On this Monday morning, I wanted to bring you a quick motivational tip. Play the hand you are dealt. Come to a place where you are able to handle whatever hand is dealt to you. I had made plans (more like an outline of the coming week and month) this weekend and was ready to rock and roll, but about 3a.m.my son became sick. I was up all night due to his belly ache. (No he doesn’t have the virus. He got sick from some pizza we ordered.)

Anyway, that completely threw a wrench in my plans. But I was able to look at the positive and say, I’ll be able to work from home full time today. God knows I’ve been wanting to put work into my blog and other ventures. So, he gave me another day off to do so. Even though I told my boss at work I’d be there. Thank God he understands, I still have school aged children.

But the point is to take what’s given to you and make it work for you. Don’t let it completely spoil your day, week, or month. Whatever your needs are God has already taken care of. Those cards that are dealt to you, play them and play them well. It’s not always going to turn out how we want. But it will be for the best. Don’t waste time worrying about what was on the calendar. Rearrange it and move forward.

I’m truly enjoying sitting here encouraging one person. I know I’m not the only one who had a wrench thrown into their plans. I can get things done either way. No matter if I’m at the office or my home office. I’m grateful either way. 3 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL

So go about your day or week. Play that hand you were dealt and win with it. God gave you those cards to play, so they are a winning hand. I’m going to continue to enjoy my day while my son rests. That’s all I have for this quick Monday morning motivational tip.

Have a great day, week, month, or whenever you are reading this!!!!!!!!!❤️


Be you so you can be free.


There are somethings that I see younger ladies doing that makes me cringe. Here are some tips I would love to share with my younger lady friends.

1. Be mindful of what you say and do. Not only the “what” but who you say it to. Also who you do certain things around. We want to be trusting and think everyone will be good to us. However, the reality of it is they aren’t. Not everyone has the best intentions. What we say and do will get twisted around.

2. Don’t bite your nails. This is one of my biggest pet peeves with my own daughter. I finally got through to her, to stop biting her nails. Our hands are the first thing people see outside of our teeth. Ladies when we go in to shake a persons hand, please make sure we have well manicured and moisturized hands.

3. Opt for a tight small circle of friends. Having too many people around can create unnecessary drama. Too many personalities and points of views cause tensions within the group. You never want to be in a situation where you may have to choose a side. FACTS ABOUT INTROVERTS YOU SHOULD KNOW

4. Watch your language. We all have had a slip up, but especially watching your language in public is important . You never know who’s around and who’s paying attention. Not to mention, in this digital age, you definitely will be recorded. You don’t want to miss out on a dream opportunity over non sense.

5. If your friends are talking about someone to you, they will talk about you to others. Pay attention to how your friends treat their other friends. That is a key indication of who they are.

6. Use your manners and maintain self respect. If you don’t take anything else from me, know you are watched and people take notice. Don’t get loud in stores and draw unwanted attention to yourself. Distant yourself from those who seek negative attention. Especially in public.

7. You can be sexy and not show skin. Leave something to the imagination. Unfortunately, we live in a world where you will be judged based off your appearance. Make sure what you are presenting is what you want to be interpreted.

8. Do your own research. Don’t always believe what people say. Learn for yourself so you can have your own thoughts, views, and opinions. Having your own mind will allow you to trust yourself and instincts, therefore not being able to be manipulated easily.

9. Don’t pick your skin or face. If you have a breakout, it is perfectly normal. I was guilty of this so bad. Trust me it will take you a lifetime to clear up the acne scars from picking your skin. Create a good skin care regimen, drink water, exercise, and have a good diet to help with your skin.

10. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I have never been one shy to ask for help. It pains me to see so many people in a frenzy but won’t ask for help. We are always going to need help. Asking for help is a sign of strength.

I’m pretty sure there are a million other tips we all can think of to offer the younger ladies. Those are just a few I had in mind. If I can help a young lady have a more simple and stress fee life, then my job is done.


Be you so you can be free.


I love a good quote. I can spend hours scrolling Pinterest for inspiring quotes to keep me motivated. The best thing I heard this week was, “you owe you first”.

Quote of the Week:

The only person you owe is you. You can’t hire someone to care about you.” Whitney Hedrick.

Please go check out her channel on YouTube. The other day I was watching her and she said that, I nearly fell out of my chair. She was explaining how she came to realize she needed to put herself first. She said I can hire someone to clean my house, pay someone to get my groceries, and even walk my dog. But I can’t hire anyone to care about me.

