We have to motivate and believe in ourselves on a daily. We all have ups and downs. Hence, why daily motivation of some sort, is important for our wellbeing. Just like we have to bathe daily, eat daily, and work daily, we need to believe in ourselves on a daily.

This came to me in a recent conversation with someone who is absolutely amazing. They have worked hard to hold the top position at their company. They consistently educate themselves on how to get better and provide better service to their company. On the other hand, they are well respected, liked, and looked up to. Their opinion is valued. When they go to conferences or company wide gatherings, so many people are happy to finally put a face to all the good things they heard about this person.

Sounds good right?!

Well, said person has anxiety because they feel the need to live up to the others expectations. They feel they owe everyone extra work just becasue they were given a compliment. I said, ”you don’t owe anyone anything because they gave you a compliment.” They feel because they’ve received so much praise and admiration they owe someone something. Also, having the need to constantly receive a compliment or praise is something they look for.

We are never going to live up to others expectations and beliefs about us. Receiving compliments and admiration is great, but having our own expectations for ourselves is the only thing that matters.

I had to tell them, your hard work, respect, and work ethic is recognized. As it should be. Isn’t that why we work hard. Now that your hard work has been recognized, you don’t owe anyone anything. If you’d like to continue to challenge yourself and be better then do so, but not for everyone else. Be proud of your hard work. Many people don’t even get an oucne of recognition. Trust yourself. Believe in yourself. Know you are valuable. There is something that you bring that no one else does. Believe in your experience and knowledge. Others are supposed to notice and recognize the good in you.

However, it could be shouted down from the roof top about how good you are. But if you don’t believe in yourself, nothing they say will matter. You will constantly seek that admiration, compliment, and approval. Also don’t diminsh your accomplishments and hard work. 3 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL

This had me thinking. Some of the most successful people in this world shows up and delivers, yet they feel like its not enough. You are enough. What you offer is enough. Believe in yourself and the talents God placed in you. You won’t have all the right answers or get everything right all the time, but what you do have, is enough.

Believe in yourself. Simply!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.

Random THOUGHTS…Happy Friday Y’all

We’re 15 days into the new year and it seems it’s been a long one already. I’d thought I give a random post of all my thoughts random thoughts. There is so much going on around the world, in our homes, and on our jobs that can easily get us into the state of “How in the world did I end up here?”

Right now more than ever taking a moment to ourself is crucial to all of our wellbeing. Even if you can get five minutes in, it’s better than none. For example, turn the news off, do not consume that all day. Also turn off your social media notifications for a day or so. If you feel you can’t turn off your notifications just don’t respond, read, or look at them for a day. The goal is to give yourself a moment for clarity and to be with one in your own thoughts.

To sum up, please be mindful of what and how much you are consuming for the benefit of your mental health . This includes your conversations with family, friends, and coworkers. If you have someone at work like I do, who loves to talk about politics every moment of day, find a way to recenter. For me, I either completely ignore them, turn on my radio really low, and zone out. Eventually when I don’t respond or engage they stop or switch the subject. Another way I deflect is to simply say “I’ve had my fair share of politics I’m really not interested in discussing it right now.” Finally, my last resort, is to literally refer the conversation back work or another subject.

That goes for any subject matter that you are tired of talking about or hearing about.

Another random thought that has been heavy on me is to ask yourself what are you condoning, participating, accepting, and accommodating? Right now there are many things that we normalize and gloss over as if its ok, knowing deep down it’s not. Stop twisting yourself into a pretzel, to keep the peace in fear of being left out and talked about.

If it ain’t right, don’t sit well in your spirit, and you don’t want to, then exist gracefully. Just another random thought I’d like to share to help those feeling pressured to do certain things.

I’ve had to come to grips with this subject matter this week. Unfortunately, my mother in law passed away, and me knowing my role on when, where, and how far to extend my support had to become clear to me. I had to step back and say it’s not my mother, my husband has siblings, and I don’t have a say so. The most important was for me to make myself available. I was beginning to struggle on if I was being a good wife. But I had to realize my support is to my husband and my children, who lost their grandmother.

Finally, I come to know and understand that I can’t fix people or save people. I can’t and will not break myself down trying to fix someone else. Also if it has nothing to do with you, it doesn’t concern you, it’s none of your business, it doesn’t effect you or your family, it’s out of your control, or you can’t change it, then let it GO. Don’t be mad, angry, upset, bitter, or hold a grudge. Just be done and let go. And don’t look back.

I’m pretty sure I’m not the only that have some random thoughts that doesn’t seem to all fit. But thats ok, as long as you can acknowledge them. Those random thoughts will fit together one day. Bet on yourself first, this one time, and give yourself a chance.


Be you so you can be free.