Mental Health · Personal Growth · Personal Relationships · Self care

The More You Grow…

Conversations that aren’t meaningful or add value to your life, you won’t engage in. Sitting around the table listening to people gossip just gets under your skin.

You begin to pay more attention to what others are saying and doing. Are the actions and words aligned with your values? How they show up in the world and to you is well noted. You begin to value character and integrity more.

Aren’t afraid to ask for help or say you don’t know. You’ve come to a point in life to know and understand you don’t know everything and that’s ok, but you aren’t going to act like it either.

Respectfully speak up for yourself. Turning the other cheek and letting things slide isn’t going to continue to happen.

Understand the importance of getting ahead of situations and problems. Having a proactive mindset as opposed to a reactive mindset.

Stand firm in your position and will not put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Saying yes to get it over with or not to hurt others feelings isn’t something you’re willing to do.

Taking time for yourself, self reflection, and constantly wanting to be a better person is a priority.

Prefer small intimate gatherings inside opposed to going out to large venues with crowds.

The well-being of others are important to you.

The small stuff doesn’t get to you and shift your mood.

No longer feel guilty about taking a day off or taking time out to take care of yourself. You understand that taking care of yourself isn’t up for negotiations.

Don’t worry about trying to impress others with “what” you have. The labels on clothes and shoes doesn’t mean a thing to you. As long as you are comfortable you’re happy. Just not interested in keeping up with the Jones’s.

Sleep is important, essential, and a priority.

What you watch on television, music you listen to, and what you give your time to is well intentional.

The desire to learn and attain knowledge is what you become.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Personal Relationships · Self care · Spiritual Health

Holiday Season 2020: Make This Holiday Season A Meaningful One

There is no doubt the best time of the year has approached us, ‘tis the season. We already see Christmas decorations in the stores as well as Thanksgiving. In a normal year, holiday season can be stressful for some, but in this trying year of 2020 the stress, anxiety, and pressure can be even more suffocating.

Now more than ever is all the more reason to remember what the holiday season is about and to remember we all can still have an amazing, loving, joyful, and meaningful holiday season.

There is no room for self doubt, pity, anger, frustration, depression, anxiety, and darkness this holiday season. Do not let this season fly by and not use the opportunity to divulge in gratitude, joy, appreciation, togetherness, laughter, and love.

Being grateful for just making it to another holiday season is reason enough to get up and smile. There are many families this year that have experienced some unthinkable pain and loss. When I was growing up we were taught that holiday season is important because there are some people that aren’t here this year that was here last year.

Use this time to get together with family, if its safe of course, and enjoy just being together. There isn’t anything else in this world that’s more important than laughing together, taking photos, hugging one another, and breathing in the same air. Just think back almost nine months ago when we had no idea how we would make it through this year.

In my family, we use holidays as a way to gas our tanks and fuel up to get through the year. Sometimes we just need those couple of days to not think about work, finances, troubles, schedules, meetings, school, relationships, or whatever else is weighing heavy on us. Being around loved ones allows us to remember who we are, that we are loved, and we’re not fighting this fight alone. As long as we have a meal and everyone arrived safely, we could careless about a gift . That is our gift.

Yes this year many people are out of work, experiencing financial difficulties like no other, children are home schooling, some don’t know how they are going to pay bills, or where the next meal is coming from but guess what you still can have a faithfilled, enjoyable, and happy holiday season.

It isn’t about how much you spend on a gift or even if you gift at all. The gift is the joy of being together. It is so much truth and value in the saying “eat, drink, and be merry”. Start by creating an atmospheric presence in the home. Make your home inviting with decorations and scents of the season. Set a mood of calmness, peace, and relaxation for everyone.

We are in the time where DIY is the best decor. Have the kids and the whole family for that matter get creative and put some personal touches of gratitude throughout the home. Years ago at my office we came up with a chain of gratitude. We cut strips of construction paper about 2 inches in width, in holiday colors and passed them around to every employee including the CEO. The instructions were to write down things we were grateful and happy for. Next we would link them together to see how long the chain could grow and for the entire holiday season we hung it around the office. It was amazing to say the least and to walk in everyday and just see what others were grateful for and how far they’ve come through the year was inspiring.

