”Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles.”-Charlie Chaplin
The only thing that’s permanent is change. If we don’t learn to adapt and reset as our life evolve we will live in the past, and not live up to the life we should. You are stronger and tougher than any problem or situation you’re going through. Remember tough times don’t last, but tough people do. Yes, you get tired of being strong willed and pushing through, but you are built to outlast any obstacle or roadblock that comes your way. WELLNESS: EVEN THE STRONGEST NEEDS A BREAK At the end of every storm, a rainbow comes out. Then we pick up the pieces that lasted in the storm, leave behind what we don’t need or want, and move forward to the next destination in our journey. Through each challenge you may face, there is a piece of wisdom there. Pick up that piece of wisdom and move on to live the life you deserve. Enjoy the rest of you day!!!!!!
After a year and some months now, I now have the urge again to wear makeup. The beauty in life is that you can change your mind. You can change your mind and go back and forth as often as you’d like or need to. Probably almost two years ago, I wanted to challenge myself and live my life makeup free. I was having feelings of not wanting to depend on going out without a “mask”.
Everyone knows I was and still is a beauty junkie at heart. I still love all things makeup, skin, nails, and hair. But, I wanted to give my skin a break and just love me in my own skin. I’ve done that now for a little over a year and ready to go out again in makeup.
Throughout the last year, I’ve really enjoyed showing up to world bare faced. In fact, I can say I was more confident in going out naked. I was able to relax and just enjoy giving the world me, authentically. At first, I thought I was going to feel self conscious and was worried about going to the office and not “looking” professional.
That was something I quickly got over. I told myself that me wearing makeup has nothing to do with my job performance. Makeup had nothing to do with how I approach my day. I was still able to go into work and show out.
But you know what, you can change your mind. I now want to get back into putting a little extra time into myself. Because I can. That is one of the reasons I was drawn to makeup and skincare. While experimenting, I’m in my own world showing myself some love. And that’s what it’s all about. Doing something you love and spending time with yourself at the same time.
With that being said, you can change your mind. No matter what decision you made prior. You have the right to say I want to try again. You are under no obligation to stick to a decision. Give yourself room and permission to try again and again and again.
When others attempt to question your decisions, choices, and desires don’t get upset. Simply let them know you’ve changed your mind because you can and its your right. Remember never let others opinions about your life and the choices you make feel any type of way. What you do have nothing to do with others. Now go live your life and change your mind back if you want to.
It’s that time of year where people are talking about their new year’s resolutions. Instead of resolutions create plans, systems, and habits for the new year. I’ve never like this idea or really been able to answer the question “what’s your New Years resolution?”
Instead of a New Years resolution I think its more important and/or effective to create a lifestyle with systems and daily habits. Have a plan for your life in year. Break that plan down into half year goals, seasonal or quarterly goals, and then monthly goals. If needed you can even break it down into weekly goals until it has become habit. Setting goals, making plans, and listing somethings you’d like to accomplish in a year is more realistic and obtainable.
So often when we set resolutions they barely last a month or even a week sometimes. That’s because it hasn’t been thoroughly thought out, made with intention, and done at the spare of the moment.
Before creating a system or change you must ask yourself what is my end goal here? How long will it take me to reach my end game? What do I need in the process? If I have to make a detour what is my course of action to get back on track? What do I need to put into place to begin? What are the steps of this goal?
To make anything sustainable we have to be patient, persistent, and consistent. Yes there will be road blocks but we will overcome them. The systems set by our daily habits will allow us to get back into to gear when something happens. Life is going to continue but its how we push through that makes us strong.When we push through obstacles that gives us the confidence and motivation to continue on with our goals. Now we won’t give up or lose sight on what we sought out to achieve.
When you have an outline of your goal you’re able to track progress. You can adjust the goal if necessary. Increase or decrease your course of action, add or delete some steps in the process, and have a visual.
For example, if you have a weight loss goal, make a plan to lose 5lbs in the first month or two. Because you have a goal you know you have to eat a balanced diet and exercise to achieve that goal. Look at your work week, schedule of things to do with the kids or family in the week, and figure when it will be best to work out for at least 30 minutes 4 times a week. Anyone can say “I want to get fit” but what does that mean without a plan and goals behind it.
