MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

”Sometimes you don’t get what you want because you deserve better.”-@myselflovesupply

a motivational message

Are you asking too small? Many times when we receive a “no” we are devastated and disappointed. In fact sometimes we give up on that hope, dream, or goal. When in actuality, that “no” was a protection from ourselves. What we want or think we want is often not the best for us. So God has to protect us from our own self. It’s a correction, protection, and redirection. Don’t get discouraged. Ask yourself, what am I supposed to do with this “no”. God what are you trying to tell me? GOD IS A KEEPER How many times have a circumstance actually played out and you said, “I’m glad I didn’t get what I thought I was going to get.” It’s because the one thing that we want so bad may not be the best. You deserve the best. Are you asking for the best? Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

MENTAL NOTE OF THE DAY

”Mind is a beautiful servant, but a dangerous master.” – Buddha

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We are very good at thinking negatively. Replaying the worst situations and experiences that has occurred in our life is easy to do. If the mind is that powerful, then we can retrain and reprogram to think of a beautiful life. Replay your dream day in the life over and over again and watch it come to reality. SELF CONFIDENCE BEGINS WITH THE MIND Dream up your family, home, vacations, and career you have been wanting. It will all come to pass. Just as all the negative that comes to pass when we speak it up. The mind is a powerful thing. Use it for the good. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

QUICK MONDAY MORNING MOTIVATIONAL TIP

On this Monday morning, I wanted to bring you a quick motivational tip. Play the hand you are dealt. Come to a place where you are able to handle whatever hand is dealt to you. I had made plans (more like an outline of the coming week and month) this weekend and was ready to rock and roll, but about 3a.m.my son became sick. I was up all night due to his belly ache. (No he doesn’t have the virus. He got sick from some pizza we ordered.)

Anyway, that completely threw a wrench in my plans. But I was able to look at the positive and say, I’ll be able to work from home full time today. God knows I’ve been wanting to put work into my blog and other ventures. So, he gave me another day off to do so. Even though I told my boss at work I’d be there. Thank God he understands, I still have school aged children.

But the point is to take what’s given to you and make it work for you. Don’t let it completely spoil your day, week, or month. Whatever your needs are God has already taken care of. Those cards that are dealt to you, play them and play them well. It’s not always going to turn out how we want. But it will be for the best. Don’t waste time worrying about what was on the calendar. Rearrange it and move forward.

I’m truly enjoying sitting here encouraging one person. I know I’m not the only one who had a wrench thrown into their plans. I can get things done either way. No matter if I’m at the office or my home office. I’m grateful either way. 3 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL

So go about your day or week. Play that hand you were dealt and win with it. God gave you those cards to play, so they are a winning hand. I’m going to continue to enjoy my day while my son rests. That’s all I have for this quick Monday morning motivational tip.

Have a great day, week, month, or whenever you are reading this!!!!!!!!!❤️

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

YOU CONTROL YOUR OWN DESTINY

As a mom of two teenagers I’m constantly trying to figure out ways to encourage, inspire, and motivate them. So I use our morning car ride to drop “mommy gems”. Today’s mommy gem was “you control your own destiny”. Especially for teens it’s important to remind them of the ole saying, “always be a leader, never a follower.” Remember they are teenagers so I have to be quick and to the point. I thought I share todays gem as we all can use it no matter our age.

Today’s Mommy Gem:

“Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to. When I say anyone, that goes for teacher, coach, friend, family, and anyone who is in an adult leadership role over you. If it doesn’t feel right in your heart, mind, spirit, or soul then don’t do it. Never let someone else make you feel a certain way because you’re not doing what they think you should. You control your own destiny. God created you the way He wanted you and He has given you what you needed to live the life He set forth. Therefore, no one else can control you unless you allow them. In the same token, no one can take what God has placed in you and for you. An Open Letter To Anyone You are enough

Also when you make your decision to stand in who you are don’t feel bad if you find yourself out there on a limb alone sometimes. No one else can push us better than we push ourselves. That’s when we find our greatest strength. So go have a great day and be great.”

As I was driving I thought someone out there need to hear this, this morning. Go be great today. Be the person God created you to be with no regrets. You control your own destiny in life.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

STRENGTH

Take Your Power Back

S-Seek the “why”. When we are feeling hopeless, down, and in despair so often we can’t put our finger on how we ended up there. But figuring out the why, how, and what will lead us to the beginning of healing. We can’t pick ourselves up until we understand how we got to where we are.

