HOLDING THAT GRUDGE IS ONLY HURTING YOU, LET IT GO

Free yourself and let go of that grudge you been holding on to. Holding on to a grudge only hurts you, not the person you’re holding it against. Keeping that anger, pain, hurt, and frustration is only allowing them to hold power as well as continuously hurt you over and over again. FORGIVE For Your Mental Health

Let It Go

In order to hold on to a grudge you have to let it consume your every thought, desire, and action. No matter what you do, you consistently revert back to what the person said or did. Therefore, your inability to live and enjoy life has been halted. It takes a lot of time, strength, and persistence to hold on to a grudge. Instead use that strength , passion, and persistence to fulfill a dream or goal of yours.

That grudge you’re holding has hindered many other relationships. Because guess what, your other family and friends are tired of hearing about it. They are tired of you repeating and replaying the same conversation over and over again. In return, they don’t want to be around you because you’re bringing their mood down. Don’t let someone else effect the way you show up in other relationships.

In reality, while you are angry with a frown on your face, that person who hurt you is smiling, happy, eating good food, enjoying vacation, and the sun outside. They are sleeping well every night, having a good day at work, and enjoying their family. On the other hand, you off alone, thinking about what was said, and putting wrinkles in your face by frowning so much. The things that you used to enjoy you don’t even think about doing.

Don’t let someone continuously hurt you by holding a grudge. The grudge is hurting you not them. Release and let go so you can regain your power and strength back. First if you’re able to, have a conversation. Without any expectations. Your goal is to explain how their actions hurt you. Either they will understand and apologize, or they won’t. Regardless you’ve done your part by getting it out. Next figure out what position they hold. Do you want them in your life close or at a distance. From their move forward with the relationship accordingly.

Lastly, go live your life and be Free. let go of that anger and grudge to make room for happiness. Most of the time it’s a misunderstanding or lack of communication. The gift in letting go is for you not them.

Be well on your journey.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be Free.

FORGIVE For Your Mental Health

F-Forgive yourself first. Forgive yourself for everything you are feeling guilty about or regret. Whatever you said, done, allowed, ignored, or encouraged forgive yourself. Forgiveness is for you not them. Remember why you’re worried and losing sleep they are enjoying life while you carry this useless burden. Forgiving doesn’t mean you agree or you aren’t remorseful, it simply frees you and allows you to move forward.

O-Overthinking ruins your mental and emotional wellness. Overthinking also ruins our relationships, keeps us in our head, effects our ability to be productive at work, and our everyday life is greatly compromised. Trust yourself, make your decision, and forgive.

R-Regrets are useless. We can’t take back what was said or done. We can’t get time back either. The best thing to do is apologize if the misunderstanding was on our behalf, understand why it was hurtful, and grow the relationships from there. If the misunderstanding was on the other side, express why you were hurt, if they apologize, great kiss and makeup. However, if they don’t that’s even better, because when we express to someone how they hurt us and they don’t apologize, they have let us know how we show up in their life. Forgive them anyway, and have a relationship at arms length.

Forgiveness is for you.

G-Grudges effect you not the other person. Holding a grudge is like a kid constantly picking the scab off. The road to healing and forgiveness is prolonged. Also you are the one spending time and energy going out of your way trying to stay angry and thus making excuses for why you’re staying angry. Your sleep, eating habits, daily life, and wellness is all effected by holding a grudge.

I-Interrupt the bad or negative patterns of behaviors. We talk about what we want to do so much sometimes you just have to “get off the pot or piss” as my mom says. Stop talking about it and do it. That negative talk about yourself or others for that fact, interrupt the pattern in mid sentence. Bad sleeping habits, eating habits, language, or anything that you want to stop or get better with just take the leap and start. Forgive yourself for letting so much time go by.

V-Victories are won when we let go and forgive. It’s a victory for everyone. The tension is released, everyone is smiling and feel like themselves again. Benefitting from forgivenesses stop us from walking on eggshells. The muscles in our jaws are relaxed, the wrinkles in our foreheads are smoothed, and we’ve loosen the lips. Our frown has turned into a smile and we can show our beautiful faces again.

E-Express yourself some way. Show your personality in art, fashion, music, writing, dancing, makeup or whatever you love. While we’re shy or thinking people may talk about us for being us, that is the one thing others need to see about us. You never know who you may inspire or how free you may become. The more colorful, wierd, or extreme it is the better. Do it unapologetically. How To Use Creativity To Boost Your Mental Health

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.