OMG!!!!! She is absolutely right. In a nut shell, you have no other choice but to take care of yourself and care for you. We heard it all our lives. If you don’t take care of you no one else will. No matter what others say or do, you owe it to yourself first. You can’t pour from an empty cup. KEEP GOING AND PUSH YOURSELF

You owe it to yourself to make yourself a priority. No excuses. There isn’t a such thing as a perfect time. The time is now. Put you first. Invest in you first. And you don’t even owe anyone an explanation.

I heard a coworker say, “I just do it for my kid”. Yes, we all want our kids to have the world. We want them to have everything they want and desire, but not at the expense of you twisting yourself into a pretzel to make it happen. Trust me, I had to learn this. And still have to stop myself sometimes. However, its ok to tell them you’re going to work towards it, save for something, or wait until you are available to do it.

You owe you first. Stop twisting yourself into a pretzel to make sure everyone else is straight. There isn’t anyone in the world who can care for you like you can.

P.S. It is NOT selfish to put yourself first!!!!!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


After hearing “I don’t know how you do it” from a coworker many times, I thought to myself I just do. Yes, I have 3 kids ages 9-15, I’m a wife, I work outside the home as well as in the home. But, in my mind I don’t see anything I’m doing as different from any other working mom. So I thought I’d give my tips on how I stay sane and somewhat organized.SINGLE MOM SELF CARE TIPS: SIMPLE AND EASY

  1. Take 5. I have no problem giving myself 5 minutes to gather my thoughts. I take 5 minutes in the morning before I leave. Just as I have my purse, lunch bag, and coffee in hand, before I open the door, I stop and just breath for a few moments. Before I get out of the car at work, I give myself a moment of silence. If you’ve been working non stop, give yourself 5 minutes. Step away from everything and everyone. At work, at home, or wherever. Honey, sometimes I go in the bathroom and just sit on the toilet in the dark. I laugh because I can hear my husband and kids looking for me. Do what you have to do to give yourself a mental break.
  2. Tidy Often. Throughout the day I do mini tidy ups around the house. Going around and doing a quick wipe down or taking a trash bag around the house keeps the house from going over board with mess. Also the quick tidy ups gives me a visual cleanse. If I begin to see too much I get into a frenzy. Another hack of mine is, because I wake up at 5a.m., I put in a load of laundry. When I come home, I do another load and before bed I do another. I do this to ensure it doesn’t pile up. With a household of 5, it is very easy to develop a load of laundry.
  3. Make A List. I will either make a mental list or physical list of things I want and need to get done. That could be a grocery list, errands I need to run, or what’s on the upcoming schedule. Making sure I don’t miss appointments, meets, and games I have to write things down. Also use my calendar on my phone to give me reminders. This prevents me from getting into a rush and missing something or being late.
  4. Keep It Simple. When it comes to making decisions or anything I believe in keeping it simple. I like to keep my lifestyle simple since I do manage so many roles. I believe if we’re thinking too much about it then, it isn’t worth it. If we have to debate or spend too much time, then I let it go. I believe in letting God telling me what to do.
  5. Cancel and Say No. I’m am not afraid to say No or cancel if I need to. Don’t over book or put yourself in any situation that will put strain on you. I don’t like to do this, but if it’s absolutely necessary, I will. I hope that my previous steps and lifestyle choices allow me to not do so.

Those are just a couple of tips that I do and use to keep me sane. I’m pretty sure there are many more out there from amazing moms. I hope that one tip can help you. In the end, you control your time, schedule, and day. Make sure not to over exert yourself.


Be you so you can be free.


Worrying is useless.The more time we spend worrying about something, the more time we are wasting. It took me a long time to realize, worrying isn’t going to change the situation. What happened has already happened and can’t be undone. Worrying isn’t going to make the time go by faster. We often think if we drive our selves crazy worrying, then time will speed up. Therefore, reaching the solution faster.

Turn Your Worry Into Positive Thoughts

As we are wasting time worrying, we are losing sleep. Our focus is on the outcome of whatever we are worrying about. We’ve missed appointments, phone calls, and even our favorite program on television. The time we spend worrying we are frustrated, angry, and hyper sensitive. During this time, we probably have argued over something that makes no sense. In the meantime, the person we are arguing with have no idea where the anger is coming from. Furthermore, we are tense and have a short fuse, those around us feel the pressure and most likely is walking on egg shells.