T-Trust your instinct. How many times have we ignored our gut or went with the second choice instead of the first? Don’t let yourself and others talk you out of what you feel is right.

R-Recharge and reenergize yourself. After so long its easy to get into a slump. But find a way to get yourself back up and ready to fight. The more simple the better. A hot shower, nice walk, and a phone call to a friend will put you in a mood to get up and give it another try.

E-Experience every emotion you feel. When we allow ourselves to feel no matter how much it may hurt, we gather so much strength. If we always run we won’t know our actual strength that we possess.

N-Navigate at your own speed. Run your own race. One of our biggest mistakes is allowing others to dictate when we should get over something, do something, feel something, or just be.

G-Grind it out. Nothing in life that is worth having comes easy or free. Put in the time and work needed to achieve your dream or goal. What you put in, is what you’ll get out. Even if you only have an hour or 30 minutes, use that time to do something.

T-Talk yourself out of it. Talk to yourself aloud while doing housework, driving in the car, or working out. This has been a great tool for me. Have a conversation with yourself and think those thoughts through.

H-Hold on to the good. Even in the most difficult times we can learn a lesson or pick up something. For that matter, we can even learn something from the one person that hurt us, pick up the good and leave the rest.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Self Care: Sleep Routine

As I’ve approached a certain age, the importance of me getting the proper amount of sleep has become a priority. Once I realized and admitted to myself that sleep is an essential, I needed to come up with a self care sleep routine.

So often at the end of the night we go take a shower or bath, lights out, and then go to bed. You ever find yourself not able to fall asleep, restless, still have a million things on your mind, and eventually you don’t get a good nights rest. Well that’s because body has laid down but your mind is still wide awake.

Why Getting Proper Sleep is Important

Sleep is important because its our charge and refuel for the next day. Just like you plug in your phone at night, our mind and body needs to be charged.

Mentally getting proper sleep helps us the next day remain alert, focus, and prepared to attentively tackle the day. When we are tired mentally, we’re more apt to be anxious which leads to anger and frustration. Lack of proper sleep leads to more stress and mentally being broken down.

Physically, when we get proper sleep, our bodies are rejuvenated and energized to get through the next day. Sleep gives our muscles a break and let them rebuild. Lack of sleep leaves our bodies feeling heavy, stiff, and fatigued.

Getting enough sleep allows our emotional health to remain stable. Because we’re tired mentally and physically the way we begin to process the days course is off. The smallest detour in the day may cause you to lash out, have a breakdown, and the snowball would just keep rolling.

Our productivity when we get sleep in increased. Having the energy to complete tasks, maneuver all the balls we juggle, and have the ability to prioritize is because the sleep has allowed our mind and body to recharge.Self Care: Personal Goal Setting

How to Create A Sleep routine

A sleep routine or nighttime routine is important because you need to unwind and unpack the days events. It’s sort of sealing or capping off the day so it does’t carry over into the next. Not having a routine will allow the days to run over and you still won’t rest at night.

Having a sleep or nighttime routine doesn’t have to take long, its time set aside to get you prepared for the next day, let go of what was today, and keeps your wellness in check.

The first thing is to pick a time to get started. The easiest way to get started is by tidying up the house and making sure its ready for the next day. This not only physically sets you up for success in the morning, but it puts your mental in a space of resetting. It may change or adjust as you become comfortable or life happen. Of course its going to vary depending on your career, if you have a family, and the days events.

Next in creating a sleep or night routine is logging off. That means checking emails, social media, playing your favorite games, and yes even watching the news. You don’t want the last thing you see or hear to be something that is going to interrupt you mental space when lying down to sleep.

In addition to logging off make sure you have written down or looked over your to do list or appointments for the next day. You know where you have to be and when. This one in particular is important for me because I can then create an outfit in my head for work or even get it out.

Of course a sleep or nighttime routine isn’ t complete without a shower or bath to wash the day down the drain. Take your time as this may be the only moment to yourself you have all day. Do your skincare routine and prep your hair for the next day. When we look good, we feel good, and present our best selves.

Lastly make it a point to get in the bed around the same time every night. When you do, don’t sit up and watch television. Decide to journal or read for 30 minutes. Listen to some soft music or read a devotional, my favorite.