Candles are always a great way to set the mood. Get some hot chocolate and whipped cream, Netflix and chill, and take photos. Document the journey.

Use the technology that’s available to you. Have family Zoom meetings. Talk about what each other is cooking, how was school or work, and connect. Staying connected in some way will keep everyone spirits high.

Don’t stress about gifts. Give what your heart desire. Give what’s in your budget. And guess what, if thats nothing more than a phone call to say I love you and I miss you, then thats worth a million. Give a gift of commitment to engage with the family more.

Fill your heart by volunteering, donating time, money if you have the means, or serve a meal in your community. Trust me, this is a gift. In the end you’ll be filled with so much gratitude.

Remember to be thankful, you’re alive, breathing, appreciate this moment, there is a lesson that 2020 has given us, and live in your truth. Don’t worry about what others are doing this holiday season.

Laugh, Smile, Eat, and enjoy each other.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

mental health · Personal Relationships · Self care

Things To Know About Introverts

As an introvert

-We actually do like people and socializing. Just so happen we prefer a small select few to socialize with.

-We are very observant.

-We truly do enjoy being alone and spending time with ourselves. Matter of factly, that will be our first choice is to do something in solitude.

-We absolutely don’t care for the small talk. A meaningful conversation with substance is more fulfilling.

-Chances of us having or wanting a lot of friends is very slim. We’d prefer a small circle of people to keep close.

-We aren’t shy, timid, or fearful. More on the reserved side.

-We aren’t stuck up or anti social.

-We won’t speak unless we have something to say. Not going to say anything just to fill the silence or be apart of a conversation.

-We enjoy going out, vacations, beach, walking, and being outdoorsy.

-There isn’t anything wrong with us we don’t need to be fixed.

-We aren’t rude.

-Introverts are not depressed, have anxiety, or low self esteem.

I’ve totally embraced and love being an introvert. I am me and it feels good. Embrace and love who you are. Don’t let the outside world make you feel like there is something wrong with you because you aren’t doing what the mass majority is doing.

BE YOU!!!!!!

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

mental health · Personal Growth · Personal Relationships · Self care

Girlfriends…Why We Need Them

Ladies stop saying you don’t need female friends. Stop saying you don’t trust them. Your guy friends are great but your female friends are more important and beneficial to you. There are a ton of reasons us as women need a great group of women friends.

First they wear tampons and pads just like we do. They understand the hormonal and emotional ups and down when our “special visitor arrive.”

They inspire us to be great and go after our dreams. Our girlfriends allow us to vent but then they pick us up and make us push forward.

Good girlfriends influence our creativity and we bounce ideas off of each other. Therefore expanding our mind to explore outside of our comfort zone and boundaries.

Motivating each other on the regular boost both self esteem and confidence. Inspires you to be great, help others be great and reach their potential, and all around better person.

Having great girlfriends encourages us to eat healthier, exercise, and take care of our selves. Our mental and emotional health is in great condition. We’re able to be vulnerable and release any negative energy instead holding on to it for days, weeks, or even months.

We travel with our girlfriends, learn new cultures, and experience the world together. We learn how to connect with people who are different from us and make them feel good. In return we receive love, support, and a balance in our life.

Think of our lives as a pie chart, having a good group of friends is a slice of the pie. Yes our husbands, boyfriend, and partners may be our friends but they can’t give us the emotional support and laughter our girlfriends do. Each person in our life provides something different and is needed for different reasons.

Good girlfriends gives us great conversations that no one else can understand. We can hold one another accountable. Having great friends keeps us on the right track and steer us back on when we fall off.

We can be completely honest with our girlfriends without judgement or bias.

If you find yourself as a woman who don’t have female friends or prefer guy friends take a survey of yourself. Think about what you want in a great girlfriend and offer those qualities. What you attract you will get back. But don’t discount or sell your self short thinking you can get by without having great female relationships.