Now, if we were to look back on the times we worried ourselves sick, the solution was right in front of us. The end result wasn’t as bad as we thought. The event turned out just fine. That one guest you wanted to show, showed up. On the other hand, that one guest you didn’t want to show up, didn’t. You were able to pay that bill. The financial situation worked itself out. The mistake you made really didn’t have the ripple effect you thought. That person you thought was mad at you, was going through something personal. Therefore, they needed their space.

No matter how bad you think the situation is, worrying about it is a waste of time. You worrying isn’t going to speed up the resolution. Nor is it going to change the outcome. The best thing we can do is relax. God has already won the battle for us.

The next time you find yourself worrying, pause for a moment. Remind yourself you have done all that you can do. It is out of your hands. Therefore, it is out of your control. 3 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL Once it’s out of your control, let it go. The solution is there, you just haven’t accessed it yet. Keep yourself busy and when the solution arrives, you’ll say “I worried myself to death for nothing.”

Worrying is useless and a waste of time. I know its easier said than done, but actively try to not worry.


Be you so you can be free.


Whatever “it” is, just let it go. Don’t worry about what they said about you. Let go of what happened at work. Don’t be mad if someone didn’t call you back. Let go of the anger and hurt of not being invited. Just let that stuff go. It’s too heavy, it prevents you from laughing, and focusing on something good.

Just Be You

If you feel wronged, let it go. You can’t change what happen. So often we take things personally, and it literally has nothing to do with us. Remember people project their pain and hurt onto you. They want and need someone else to feel as hurt as they do. Just let it go. The More You Grow…

Let it go and don’t let anyone stop you from enjoying yourself. When we spend time trying to figure out why someone said what they said. Or why they left you out. Did you deserve to be treated so unfairly. You are questioning yourself and trying to figure what you did to make them do what they did. You are internalizing something that has nothing to do with you. That is infectious and grows like a cancer.

Shed the confusion, wondering, and questioning. It’s going to put you in a place of darkness. Once you are in this place of darkness for a while, it will become increasingly hard to get out of.

So, if anything happened this week or today, let it go. Don’t hold on to yesterday’s trash or any other days trash. Get rid of it, before it starts to stink up your mind, spirit, and body. If you still have no answers then you probably won’t get any. And if you do, it most likely, wont make things better. Let it go. Furthermore, it had nothing to do with you. Make a mental note and set some boundaries.


Be you so you can be free.


Just because you can handle the pressure and weight everyone places on you doesn’t mean you have to take it. The toughest and strongest of them all even needs a break. I know first hand how it feels to not want to let family and friends down, because they are counting on you. But no one ever stops to think if you’re weighed down. Do you need any help? Has anyone reached out to make sure you are ok. Or has someone said, “let me take that off your plate for you.” Nope.

It almost feels like after a while, it is expected of you. Because you either handle it so well or you’re really good at hiding the stress. Either way it doesn’t make it right. I had to learn to accept that just because I handle it, I don’t have to take on that load. It is difficult to tell someone to keep that load to yourself knowing you can help or assist them greatly.

But if you don’t give yourself a break, no one else will. We all know you are strong and you can handle what is thrown at you more easy than others. It won’t be a sign of weakness if you were to say, not today. I need to do this for me. Eventually they will get the hint.

Also as being mentally and emotionally strong, it is important to communicate your feelings. That is a downfall of being mentally tough. People know you can handle it, so they don’t think anything phases you. And because they have no idea how tired you are, they think you are made of steel.

So if you are the one people go to, give yourself a break. You are still going to be strong. Setting limits and taking a break is exercising great strength. STRENGTH If you know someone who carries the weight of the world on their shoulders reach out to them. Check up on them from time to time. It will be greatly appreciate it.


Be you so you can be free.


If we look around the validation we’re seeking is in front of our faces. You have already been validated. God sends you validation in many forms. We must hear and see in the spirit. As my grandmother would say when I was younger, if it was a snake, it would’ve bit you.

So often we look for validation when we’re experiencing different emotions. Or, we may seek validation when we begin a new venture of some sort. However, in my experience, the validation is already there.

The validation could come from someone you least expect. We often seek validation from family and friends, but God will send your enemy to give you a boost of encouragement. Don’t look at it as the person is being nosy or want something from you. God is telling you to go for it, because you are going to inspire the one person you least expect.

You have already been validated when you read that message that pops up on your phone. You know, the one that makes you say “hmmm” or “that is a coincidence”. That is God saying you have everything you need. You have been seeking from places that can’t give you what you need. GOD IS A KEEPER

When your friend or family member send you a inspirational message, that’s God saying you have been validated. He uses his resources wisely. If you come across a passage and it hits you differently, then that is your validation confirmation.