Creating a routine puts our mental and a physical in clear headspace that set us up for productivity the next day. Most of the time we are so drained that we are in a rush, making decisions that aren’t thought out, and leads to stress and breakdown.

A self care sleep routine is important for everyone no matter what you’re doing, where you’re going, and what you have.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Self Care Mental Health Tips

There are many factors that play into the downfall of our mental and emotional health. There are some self care mental health tips that could help you along the way. The following is 4 practices we do that gives away our power and strength. With consistency and habit we can stop doing to help our mental health.

Stop Explaining Yourself

This is my biggest pet peeve when I see adult women specifically explain themselves. Crushing themselves trying to explain what they doing, where they going, why they chose to go left instead of right, and anything else. It’s even worse when they begin explaining without anyone even asking. Which that’s the first sign of someone not being confident in who they are. To be honest even if someone asked you, you still don’t owe anyone an explanation. If how you move about your life needs to be explained then they’re not on your level. The decisions you make for you and your family is no one else’s business as long as it doesn’t effect them.

Wasting Your Time Staying Angry

They were never lying when they said it takes a lot of energy to get angry, and most importantly stay angry. It takes so much emotional energy to stay angry. Trying to stay angry we use all our gas plus others around us. Let’s just say when a wife gets mad at her husband the entire mood in the house shifts until she starts talking to him again. Even the kids start walking around on egg shells. You waste time that could be spent doing something productive. Not to mention, when you stay that angry for some time you begin to lose sleep. At this point every thing including your physical body and beautiful face begin to suffer. It just isn’t worth it. Remember they hurt you once, don’t let them keep hurting you by staying angry. That would be giving away too much power.

Living Your Life for Others

When we allow others to influence our decisions we have given them the keys to drive our life. Letting someone tell you “you’re not ready”, “I don’t think that’s a good idea”, or “don’t you think you should wait a while“ are people that you need to keep at arms length. Those are all manipulative, controlling, and selfish ways people get you to do what they want you to do. Be confident in your journey to know what’s best for you and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Making decisions to please others leaves you as the only one suffering. No matter what you try to do nothing is going to make you happy until you live for you. Daily Self Care Habits To Boost Your Mental Health

Staying in a One Sided Relationship

Having hopes and expectation for someone will get us every time. Also knowing the potential a person could have is the most common reason we constantly give so many chances to those who don’t deserve it. It’s true, when people show you who they are believe them. If the relationship makes you question who you are, what you do, or you always seem to be in a confused state then its time to leave. Our relationships should inspire us to be better people. We should feel so much love and support that we have to constantly give it away to others. With no respect, trust, or communication you’re wasting your time. This goes for our romantic relationship as well as our friendships.

These are simple self care mental health practices that will save us heartache in our daily lives. The amount time spent worrying if someone understands us, feel we care, or sparing their feelings only wastes our time and drain our mental and emotional tank on empty.

They aren’t worth it.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Do You Have A Vision For Your Life

When we go on vacation, its planned out from the time we leave til the time we return. It starts off as conversations with spouses, family, and friends trying to choose a destination. Next we find a hotel, resort, or house to rent for the stay and book it. Reservations and deposits are put down. Flights are booked. Overtime we begin making payments, saving money, and of course putting in vacation time at work. As the vacation time nears we go on a diet, plan daily outfits, make sure we have those bikinis loaded, mani, pedis, hair done, tanned, and by this time mentally we are already on vacay.

But do we have that same vision for our life?

Well guess what, we can plan our life the same way. So often we have dreams, aspirations, goals, and visions for ourselves that seem so far fetched that we think they are unattainable. Self Care IS SETTING PERSONAL GOALS Whatever you envision for your life you can achieve. Just like that vacation that costs thousands of dollars that you have to plan for in advance. We can create a plan for our life and future.

What do you want? Where do you see yourself living? Where do you see yourself working? What business you want to start? Where do you want to raise your family? Those are visions that we have for ourselves. Because our visions may seem so out of reach we push the back. But what God places in us never goes away. If your dreams or vision scares you, then you ought to go chase them.

Begin planning your life vision with what you already have. With each small step towards our goal, it gets us closer. Just like you have a picture in mind of what you want your outfit to look like, you have that same picture of your life. Piece by piece put that photo together. As we do when we plan a vacation, we have to prepare for the “what if’s “. All that means is we have to be prepared for a flight with a stop and layover, then we can keep going .

Your’re tougher, stronger, wiser, and more courageous than you think!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.