Whatever fight you’re having, give it up. Give up the fight and free yourself. Constantly being in a battle or ready to battle is killing your soul and spirit. Not giving up the fight is hindering you from living and being free.

Give up the fight you’re having with yourself. The fight that’s in your head. Tell yourself you throw in the white flag and you’re done fighting. You too tired to do anything else because you’re always on defense and ready to fight.

Give up the fight with your spouse, friend, family, coworker, and money. The energy you’re exhausting to stay in the battle could be used to communicate, understand, and love. Instead, create new opportunities. Fight to open that new business. Fight to save for that new house. What are you even fighting for. To be right? To be heard? Vent your frustrations? All those reasons are valid. However, understand your feelings are valid. You don’t need anyone’s permission to feel how you feel.

At what point do you say I’m going to seek resolution or or be apart of the resolution? Going around in circles is making you dizzy. Let it go. MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH: 3 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL

Do you even know what you’re fighting for? Sometimes we can be in a battle for so long that we forget what we were mad about. You can definitely get your point across, vent your feelings, and stand up for yourself without raising your blood pressure. We can eliminate stress by fighting smart. Pause and take a break. Don’t let your emotions take over.

It’s time to let go. free yourself of the bricks on your shoulders. It’s too heavy to carry. It doesn’t mean you have to forget. Adapt, adjust, and move on. Stop letting the same things continuously hurt you over and over. If you’ve been repeating the same argument they are going to believe and feel what they want.

As we approach summer and the second half of this year, make a decision to not fight anymore. It doesn’t matter what kind of fight you’re having, seek some resolutions. You absolutely can demand your respect without being in fight. Think light, think positive, and think of being free.

Be well on your journey.


Be you so you can be free.


Say what you mean and mean what you say. We’ve heard it a million times, but being honest about how we feel and expressing our emotions saves us from heartache. Many times we are afraid to express how we feel out of shame, guilt, or embarrassment. When in actuality, how you feel and your emotions are perfect the way they come.

Ironically this week, I’ve had conversation with two different women about this same topic in different scenarios. On one hand, Lady X puts up this harsh exterior and wall in an attempt to show she’s not ”weak”. She so desperately want her relationship to go to the next level, but is afraid to say that’s what she wants. Lady X can’t even admit she wants, yearns, and needs love and affection. In many of our conversations that is repeated ”I don’t like weak people.” Finally I stopped her and said, “it’s not that people are weak, they are willing to be vulnerable and express how they truly feel.”

Next, I told her, you’ve expressed to him you don’t want anything and he can’t do anything for you, when in actuality you do want a relationship. I said, be honest with your emotions and how you feel. Express what you truly want and desire. Everyone has needs and wants emotionally, you’re no different. At last, she confesses. SELF LOVE: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

”We destroy ourselves when we stop feeling. If you bury your feelings within you, you become a graveyard.”-Bernie S. Siegel

Now on to Lady Y. She’s upset because her ex-husband has passed away and feels left out of the plans for the final resting place. After she expressed how disrespected she felt and anger, I kindly reminded her of the instructions she gave when they divorced. She clearly made it known she didn’t want to talk about him, know anything about him, and dissolved mutual relationships. I said, if I recall, you made it very clear about your feelings. Yes, it’s your ex, but you expressed forcefully your boundaries. Now that they are being respected, it hurts your feelings.

Again, I had to explain, whatever your honest feelings are, say it. If you want people to genuinely love, care, and have concern you have to be honest with yourself first and then others about your feelings. You can’t trick people into reading your mind, or expect them to already know.

Sometimes we find ourselves getting frustrated because our emotional needs aren’t being met. Ask yourself, ”am I being honest about how I’m feeling?” Then go from there. In order to heal, grow, love, and be loved, we have to acknowledge to ourselves first and then express to others our true feelings.

Be well on your journey.


Be you so you can be free.


I had a light bulb moment when I was journaling this morning. That is, to learn your source of anger. As I was journaling about something that was bothering me, I wanted to figure out why. And as I kept writing, the “why” came to me.

It is very important that we learn the source of our anger. why did something or someone cause our blood pressure to raise? Knowing why you were triggered by it, will give you everything needed to move forward. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have the right to feel how you feel. But what it will do, is give you some understanding about the situation or person.

Learning your source of anger gives you insight on what you need to heal. It lets you know the areas of your life where you are stuck. Sometimes we think we are ok, and healed from childhood or other situations, but they can arise further in life. No matter what your background is or what you are going through you can heal and recover. Learn why you are hurt, upset, angry, and sad.

Knowing where the source of anger comes from gives you freedom from going back there. You know most times we get so upset because we find ourselves in the same situation again and again. Well, when we know better we can make better decisions.

In your quest to learn your source of anger, don’t hold back. In the process you have to be completely honest of what’s hurting you and why you feel hurt. The good news is only you know. So even if you are shame or embarrassed, it’s ok. The end result of you going through the healing process is just that rewarding. Remember how you feel, is perfectly valid. There isn’t a right or wrong way on feelings.

The easiest way I can tell you to begin to figure it out, is by journaling. Journaling For Mental Health, TRY ITThat is the one place you can be completely open, honest, and vulnerable. You can bounce around. It doesn’t has to make sense. And you can get out what you need. In all honesty, I went through this process in several different entries. Because I was trying to get over something, every time I went to write, it would be as if I picked right up in the middle of a conversation .

Another way of figuring out your source of anger, is by talking it out. You can choose someone you trust to talk it out. Or my fave, talk to yourself. Go for a walk with nature and God and just talk it out. You can do so in your head or aloud to yourself. The goal here is to sort it out, so you can get some answers.

As you heal, it will get easier for you to identify those triggers, and they won’t set you off as quickly. Sometimes it won’t set you off at all. It’s easy to point the fingers and blame others for “making us upset”, but there is some personal responsibility we must take.

No one likes to be triggered or upset. So learn the source of whatever emotion you are grappling with to begin your healing process.


Be you so you can be free.