yourself believe you need more than you need.

I’ve heard the saying a person’s home or car is reflection of who they are. No I don’t mean if they have a messy car or home then they are nasty. Being nasty and just having stuff laying around is two different things.

If you get a ride from someone and they have to clean the seat off for you to sit down then thats how they run their life. In most cases they are always in a rush or just barely making it to work or appointments on time. Even though they have a phone they probably missed the reminder or because their life is so sporadic they didn’t even set a reminder.

When you walk into a person home and if just seems like they have stuff everywhere with no meaning or purpose then that is a reflection of them. They may feel like they have to hold on to things and sometimes its hard for them to get rid of “stuff.” Holding on to trinkets for memories sometimes hold us back from moving on from things that has happened in the past.

If you find you look around and see stuff collecting dust, you don’t use it, or you haven’t wore a certain piece of clothing in a while then get rid of it. Most of the time once we declutter our home, our minds begin to open up. Getting rid of old stuff that doesn’t serve a purpose make room for something else to come into your life that have meaning.

Go through the closet and get rid of those old clothes and shoes that are out dated. You haven’t wore them in forever and saving for a “just in case” event is holding you back. If that event hasn’t come by now then you don’t need it. Most often when that “just in case event” comes you’ll probably go out and purchase something new.

When we declutter our home we renew mind and our new thoughts, ideas come to the forefront. Our creativity is refreshed and we get a new sense of purpose, our confidence is renewed, and we have motivation to push through whatever has been holding us back.

Purging old meaningless things allows us to let go of the past and move on. Holding on keeps us bound to certain events and things that happened to us. Decluttering gives you power to say I’m not going to live in the past and be stuck.

If you’re ready to grow, move on from the past, and renew your spirit get rid of the old and make room for new beginnings.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

healthy lifestyle · Mental Health · Personal Growth · Self care

Daily Self Care Habits

We are living in uncertain times right now. On a daily most of us are feeling an array of emotions. Even those that seem to have it all together and make themselves appear to be unbothered is feeling some type of way. But, we are still in control of what we think and the choices we make. No matter what’s happening around us, there are a couple of things we can do to have a good day.

Wake up Early

Everyone on this planet has the same amount of time allowed to them. It’s up to us on how we manage that 24 hours. One for sure way to get the most out of your day is to wake up early. Waking up early gives you a moment to yourself. You can gather yourself before anyone wakes up. Meditate, pray, and getting in your exercise prepares you mentally, physically, and emotionally for the day. The rest of the day is free for you to work, enjoy time with the family, and do something you’ve been wanting to do.

Call a Friend

Ok, I get being super busy. Being married with three children and both of us work outside the home we have a jammed packed schedule. But guess what, setting a moment to call a friend who I haven’t spoken with in a while not only lifts their spirits but mine as well. Having a good conversation with a friend freezes time and brings you back to earth for a second. We’re all busy but letting someone know you are thinking about them can be a make or break moment that you didn’t know about.

Compliment Someone

Have you noticed when you present someone with a gift what it does to your soul? It lifts your spirits to make someone else’s day or make them smile. Giving someone a compliment boosts their confidence and yours. Giving a sense of worth or bringing a smile to someone else does the same for you. We want to feel good so we should start by making others feel good about themselves.

Listen to Music on Your Way to Work

Listening to a good song on the way to work puts you in a chipper mood all day. The morning traffic or the people that are angry because they have to be up early won’t phase you one bit. In fact your upbeat spirit may become infectious. Feed your mental with matter that brings laughter and light to you, so you can spread it to others.

Drink Lots of Water

What does drinking water have to do with having a good day? Well staying hydrated increases our energy and helps with our metabolism. Drinking water helps our bodily fluids stay in balance hence and we release toxins when we go the bathroom and sweat. If you don’t like the taste of plain water there is a ton of options for you to add flavor to it.

Exercise

Burn some calories and release negative energy. Use exercise to take your frustrations out. Exercising increases our performance not only physical but mentally and emotionally. Keeping your heart pumping and blood flowing gives a head to toe rejuvenation. Literally after a workout you’ll feel more energized.

Put the Phone Down

From the news, to social media, to friends sending you nonsense give your mental a break. Filling up on negativity will send you into a state of fear, depression, and anger. Watch the news for ten minutes and then let it go. Get just enough to keep you informed about what’s going on in the world. Limit your social media intake and what you consume. Don’t get so involved with others lives that you lose sight of yours.

Watch Something Funny

Lately I’ve found myself going for a comedic show. It’s a way I’ve been protecting my mental and getting away from the nonsense that’s going on around me. Laughter is the best medicine. Constantly listening and watching something negative begins to shift your perspective on life in a negative manner. Soon your beliefs become what you’ve consumed.

Expect to Have a Good Day

I learned before I roll out of bed and say to myself today is going to be a good day, I have a good day. Make the decision to have a good day no matter what you encounter on that day. Even in challenging times or events there is something positive you can say about a 24 hour period. Remember you may think the weight of the world is on your shoulders and there isn’t a light at the end of the tunnel, but there is someone out there who has it worst than you.

At the end of the day, point intended, we make the choices throughout our day. We can choose the positive road or the negative route. Why don’t we save ourselves heart ache and take the positive route. After all tomorrow is a new day for us to be great.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Personal Growth · Wealth Care

Handle Your Business…Get Your Finances Together

The older I get and as I approach a age milestone the importance of handling my business is more important to me than ever before. Now when I say handle my business its making sure the non tangibles are in tact.

It pains me to see so many people focused on what others are doing on social media, what they are wearing, where they are going, and twisting themselves into a pretzel trying to keep up. The more you focus on someone’s filtered life on social media the less time you are spending making sure your ish is together.

The first step in handling your business is managing your finances. Get a calendar book or journal and write stuff down. You need to know what your monthly expenses are, how much is going in and how much is going out. The more organized you are the more successful you can be in managing and saving your money.

What are the due dates on your bills? Are your bills spaced out enough through the month according to your paydays? Did you know you can request a different due date on certain bills? Changing your due date on certain bills will allow you to effectively manage your income and stay in control.

Another way to handle your business is to stop overspending. Before you buy something ask yourself if its a want or need. Take a look in your closet and around your house and you’ll see how much money is sitting there wasted. I bet there are clothes and shoes that you’ve purchase but haven’t worn in a while or still have the tags on them. When you look around the house do you see stuff just sitting there collecting dust?

Along with overspending, save yourself time and money by paying things off. Instead of paying the minimum pay a little extra. If you’re minimum payment is $27, go ahead and give a solid $30. You are saving money and paying interest down and that bill will be paid off quicker. You can also save money by paying in full. So often we choose to pay in installments, however if you look at your statements on many of your bills there are installment fees.

I know some of this may be easier said than done. But start somewhere and start small. One of the main reasons we become overwhelmed, depressed, and lose ourselves often times begin with a financial situation and things just spiral after that.

You don’t have to be rich to live a rich life.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.