Now the older we get the smaller our friend circle become. All you need is a hand full of core, solid, faith filled, loving, understanding, and stable groups of girlfriends.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Mental Health · Personal Relationships · Self care

Stop Being the Go-To Person With These 5 Tips

Are you the go to person that family and friends call on? Does anyone ever checkup on you? No matter how much you help or money you give it just doesn’t seem like its ever enough. Someone is always asking you to do more. After a while you begin to feel dehydrated, drained, and exhausted. Please remember the following.


First we are responsible for our happiness and no one else’s. If we aren’t healthy mentally and emotionally we can’t be of service to anyone else. Making sure we are whole is the best gift we can give to our family and friends.

Secondly, whatever we have that is extra goes to others who may need. There seems to be a misconception that we have to give up everything to be of service or help. But if you give up everything you have, eventually you won’t have anything to pull from for yourself or anyone else.

Thirdly, lets think about this, if you are the one person that everyone turns to, when you are in a time of lack or in need who can you turn to? Most of the time who’ll have to find a way to pull something out of yourself with no help. So often as the strong one you’ll find yourself alone when you are going through your storm.

The fourth thing to remember is to set boundaries. Having boundaries sets expectations and demands others to respect you, your time, money, and space. So often in families and friendships we fail to set boundaries because its sometimes thought as an obligation instead of an assist to get one back on its feet.

Lastly, how is someone going to get upset with you because you won’t do for them what they can’t do for themselves. Does that make sense? No one should ever make you feel guilty for not helping or assisting them.


I know it’s always better to give than receive, however you must have something to give in order to help someone. It is important to remember not to take someone’s problems and fix them. We can listen and be a support system but allow them to fix their own problem.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Personal Growth · Personal Relationships · Self care

Keep Quiet On Your Next Move

I learned in my early teen years of telling someone what I was going to do, where I was going, or what I had, what I was planning, or what I was thinking. Keeping your next move or goal to yourself allows you to maintain power and control over it.

When we share our next move instead of keeping it to ourselves, we allow others to give their opinion, distract us from our goal, steal our joy and motivation. Before you know we won’t have a next move because someone has talked us out of it.

Keeping our next move to ourselves relieves us of the pressure to get it done faster, if we need to push the deadline back we can, and eliminates us having to answer questions about it all the time. How we go about making our dreams and goal come to pass is our business and no one else’s.

No one is going to be as excited as we are about our dream and its selfish to expect them to. Remember when we show others what they aren’t doing, they aren’t going to respond with grace and be happy for us.

To eliminate confusion, negative talk, or unwanted comments never announce your next move before its done.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.

Healthy Lifestyle · Personal Growth · Personal Relationships

Children Are Our Future…Embrace Them

Take a walk with the kids, literally and figuratively. We use to hear the ole folks say all the time you have to get them before the streets do. Well in this day and age you have to get them before social media do. There is so much these kids have access to that convince, encourage, and persuade them into a direction that’s not in align with your point of view, morals, and values. As parents we often want to reel them back in when its too late.

While they are young its important to walk and talk with them. Just because they are children doesn’t mean their feelings aren’t valid, they don’t have their own views and opinions, or they aren’t effected by everyday life. When you go out on a trail or to the park for a walk, no phones distracting, we are able to communicate and learn what’s going on in their little brains without them feeling like your’re giving them the third degree. They willingly tell you how they honestly feel, what’s on their mind, what they want, what’s happening at school, what they are afraid of, and future desires.

Invest in Children

This allows you to know how to parent and nurture them going forward. They know mom and dad are interested in my their and you’ve validated them. If we don’t know them we won’t know how to parent them and give them what they need to be successful. We learn and grow with our children. Who they were at 5 years old isn’t who they are at 12 years old. Just like who we were in college isn’t who we are at 30.

Walk, learn, and grow with the kids because they are too on your journey as well as on their own.

RosalynLynn

Be you so you can be free.