When I say validation, it could be you worried about switching jobs. Have you decided to move away and you are worried if its the right decision. You may seek validation from setting some boundaries and you want to make sure you’re doing the right thing. You could need affirmation to make a decision that would effect you financially. Just look, its already there. Any way you stand up for yourself and it scares you, its been validated already.

This thought of already being validated came to me when I was worried about if I made the right decision on something . But for several days, I came across messages and inspirational videos that let me know I was doing the right thing. Every morning for a couple of days, my morning message that I read, would have something to do with my decision. I had to stop and think to myself, this isn’t popping up by coincidence, this is God telling me to stop worrying, you made the right decision.

If you are struggling with a decision or feel you’re not receiving the validation you need, stop and look around you. I guarantee you, that you’ve been affirmed and validated. Get in tuned with your spirit. It won’t steer you wrong.


Be you so you can be free.


My hope for you is that you find the strength, courage, and passion you desire to live the life you want. As I sit here and enjoy my day off on my birthday 🎉 , I wanted to encourage at least one person to be themselves freely. Do You Have A Vision For Your Life

There is nothing more fulfilling than to be able to wake up everyday and be excited. You are excited because you are grateful. My hope for you is that you are excited because you are going to the job of your dreams. I want you to have excitement because you have accomplished your weight loss goal. You should get excited about waking up, seeing the sunshine, being able to walk, and to have breath in your body.

I set out this last year to take risks, set boundaries, and be of service. I am very happy and grateful God has given me the Grace to do so. But I’m more excited because I’m learning and growing in what my purpose and mission is. I know what I want to offer and bring into every situation or person I encounter.

On this day or whatever day you are reading this, I hope you forgive and let go of whatever is holding you back from being free. Give yourself a gift of freedom and happiness. The best thing I heard this week was “If your life don’t turn out the way you want it to, then you are the only person that has to deal with it.”-MJ Harris.

In this one life, we don’t get do overs. No matter if you do what others want you to or do what you want, someone is going to always have something to say. So why not live for you anyway. You have nothing to lose.

My hope for you is that you take one small step of faith. What do you hope for? How do you envision yourself living? Whatever the answer to those questions are, make it a goal by your next birthday to have achieved the vision. Step out on faith and give yourself a gift on your next birthday. Make it realistic and obtainable.

Using your birthday as a goal date is a great way to self reflect. By each birthday we want to have grown, achieved, or made progress. This day you won’t forget. And because it is your birthday, you will be more inspired and motivated to achieve your goal.

Have a great day!!!!!!


Be you so you can be free.


After many years of breakouts and product trials I’m finally comfortable in my “skin”. Just like everyone else, I researched how to get glowing skin a million times. For me, what I figured out was it’s in the non beauty product related details that helps you achieve your goals.

  1. Your diet plays a huge role in how your skin looks. You can have the most expensive products, but if you don’t take care of your skin from within then you’re wasting your money. Having a colorful diet, lots of water, and natural vitamins comes through the skin.
  2. Having the proper amounts of sleep helps you achieve your glowing skin goals. Just like our bodies, our skin is rejuvenated nightly. That night cream won’t work if you don’t sleep. Not to mention, lack of sleep creates puffiness, dark circles, and redness to begin with.
  3. Stress contributes to the breakdown in our skin. The more we stress, the more breakouts we are going to have. When we stressed, we aren’t sleeping, eating right, or keeping up with our routine like we should. Don’t wear the worry and stress on your face. Let things go. Happy Sunday AND LET GO
  4. Using too many products can cause a reaction. Just because every influencer says you need a certain product doesn’t mean its going to work for you. Create a routine for you. What works for your friend may not work for you.
  5. Along with using too many products, using the wrong products can drastically damage your skin. For instance, I thought I had oily acne prone skin. In actuality, my skin is dry. Because I wasn’t moisturizing enough and properly, I was causing my skin to produce more sebum. Also I was using drying products to combat the oiliness, which only made my skin worse. AFFORDABLE BEAUTY PRODUCTS I’M LOVING RIGHT NOW
  6. Lastly, exercise and sweat those toxins out. Sweating out toxins is good for our skin. Let those pores open and release all the dirt, oil, and sweat.

The key here is to learn your skin. Start with a mild cleanser and see how it reacts. Then slowly incorporate another product. When we use too many products we can’t tell which one is causing the reaction. As your lifestyle changes so will your skin. Even from season to season, our skin changes. Having a clear understanding of your skin, will help you adjust accordingly.


Be you so you can be free.