One of the things that has helped me remain emotionally well is to never match someone else’s negative energy. You used to hear all the time, ”I give them the same energy they giving me.” Well that’s not such a good idea. That means channelling negative thoughts, words, tone, and actions.
First if you choose to not respond, walk away, or just let them have their tantrum eventually they’ll stop. They won’t have anything to feed off of. The moment you try to chime in or explain yourself it will light fire to the gas that’s already burning.
On the other hand, you not responding is going to effect them more. They didn’t get the reaction they were looking for. In turn, they don’t know what you’re thinking or how you feel. And you took their power away from them.
Remaining calm allows you to be the level headed one. Remain in control of your reaction, or lack there of. Because you can only control you. Also you won’t feel bad for allowing someone to take you to that point.
I’m a firm believer, that most of the time when the dust settles, we’re mostly angry that we allowed someone to have that much power over us. MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH: 3 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL Most of the time when it goes too far, someone is trying to get a reaction out of you. To either prove their point or emotionally manipulate you.
To remain emotionally sound and not match negative energy knowing your triggers is important. Next, understanding who you’re engaging with and the first sign of distress it’s time to cut the conversation short.
Thirdly, what someone says about you, to you, or their feelings toward you has nothing to do with you. Remember people project their insecurities off on to others. Know that what they are dealing with internally has nothing to do with you. You aren’t responsible for anyone else’s happiness.
The next time you find yourself upset and wanting to snap back, don’t do it. Don’t give in and stoop to their level.
Be well on your journey.
Be you so you can be free.