Along with setting goals and creating an action plan, having a system in place will assist you in achieving the goals you want. Having systems in place with daily habits that are pushing you toward your goal allows you to remain present in the moment. The systems of daily habits become the lifestylechange you are striving for. You can’t have one without the other. Create plans, systems, and habits to set you up for success this year.
Back to the weight loss example, you will need a system of when and how often I need to go to the grocery store to ensure I have what I need before, during, and after workout. Along with what will my daily meals and snacks look like. Waking up to making sure you don’t skip breakfast is a great daily habit to begin with. What am I going to have for lunch, what is my snack for the day, or what is the plan for dinner.
No matter what it is, you want to accomplish, create a plan for it. Vacation, remodeling the home, purchasing a new car, or whatever make an intentional plan. I know it may seem like a lot or it can be overwhelming in the beginning but once it becomes habit and who you are it won’t phase you one bit. Living the life you envisioned, deserve, and sought for is the best reward.
We have to make it a lifestyle and part of who we are. It has to be about us, for us, and by us otherwise it’s just empty words of hopes of what we’d like to do and accomplish.
C-Choose you. Make yourself a priority. Whatever you’ve been doing that isn’t working for you, change it, and do the opposite to begin living for you.
H-Heal your open wounds. What you didn’t get when you were a child know its not your fault and give it to yourself now. Whatever hurt and pain you’re carrying free yourself from it and don’t let it keep holding you hostage from living the life you deserve and want. We can’t change what happened but we can learn and grow from it.
A-Achieve one goal this year. Begin with setting out to make one goal and work on that until you have achieved it. Change doesn’t happen in a finger snap, take baby steps until your courage and confidence builds.
N-Now is the time. If we always say next time, the time will never come. Things begin to change when we take action and do something.
E-Eliminate the negative talk about yourself. Be good to yourself, especially in your head and what you say to yourself. We know its very easy to pick out something we don’t like about ourselves, change that and point out all the goodness in you.
Right now we live in a world where more is better. We’ve come addicted to having “stuff”. One for sure way to get yourself lost is surrounding yourself with an abundance of “things” or making yourself believe you need more than you need.
I’ve heard the saying a person’s home or car is reflection of who they are. No I don’t mean if they have a messy car or home then they are nasty. Being nasty and just having stuff laying around is two different things.
If you get a ride from someone and they have to clean the seat off for you to sit down then thats how they run their life. In most cases they are always in a rush or just barely making it to work or appointments on time. Even though they have a phone they probably missed the reminder or because their life is so sporadic they didn’t even set a reminder.
When you walk into a person home and if just seems like they have stuff everywhere with no meaning or purpose then that is a reflection of them. They may feel like they have to hold on to things and sometimes its hard for them to get rid of “stuff.” Holding on to trinkets for memories sometimes hold us back from moving on from things that has happened in the past.
If you find you look around and see stuff collecting dust, you don’t use it, or you haven’t wore a certain piece of clothing in a while then get rid of it. Most of the time once we declutter our home, our minds begin to open up. Getting rid of old stuff that doesn’t serve a purpose make room for something else to come into your life that have meaning.
Go through the closet and get rid of those old clothes and shoes that are out dated. You haven’t wore them in forever and saving for a “just in case” event is holding you back. If that event hasn’t come by now then you don’t need it. Most often when that “just in case event” comes you’ll probably go out and purchase something new.
When we declutter our home we renew mind and our new thoughts, ideas come to the forefront. Our creativity is refreshed and we get a new sense of purpose, our confidence is renewed, and we have motivation to push through whatever has been holding us back.
Purging old meaningless things allows us to let go of the past and move on. Holding on keeps us bound to certain events and things that happened to us. Decluttering gives you power to say I’m not going to live in the past and be stuck.
If you’re ready to grow, move on from the past, and renew your spirit get rid of the old and make room for new beginnings.
Be you so you can be free.
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